ok well i have alot of sinuses these days and when ever i blow my nose lots of blood comes out! my nose bled 4 times in one day! Is it normal?
You may have low blood pressure or a sinus infection. I would suggest seeing a doctor.
[view]
Hey,
I am 22 and a counsellor. I hang around in a group of three friends (not including me) and one of our friends, Emma, is constantly complaining. She always thinks that she is depressed but I know for a fact that she isn't; I deal with depressed people every day and she is NOT one of them. She thinks that just because she has a lot of things to complain about (her workload, bad love life, etc) then she is depressed. She never stops complaining and is obsessed with finding her 'Mr Right' (her last boyfriend dumped her because she was 'too clingy') and NEVER ever shuts up about it. It's gotten to the stage where I - and my other two friends - are so damn fed up of it that we are ready to explode on her any day now. We don't want an arguement but obvious rifts are being created between my other two friends and me and Emma. One of my other friends, Jen, is seriously ill and constantly in and out of hospital, yet Emma thinks HER life is so much worse, just because she can't get a boyfriend. How do we open her eyes to what's going on and how annoying she is being? She's even starting saying things like 'I want to go to sleep and never wake up, but I don't like taking tablets so I couldn't'. It's f*cking ridiculous and we are all so fed up of it...
Sorry this was long guys. Please don't just say 'tell her she is annoying' - we've tried (only nicer) and she gets so offended. It's not that simple and we don't want to argue.
x Alannah x
It could be just a regular anxiety problem. I do this too. Apparently, she does need someone to talk to. Maybe you should refer her to a different counselor. Sometimes you have keep all your thoughts and feelings in all day, and you tell your friends because it makes you feel better. It's not right to keep harping on it. She needs to be lead a different direction. Maybe she needs to volunteer to help a really depressed person so that she understands what it really means. She needs to make of list of the things she really wants to acomplish in her life for the next five years.
I bet she is feeling stuck and unfortunately thinks that having a relationship will solve it. When in fact, it will only mask it until she deals with the true situtation. It's ok to be frustrated and angry and mad, but it isn't ok to stay that way and take no action.
[view]
How do you write a poetry essay? My title is 'compare the way the poets use the idea of time passing and it's effects in each of the poems'. I'm writing stuff about how the rhyme scheme in one creates the idea of time passing quickly and in the other how the rhyme sceme makes it sound like time is passing slowly because you have to read it slowly...and then stuff like, 'this poem is about...blah' and 'this other poem is about...blah'...but I'm not sure I'm doing it right...none of my points seem to relate to my title. Any pointers?? I'm not asking you to do this for me, just give me some hints on how to write a decent poetry essay (i.e. what to include?). Thanks loads!!
Another thing to think about is how the time of day is invoked. Are there sounds? Are there smells? Colors? Does it change within the poem? You make pick more than one or two poems for the whole essay because the examples will be much clearer in some poems than others. Think about where the words send you in reference to time passing. Maybe read the whole poem out loud and scribble what you are thinking during the poem.
[view]
There aer these two girls in my year, lets call then Kate and Tara. Anyway, they have always been pretty slutty and worn loads of make-up and stuff, so I've never really liked them. But now for the school talent show they are doing pole dancing. Pole dancing! Parents and even grandparents are coming to the show! It really annoys me how they think everyone WANTS to see them writhe about on stage in next-to-nothing, and I am soo angry about it. Do they have absolutely no dignity?
Anyway, I guess my question is this; do I say somethin to them about it (remember, these girls are have lots of 'friends' and won't say no to a fight) or do I just simmer in silence?
There has got to be a teacher that is sponsoring this event. You need to approach them. They don't have to tell you who did spilled the beans. It would be a shame if the whole event was stopped as soon as they got on stage. If you cannot tell the immediate teacher, corner someone else at school that has authority that you trust.
They can see for themselves what is going on.
[view]
sorry it's long...
okay. i'm depressed. yesterday was the worst day ever. it was two of my sisters birthdays. my youngest sister passed away before she saw her first birthday. my older sister... well she was like drinking all the time and sneaking out of the house al the time and sleeping around. well she moved down to my dads and upset the whole family. yesterday just reminded me of all the bad things that happened and i was really cranky. i yelled at my b/f and best friend and now i feel really guilty. how can i make it up to them when i'm so upset?
Just tell that what's going on with you. They'll understand. When this time comes around again next year, plan to go do something fun or do something relaxing to take your mind off of it.
You might consider planting a tree in your youngest sister's honor. Try to create something positive to help alleviate the negative.
[view]
Ok im 14 yrs old and i want to get into some kind of cooking class and i canot fine ANYTHING online.....will sum1 PLZ help!!
Sometimes a local Civic Center or Community School will have some classes that you can take. We actually had Home Ec in Jr. High that taught cooking, sewing, and basically taking care of yourself.
[view]
I am a 39 y/o female with a question about a budding relationship.
First we are both cops, different agencies, but work the same patrol area. He is state and I am county. My "friend" is a 42 y/o male that is divorced and has a 12 y/o daughter that he doesn't have custody of but has visitation with. I have never met her, and hoping if things go well with her dad, I will get the chance.
At this stage we are just friends, but I think that it will go somewhere eventually. Should it, I would like to know from my friends in this relm, how to be nice with his daughter when it comes down to meeting her, and not make her feel threatened with her relationship with her dad, or make her think I am replacing her mom. I would never ever do that. All advice on this is welcome! Thanks so much :)
I think getting dad to smooth over the first time meeting will help. I would also tell her what you told us about not wanting to be a mom replacement. That you are just there to provide extra support. Tell her you aren't her mother, but you do care about her.
Don't push meeting her on the relationship yet. The last thing the daughter needs is a bunch of people floating in and out of her life. It is really great that at least dad was thoughtful enough to tell you about the daughter without just springing her on you. It might do you some good to talk to a professional about how to approach this very touchy subject. Kudos to you for being a sensitive person. Good luck.
[view]
This may sound dumb but I really need help.
I was browsing the internet and remembered a site I had visited earlier called TeenOrg or something like that- it had like chat rooms and articles and stuff. I was pretty sure I remembered it, so I typed in teenorg.com. And viola, a teen porn page appears. Of course I closed it out, but I'm freaked now- my uncle fixes my computer quite often and I'm scared he'll see it.
My internet browser is Mozilla Firefox and my computer is Windows XP. How do I get rid of it?
It was an honest mistake. It happens to all of us. Why don't you just ask your uncle to block this site? Explain you didn't mean to go there. Being honest is so much easier. Even if you erase all the cookies, there are still ways to figure it out.
[view]
My fourteen year old daughter has been going out with this nineteen year old boy since the beginning of January, first of all she lied to me saying that he was sixteen. I am quite worried about this. Can somebody help me and tell me what I should be doing. She is my only daughter, in fact my only child. I am worried. Help.
First of all, you need to talk to the guy. Tell him how unhappy you are about this arrangement, and the possibility of him going to jail for having sex with a minor.
Second of all, why is she dating at 14? I honestly think this is too young. They don't even think rationally at this age about boys let alone almost grown men.
It's harder for them to get together secretly since she doesn't have a car. But I would highly suggest having you or another adult take her and pick her up from school for a while so they won't be together. You are just going to have to continually interrogate her about her comings and goings for a while. Encourage her to have friends over to the house while you are around. Offer to chauffeur. Just be nosy for a while. There is always a part in a teen life that they hate their parents, but they will hate them worse if they let them fall prey to ne'er do wells.
And the fact that she lied to you, should get her nice and grounded for a while. If she lies once, she will do it again if only to meet with her guy.
My dad wasn't really successful at keeping me from my too old guy, but eventually I understood how he was just trying to manipulate me.
[view]
okay my best guy friend and my best girl friend are going out...i really wish them luck..but i cant help but feel jealous...i keep telling myself that i dont like the guy.but every time i see him i melt..the girl invites me to the movies with them but i dont think i could take it..watching them hold hands..is there anything i can do about it..or should i just sit back and watch them go out to the movies and crap right in front of me...i promise ill rate high and i really need help...(13 female)
Don't torture yourself. You can hang out with them separate. She is just trying to include you. Tell her you would like to do something different with just her. Or you could find someone else you like and take them with you.
[view]
I want to go to this school that like everyone in my family has gone too. But there's this girl that i really like and im in love with her but she kind of sends me mixed signals. Like im not sure if she likes me or if she loves me or if she has no feeling for me at all. It kind of seems like she likes me or loves me but i don't want to assume anything. She's going to a different school than the one i want to go to but i would do anything for this girl. Even if that means go to a different school for her. So im confused about if i should go to the school i want to go to and try to stay close with her if she likes me. Or go to the school she's going to so i can be with her all the time. And i've tried to talk to her to see how she feels about me but she didn't answer she wanted me to not base my decision on her so i was wandering what i should do
Don't you dare go to a school just because of some girl. There will be many more opportunities to meet girls at school. And they will probably have more of the same interests as you. Do keep in touch with her by phone and/or email, but going when you feel comfortable is more important.
College is so different from high school that you will feel better about yourself, and what you really need.
[view]
my mom always makes me go to bed so early!! shes like okay 9:00 is your bedtime ..but im 13!! She makes me do this during the week and im never tired till like 1 am! And i have a laptop that im sneaking on with right now but she ALWAYS catches me..what do i do?>
Why would she make new rules when you aren't obeying the ones she has already made? Sneaking around and disobeying does not prove you a responsible person. Start following the rules. Then bring up possibly moving your bedtime, but don't bring it up at the last minute when its a bigger issue. Ask for a little compromise. And being difficult getting up in the morning is not going to help your case either (I have no idea if you do this, but if you want a later bedtime this would be a factor).
[view]
Hey my name is J.B. I am 17 year old male and I really like these two girls at my school. I have asked one out several times but she is always busy. The other girl is not dating anyone else and is also (in my oppinion) the most beautiful girl in school. Im not sure she even notices me. I need some help.
P.S. I love to write poetry and i have used her as inspiration a time or two.
All right, forget Miss Busy for sure. Why don't you make a card for the girl you have a crush on with one of your poems on it? You will at least know if she appreciates your poetry. And she will have to say something. Whether its good or bad, remember you at least tried.
[view]
respected advicenators,
i went thru this site and found small kids of 13 to 16years of age having sex! well i have one question? are americans very desperate about sex are american girls so horny and slutty? and are american boys very careless about their future and career as they show in hollywood movies and sitcoms???????? please enlighten me, i don't mean to hurt u all at all. i have deep respect for this country america, which has welcomed everyone from the world. but if a girl loves one guy and has sex with that guy and then breaks off with him and then sees some one and again indulge in sex then again break off and again see someone........ isn't he or she acting slutty. well please i am confused b'coz kids here in india are blindly copying this culture of cheating and sex.american friends enlighten me about the situation.
I find it terribly scary that 13-15 year old girls and boys are having sex. There are a lot of contributing factors, including absent or neglectful parents. Not all boys and girls are like this. I didn't even think about dating until I was 16. But unfortunately was taken advantage of. I just didn't understand what was going on. Some people just have no idea of how they could be jeapordizing their future by not having a family structure in which to raise children. Sometimes I have to take a break from this site for that very reason.
[view]
well.. i'm a 16/f and i fell in love with a guy in my grade.. he's a real sensitive guy and i found out that he's suffering in a traumatic experience.. he wouldn't dare to date any gurls since his first and last ex dumped him.. he's afraid to be heartbroken again!! i have drop him a few hints and i know he understands it.. we always hang out together and we can be assumed as best friends.. he tells me all his problems.. and he often ask for my advice.. there's a few times that me and him almost kiss each other and i noe that he's been trying to tell me something for a few times but he didn't make it.. the thing is.. he really cares for me more than a fren should but he always talk about the girl he likes that he will never tell me her name in front of me... does he like me or we are jus friends?? please give me some useful advice..
He probably likes you. Just give him a little more time. He will probably say something soon if he is getting close. And sometimes guys do talk about "other girls" when they are talking about you. Just be cool, yourself, and hang tight.
[view]
respected advicenators,
well i am from india, and currently doing my master of science in life sciences- biotechnology.
but after completing the course this year i would like to for mba. well how is my decision? secondly, should i do a job first gain an experience and then go for an mba or just start preparing for mba entrance without and job experience.
i have taken this decision since i am not interested in research jobs. please to provide me a proper advice. i am really very confused.
thanking you.
Is there someone else in your field you can talk to? Usually most people work and go for the master's at the same time. See if there is a counselor you can talk too.
If you haven't done any work in your field, I would highly suggest you do so. That way you will have some idea of what you really want to do,and then it will guide you into which way to go next. There is no reason to hurry yourself. No one can ever take knowledge away from you. You only get more wisdom through learning and experience.
[view]
How did u get to be the featured colmnist?
Got lucky. Luck o the draw.
[view]
Hey, my dad past away May 2004. This past year has been the hardest year of my life. I'm worried about myself because i was a hard core christian before my dad died and now i feel like im loosing faith because im mad at God for taking my dad from me! In youth last wednesday, our minister said that god is there through all your problems, im just really confused because he is the reason i have this problem! I know God does everything for a reason but i still cant seem to forgive and i feel like im going far away from him when i need him the most! What can i do to get back my awesome relationship with God?
Thanx!!!
Getting back to God starts with prayer. Read the Bible, so you can hear him answer you. I really suggest you read both Job and Psalms.
On a more practical matter, go to church whether you want to or not for a little while. I know this is really hard for you. Ask your fellow Christians to pray for you. The first time you lose someone really close to you, it makes it hard sometimes to talk to God. It is part of grieving sometimes. Everything happens for a reason that God only knows.
Talk to your minister or youth group leader about having lunch or spending some time talking about your father's recent death. There is no reason to face this alone. Hopefully you will come out of this a stronger Christian than you were before.
[view]
After you spent 3 years engaged to the man you thought was the man of your dreams and you have troubles that make the relationship end, how long does it take for the tears to stop? When do you start over. 37 yrs 2 chilren
It will take a year or more. Sometimes when you are in a really long relationship,you don't totally get over it, but you move on. I would focus on my children and get them out of the house right now. It's really hard on them too when mom isn't doing well or has a lot of suitors in the house.
I know you feel pretty bad right now. You will go through all of the stages of grief, but that is a natural part of the healing process. You know you are done when you are ready to forgive him (but you don't need to take him back). It could be that he realizes what a mistake he made and come back, but your job right now is to do your best as a mom.
I understand and am praying for you.
[view]
I have to have a book read for english by monday! Problem is..im reading The Green Mile by Steven King and im only on page 110 and its a 500 page book! I just havent had any time. I know theres the movie The Green Mile. Is it the same as the book? Or is it different?
I read Christine by Steven King and I remember most of it. Is the movie just like the book?
If anyone out there knows the answer to one or both of these questions please let me know! Im going to just watch one of those movies instead of reading it. Thank you and your time is appreciated! I'll rate generously!
I don't know how fast a reader you are, but I can finish that book in a couple of hours. Just lock yourself in your room, and do it. It won't help you to watch the movie. Hollywood has ways of screwing up a good book. And there was a lot of descriptive stuff left out of Christine in the movie.
[view]
|
