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how do i love him
After you spent 3 years engaged to the man you thought was the man of your dreams and you have troubles that make the relationship end, how long does it take for the tears to stop? When do you start over. 37 yrs 2 chilren
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Oh my that is not an easy question to answer and the tears will be there until your heart start's to heal. That is a long time to be together and then apart, but your heart will heal and the pain will get less bye every passing day, just know that there is someone out there that you have not met yet that is looking for you, because you are there soul mate and when you meet, the tears will turn to smiles and you heart will be whole agian, don't give up your faith in love, it will find you again.
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It will take a year or more. Sometimes when you are in a really long relationship,you don't totally get over it, but you move on. I would focus on my children and get them out of the house right now. It's really hard on them too when mom isn't doing well or has a lot of suitors in the house.
I know you feel pretty bad right now. You will go through all of the stages of grief, but that is a natural part of the healing process. You know you are done when you are ready to forgive him (but you don't need to take him back). It could be that he realizes what a mistake he made and come back, but your job right now is to do your best as a mom.
I understand and am praying for you.
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I'm really sorry that you had to go through all of that. I also feel for your children because I"m sure that htey had become quite attached to him too. When do the tears stop? I think that some people think that when you're older you're able to wipe things off faster and move on, but we know that isn't true.
The tears will stop eventually because eventually there will be new joys in your life, whether it is another man who will love you and your kids as much as you love him, the day your kids graduate from school, or when they get married or have kids. The tears will be replaced eventually once the shadows of the gray skies in your eyes are replaced by the sun of the joy in other areas of your life.
Don't lose faith though. You'll know when you're ready to start over again with dating. You may have been engaged to him but how much more tragic would it have been if it happened after you had gotten married? Kiss your children, thank god that they are healthy and you're healthy, and tomorrow start new and fresh with the dreams of the future to light your way. However, if you must cry- cry, it makes us all feel better and tears always stop eventually.
Yours,
Arun
"Be comforted and don't be lonely. The sun shines on you by day, and the moon and the stars reflect their light on you by night; thus you areloved by those around you, with an unceasing, bright love. Hold this love in your hopes and remember it in your prayers." - Joanne Domenech.
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i may be young but i do kind of know how you feel. time may not heal all wounds so there will always be a piece of him in your heart. but with time you will be able to move on and even start another relationship. but whatever you do, dont get all depressed. you're children need you and there is nothing worse than a mother that is depressed. trust me on that one.
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Hunny, the tears won't stop for a while, but every once in while its good to just let it all out. If and when you feel like you are ready to date again, make sure your children are comfortable with it, and more importantly yourself. Don't let anyone pressure you into something you are not comfortable doing. Yes, it will hurt for quite a while, because since 5th grade I have observed my mother as a single mom. Times were hard, and still are. But keep hope in your heart and joy in your spirit. If your kids see you miserable, most likely they will be too.
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