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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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I'm 15 years old, 5"4' and 106 pounds. I lost my virginity a week ago to my boyfriend who I've been with for a year and a half. It was both our first time. We used protection, and found it difficult. He couldn't insert it at first, and was only halfway in when he did get it in because I was in too much pain. He went fast at first so that I could loosen and then went slowly. He pulled out a couple of times and that was about it. The condom was all wet when he pulled out but id imagine it would be since he was in me. I remember my legs felt tingly and the day after I had a little bit of blood ( very little, it came out pink). I noticed it the whole day everytime I wiped myself after urinating. It's been a week since and I'm very worried. I've been needing to use the bathroom a lot, I feel depressed, I get my appetite randomly and lose it easily, i felt a little bit of tenderness in my breasts last night and they almost look like they got a little fuller (but then again i think that a lot, its just a pigment of myimagination because I've been a 32a forever so I'm always hoping they'll get bigger), I find it a little bit harder to tuck in my stomach (even though I've always had a belly I feel like I need to put a little bit more effort into it), and I just feel a lot of bubblyness and movement in my belly. My boyfriend says that I'm just over thinking it and that it's just me feeling symptoms because I think I'm pregnant when I'm not. I've felt this way before whenever we've messed around prior to us losing our virginty. Could I possibly be pregnant? I have no way of telling with my period because it is irregular.



Sounds like you are over thinking it...

Pregnancy symptoms don't usually show up a week after intercourse. The hunger and urinating can also be related to a varity of other things. Stress, Medications, and even an on coming menstrual cycle.

Seriously chill out, If you miss your next period THEN you have a reason to worry.

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For the past several months my boyfriend and I have been apartment hunting. There was one place we just fell in love with though it's expensive for a one bedroom because it's considered "Luxury".

Everybody's been telling us not to do it because we won't be able to afford it but we're not the typical couple.

He has two jobs working about 50-70 hours a week and I work one job at two places and work 36-40 hours a week but I make more than him an hour.
Together we make around $3,400 a month, 43,000 a year and I'd like to start doing some wide work as well just to fill up the empty hours so I'm not bored and lonely when he's at work.


Finance wise (monthly), Rent is $758, renters insurance $20 Electric around $300, High Speed Internet will be around $70, Groceries around $200, we don't want cable TV since we have Netflix through a family account,
My car payments are $316, his car insurance is $130 mine is $160. Both of our cellphone bills together are $90. Gas is about $150 for both cars (I have a hybrid). I know there are other bills that I can't think of right now but with what I've already taken out above that still leaves $1,006 a month free.

What other expenses should I be looking at?


How can we go about getting good quality furniture for not sky high prices? We already have a dining room table with chairs, a dresser, a book case, a sofa, an HD TV, a Macbook Air, a desk. The apartment comes with a fridge, freezer,dishwasher, washer and dryer in the apartment, oven, microwave, lots of cabinets and counter space and two walk in closets.












I highly recommend saving for as long as you can. You also forgot to add damage deposit. I live with my husband and I do not eat much at all but $200 a month for food is a real tight budget. Likely, Food you will look at around $300.00 a month. You should be okay but the cellphone thing, You may want a family plan if you can get one. For furniture, Try Bob's they have a lot of good discounts and bargains.

If you are a college student, Sometimes cable companies will offer student discounts. Compare prices, That will go a long way. Also, Not that anything would but a thing to consider is IF anything ever happened between the two of you, could you manage the expenses on your own?

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I am seeking suggestions for free online games where you interact with others. Please and thanks :)



There are many

Runescape
World of Warcraft
Social games
Club Penguin
EGO
Fantage
Flyff
Free Realms
Furcadia
Habbo
Nicktropolis
OurWorld
Red Light Center

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Hiii.... I'm 14 yrs old F... So let's start. In 2009 my dad died of cancer. It was very drimatic for me. It was so bad I had to go to a doktor. My mom dated ever since but it allways ended up badly* and you know how mothers are* So she took it out on us. Recently she started dating a guy. And ever since she did she is like pushing me away..* when she goes and visit him she just leaves us at my grandma. And when she is back she is allways screaming on me.* I tried to talk to her but it makes things worts...* there is nobody I could talk 2...* so if you have any advice I would apriciate it.* thX!!



Of course she cares, She is grieving.

Did your mother ever seek help after the loss of your father? Perhaps her dating may be her way if coping and filling a void if loneliness. This wouldn't be a healthy way no, but the only way she knows how. Talk to grandma, Tell her your concerns ir even an Aunt or an Uncle that is close to your mom. She may need to see a therapist who can help her

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I have horrible anxiey and it causes me a lot of problems. The main problem this causes is the lack of ability to talk to anyone. I can not go up and talk to anyone for just conversational purposes unless they talk to me first. That is how I made friends. This is honestly annoying the crap out of me


a very disappointing situation that just came from it. There was a tutor I worked with for math at my college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. My class ended about two months ago. I had to go to college for something I thought it would be a great opportunity to just go in the tutor lab and say hi and chat with her a bit. A friend of mine said he was going to be there as well so he said come in at the same time to work on some stuff so he said to me come when he is there. This is perfect because having a friend of mine there can make me more comfortable and help me create coversation. Now it is not like I want to get in this girls pants or something (hell she is engaged) but I just wanted to have a conversation about stuff and not be a completely anonymous person. I am so envious of all the people who are able to just go up to people and just chat. I can't do that at all.


so I go there, but instead of going inside I get too anxious and just paced around outside of the place for like ten minutes and then just when I was thinking of going inm, she leaves (turns out she was leaving early today). I am so frustrated now and filled with regret. My freaking anxiety totally prevented me from just going in just to say hi.

there's a chance I can see her again some time but I have no idea what the schedule is going to be like. And with my friend being there today, this was such a perfect opportunity and I wasted it,


I am now going to be feeling miserable for a while. No don't get me wrong this is not a huge problem that people should be losing their sleep over or anything but this is still frustrating to me. I really want to learn something from this and let it be the "last straw" moment.



It sucks, You've just described me to a T.

Ask yourself a question, Are you introverted? I also suffer anxiety but it took me a long time to realize that I am also very introverted.

I am 28 years old, I still cannot talk to people to save my life and I especially cannot talk to men without being obviously awkward about it.

Here is what I did, Force yourself to socialize. The only way to get comfortable is to do it. The more you do it, The easier it will become. I have forced myself to be friendly, Before I knew it I went from 0 friends to more then I can count. Be yourself and go slow but get out of your comfort zone.

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My boyfriend and i have been together for over 5 yrs now. He buys epensive designer clothes to himself, but he doesnt buy me any birthday or anniversory gifts. He goes out every weekend with his friends and spend hundreds of dollars on champagne bottles in the clubs, but he does not do anything for me. He keep telling me that he loves me but he doesnt show it. Help me please.



He's selfish and doesn't value your relationship much. He is also irresponsible when it comes to money.

Have you tried talking to him about this? I need more details to give better advice.

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Hi everyone,

I just want to thank the people who take time out of their day to give advice to others. I really appreciate the advice you guys give . . . it's extremely helpful to me and so many other people!

Thanks again for all you do on Advicenators!

-Athena



You are very welcome.

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21/f a year ago I was raped by my ex boyfriend. I never told anyone and have been dealing with it on my own. Anyway I have definitely grown from where I was, but for some reason I still have bad dreams about it, and right before I have intercourse with my current boyfriend in a certain position (the one I was in that awful day) I think about it before and after. It's nauseating to me, and I don't express how I feel to my current boyfriend because who wants to bring up such an awful thing at such a special intimate time. A little while ago I wasn't able to do anything in that position, so now that I can I know I'm moving on, I just don't understand why I still think about it.



You NEED to talk about it, Rape is not something someone just gets over on their own. A good therapist can help you cope abd give you some insight on how to move on properly. Also, You NEED to communicate with your boyfriend. It is unfair to him to think he is being intimate when the past comes to haunt you. Communicate with him, Let him know all these feelings as he should be the one to support you at YOUR pace.

You aren't allowing yourself closure, You are avoiding the problem. Talk to someone who can help you

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I'm a 16 year old girl. I'm so used to living in the past and I have a serious issue with growing up. I'm very nervous about things that will be happening in the near future, like getting a job, getting my license, graduating high school, etc. Other kids my age seem to be so excited about these things while I feel a pit in my stomach!! What are some ways to overcome these things and not feel as nervous?



It's normal to be nervous about these things.

However, All these things not only mean responsibility but it means freedom and independence.

You are 16, You are used to having things handed. It becomes scary because you are now entering a part in your life where you are becoming a young lady and are beginning to take on more responsibility.

If you are not ready to get your license, Then waiting is fine. Nobody says you have to get your license at 16. I was 21 when I decided to get mine.

Independence isn't a bad thing and to be honest growing up isn't all bad either. I found once I moved out, got a job that my life is much happier, I'm happier and life is just damn good.

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I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I love him to death but I have some concerns. He lies a lot not just to me but to everyone. I will find out stuff he hasn't told me through mutual friends. And because of his lying he is losing a lot of friends. Another concern is that my family and friends are not fans. They all say he is a nice guy but I could do better. My dad refuses to even meet him. He is 25 and going back to school the end of this month and just not seems to be getting his shit together. He hasn't had a car for months and it is always on me to pick him up and drive places. If the roles were reversed he would do the same for me but my parents are not ok with the current situation. When I am with my friends I want to break up with him but when I am with him I can't imagine myself without him. I am so 50/50 with this relationship. I don't want to leave him but I feel that it has to be done. Anyone have any advice or input? Does it seem like I am doing it for the better of me or to please family/friends? Should I see if anything changes? So stuck.



Break up with him


You said twice in the same paragraph that you wabt to break up and feel it needs to be done then there is a good reason for why you feel that way. Unfortunately, He needs to get his shit together before he can settle in a relationship. You aren't on the same page, You are a bit more ahead then he is. You see, Sometimes only outsiders can see aspect of a relationship we can't see. We seem to be blind sided, My point is there must be a damn good reason for why your parents disapprove. Better to being home someone that gets along wirh the family and isn't free loading.

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I didn't exactly know what category to put this in, but anyways. This guy I know that works at the same place I do is normally pretty chill and really cool. Now that he has a girlfriend I noticed that he has forgotten to do many different things at his job (little things such as forgetting to turn off the lights to the indoor pool off, forgetting to turn the hose outside off, etc.) Is he really that much preoccupied with his girlfriend? He doesn't even hang out and chill with me and my coworkers during work anymore either, instead he's constantly texting his girlfriend. What's the deal?? He's normally really relaxed and doesn't have a care in the world. It's like I don't even know him anymore, I mean I still want to be friends with him but he's pushing everyone away...



He is in a new relationship, Likely age is on his mind constantly. If he has become forgetful to the point of causing safety hazards in rhe work environment, then you should speak to a member of management about the concerns. Unfortunately, There isn't a whole hell of a lot you can do. Some people seem to just get sucked into these things. Maybe pull him aside during break and let him know your concerns but whether he changes or not is entirely up too him.

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i have lost my virginity how i can get it back?



You can't

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My bf & I have been together for 11 months. He has quite a temper on him & Sometimes gets really angry & calls me names. It's wrong but because I'm scared of his temper, I sometimes hide things from him or not tell the truth. Usually about small things to spare his feelings (like if he got invited to a party or not)

I've tried telling him about this before but he just doesn't seem to understand that he's part of the problem. I've tried not lying/hiding but he just gets so mad when I tell the truth. Now he won't forgive me & will only do so if I post a status on facebook callingg myself a liar. Is this still love? Is this still worth it? I forgive him for all the awful things he's said to me/called me,.why cn't he forgive me


Dump him


He is abusing you to the point where you have become intimidated by his actions. It is not love to call someone names and get so angry to the point where one becomes fearful. People who love each other talk calmly about a problem and work together to fix it.

He needs help, You cannot help him. The way he is treating you is abuse, not love. You need to leave him

Lying isn't going to make him love you, Even telling him tge truth isn't going to change anything either. You must realize that HE needs professional help. He's a asshole who is treating you like shit

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I had an abortion 6 years ago without telling my husband. At the time I had a 2 year old son and I did not want want to be saddled down with another child. We found out I was pregnant when I took a pregnancy test. My husband and I were both pro-choice, but I decided to have an abortion. I went to visit my cousin in another state after I found I was pregnant and she help me to get the abortion. I later told my husband that I fell and had a miscarriage.

It has been six years and I have a wonderful husband and I am felling guilty and a shame. I also, think that I am depress and I need to tell my husband about the abortion but, I am afraid he will not love me any more.

My husband always have something negative to say about women aborting their unborn babies and I am not sure how he will feel if he knows that I had done the same. What should I do?



If you feel the truth shall set you free then this is what you shall do. I feel as he were the one to father the unborn child that he has the right to know.

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So me and my boyfriend of a year and a half who I was madly in love with broke up last week. He broke up with me. I thought i would be devastated but i was more relieved. I knew we would be friends but It would take time. we play games with eachother on our ipads and i decided i needed a break before I was ready to talk to him again. I just wanted to figure things out. So over the week he kept nudging me on the game to play since it was my turn. I just ignored it. so today he texted me asking if i was ready to talk. which is so sweet because it shows me he really misses me as i do him but im not ready. I still want my space. I kind of like this space. I told him no and he said he hopes the day im ready to talk to him again comes soon. I feel so guilty.. I feel like he's really sad and i dont want him to be sad. I love him but i want more space. I was planning on texting him in about a week and a half from today but now i feel pressured that I should do it sooner and I'm worried he'll forget/move on and not care about me if i wait another week and a half.

what do you guys think? Any opinions are greatly appreciated! thanks so much!

p.s im 21 and he's 29 if that helps!





Sounds to me that your heart isn't really into the relationship sweetie, Your head hungry.

If you do decide to talk to him eventually, Maybe keep things at a slow pace for awhile. Nobody needs to spend 24.7 with someobe as this is how a relationship becomes exhausted. If you rekindle things, Take your space if you need it. Go off with the girls and let him hang out with the guys or go do something you enjoy. Also to put it out there, If he truly wanted to be with you then he would wait around for you. Space is important and keeps a relationship healthy.

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Hi i am 34 an my man is 36 now he made a nick name for me an i need to find one for him even though he said i dont but i find it just as fear, seeing he has one for me... he is serious most of the time but does have a playful side an i need to find one that fits him perfectly he is cabverdian so if someone can figure one out an nothing mushy gooshy or lovey dovey thank you in advance,... sassymamma



I am sorry if I seem like an arrogant ass but you are 34 year old woman asking us for a pet name?... Maybe this is something I can see someone that is 14 asking but I find it absolutely ridiculous to seek out a pet name for a spouse.

Just my opinion

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months. He was in Spain for the past month and we didn't really talk-we could only talk over Facebook chat, and only did so a couple times briefly because he never initiated it and I didn't want to bother him since it seemed like he didn't want to chat. Before he left, we hung out, and he seemed SO into me and he acted really sweet and made me feel important. But last week was my 16th birthday, and he didn't say anything. I had messaged him two weeks prior to see if he could come to my party, but he never even opened the messages. I could see that he went ONLINE for extended periods of time throughout that time, and he was ONLINE on my birthday, but he didn't even say happy birthday. He read my friend's messages so I know that he is getting messages. Anyway, I wrote him this whole thing about how it's rude to ignore my birthday and to not even read my messages(he knew it was my birthday, that's not even a question) and how it really hurt my feelings and to please reply when he can. He was online when I sent that but he still didnt read it. I don't know what's wrong with him!!! We were GREAT the day before he left, I don't know why he's ignoring me. It really put a damper on my birthday because he didn't say anything. Even my ex said happy birthday. Anyway, he is coming back today and will be able to text. He hasn't texted me. I want to know what his problem is but I don't want to keep asking. Should I break up with him? I feel that he deserves to be dumped but my problem is is that for some reason, I still really like him and want to be with him. Am I overreacting? What should I do? I just want him to talk to me again. He knows I'm angry. Thank you!




He lost interest in you, He is intentionally ignoring you and hasn't attempted to initiate contact so therefore he has moved on.

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I'm a teenage girl. I have been a Christian for much of my life, but recently I've felt like I'm not meant to be a Christian.

Here are a few things I want to say:
- I appreciate diversity in religion as well as many other things. I think people should be accepted for who they are, regardless of what they believe.
- I believe that all people have worth and all people need a voice.
- I'm not sure about my beliefs about death, but I know I don't believe in Hell.
- I believe that God is everywhere -- I think God is the spirit of life that is in us and all around us. I don't think of God as a deity that can alter the workings of the natural world.
- I believe strongly in being kind to other people as well as the Earth.
- I think of Jesus as a teacher who showed people how to live a life of love and compassion, and I admire the power of his love and the way he lived. Not too much more than that.
- I think people should never stop exploring their beliefs and values.

Thank you for any advice you might have. (By the way, I'm very sorry if what I said offends anyone in any way. I know many people think differently than I do, and I do not intend to insult anyone else's beliefs.)




Not all Christians believe the same exact things. Many believe in G!d and not Jesus and some believe in Jesus and not G!d. So therefore you are a Christian with your own beliefs and views. That is okay

I was raised Roman Catholic, I however do not believe in Jesus or Virgin Mary. I believe G!d is eternity and is beyond what humans can ever imagine. G!d to me is not a person.
I believe strongly in reincarnation and the afterlife.

I however am no longer Roman Catholic, I have changed my views since I was a child and attend a Unitarian church. Again, My views have changed over the course of 11 years.

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I would love to give my partner a great hand job, but how can I without no lubricant? I have no money to buy lube, and I have no condoms to provide lube. I heard using saliva and spit is one way, but it doesn't last long, so what can I use thats like lube and lasts longer?



You don't need lube no, but a hand job can be painful if you have no lubricant. Just have him buy a bottle, It's about $5.00 at Walmart...

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Okay so this boy and I were together for a week and he said he like me a lot and I said the same thing. So we sent pics back and forth and he said he wanted to do a lot to me. But he told me to keep our relationship secret. I did. Then today, he said I told two to three people and that we weren't even going out in the first place and that he doesn't know if he wants to be my friend. And he blocked me. What can I do to get him back? Please help me!



This is exactly why you never send photo's.

It's dumb

The guy isn't interested in you. You were a quick fling and now he has moved on. Unfortunately, Some guys just don't have enough balls to tell someone so they go ahead abd shut them out.

He blocked you, He wants no contact with you. Basically, Take it with a grain of salt abd move on.

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