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This guy is acting different...
I didn't exactly know what category to put this in, but anyways. This guy I know that works at the same place I do is normally pretty chill and really cool. Now that he has a girlfriend I noticed that he has forgotten to do many different things at his job (little things such as forgetting to turn off the lights to the indoor pool off, forgetting to turn the hose outside off, etc.) Is he really that much preoccupied with his girlfriend? He doesn't even hang out and chill with me and my coworkers during work anymore either, instead he's constantly texting his girlfriend. What's the deal?? He's normally really relaxed and doesn't have a care in the world. It's like I don't even know him anymore, I mean I still want to be friends with him but he's pushing everyone away...
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He's just smitten... which sounds retarded, and it kind of is, but it's not uncommon to become mildly obsessed when you're really into your new significant other. I've had friends totally disappear off the face of the planet over new relationships. One of two things will happen with this. 1, the relationship will go on and the shiny will wear off of it and he'll return to more or normal. 2, she will tear his heart out of his chest and he'll be crushed, but then return to normal. Either way, you just need to wait it out.
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I think because of his new relationship he is definitely distracted. Being on the phone during work shouldn't be allowed, maybe you can mention it to him if you're comfortable or to the manager about the phone. If he wasn't on it during work he would be paying much more attention. If it gets to the point where there are safety issues or you can get in trouble for him not doing his job you should definitely stand up for yourself, even if it's anonymous to the manager. You said you guys used to talk, maybe you can talk to him and ask him about his new relationship, once he gets comfortable telling you about it you can give him some helpful advice if needed. It's nice that you're caring enough to realize this, most people drop others instantly. Try to stand it while you can maybe the whole "honeymoon" phase will fade. If not, you can decide what to do for yourself. I hope this helps!
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He is in a new relationship, Likely age is on his mind constantly. If he has become forgetful to the point of causing safety hazards in rhe work environment, then you should speak to a member of management about the concerns. Unfortunately, There isn't a whole hell of a lot you can do. Some people seem to just get sucked into these things. Maybe pull him aside during break and let him know your concerns but whether he changes or not is entirely up too him.
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