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My boyfriend doesn't buy me presents but spends lots of money on himself?
My boyfriend and i have been together for over 5 yrs now. He buys epensive designer clothes to himself, but he doesnt buy me any birthday or anniversory gifts. He goes out every weekend with his friends and spend hundreds of dollars on champagne bottles in the clubs, but he does not do anything for me. He keep telling me that he loves me but he doesnt show it. Help me please.
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I don't much about your boyfriend except from what you've noted but in my opinion, how is that your boyfriend has spoiled himself and spent a grand amount of money throughout the years for himself but not for his lady of 5 years? That says a lot but it's up to you to find out for yourself what that means exactly. To be in a relationship and to keep the other person happy doesn't mean to spend money on them But when a person in a relationship has the money and doesn't even bother to buy his own girlfriend an anniversary gift or better yet a Birthday gift.. then something Is up. It Seems like he is thinking about himself in This scenario.
It's up to you to address this to your boyfriend though because even after a 5 year relationship, you'd never know what you're goina... Communicate this to him if it bothers you.
And you show someone that you love them by giving them affection, sacraficing for them and other ways. Not by the money you spend on the person. Butt would be nice to get a present here or there especially on a day like your birthday Specially if he has the money for it...
Communicate your feelings to him.
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No where is it written that a man must spend money on a woman to prove the validity of his love. It is his money and he may spend it as he pleases. There are plenty of other ways to prove that you love somebody without buying them a bunch of stuff. Why do you need something tangible to feel confident in your relationship with him? Are materialistic items worth more than loving company? He's been with you for five years. Five years is a long time. If it bothers you, I think you guys have been together long enough for you to delicately bring it up; I just don't know how you'd do that without sounding greedy. Maybe just let him know that a little gift from the heart for your birthday would mean the world. I always maintained I didn't care if a boyfriend got me a stick of gum; if he was thinking of me and bought it with his own money, that's more than I can ask for.
I hope I helped you, and sorry if this entire response sounded rude. I do not know you or your boyfriend, or the extent of your relationship with this man. So if I offended you, I truly apologize.
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I would talk to him about it.
I've seen girls complain about their boyfriend not buying them things, but that's normally because the boyfriend doesn't have money. In your case, it's different because he won't even do anything for your anniversary or your birthday.
So talk to him. If he doesn't seem to change, then maybe he's not the right guy for you.
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He's selfish and doesn't value your relationship much. He is also irresponsible when it comes to money.
Have you tried talking to him about this? I need more details to give better advice.
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