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boy trouble
ok, so I've been talking to this boy lets call him T, for about 4 or 5 months.
he's really cute and sweet, but he gets so moody. also some people tell me he's a player and that I should be careful with him.but I don't believe it cause if it was true people would tell me in person. (If he's a player)
Also whenever we message each other or on oovoo or on the phone, we never really talk, like he's not a funny humorous guy that I'm usually into. Hes actually kind of boring And besides, he calls me hot sometimes, and I really don't like that.
another thing, he's always asking me for a sexy picture, but I'm not like that, so I don't send him one. and we haven't hung out like during this whole time talking, but that's cause we're both busy. and he says our relationship is like boring. & it kind of is, but that's cause we're busy.
I honestly really think he just likes me for my body or looks.
also I hear he's talking to another girl, I asked him who she was and he said that he used to like her or she used to like him or they used to both like one another I forgot, and that she's just and old friend. But I know they're like texting because he asked her for her number.
I don't think he's the one for me, but how do I stop talking talking to him ? Like give him a hint, I don't like you, we should stop talking sorta thing.
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At least you know you should stop talking to him. He is a "player" type of guy. I mean he doesn't really care for you, he cares about sex. Guys who are decent guys don't ask for pics. So that's how you know where his heart is.
Anyways, I used to talk to a guy like that. Don't text him. When he texts you, don't try having conversations with him. Just pretty much answer like you're bored with him, like you don't want to talk to him. If he tells you that you're attractive or asks you for pics then tell him that you're not interested in that, let's just be friends. Then you can stop texting him and he'll know that you lost interest.
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In relationships, whether just aquaintences, or friends, or partners in a dating couple, we all need to learn the possible warning signs of character flaws in the other person, or where you do not have anything in common, lack chemistry.
Nobody knows in the beginning. The only way to find out and learn is by spending time with a person, in text, on phone, in person hanging out, and once old enough, living together.
A person who is moody could have some mental imbalances like being bi polar, or a controller. rsu Also, a person who is holding in lots of anger and resentments from childhood or just what happens in his world in general, could be a time bomb waiting to explode and may appear as moody. this would mean the person could be in what could remotely be considered a good mood for them, likely when someone is doing what THEY want, but then again, moody types are sometimes a person who can not be pleased no matter what you do. They expect you to change for them without them making any changes. In fact, any big character flaws in such a person will likely not change with time, not even in a lifetime. I know, I was married to such a person because no one bothered to talk to me when I was 20 and engaged to him, and tell me about the warning signs.
Also, there is a lack of respect for the girl, when a guy starts talking to a female in terms that describe her as just a sex object to him. The truth is that all guys are sexually aroused by what they see and as they grow older, they develope they own personal tastes in looks and character and only look for that type of girl, whether slender, chubby, big or little boobs, blonde, brunette, the introvert or the extrovert, etc... But the truth also is that guys can learn some tact and exercise self control when speaking to a woman or talking about women to other people. Respect is important. He is already not respectful of how it makes you feel. Once a couple are in a long term committed relationship, its wonderful to have your guy tell you how hot looking you are even in grungy clothes, even when you first wake up in the morning, because you have a relationship of mutual love and respect and the man loves you as a whole person for many other reason than just the sexual part of the relationship.
Also, some good guys are great at remembering dates and others at not and need reminders, it doesnt mean that they don't care unless they do a bad job in other parts of the relationship as well.
So how to stop seeing him, tell him that you just don't feel any chemistry between you. Think of it like oil and water in a bottle. You can shake it really hard to try to make the oil and water mix and blend together well, like yellow and red paint mixed turns to orange. The oil can be temporarily broken up into smaller globs but eventually resists the water and returns to its separate state.
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