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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media
I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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advice

I am 18/f and i'm not like super thin...but i would deffinatly be considered skinny. However, i have a ton of belly fat. My stomach is not flat AT ALL and it almost looks like i am pregnant. How can I eliminate that fat quickly? Are there certain foods I should avoid or foods that are helpful to eat?

Thanks so much!

hey there,
i think i know what you mean im not totally skinny but ive got curves,like hips or love handles and a small "pot" belly as people sometimes call it,i like my figure but like you i wanted to get rid of the fat or tone up.
so usually i just do sit ups they really help tone up your tummy and theres laods of other exercises

heres a website i found with more exercises..

http://hubpages.com/hub/Effective_Tummy_Toning_Exercises

then of course you have the gym option where i live you can pay as you go so you dont have to fork out a huge like 500 fee and they have plenty of ab tonning machines.

as for food as long as your getting a balance of nutrients and avoiding foods high in saturated fat and sugar etc then you should be fine :)

Hope I helped and good luck
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I'm really addicted to a form of drug. I won't go into details because I don't think it's allowed and I REALLY don't want other people doing this sort of thing so hang with me on this.

I have been "using" for three years now. I have seen my mind go downhill. My health isn't what it was. I'm simply not as bright as I use to be and it's hard to focus on one subject sometimes now. I am ashamed of myself because I feel so consumed by this drug. I know I'm very addicted mentally, at the very least. I want to stop.

I've tried to stop using before but I always go back to it. It's like my safety. My comfort. It's my entire personality now. I don't know what I would do without it sometimes. I feel stupid because I am NOT the person I am when I am using. I'm always using though so nobody knows the real me. It's like I'm fake and not ME.

How do I stop? I can't go very long once I've decided to call it quits because then I get anxious and I just can't hold myself back from it. This is so embarrassing. I can't believe I'm telling you all about this.

What do I do though? I want to stop being a drug addict. I thought it was cool and fun before. Now I feel so empty and lifeless. Please help me figure this out. I don't want this kind of life.

hey,
okay firstly let me say how you are already on the right road to recovery.you have admitted and accepted you have a problem and you WANT to change thats a huge step you have took all ready it takes most addicts way longer to reach this point.
but you have and you should be proud that you want to get your life back on track youve made your mistakes now its time to fix them and learn from them.
but you cant do it alone. I know you feel ashamed and embarassed but if you havnt already well then you need to tell someone im not sure how old you are but id start with your parents or if you really cant face that then a close friend anyone who can help,.
Then what you need to do once youve confided in them is to go get (i hate saying this) but professional help from a counsellor or rehab centre someone who is trained to work with adicts who can get you through the withdrawhal stage,its not easy its probably one of the most hardest things to have to go through but thats why you need a good suport network behind you family friends etc. my uncle went through a rough stage with drugs but he came out of it and hasnt looked back just do your best to remain positive as much as you can you will have your low points but stay focused keep reminding yourself you can do it and you will.
thats really all the advice I can give you,but if you ever need anyone to talk to feel free to inbox me or add my email from my column :)
I wish you the best and seriously well done for wanting to make that change
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I am 16 female, my bf is 18. So here's the thing, I'm very shy! Not that confident in my "self look," I'm skinny skinny but I'm also not a huge whale, no offense to anyone. I'm a 34C cup, I get embarrassed when he touches me sexually, and very shy too. But I do like it, it's just when he tells me to tell him what I want or like, it makes me get all shy and blah!!! I hate it, on the phone when we talk, he turns me on and says things he'd be doing to me, or wants to do, then when I'm supposed to I get shy or embarrassed and I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO SAY!!!! It really sucks, I've always been more of a pleaser then get pleased, and I like to act not talk about acting. Has anyone lese had this problem? Is it normal? Am I hopeless, will I ever get over this? Him and I have been together for 9 months now, we started fooling around on our 5 month together. What should I do?! :(

heyy there okay let me start off my answering your question.YES its totally normal! almost every girl gets like this!
I know I have. its just a case of mind over matter.
its a confidence issue too you need to think okay what is it exactly thats stopping me?
he is your boyfriend you should be able to feel comfortable doing this stuff with him,some people don't and are shyer then others and need work on it while others it comes naturally but thats okay.
You should definately explain this to your boyfriend because he might start to get the vibe that you dont want to do stuff.
tell him your shy and how you feel and he can help you overcome it. sometimes all it takes is a little reassurance from yourself and him.
keep telling yourself you are beautiful and focus on the positive things about your body,build up your confidence. relax and let go a little bit it might take some time but with pratice you can get there you will get over it i know i did without even realising!
you say you like to act and not talk about acting sometimes its good to talk though your bf is only trying to find out what works for you rather then going and just doing it which could be awful (trust me been there) so i would consider you to be lucky in that departmnet and you should too :) honestly just relax and talk about it you never know it could work wonders.
hope i helped in anyway
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what are some good pick up lines to get someone in bed. I am desperately needing to get some. haha

ok before you do it..dont.
pick up lines almost never work,if your a guy nearly every girl finds them cheesy,and vice versa.
i know everyone hates being this but strike up a convirsation show the guy/girl your interested be cheeky and charming at the same time and extremley flirtatious just dont come out with something like "oh i lost my number whats yours" or any of that bullcrap
aslo dont try too hard you dont want to give off that desperate vibe be sutle.
anyway thats really all the advice i can give you there! sorry hope i helped a bit anyway
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so the guy i like its almost as if i freeze up in front of him i get nervous like i dont know how to act and im really shy.. i dont want to act like this..... what should i do

hey there,
okay let me firstly say your definately not the first girl to get like this around a guy! lol we almost all do at one stage or another its a given.
a million questions and thoughts go racing through your haed like omg there he is relax dont say something stupid what will i do..etc etc.
the main thing you need to do is take a step back and relax gather your thoughts and think of him as any one of your other friends,talk to him as you would them stike up a convirsation as daunting and nerve racking as it seems it could pay off big time in the long run think about it.
sometimes we need to take theese type of risks and guys love it when a girl shows intrest in them and vice versa so all i can really tell you is to shake off the nerves bit by bit,they well start to fade as you pluck up the courage to say a little more to him each day and your confidence grows,add him on myspace/facebook or whatever and get talking then maybe? it makes it easier in person.
I hope I made sense and helped in someway good luck and be yourself.
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I was hoping that you could help me find a song my school is doing an idol type thing and i dont know what song to do i am a first saprano and i really want a song to feel comfortable singing it

Hey there, okay il do my best to sugest some songs itl be quite difficult though as i dont know what your voice sounds like or what your comfortable with or what style song your after.
il make some sugestions though but if you tell me the type of song your after i could help better! you can try checking this out
in His Eyes from Jekyll and Hyde
It starts off low but towards the end it gets up pretty high and its a great song to perform, you can go through a range of emotions in it.
its brodway stuff though so is it something current like you wanna sing?
I dont know your range either so its hard, inbox me back with all this and il do my best!
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I am an aspiring model and singer. So far I have been told I have much potential, to not give up. That I will deffinately make it in the industry. I was wondering if anyone had any pointers on how to do so?

Also I have found some sites to help piblicise my work but I was wondering if you guys new of any other websites that would help get my name out for both singing and modeling.

I will rate very high! please and thanks.
It would mean so very much.

Hey there the best advice i can give you as regards your singing is believe it or not youtube!
you wont believe the amount of aspiriaring artists who have gotten deals from making themselves known through youtube.
if you uplaod videos of yourself singing and people comment and rate,before long if you publicise it right you have a huge fanbase check it out theres so many accounts on there of fabulous singers,you then go onto set up like a myspace fanpage etc.
so thats one option im not aware of any sites though what you could do is try get in touch with your nearest model agency? youl need to provide some headshots and full length photos and as far as i know it goes on interview basis you could get signed up :) I used to do it for a while when i was younger & thats how I did it so research agencies in your area,if your lucky enough then to land an agent who will help get you fashion shows and shoots etc :)
I hope I helped in anyway sorry thats all I really know and can tell you about it.
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i was just wondering how do you get your PM ( little message thing under your name ) different colours an words bold and different thigs like that i have got msn + but just dont no how to do it any ideas ??

Heyy there :)
okay to do bold: type [b] text here [/b]
italic [i]text here [/i]
underline [u] text here [/u]
for the colours and stuff theres lots of different codes and its really just a case of messing around with them
go in to where you would change your display name,and it says format codes beside it,click on that and click on a colour to change the colour of your name.
I hope I helped! if your having trouble or want different colours in your name inbox me and i can send you my email to explain how you would say do two colours better,or you could tell me the colours you want and paste me your screen name and the colours etc and I would be happy to do it for you :)
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ok so my boyfriend has alot of gurl bestfriend.so every time i call him he's over one of there houses or outside with them && i know there not doing anything because i know all of the gurls have boyfriends.bt im like well why do u always spend time with them and what not.he also tells all of are relationship business to them and it bothers me like he will tell them what we did he even told them the first time we said i love you and i told him how i was a virgin and he goes and tells them i was like i didnt want you to tell them my business.so do i have a problem or does he need to chill with the telling his friends everything about us??

hey there,
okay to answer your question no you don't have the problem at all.
you have a right to your privacy,and fair enough your boyfriend has alot of girlfriends your really cool and respectful about that and dont seem to mind as much as a lot of girls would but for him to be telling them every little detail is not fair and slightly uncalled for.
nobody wants there private bussiness shared around like that hes your boyfriend you should feel like you can trust him to keep this information to himself!
have a talk with him about say how you would really prefer him to not tell them stuff like that as it makes you feel uncomfortable and youd rather they not know,its only fair,he might not even realise hes doing this and hopefully he will a apologise for it and be more careful about what he lets slip if he gets all defensive about it then i think you need to rethink this relationship.
I hope I helped and things work out for the best
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so me and my gf plan on moving in together. She babysits for her roomate who really doesnt deserve kids because she is always working and when she gets home she goes to bed she puts them to bed also. So my gf is stuck watching them most of the time. When we move out she said she will prolly have to still do it because of a program (long story but yeah) and I wanna move out and start our own family is she gona be stuck with the kids all the time and the little one shes kinda attached to she said he would stay atleast one night a week and sleep in our bed and the way we would sleep is he would be on her side and shed be cuddling up next to him and I would be pretty much sleeping alone on my side of the bed. If she still has to babysit him do you think we wont stay? I am not jealous of the kids but I thought us moving out things would change which she said. And sometimes her roomate gets mad and says she wont be watching the kids so what do I do?? I wanna talk to her but how can I not make her mad?

hey there,
okay what you need to do is sit down with your girlfriend and tell her exactly how your feeling,pretty much sum up what youve said here.
explain to her that your not jealous but you don't think its fair on her to be takin advantage of by her roomate (thats what it sounds like) I mean you and your gf need to have some sort of peace and privacy yourselfs so you can have a life that doesnt involve someone elses kids 24/7!
ask her is there anyway possible she can cut back on the babysitting?
talk to her roomate about it i dont know the situation..tell her your worries and how you feel shes sure to understand and you two will come to some sort of an agreement on it?
you can put your lives on hold for someone else its not fair.
mooving out is a chance for a new start for both of you so your best bet is to talk about it without getting into a fight,
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hey so thanks a lot for the advice..but how do i start talking to him again?..do i just go up to him and say hi as if i never avoided him?..he is not stupid, so he probably knows that i wasnt talking to him...or should i send him a message first and then later talk to him in person?..what do you think?..thansk (:

Hey there :) its no problem glad i could help somehow.
dont act like nothing happend, i would send a text or a facebook or myspace message and ask him can you two talk face to face. then you can establish what went wrong and how you two can solve it if you get me im sure he will be happy youve made that first step hes probably wondering what happend with you two. so try that and see what happens :) let my know how things go!
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15/f
i like this boy who is a swimmer and he is a year older than me and he is really hot but the problem is, we have never once talked before. i'm pretty sure he doesn't even know who i am. i asked him to be my friend on facebook randomly, he goes to my school. he is not very social, and he has a twin brother who i hear is his best friend. sometimes i see him at lunch, he sits a table away from me with an asain boy (also a swimmer), and they barley talk. he is really shy. its really weird, we look at eachother sometimes and make eye contact, but thats all. we've never said hi. the people i sit with at lunch dont know i like him. i really want to say hi and talk to him or something but i dont know if he'll think im weird or something or i don't know. will he? is that weird to do? since we totally dont know eachother? were not in any classes together. i also wanna talk to him on facebook chat or something but i don't know what to say. any ideas? i saw him going into art one time and i'm in art too so i could be like hey i saw you holding a sketchbook, do you like art? but i don't know if that's weird to like randomly say. help please!!! anything will help.

Hey there :)
okay firstly get the idea that starting a convirsation with someone is weird because its totally not! he wont find you weird,maybe he will be glad someone is taking an interest in him and being friendly?since you said he his shy,think of it this way whats the worst that can happen?he wont say hi back? (i doubt that hed have to be really ignorant to not,and if he his well then youl know not to bother in future)
Just relax and remember to be yourself,talk about anything you want with him,maybe get the convo going by using the art thing,or ask him about being on the swimteam,think of him as like any other friend of yours and talk to him about the stuff youd talk to those with get to know him establish a friendship I know it seems scary but think about it youve been making friends all your blife probably without even realising! your pro at it think of when you were really little and youd just talk to anyone like in kindergarden if you get me lol :)
Hope I helped and hope you get talking to him he seems really interesting and a bit mysterious lol, :) good luck,anymore questions please inbox me & let me know how things go.
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16/m
Well there is this girl who is my best friend, and she has this boyfriend who she's not so crazy about. Anyway, I hate the fact that she's dating this guy, and I think I would feel the same way about any guy who she dated. I want to se her happy even if that means her dating some guy, but it absolutely tears me appart seeing her enjoy being with a guy that isn't me. I just have no idea how to handle any of this, and just avoiding the situation and not having her in my life would be horrible because she is so nice and fun to be with. Any ideas??

Hey there,
this is a really tough situation to be in and trust me I understand completely how you feel as a lot of other advicenators will,many people have gone through this and it sucks theres no doubt about that it really does.
but have you tried talking to her and telling her how you feel? if you havnt id strongly sugest that you do because for all you know she could feel the very same way.
if you have and she has said she only wants to be your best friend well then you really have to just accept that im afraid as hard as it is,you don't want to drive her away by being critical of every boyfriend. trust me there is nothing worse when a girls best guy friend doesnt like her bf. like you said you dont want to not have in your life,so if she has no feelings for you,you have to get over yours for her.easier said then done I know but you can do it everyone has to at some point and its really tough but in time it gets easier and before you know it youve let go. do your best to stop yourself thinking and seeing her in that way,get talking to other girls i know youl probably say to yourself starting off "what good are other girls they are not her"right?. ive been there ive gone through it, but the feeling you have when you know your finally over them is great it really is.
Anyway thats my advice,I hope I helped and things work out any more questions please inbox me.
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okay..so i like this guy in my school, he is 16 and i am 15. you may think this is nuts but around 2 years ago back when i was 13. i seen the same boy walking in the hallyway and i just immediately got attracted to him..i didnt even know his name but i knew he was friend with this boy that i am kinda friends with, so school is almost ending and i wasnt ever able to go up to him and actually start a conversation. so with the friendly myspace i went on my friends myspace friends list and found him. i added him as my friend and we started talking a little bit....but later i would message him and we would have non-stop conversations about the wierdest things, that made me like him more because i felt like we completely bonded. i want a boyfriend like he is my best friend..like hermione and ron in harry potter..so finally the new school year starts and luckily we have the same lunch together..so he knew a group of people at this one table, but he always sat with me at this other table, just me and him would talk and he would always walk me to class. i really liked him and i could have been more patient but i was growing restless. so this other boy asked me to be his girlfriend so i said yes..so my boyfriend (he is my ex now)is in my lunch too(we will call him sam). so once i started dating sam. the kid that i really liked moved to the table with his group of friends and we never really talked like we used to and he never walked me to class anymore either..since then we were never really as close as we used to be..even when i broke up with sam and went and sat at his table with his friends, he never gave me the attetion like he used to..so summer vacation comes and i message him about me having to go see my grandma since she is sick (i havent seen her for 3 years)...so i tell him that i dont want to see her because i am afraid, and i ask him if he thinks i am a bad person for not wanting to see her..i noticed that he has read the message but has not ever written back. so i decided that i wont talk to him to see if maybe he will actually notice. it has been about two weeks and he hasn't even come up to me and say hi or gave me a hug. im sorry i know this is long...so my friends tell me to just give up on him, that there are better guys but they just dont understand how i feel around him..i feel like i cant stop being happy, and when we look at eachothers eyes i would always feel like it was just us in the room even though it was filled with tons of people..several months ago i sent him a message asking him if he ever liked me..he said umm no not really but i do love you as a friend...its hard to believe cuz it felt like he liked me because before i dated sam, the kid i like would put his arms around me and i remember my head laying on his chest and i looked up and he was looking down at me and our faces so close, we had eye contact for the longest time i could have just kissed him but i panicked so i just looked down and layed my head on his chest and i fell asleep but the bell for the next class woke me up and when i woke up his arms were still around me. and theres this girl that is always with him and sometimes she comes to the cafeteria to talk with him and she always takes my seat and sits next to him..and she would talk to him the whole time so i wouldnt be able to talk to him, so i just looked sad and i would notice him giving me a look like "whats wrong"..and he would interupt her to just ask me a random question like "is this your pencil?" (he was playing with a pencil he found on the table)...so theres most of the story but if i wrote anymore my hands will fall off..i dont know what i should do..everytime i see him i just want to run up to him and give him a big hug..but im just so confused on what i should do, i am tired of always giving the guy the attention and being the first to say hi..i want him to come up to me..but i think he is the type that doesnt like confrontation, so i think when he see's me ignoring him, he just takes is as like "okay i understand, i wont bother you"..but how am i ignoring him if he hasn't even talked to me so i can actually ignore him and not talk to him?...i always think i am actually in love with him..but how can i?..i am only 15 years old...i know, i think too much about things,ever one tells me but i just need to solve this

Hey there,
I couldnt help but go "aww" reading this it seems to me like you two have a real genuine connection.
but put yourself in his shoes i think it was very obvious he liked you but imagine how he felt when he saw you get with this other guy? (im not trying to make you feel guilty im just trying to shed some understanding) it must have hurt and sucked a whole lot to see it thats why I think he stopped talking to you as a way of distancing himself he didnt wanna be around that if he had feelings for you,he probably felt exactly how you feel about seeing this girl talk to him and stuff.
you two have a really strong friendship if not more so don't let the oppurtunity of anything happening pass you by and definately dont throw away what seems to be a great friendship.
honestly I would advice you to just get back talking to him again how you used to, tell him you miss him and how things were and if hed like to start hanging out more hopefully he will agree and you can get back to that place,as things progress then talk to him about your feelings and see how he feels too,dont worry about over thinking things Im a major culprit for that too so your not alone!
anyway I really hope things work out and that i helped
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16/male ive been with my gf for almost 3 months i really like her and we make out a lot and im bit nervous if we go any further my penis is not that big and its thin and im worried abou showing her my penis what can i do? does size or width matter
to girls?

hey there, =)
ok firstly let me say your not alone in this alot of guys feel exactly the same way and its totally normal.
theres no need to be nervous, if your gf really cares about you she wont care or even notice the size of your penis gauruntee! trust me it really shouldnt be an issue,and if it is well to be blunt then she is seriously immature and needs to get over herself you shouldnt waste your time with her if thats how things turn out which I assure you they probably wont :)
Just relax and be confident in yourself and that will shine through,after all its not the size as they say that matters its what you can do with it.
most girls dont care at all, in fact my bf isnt overly big and i find it much easier to manage to be honest haha
so it really depends on the type of girl,no girl should make it an issue but unfortunately there are those immature ones that do.
dont forget that us girls get just as self concious as you guys! about our bodies too and what your thinking when you see us so your not alone.
if your not ready to get more serious while making out and that with your gf dont let her pressure you,she should respect you if you dont want to but on the other hand if all thats stopping you is the size of your penis then honestly dont worry just relax and go with the flow,shes not going to make some rude comment about it or anything =)
if your still finding it hard talk to her about it she will surely understand,its better then having her thinking you dont like her anymore or anything us girls tend to get paronied thoughts like that sometimes! heh
anyway really hope I helped and good luck :)
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16/f/UK.

So I started college a couple weeks ago, & there's a guy I really like there. Basically I want to get his attention but I'm not sure how to do it.

The first day I met him I sat down opposite him in a class & as we didn't know anyone around us, we worked together. He was really friendly & smiled at me a lot, & I noticed him looking over at me a lot.

We had a few classes together, & I'd catch him looking at me a lot. I'd notice him staring at me whenever I walked into a room. Later, we had a class together, & he came & sat near me, even though he already had a really good seat in another room & we were talking and I'd often make him laugh, & when we weren't talking, we'd sometimes make eye contact and smile. He always uses my name & he asked what my last name was & kept checking that he knew how to spell it (I thought this was maybe so he could add me on facebook, but he hasn't). We don't really speak much, but sometimes he does things like poke me on the shoulder, and we smile like we have this understanding.

However, there's this other girl that obviously likes him (I'm pretty sure she said she has a boyfriend but he doesn't go to our college) and she's SO flirty with him, she always sits next to him & whenever something funny happens in class they look over at each other & smile. And now they hang out a lot.

So, what should I do to catch his attention? I'm really shy so find it hard to do the upfront stuff this other girl does. I was wondering if maybe I should do the more mysterious thing so maybe he'd start to notice me instead? But that might not work, so what do you think I should do?

Thanks, x

Hey there,
awh okay well from what you said it seems like hes interested but nobody here can tell you for sure what his feelings are as much as we would all like to get inside a guys head!
okay don't over anaylise him and this other girl youl only drive yourself crazy and become paronied you don't want that,see it has just friendlyness and flirty fun.
the trick to getting his attention?Just be you..dont go for this whole mysterious act if its not really you, he obviously thinks your nice and funny if you make him laugh! get the courage to talk to him more don't let that other girl get in the way fight for your chance you have as equal one as her.
he could possibly like you but not think your interested if you dont talk as much so do your best to be more outgoing sit next to him as often as you can and bring up convirsation..you mentioned you thought he was gonna add you on facebook but hasnt..well whats stopping YOU from adding him and getting chatting to him on that? maybe even get his number who knows the posibilites are endless dont let them pass you by :)
I hope I helped and that things go your way anymore questions please inbox me.
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im 14 yrs old and i have never had a girlfriend out even got my first kiss. I was wondering what is rong with me?? al my friends have and i havent i feel like such a geek

Hey there,
okay there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you so dont think that and definately don't think your a geek
your only 14 thats still pretty young,and just because your friends have gfs doesnt mean you should or are ready.
the time will come trust me, dont start dating for the wrong reasons. so many girls and guys go through this feeling I did too I didnt have my first proper bf/gf relationship until i was 15.
Im just gone 16 now so trust me your not alone and your totally normal.
please dont feel pressured and like you have to have a gf to have fun and be happy you don't really.
one will come when you least expect it,get talking to girls as friends even and it could devolop as more just stop thinking about it so much and start enjoying being young and doing what your supposed to do dont start worrying about relationships and stuff yet trust me when you get to 16 17 youl be wishing you didnt have a gf and all the stress and effort it takes.
I hope I helped and made some sense to you anymore questions please feel free to inbox me
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Hey im 15 years old always wanted to know how sex would feel so i had fingered myself the first time i did it it hurt but i kept going it started to feel good. I did it again a few more time it went in and out more and it felt good..

so one day i decided to look in the mirror to see was my cherry popped..

it was open does this mean when i go to the doctor for a physical would it look like i lost my virginity when i didnt?

because i really didn't plan to pop it i was just skeptical about it my mom would kill me if she would think that because i just turned 15 and is a freshman...

im scared should i lie and tell her that i used a tampon and i guess it popped...

help me out your advice is needed and may you feel much better and okay :)

Hey there, :)
okay honestly your cherry can pop in so many different ways other then fingering yourself it may have already been before you started.
one theroy people have is that it can happen when riding horses or a bike or anything simple and harmless like that.
it wont mean youve lost your virginity at all, doctors have other ways of determining that and they will know if you have or not trust me.
so you have absolutely nothing to worry about the doctor and your mom will know that the reason for your cherry popping isnt always intercourse
hope i helped anymore questions please feel free to inbox me
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umm ok, me and this girl got in a fight about a year ago (im in 8th grade) and we used to be like best friends, but now that we got in the huggeeeeee fight, i just want it all to be over. i still lke her as a friend, like well not really. but shes friends with all my other friends.
i have heard that she has been talking about me behind my back, and now its all really akward between us. what can i do so we can just be friends?

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Hey there,
okay i feel i can relate to this because im actually in a really similar situation.. i wont go into great detail but basicly i fell out with this girl over the stupidest reason ever..she gets under my skin so much but yet i still miss how we used to be. anyway what you need to do is figure out first of all is this girl worth trying to get back friends with if shes going to be talking behind your back?and not even have the courage to do it to your face?
be the bigger person in all this, be civilased you can get past the awkwardness by doing just that. the girl i fell out with is friends with all my other friends too but whenever shes around i dont leave i contribute as much to the convirsation as she does we just dont speak directly if you get me.
you dont have to put on this fake friendlyness and pretend like nothing ever happend just dont be bitchy say hello and stuff,she will be dumbfounded and wont know how to react.
talk to her even and say you just want to be civilised and get all get along to some extent.
Hope I made some sense and helped,anymore questions please inbox me :)
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see im dating this guy who doesn;t go to my school the only time i can see him is at upward boun in wytheville and he is black and my family don't know about it because I would get kick out of the house if i told them they believe blacks should stay with their people and we should stay with are people and he is 15 in 9th and im 17 in 11th and i can;t see him when i won;t because of the skin differents and the problem is i still have feelings for a ex of mine who is in 10th and is 16 what should i do.

Hey there,
okay well im going to be straight up and honest here and say what I think.
if your having feelings for your ex or anyone else then you shouldnt be even dating this guy should you?
its not fair,its almost as if your leading him on.
it seems to me that all theese complications are making you start to wonder is it worth it?
if not thats the question you need to be asking yourself,is it?
your can rarely see him your family wouldnt aproove and theres an age difference (which usually id say wouldnt matter as much but its still a contributing factor)
Im sorry if im seeming negative but if you had genuine feelings for this guy id say make it work but seeing has you still have feelings for your ex id say let this new relationship go until your ready to move on and fully over your ex.
is this guy worth all this trouble? think about it i think the answer is staring you in the face. but its your choice this is my view on it,i hope i helped in anyway and anymore questions please feel free to inbox
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