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Too shy? Dx
I am 16 female, my bf is 18. So here's the thing, I'm very shy! Not that confident in my "self look," I'm skinny skinny but I'm also not a huge whale, no offense to anyone. I'm a 34C cup, I get embarrassed when he touches me sexually, and very shy too. But I do like it, it's just when he tells me to tell him what I want or like, it makes me get all shy and blah!!! I hate it, on the phone when we talk, he turns me on and says things he'd be doing to me, or wants to do, then when I'm supposed to I get shy or embarrassed and I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT TO SAY!!!! It really sucks, I've always been more of a pleaser then get pleased, and I like to act not talk about acting. Has anyone lese had this problem? Is it normal? Am I hopeless, will I ever get over this? Him and I have been together for 9 months now, we started fooling around on our 5 month together. What should I do?! :(
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your probaly shy around your bf because he is older more macure hes a different age then you... so does he mind that your shy or does he even know?
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just tell him you aren't so confident on the phone its so much easier in person. i mean my husband and I when were dating i wanted to talk dirty to each other on the phone and he just wasn't into it. so we just ended up fooling around more in person.
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Been there and done that. I'm 16 and when my boyfriend wanted to mess around. I was like Holy Crap. I had no idea what to do. I was so shy. I had no idea what to say to him. When we first started having phone sex I was shy then as well. I didn't know what to say to him and I would just get toungue tied and everything. The first time I messed around it took him like ten minutes to get me to finally go on with it. He asked me what I wanted him to or what I liked, and because I had no idead what to say to him, I just told him that do whatever you want to and I'll tell you what I like. Now that he know's what I like done to me, he does whatever. And it is very normal and you will eventually get over...
Hope this helped..
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heyy there okay let me start off my answering your question.YES its totally normal! almost every girl gets like this!
I know I have. its just a case of mind over matter.
its a confidence issue too you need to think okay what is it exactly thats stopping me?
he is your boyfriend you should be able to feel comfortable doing this stuff with him,some people don't and are shyer then others and need work on it while others it comes naturally but thats okay.
You should definately explain this to your boyfriend because he might start to get the vibe that you dont want to do stuff.
tell him your shy and how you feel and he can help you overcome it. sometimes all it takes is a little reassurance from yourself and him.
keep telling yourself you are beautiful and focus on the positive things about your body,build up your confidence. relax and let go a little bit it might take some time but with pratice you can get there you will get over it i know i did without even realising!
you say you like to act and not talk about acting sometimes its good to talk though your bf is only trying to find out what works for you rather then going and just doing it which could be awful (trust me been there) so i would consider you to be lucky in that departmnet and you should too :) honestly just relax and talk about it you never know it could work wonders.
hope i helped in anyway
much <3
Jess 16/f
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