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moving out still babysitting help?
so me and my gf plan on moving in together. She babysits for her roomate who really doesnt deserve kids because she is always working and when she gets home she goes to bed she puts them to bed also. So my gf is stuck watching them most of the time. When we move out she said she will prolly have to still do it because of a program (long story but yeah) and I wanna move out and start our own family is she gona be stuck with the kids all the time and the little one shes kinda attached to she said he would stay atleast one night a week and sleep in our bed and the way we would sleep is he would be on her side and shed be cuddling up next to him and I would be pretty much sleeping alone on my side of the bed. If she still has to babysit him do you think we wont stay? I am not jealous of the kids but I thought us moving out things would change which she said. And sometimes her roomate gets mad and says she wont be watching the kids so what do I do?? I wanna talk to her but how can I not make her mad?
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You asked:And sometimes her roomate gets mad and says she wont be watching the kids so what do I do?? I wanna talk to her but how can I not make her mad?
Does your GF get paid? if so her roster should be fixed 8.5 hours eg: start 9.am finish 5.30 or what ever her shift covers and stick with it. ask for overtime if longer. Is The mother working night/shift? THE MOTHER does not go to BED and leave your GF to put kids to sleep. I don't care how tired she is this is unaceptable and irrsponsible of the mother. Who is the parent here? the kids get confused about 2 mums in their lives they pick the one that nurtures because thats what they need now. If you do have the little one stay at your house after you move I highly recommend you give the child his/her own bed the child needs her/his own sancuary so do you two. I have had a child in my bed they kick and wack your face and they leak if in nappies. I hate the elbow wack to the left booby.. god that hurts so much I put it on par with a nut cracker.
In Australia parents are subsidised to send our kids to day care centres while one works. I personally had a day job I picked the kids up just before 6pm. this worked out well us. Try and teach your kids to get to bed early, bath them feed them at 5.30 6pm latest in bed by 7.pm vigilance is the key to sucess with kids routine. Kids need routine this is a powerful comfort zone for them it's up the the adults around them to provide this for them. Initiate a meeting with the mother & girlfriend over coffee discuss a plan of action. If you fail to come to some arrangement & you are at all concerned for the childrens welfare the "child welfare" can step in and deal with her. Good luck.
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You talk to her. Explain how you feel first and then tell her that moving in together and starting a family is a huge deal. Her roommate should manage for her own kids... you need her more then them right now...Let the sleeping with the kid pass for this time, there's nothing you can do, but try tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. Explain clearly that you are not jealous, that's very important.
If you don't want to make her mad, you should probably practice the speech a few times and write it in the way it would appeal to her, she's your girlfriend, you should know...
Tell her that you just want an equal part of her time and you appreciate what she's doing for her roommate.....
I hope it works, She loves you, She'll understand! Good luck!
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hey there,
okay what you need to do is sit down with your girlfriend and tell her exactly how your feeling,pretty much sum up what youve said here.
explain to her that your not jealous but you don't think its fair on her to be takin advantage of by her roomate (thats what it sounds like) I mean you and your gf need to have some sort of peace and privacy yourselfs so you can have a life that doesnt involve someone elses kids 24/7!
ask her is there anyway possible she can cut back on the babysitting?
talk to her roomate about it i dont know the situation..tell her your worries and how you feel shes sure to understand and you two will come to some sort of an agreement on it?
you can put your lives on hold for someone else its not fair.
mooving out is a chance for a new start for both of you so your best bet is to talk about it without getting into a fight,
Hope I helped Much <3
Jess
16/f
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