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Born in the 60's means I have had a great life full adventures and mishaps and experiences and direction. I am 5th of 6 sibblings. Now I am married 24 yrs with 2 teenage boys 17 & 16 yrs and a son 8yrs
Boys are definately challenging but I am up to the task. We own a business here 20 yrs I am a jack of all trades master of none. If you want something done you got to do it yourself. I pride my self with the fact that when I left home I never asked my parents for any assistants of any kind esspecially money. I struggled and now I am my own success story.

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Hi!
I was wondering what currently the driving age was for people. I have heard so many different theories. I live in MA. I heard that at 16 you could drive, and at 15 1/2 you could got to drivers ed and earn a permit, but then just recently I heard that you couldn't even enter drivers ed until you were 15 nine and nine months. So, if you actually understand what I'm trying to explain, would you please tell me what the current policy for the age someone is eligible to enter into drivers ed, earn their permit, and are able to drive by themselves?
Thank you!
-Sky
14/f

Hi, telephone your local police station they will give you an accurate reponse to the driving ages and the leagal requirments. don't rely on ill informed people from various areas.

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I am a 19 year old. I know this is a fairly common question. But I am getting a bit concerned for my health. A few weeks ago my fiance and I had sex, during ovulation. Couple weeks passed, and I was due for my period. My period never came after a few days, so I tested one evening and it was a negative. Felt a little iffy, but relieved for the most part. Couple days afterwards I got a pinkish discharge. The next day I was discharging blood like a regular period. Was a little lighter than usual but I shrugged it off. Then a couple days ago, the discharge completely stopped. Today, still nothing. So my bleeding only lasted for a day. I have been waking up with some nausea, sore breasts, and still feeling tired even though I slept in today. My stomach feels a bit bloated, for the past few days at least.

Weird thing is my period always lasts 6-7 days, not 1 day. I usually get bad cramps but that's it. During that day until today, a little cramping but not much.

I have no medical insurance and I won't be able to get to a clinic until tomorrow or Friday to get tests. But in the meantime, I wanted to ask what it possibly could be, and what I can do until I head to a clinic.

My stress levels are also fine. I haven't been stressed out or depressed. I get some mood swings though. My periods are always regular.

I also posted this on Yahoo! Answers, but didn't get a lot of help from it. So if anyone could offer any decent advice that'd be great.

Thanks for your time.

It takes about 6 weeks for pregnancy hormones to kick in so if you tested too early you may get an incorrect result see your dr they can do a blood test as early as 4 weeks to get a correct result. sore boobs nausea are the pregnancy symthoms.

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i painted this glass thing n its like small n hollow with a hole to put a candle in it then theres a dish on top. i need to figure out what it is called and what you can burn on it.. but i have noo idea what to even type in on the computer to look for it because i dont know what its called any ideas? could it be to burn powdered insence or candle or..?

Hi, these are common where I live they are insence burners You light a very small candle comes in it's own shallow aliminuum holder you can buy them by the dozen at spotlight in various colours or any candle shop, you put water in the top dish above the candle add a few drpos of incense oils the room smells lovely & the glow is tranquil. However the paint you put on may be a problem with burning off black I am not sure what will happen there. I hope this helps.

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hey are satin sheets comfortable? do they get cold like cold to lay on? any info is appreciated thanks.

What makes my bed comfortable is an underlay and a magnetic underlay. Satin sheets are slippery remember the movie Blind Date and Kim Bassinger kept sliding off well that what happens. Great for lovers but if your looking for a good night sleep get high thread cotton sheets 400 threat is luxururious just like a 5 star hotel only better. Yeah. try buying a set of Egyptian sheets on special they are expensive sometimes you can get lucky and score a set on special 400 thread.

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15/F.

I'm going to be redoing my room soon, and I don't want just one flat color for the whole room. I have a room that's just about 10 by 10, so I wanted to get a black and white wall paper and put it on two of the walls and paint the other walls a solid white.

I'm not sure where to get a unique black and white wallpaper though, I want something that's more vintagey though (I'm not sure if that's a word..) I really like this one http://www.porterhousedesigns.com/colorsizzle/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/bedroom_livingetc.jpg however, I really want to see more like that too, so I can get the best one I'll like for a while.

So if you could give me a few options of places to look, that would be good. Or if you could send me actual wallpapers that would be good too.

Thank you in advance.

May I suggest a wallpaper specialist you should find them in the phone book or google the location closest to you. Or a giant hardware store. Also as a general rule of thumb it is better to have just 1 feature wall not 2 like your planning. If you choose a wall paper with a pattern it's difficult on the eye to hang pictures over it so wall paper behind your bed only would work well. I hope this helps

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im 18/f.

i need a new look for my bedroom, right now the walls are like an aqua blue w/ purple trim. my bed spread/sheets are blue, purple and green. i just need an updated look, something more sosphicated. any ideas? thanks :)

I have been watching a fabulous decorator on T.V he ask his clients to go to there room am pick out 3 style items they love and 3 peronal items they love he uses this as as a suggested pallet and texture for the look he creates and the personal touch gives his client a great feeling of pleasure. So if you want to ditch the colours start affresh with your chosen belongings and work off them. Eg; they may be a faverite shoe a photo which he recreates in black & white it may be shells you collected on a very special occassion it may be a favourite dress you get lots of compliments with your faverite straw hat This is textures items and so on. It seems like a good recipe for a sucessful decorating theme. Good luck

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My boobs. :( They are UNEVEN! is there any way to even them out? or make them look less lop-sided?

Are uneven boobs normal or is this something that means I am deformed in some kinda way?

In my youth My breast were different too one looked pumped & shapely the other softer and less shapely. I discovered I always carried my hand bag over the left shoulder and this boob area wasn't getting enough excersise as the other so I changed my bag carrying habit and this worked great I was on to something indeed. Also when I was getting a bra fitting by a proffessional she told me your left & right sides are different just like your face. May I suggest a Bruce Lee technique in which he used isometrics to make his left & right side of his entire body the same strenth and shape as the other. Equal fitness, you can google issometrics a simple exercise is to clapps your hands in front of you and press as hard as you can hold for 5 or ten secs repepeat in as many arm positions as you please even pressing more to one side to get right around the chest muscles & under your arms. you may experience sore muscles & this means it's working These muscles are weak & this exersise will strenthen and shape them in an equal sige and position. My boobs have matured since I am happy with there appearance as oppose to my younger shape. they do change shape over time & during & after childbirth. I hope this is helpful.

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Hello, I want flawless skin fast! I have red spots, mild acne, and mild black heads... It's probably not as bad as i think but i need something that works... Something that shrinks pores, clears up acne and blackheads, and makes my skin ONE color and look great. I know there has got to be SOMETHING out there (or a couple things) that can do this! I use Skin essentials 3step thing and it says it's better than pro-active and i use a mint julep mask and wash my skin regularly, but apparently that's not enough! Where can i find it and how much does it cost? Not toooooo expensive plz! And, do you know what kind of acne stuff celebrities use? They seem perfect, even without the makeup! Thank you, and any answer is appreciated! Any help! :)

you can get a product called Biore for your black heads from the chemist you wash you face with water and put on the nose strip wait 10 mins till it dries hard and the blacheads are trapped in the plaster like strip and are all pulled out when you remove the strip it's fantastic. If you want your skin all one colour you need to go to a beautician and get a peel it brings all the uneven pigmentation out from the bottom to the surface of the skin. a woodlamp will reveal all your imperfections from the sun it is quite a scary sight because you cannot see this under normal circumstances you need a woodlamp to reveal the damage. hope this helps

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17/f


So this morning, I sent my tutor an email asking whether we were going to have a tutoring session tomorrow. He replied telling me to be on standby, because he needed to check to see whether he was busy, and he would get back to me later on today.


Well, I waited around, and it's nighttime now, and he didn't get back to me, and I need to know really badly whether or not I'm going to see him tomorrow so I can plan out my day accordingly.

At 8:57pm, I gave him a ring on his cell phone and left a message.

Was that an okay thing for me to do? Or was it excessive and disruptive?

It's O.K. to call and assertain your agenda as long as it's not during meal time so between 7.30 to 8.pm is a good polite time to call never call after 9.00pm unless it is an emergency some people go to bed early. Hope this helps

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Ok so I have two dogs ones a border collie mix the others a husky mix. Needless to say that's a lot of hair. I vacuum every other day and that seems to keep it under control but I need some advice on what to do with my bed!

My dogs sleep with me every night. They shed. A lot.

I used to have these cheap sheets I bought from target. They were 100% cotton and they were actually really good for the dog hair I could shake it and it would all fall right off. Problem was they were cheap sheets and thus poor quality sheets, I wanted something better.

So I recently went out and bought some good sheets. They too are 100% cotton but more expensive and higher thread count. But these new sheets are like duct tape to the hair. I can shake and shake and shake and it just clings right on there. The only way to get it off is to use a lint roller...but it takes like 30 sheets of the sticky stuff!

I want some nice quality sheets that I can shake the hair off of. But I can't understand the difference in the two because they are both 100% cotton.

Is there something to do with the higher quality that attracts the hair?

What is the best kind of sheets for me to get that will be able to release the hair?

Hi, A higher thread count means a tighter weave the hairs are trapped inside the fibres. Have you ever concidered giving the dogs there own bed off the floor of course. this would save your linen. why bother with top grade sheet if the pets are going to ruin them. I might be tough separation for you especially but the dogs will get use to a bed of there own. other wise try and get a hold of these sheets that work for you and your pets.

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Lately it seems liek I just pass out randomly! I was with my friends and I blacked out at the mall. I was just sitting in a chair and then I was flopped on the table. I don't know if I should go to the doctor or not. Does this happen to anyone else or is there something really wrong with me?

If I don't need a doctor then how do you keep from blacking out randomly?

Thanks you!

You need to see a Dr. & get a diagnosis you may be alone someday and bang your head and well need help by a paramedict & your all alone. See a Dr. It may be narcalepsy when you randomly fall asleep for no apparent reason it may be oxygen related you may be fainting it may be serious. This is not normal. I knew a girl who fainted a lot what if she was driving. I mean Really the consequences cannot be ignored.

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I'm an 18 year old successful student at a top college...and I've found myself with the crazy urge to have a baby. This started in October. My boyfriend of 8 months and I ran out of condoms and had unprotected sex. It was the first time we had ever done it without one and I was terrified. A week later we broke up due to stress from living in different states. A couple weeks later I found out I was pregnant and I was scared to death, then a couple days later I had a miscarriage. Two months later we got back together and he now lives half an hour from my school. He knows I miscarried but we don't talk about it.
Since we've gotten back together we've had sex without a condom..a lot. Every so often it makes me nervous that I'll get pregnant again, even though he always pulls out, he pulled out the first time and I got pregnant on precum. But sometimes I'm completely unconcerned that I'll get pregnant and have a "if it happens, it happens" type of attitude about it.
I know he doesn't want kids now. His best friend is a new dad and he always talks about how stupid he was to get his girl knocked up but we're pretty much putting ourselves in the same situation.
I've always wanted children and I wanted my first by the time I was 24 so I've always wanted to be a younger mom but I never thought this young. Part of what makes me feel this way is seeing my boyfriend when he's around children. We're good friends with a 26 year old couple with two toddler girls and whenever my guy is around the kids he's so amazing with them.
I know his family would be supportive and knowing that isn't helping me get myself out of that. I know its hard to have kids, I've babysit triplet boys from the time they were born until they were 6.
I have the urge to have a baby, and I need to get out of it.

He's good with kids that's great but they are not his any grand parent will tell you the grand kids are great too because they give them back to the parents. I am a mum of 3 boys it's all about them from the day they were born. I had my first at 30 second at 31 3rd at 40 it's dam hard work it's exspensive and it's a lifetime commitment. please... finish school babies can wait. get a block of land first get some finacial security behind you first because what you decide to do and how you go about getting security is a reflection of you & him and a example for your kids to follow. Take responsibility for not getting pregnant if your boyfriend feels trapped into this role as dad by your lack of responsibility that's not fair on him. Step up and live your life for a few more yrs your view on mother hood will change in your early twenties. Become a mother with a dad for your kid(s) for all the right reasons not on a whim. Trust me it's not all it's cracked up to be the good parts are few & far between even when your ready for this the rest is hard work a deep responsibility and a financial burden if your not prepared properly. get organized & stabalized first.

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15/f

I've been looking for a job for about 3 months now and i've had no luck so far. I have made a resume and handed it out to numerous shops around my area. All my friends have jobs in fast food but i don't really feel comfortable handling other peoples food.
What are some other things i can do to help me in my job hunt or to put on my resume?

you can do some research on open questions these are vital in asserting yourself in an interview. food is a good start how about your local grocery store or major food chain they often hire juniors.
Always be well groomed deoderant is essensial hair tidy maybe get a mod hair cut bring you up to date with the times. personallity is very important and customer service is vital. Cloths ironed and go to the interview positive. You can learn good people skills by reading a paperback book called "how to win friends & influence people to your way of thinking" by Dale Carnigie you'll be manager befor your 20 if you follow his directions. great insight into people skills.

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So..I plan on becoming a photographer I also want to have my own studio.. I am just having a hard time coming up with a name. Most names I have thought of are more for restaurants..not so bad if I were to open my own restaurant but I am looking for names for a Photography Studio. Help..Please :)

This is challenging but You can get inspiration by asking yourself some questions.
1.What sort of photography do i do.
2.where will my studio be(suburb name photography)
3.Will I do models, subjects, weddings, portraits, pets, buildings, landscapes, glamour portraits or school photos
all of the above
4.Do I use my surname or a bogus name like "Fifi's Photography Studio" after my favourite dog ect.
5.random name picked in phone book or baby book with eyes closed draw out of a hat.
6.image is what you need to portray in your title.
one thing I do know is the closer to the begining of the alphabet the better
eg AAA studio photography I hope this is something in your thinking hat good luck & happy snapping. MMM.. Happy Snap sounds good too. make it catchy.

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Hello my boyfriend is going into the National Guards and before he goes for training he said he was going to propose to me. We've been together for about 2 years now. He was asking me questions about engagement rings and to pick out what i liked. I was looking online and some rings came with a matching wedding band. The one i really liked was just the engagement ring. Where would i get a band for it that matches the ring? Im not really how all of this goes. Would it be easier to just find a ring that came with both?

Thanks!!

Have you tried the jewlery store, online I would never purchace such an important piece online. A diamond is something you need to see with an eye glass look for cracks and flaws you can't do this online. the wedding ring and eternity ring can be designed for you.

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Judo season is coming up and I was wondering if I should join. I'm really interested and very determined to join it but my parents disagree to whether or not I should join. My mom really wants me to join because she wants me to learn self-defense and her co-worker's daughter is in it. But then, my dad doesn't really want me to join because the we have practice three times a week and I don't think he wants to drive back to my school just to pick me up (we live far away). Also, I severly injured my left knee two years ago. I tore the ACL cord in my left leg and it's currently been rather sensitive lately. So do you think I should join? I really need to decide right now because practice starts next week. HELP PLEASE! >

I have 3 sons and it's the sacrifices we make that for the good of our children our kids have participated in soccer rugby downhill MTB and karate & the youngest want to do AFL "Aussie Rules" kids have to have an interest a sport and what better than self defence. it may com in handy some day. can you ask your sempei if someone who lives near you can take you & drop you off? can you catch a bus? Can Mum take yoou? tell dad not to be a slacker. I say go for it any way any how you'll love it. They may just enjoy you out of the house for a few hours too. You got to do what you love.

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I've been with my boyfriend for around two years.

The first part of our relationship was pretty bad because I had a drug problem. Around a year ago, I ODed on some prescription meds.
At the time, I was hanging out with a guy I had just met. He knew I was way out of it and took advantage of it, starting to flirt and hold my hand. I then tried to text my boyfriend saying "it's over", but accidentally sent it to the wrong number. I made out with the guy and he kind of forced me into doing more.

I went home and slept for a long time. I woke up to texts from my boyfriend, went through my sent messages, and realized what had happened. I had cheated, if not intentionally. (I had zero interest in the guy). I never told him. I know I should have.

Now, over a year later, I've finally come clean about what was going on with me during that time, but not about what happened with the guy. I'm wondering if I even should. My boyfriend will dump me, I know him.

I would never cheat, have never even been interested in another guy while with him. I haven't gone near drugs since then. I just don't know if it's worth destroying what I have for ancient history. What should I do?

I say let sleeping dogs lie still. If you can forgive yourself you are forgiven. You have come along way in 2 yrs and you have proven to yourself you are committed to your boyfriend. this boy who took advantage of you is the past that cannot be undone or ersased it's just a memory that warrents learning from then fading away from your current life experiences. Chances are high no one is perfect. forgive forget and move on with your life Telling him may just be a destuctive unrealist nightmare you really don't need in recovery. Quote Titanic "A woman heart is a deep ocean" because we are strong enough to deal with it. If your shrouded with guilt you can't seem to stand just leave your problem with Jesus he will relieve your burden. I hope this helps.

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this may be lengthy, but please i have never shared this with anyone and NEED help.

When i was 13 years old i got my period in September for the first time in 8th grade. shortly after this, i realize now i went anorexic. i hardly ate anything, and i lost weight rapidly. my period never came back again a second time. i got extremely thin to the point where by ribs stuck out and my face looked sickly. the sad thing is, the whole reason i did this because i wasnt happy with my body. i was thin, but i had no boobs. i decided if i didnt have boobs, then i would get really skinny instead. its sad that i didnt know that i had no boobs because my period had just started and they had not started growing yet. so i was basically anorexic for about 7-9 months when i realized i was too thin. i started eating normally again and very slowly gained weight. my period return about 2-3 months after i had started eating regularly again. i was still very very skinny. in 8th grade during the height of the anorexia, i was 90 pounds and 5'4. at the beginning of my freshman year, i was 5'4 1/4 and around 100 pounds. my boobs were very shrunkin and little, however i didnt realize this was because i went through anorexia. i gained weight rapidly, by the summer between my freshman and sophmore year i was about 110-115 pounds. my boobs still remained very small but did not appear shrunken or anything anymore. i maintained a weight of about 110-115 throughout my sophmore year and into the summer of my junior year. i am now in my junior year. i am 5'4 and 1/2 and weigh around 123 pounds. i have gained about 35 pounds since my anorexia, but i am not sure i am recovered. i cant tell. i am appear and am physically healthy again and have been for a while now, but i have gained a sufficent amount of weight and my breasts have not grown. they look healthy at least, but are still very small. they haven't really grown at all. can anyone who has any kind of experience in this area please tell me, is there any chance i am still recovering from this? and is there a chance my breasts will still grow?

also, since i have had my period back it has never been regular if that helps at all.

i appreciate any help. once again, thank you.

I am pleased your puting on some weight this gives you a figure and starving enhances the skeleton. If it's a bust line your after time will and a bit of wieght will give you a bust. So until then you can get one from a quality lingerie shop, ask them to measure you properly and they can fit you with a bust enhancing bra exclusivly to fit your body. you should have a fitting at least 5 times in your young life your shape will change with maternity too. it's not the end of the world your still young and your boobs are still perty when gravity takes over it's a new set of problems that's years away. you should wear a non wire bra to bed this stops the wrinkles between your breast in years to come. Embrace your body because it's young and perfect.

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i have brunette hair, and i want to use non permanent hair dye the color is light auburn, do you think that it will ruin my natural hair color if i use it?
and what does it mean by non permanent?

DO NOT USE permant hair dye on your entire head it will fry it seriously. Older woman use permant to dye the roots of GREY hair only it's just roots only use semi permant for the rest of the hair. here's what they do permant hair dye goes right into the hair shaft and srivels the shaft making it brittle and hard to manage. that's why you only use it near the roots by the time it grows out it has lost its ability to do too much damage it also has better coverage for grey hair which is hard to dye with semi's Semi's make your grey hair orange or red not what your looking for for in a base colour. Semi's smell beautiful if it smells good it's a semi now this product will cover your outer shaft of the hair and make it lush full and managable. Semi's plump up the hair and permanants shrivel especially if you dye permanat over pemanant. this is very damaging. It only last 6 or 8 weeks or so but every time you wash a little more washes away. When I was in school I always used Napro hair colours my hair was amazingly shiny & healthy.

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gender:female
age:13

I Go out with this boy who is 16. I Really Like Him but hes to old for me. he knows my age and he is okay with it. should i corake up continue my relationship with him or brake up with him ?

Your 13 why are you worried about boys so soon your still a minor. Your a kid for such a short time in a whole life time. it will all still be there when your turn comes around. Don't rush into being a teen Mum just because you were curious. live your life first. once your a mum it's till the day you die. It is hard work and very expensive and little rewards. Your not in a relationship till your living with them or engaged. Can he wait till your 16 before you engage in sex because if he dosn't he can be arrested. things to think about. what's wrong with waiting for mr right.

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