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To tell or not to tell
I've been with my boyfriend for around two years.
The first part of our relationship was pretty bad because I had a drug problem. Around a year ago, I ODed on some prescription meds.
At the time, I was hanging out with a guy I had just met. He knew I was way out of it and took advantage of it, starting to flirt and hold my hand. I then tried to text my boyfriend saying "it's over", but accidentally sent it to the wrong number. I made out with the guy and he kind of forced me into doing more.
I went home and slept for a long time. I woke up to texts from my boyfriend, went through my sent messages, and realized what had happened. I had cheated, if not intentionally. (I had zero interest in the guy). I never told him. I know I should have.
Now, over a year later, I've finally come clean about what was going on with me during that time, but not about what happened with the guy. I'm wondering if I even should. My boyfriend will dump me, I know him.
I would never cheat, have never even been interested in another guy while with him. I haven't gone near drugs since then. I just don't know if it's worth destroying what I have for ancient history. What should I do?
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Don't tell him.
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Hi, congratulations on getting away from the drugs and being able to stay away from them. If you know in your heart that you can forgive yourself, I say you should simply push it out of your mind. People cannot always understand the situation unless they have been there themselves, so if you think you he wouldn't understand, don't tell him. I don't like secrets either, but if you are happy together with this guy, you should treasure what you have and not risk losing it. Also, remember that the guy you were with before took advantage of you when you were vulnerable so he shares the blame also. I agree with the others, I would not tell him if I were you, enjoy your happy relationship, Todd the Gem Guy
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I say let sleeping dogs lie still. If you can forgive yourself you are forgiven. You have come along way in 2 yrs and you have proven to yourself you are committed to your boyfriend. this boy who took advantage of you is the past that cannot be undone or ersased it's just a memory that warrents learning from then fading away from your current life experiences. Chances are high no one is perfect. forgive forget and move on with your life Telling him may just be a destuctive unrealist nightmare you really don't need in recovery. Quote Titanic "A woman heart is a deep ocean" because we are strong enough to deal with it. If your shrouded with guilt you can't seem to stand just leave your problem with Jesus he will relieve your burden. I hope this helps.
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Hi! Considering it's been so long since this occured, maybe its better not to tell him. Im not a big fan of secrets but unless he ever questions you about it, then i wouldnt.
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