My name is Todd, I am 40 and live in Portsmouth, Ohio. People often tell me that I give great advice and am a great listener, so here I am. I like writing blogs and answering questions etc. I am a jeweler/ merchant but have had many interesting life experiences and have much to offer in the way of advice on a diverse range of topics. I hope I can offer at least a bit of help! Thanks, Todd the Gem Guy.
Website: The Gem Guy's Jewelry Store
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Location: Portsmouth, Ohio
Occupation: Jeweler/ Merchant
Age: 40
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I want to dye my hair a deep red, i want it to be dark, but still tell that there is a red tint to it. i like mohagany hair colors and burgundy, but i DONT want anything too plum or purpley or like orange redhead. I'm black and like Meagan Good's skin color. http://wastingcotime.files.wordpress.com/2007/06/meagan_good_1502.jpg
I'm looking for good reds that will look good with my skin color (link)
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Try looking at auburn shades they are very dark with just a hint of red to them. It sounds like just what you need. Hope this helps, Todd the Gem Guy
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I am a woman, 59 years old, and have been married for 41 years to the same man who is 63. It hasn't always been easy. He is a binge drinker and hasn't made life easy. We have two grown children.
About 2 years ago, he moved his things out of our shared room and into one of the guest rooms. He claimed it was so he could sleep better, since I am a restless sleeper and was keeping him awake. At first I was upset, but soon realized that I was sleeping better without him. I accepted it and we moved on.
The problem is that our sex life stopped. I asked him about it (granted, he was drinking at the time), and he said that the thought of sex with me made him want to vomit. I have not been able to forgive him for this, even though he has said he doesn't remember saying it and didn't mean it.
Up until then, we had a very good sex life. I have tried to put that remark behind me, but on the one or two occasions we've tried to have sex since then, there is no chemistry. I'm very self conscious and don't really want him seeing me or touching me.
I know I am not the 18 year old that he married, I am 59, have diabetes, have gained weight, gotten wrinkled and old. But so has he. I always beleived that we would grow old together, but now I'm not so sure. He spends almost no time with me even when we are in the same house. He goes into the den to watch TV and falls asleep.
My self esteem is shot as a result of what he said, and I can't seem to get over it. He just gets mad and refuses to talk about it. He thinks I should just forget about it. I have to believe that there is some truth in what he said because he never even approaches me for any romance even though I have asked him to at least hug me occasionally, even if he doesn't want sex.
We haven't had a perfect marriage by any stretch of the imagination. I've considered divorce many times over the years, but it always comes down to the fact that I do care about him. I have been to al-anon, so I know that to some extent I am enabling him to continue drinking just by staying with him.
Right now, it's kind of like living with a roommate that you have nothing in common with and don't really like any more. Any advice you can give me will be appreciated. He would never be willing to get counseling, and we really can't afford it, as we are both retired and on a limited income. Thank you for listening to me. (link)
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It sounds to me like you are in a state of crisis. I can say that I would not be able to stay in a situation like this, and nobody else should have to either. You know deep down inside what it is going to take to be happy again. You know how he feels about the situation and it is not supportive or conducive to having a good relationship.
Sometimes you must say enough is enough. Start talking to friends and family and with their help figure out what options you have. It's going to be rough to try to take steps, but if you're serious about wanting to be happy again, you're going to have to make MAJOR changes. This relationship is a codependent one, where every action affects the other. Remember this because you will need to be careful in executing your plans.
If it means getting things rolling and waiting until the "right" time to let him know, so be it. You have to look out for yourself and start living again. YOU ARE NEVER TOO OLD TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE AGAIN.
I am 40 and I recently had to get out of a VERY BAD relationship of about 3 years, and I'm still not recovered from it, but at least I can live in peace. It's difficult, and lonely at times, but I can say I'm not angry and hurt all of the time now. I'm also on a very limited income.
Again, the most important thing that you can start doing is talking to people that you love and trust, and ask them for help and support. These people will want you to be happy too and most likely do anything they can to help. Things will develop from there. You are not in a situation to do it all alone, you're going to need a hand to get things started this is why you need a good support network.
God bless you and good luck to you on your journey. Let me know if you need to talk again, Todd the Gem Guy
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Okay so basically for years now i never cared about my grades...they were nothing but letters to me but now that im in high school i wanna show everyone im smart...the counselors & teachers & stuff know i am since i am considered gifted so if i do my homework i will be in AP classes cuz im in HONORS classes now. i really wanna know how i can get my act together. i understand all the work without paying attention in class but i dont like doing the homework &&/or classwork. i dont mean to sound like one of those people who think they are the best...i actually dont...just providing more details. i am currently in 9th grade & i started off good but it got bad && latelty i got my grades up. now that 2nd sesmter starts && we get to start fresh i dont wanna mess up like every other time. ANY ADVICE WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED!! (link)
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Sounds to me as though you like a challenge! Are you bored with your school work? Maybe you should talk to someone about further testing to see if you belong in an even further advanced group? When people don't have anything that gives them a challenge, they get bored. Talk to some school counselors and teachers and see if they can advance you even further. Good luck, Todd the Gem Guy
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Over the last 2 years I've dyed my hair about 7 times (I know, too often). At first I tried light shades on my brown hair. I didn't like having to re dye every time my roots came in, so I went darker. Now my hair has red undertones. I hate having red in my hair (I used to have natural blond highlights). For my birthday, I wanted to dye my hair to something close to my natural color but I'm afraid of having red show up again. I use Garnier Nutriesse and I'm not sure which shade to pick. I don't want to go too light because then my hair will turn brassy-orange. But if I go too dark, red shows up in my hair. Any idea on what I should do? Oh and I used to use blonde shampoo to bring out my natural highlights, but would it be of any use now that my hair has been dyed so many times? Here is the website with all the shades.
http://www.garnierusa.com/_en/_us/our_products/products_HAIRCOLOR.aspx?tpcode=OUR_PRODUCTS^PRD_HAIRCOLOR^NUTRISSE^NUTRISSE_DISCOVER&prdcode=P53001
thanks :) (link)
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Use an ash tone, it will neutralize the red tones because it has green in it. (red and green together make brown) there are many ash tones you can select from blond to brown. I know it sounds weird but it's the truth, it just neutralizes it with an opposite color (red and green are opposites on the color wheel). I hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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hi i am a 30 yr old mother of a 7 year old child and have wondered for a while if there is a possibility of her being sexually abused? the things that make me wonder are
1. when she was 5, almost 6, teachers at her school caught her and another little boy touching eachother and even performing oral sex.
2. i found her showing her friend how to draw a penis.
3. i walked in on her rubbing back and forth on a stuffed animal 3 times.
i just dont know where she would get all these ideas from and her dad is not in the picture so the only person i can think of who it could be would be her step grandfather because we live with my parents. any help is appreciated. thanks (link)
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Without being alarmist I would say these are some signs that indicate that your daughter is very preoccupied with thoughts of sex. I believe this is too young an age for her to be experiencing these kinds of thoughts so often, and you have a right to be concerned. You need to take her to a counselor who specializes in dealing with these kinds of (children's) issues before this gets out of hand, whether something has happened to her or not. The more these types of behaviors continue unchecked, the more they could get her into trouble. We live in a very dangerous world. If something IS going on, you'll of course, want it to stop and a counselor would be the best person to go to and find out most assuredly if it is, then everyone can take the appropriate steps to deal with the matter. The best of luck to you and your family, Todd the Gem Guy
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What are some good R&B songs about finally realizing that you deserve better? (link)
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Here's a few: Love Under New Management -Miki Howard, Not Gon' Cry -Mary J Blige, Fighter -Cristina Aguilera, Because of You -Kelly Clarkson, Irreplaceable -Beyonce, Little to Late -JoJo, I Learned From the Best -Whitney Houston. I hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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I really need help. I am losing it.
Last Saturday my girl called crying that she misses me and cant wait to see me.she promised we would go and watch avatar the Wednesday coming up. we had a small/big argument. she wanted to talk to her little sisters guy friends and i said no. I did not say no out of jealousy. Its that when i ask her if i can talk to girls, or if i could talk to my little sisters friends, she would say no because she was to jealous and did not trust the girls. Its ok, she was protective and very loving girl. we had a fight and she gave me good points and such but i was stubborn and said no because its not fair. each time i want to do or say something, she would not agree with it. But when it comes to her or if something comes up exactly alike, she would tell me to she will do it and if i say no its a big problem. Anyways she said im still doing it, its nothing wrong and i will tell you everything we talk about. I said go ahead but i am still hurt and blah blah. The very next day she did not ring me like we always do. we ring twice in the morning when we wake up, 3 times if we go down with our family, 5 times before we sleep, good mornign text messages and goodnight text messages. we knew everything about eachother all day the whole time in a cute way (nothing possessing). so i went down and got her credit for her cell. she then text me saying she feels too guilty and that she cant do this anymore and that it wont work out, we're different and shes sorry its over and to delete our pictures and videos. I was in shock and tried calling her but she wouldnt take my call. after a few tries she took it and was being really cold and saying im sorry, we're going to collide in the future and we wont be happy. i started going crazy and crying for her telling her everything can be wroked out..she was like "no it cant be worked out, this isnt me this isnt who iam. i am sorry, this is harder than i thought" and closed her cell. i called her friends who were in terrible shock. they told me they would get to the meaning of this. They then messaged me telling me im sorry its over.i called her best friend who said "this is for the best, forget about her, theres no chance." he text my sister telling her shes sorry, she never meant this to happen. But that shes not who she is and i changed her. I text her telling her if she ever loved me to write me back, she text my sister telling her to tell me because she did love me she wont write back because she doesnt want to give me hope because there is none, its over. then her friends text me telling me she says "she loved me and she STILL does but she cant be with me, that our world are not the same and it would never work out because we think differently"
Before i go further let me explain our situation. I am an American Egyptian, good class but my father got scammed a lot in Egypt and lost millions so we are trying to get back on our feet. Shes pure Egyptian and High class.In egypt, class matters and its really dumb. Its all about "your family name", not the cash. her mom first loved me but after we told her about us she got a little mean. A few times we would cross paths, by sheer luck, and she would catch me with her daughter alone (thats a no no in Egypt). she asked me two times not for this to happen again but the third time, again sheer luck, my girl knew i was playing basketball at the same club she was doing track, she came to say hi then her mom came out of nowhere. In the end her mom was so mad to the point she critized my family and told her not to talk to me. this was 2 years ago. so for 2 years her mom thinks her daughter is not talking to me. I know its wrong but we have no choice until my family gets back on their feet and i go propose. So each time we would go out she would be very stressed and nervous.i would try to calm her down and such...
Back to the story, she text messaged me the same day telling me our mentality are different. that she never wanted to grow up like this, worrying about what to wear and how to act. I told her me either, that we changed a lot in the 4 years and we need time to patch it up. she said no, im sorry, theres no more us and can never be. that we did have some stuff in common (bullsh*t, we had everything in common, right down to our favorite colors which is the weirdest mix) but that our worlds are different. my family was a bit religious and her family was very open minded. I told her i did not fall in love with her looks or anything. I fell in love with who she was. when i first meet her i never gave her a second look, until we got to know eachother through being great friends. she then closed her phone for 3 days. I went to her college and waited for her to finish her exams. When she came out she saw me and dashed the other way.i walked after her begging for her to listen and she was just being so mean. telling me its over and theres no hope. i told her i just want to explain my part, she said go ahead. I tried explaining and all i got was "no forget it, theres no hope" then she was like arent you religious, why are you trying to get back with me? yes i am a little religious, i do fear god and such but i am really open minded. and she knows that. i tried holding her hands and she wouldnt let me and tell me to let her go or she would hit me (she was getting stressed out because we were infront of her college and its a big deal for guys and girls to even walk with each other in college,Wierd country a little). then she was like i am trying to be nice, go on with ur life, go back to America and go to college there. Just leave. I told her that Saturday you were crying that you missed me, that you loved me so much and cant let me go. now ur throwing me away. she just said sorry. i then asked her Look at me and tell me you love me. she was like i do not want to lie to you. I started crying and was like how the hell? how 4 years and you dont love me anymore? 3 days ago you were making plans with me and called me up at night crying saying you cant ever make me feel bad because you love me so much. she was like i really dont know if i do or not okay. than i asked her not to shut her phone off, she told me shes changing her number and thats that. than she was like go on with your life, its over. you did mean the world to me i am sorry and walked away. she then a few minutes later text me telling me "delete all our stuff or ill literally hate you"( the pictures and vids are like us kissing and stuff). last month she was tickling me and cracking me up, i was laughing so hard that i said something that i would never thought of saying, i told her "i hate you stop making me laugh so hard", she started crying really hard saying she never wants me to say the "i hate you" ever. she never wants to hear it.i hugged her and told her im sorry. now she messaged me saying she would literally hate me if i don't delete the stuff???? i texted her telling not to worry, to have a good life and to take care of herself.( my friend made me write that, i was breaking down). she text back saying to "please eat=)" (my sister told her i have not ate for 4 days,i couldnt). i was trying to call someone so i rang her by accident and text her telling her sorry i rang by accident. she text back saying its ok please be okay thats all i really want. This was all that same day i talked to her. its been a week and i have not gotten anything. shes going to travel for the first time in 2 days for 2 weeks to Saudi Arabia to visit her dad who works there. We made plans to contact and how we will keep in touch before she goes but this was before she broke it off. i am scared to try calling her number to find it changed. Its too much for me. one day shes crazy about me the next she changes her number? THERE WAS NO HINTS NO ANYTHING. WE argued yes, we fought about dumb stuff. But we would always make up, always.
Shes the first in her family to wear the head scarf and her mom makes fun of her about it al the time. All her friends said (recently) that she wore it to make me happy. i told them that we made plans about marriage and what we were going to do, and all our plans were stuff that we could not do if she was wearing the head scarf, so how the hell did i make her?I never looked at another girl, never checked out another girl for 4 years! never thought of being with someone else, never fantized. Before i was with her my family used to make fun of me saying i was a different kind of man, i would close the toilet seat, i would take care of myself, i would you know, just be clean and smart. i never did anything to hurt her feelings like even think of another girl. I am her first, we got togehter when we were 15. So she thinks what i do is normal, not checking girls out and loving her to death. I dont know what to do anymore. Everyone says to ignore her and she would comeback to me. But i dont think so. She was the strongest girl i ever meet. If her dad hit her or yelled, or if her mom made fun of her or anything at all, she would stand tall and not budge and show she doesnt care but come crying to me. She used to tell me i was the only thing that made her weak and nothing can make her weak. I dont know. I am crying every day i cant help it. she was everything to me. For the first time, when i was creating a loveshack account now, i had no pw or username to create! People tell me to go on with my life. I WOULD IF SHE was never like that. she made me addicted to her. if i dont ring her for a few hours she would call worried as hell than mad that i mad her worried. she would love to know every detail of me. if i was buying a shirt, i would call her and ask her what color? what size? what you think of a shirt like this and that. shes just everything. Should i go and talk to her before she leaves in 2 days? what should i do? i cant let her go. this cant end like this. its so unfair. I tried forgetting her but i cant. I used to even look at her body and think its so perfect that i dont want anything at all. You know some guys love their wives and girls to death but they would atleast look and be like hm if she had this and that. I dont. I just love evetrything about her. I fell in love with her mentality! not even her looks. when i first saw her i didnt even take a second look. I am from America. You know the girls are two different things from America to Egypt. But i fell in love with who she was and how she was. She was so amazing and funny. i adored it. I am scared she doesnt lvoe me anymore or doesnt miss me. Egypt won the African cup yesterday and each time we would watch the game we would ring when a referee was being dumb or when we scored a goal (this was because we couldnt watch the games toghether alot.) this is so unfair. i did not do anything to her. Yes i was a bit strict and wont let her do stuff, just because she wont let me do stuff. I dont want to lose her. I am willing to go fix anythjing..
Thanks everyone... (link)
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I know this is not what you want to hear, but you need to let her be. If she feels this way, you're hurting her by trying to "make" her come back to you. She obviously feels that she needs to do this. I can't tell you why, I can't tell you it makes sense, I can't tell you it's fair. I can only tell you this is real, and she is strong and it seems like she will not budge. I believe if you ever want a chance with her again, you need to back up a bit and give her a chance to get her wits about her. I'm not saying she will come back to you, but she won't get a chance to start missing you if she feels as though you're bothering her.
Now, I'm afraid all I can tell you about how to get through this is to look to your friends and family for support, just take each day as it comes. Try to process what has just happened and when you are ready, you'll start to move on. You have to, otherwise, you will torture yourself.
I had a best friend who I loved more than anyone in the world, we did everything together, he would crash at my house, we would eat together, go to the clubs, celebrate holidays...etc. Where you found one, you found the other. He got a nasty chest cold, it turned into pneumonia, he wouldn't go to the doctor until it was too late and then he died within two weeks, he was just GONE. We had known each other for many years. I had hardly any other friends, my family lived far away, I had to learn how to re-live my life ALONE. It was horrible, I cried so much that I had no more tears...my eyes literally went dry. I felt absolutely alone and had no idea what I was going to do. It was to this day, the hardest thing I've ever had to do, I miss him to this day.
The point I'm getting at is, that you're going to have to deal with a very similar thing, grieving is grieving... It's a huge loss to your life and you just take it day by day, and some point, you'll get to feeling a little better. Try to surround yourself with people who love you and care about you. Good Luck, I hope this helps, God Bless You, Todd the Gem Guy
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Gimme a good R&B song thats a duet. I need it by next week. Thanks. I'll rate. xx (link)
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Here are Several: "Ain't No Mountain High Enough" & "You're all I need to get by" - Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell, "You Don't Have to Be a Star" Marilyn McCoo and Billy Davis Jr., "Reunited" -Peaches and Herb, "With You I'm Born Again"- Billy Preston and Syreeta, "Endless Love" -Diana Ross and Lionel Richie, "Set the Night to Music" -Roberta Flack and Maxi Priest, "Always" -Atlantic Starr. I Hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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ok so i have lived in my house for approx 3 months...with my best friend and my ex...nothing strange happened untill me and my ex broke up but since he has gone a LOT of things have happened unexplained....first off i was in the kitchen cooking and e have a counter island in the room..nothing was on the counter apart from a heavy set of keys...i turned around and these keys ent flying from the middle of the counter to the other side of the room...hit the wall and fell on the flor(it made a mark on the wall) i dont understand how they could of fell at all because its impossible for them to fall....it was like they had ben thron...2nd incident my friend came downstairs at approx 2am walked into the kitchen then into the lounge then back into the kitchen and the tap was on full blast and then their was a lot of banging in the kitchen....3rd incident we were both asleep in bed and we had weird noises like it was a person on the top of the stairs...when we went to check it out the bathroom door and the other bedroom door was wide open and they were definately closed before e ent to bed as i said to my friend lets close these doors because of the draft....anyway my brother has moved in with us no and since he has it has gotten orse..i was lying on the sofa as that was where i as sleeping and something smacked the side of the sofa really hard...then a glass fell off the table..the house is very steady near no roadworks or a main road so that couldnt have made it fall off...i went upstairs and got i bed with my friend and then e heard the weird noises again...it keeps getting worse and worse and we dont know how to stop it....we dont really want to mess with that kind of stuff but does anybody have any advice o what we could do??? we find it hard to sleep now with everything...please dont tell us were paranoid because our friends have seen things aswell...were not imagining it either...and it isnt our minds playing tricks on us....but should we get a priest here from a church down the road to bless the place?? or anything will do please help i want a good nights sleep!! (link)
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I think calling the church down the street is an excellent idea, also you may want to visit the TAPS website aka "GHOST HUNTERS" they are a legitimate organization who travel to places where they do research and see if a place is truly haunted, they have a show on the SY FY channel. They seem to be nice people. I would give it a try, the worst that could happen is that they decline. It sounds like you have a good case though! Good Luck! Todd the Gem Guy
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i break out. i used to think it wasn't so much, but i just recently realized its pretty bad. its not a lot of zits, its just they are so hard to get rid of, and in the worst places, and they hurt. when i wash my face, it gets rid of the infection, but i still have red scars. i cover those with makeup but i wanna feel good WITHOUT makeup on. how do i get rid of zits AND the scars they leave behind? (link)
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Try alpha hydroxy lotion, it will help in speeding up the rejuvenation process of your skin, just be sure to exfoliate (don't scrub, rub!) the dead skin away. You may want to try some magnesium and zinc supplements in your diet to squash out the infections. A diet low in these, commonly results in infections. Hope this helps, Todd the Gem Guy
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how can i tell that my boyfriend masterbates and how can i make him really horney ?? (link)
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(THIS ANSWER IS INTENDED FOR PERSONS OF 18 YEARS OF AGE OR OLDER) Well, really the only way to tell if he does is to ask him...I suggest this: Sometime when you are playing around with his penis, ask him very casually how HE does it (tell him you want to know how to do it better), so that he can "show you" this way, you'll be able to find out how and if he does, you can approach the subject that way. This can be your own "secret way" of finding out!
Now about the second part, men really don't need much prodding in this department, but I will tell you this: men are visual, they LOVE to look at sexy things, try this the next time you get together. Make sure it is on a night when you can be alone and you can stay in for the night.
Try to commit to being able to make your face up flawlessly, pick out something really cute and sexy to wear, experiment by picking out clothes that you know he loves to see you in, colors that look pretty against your face etc. something that you KNOW he'll want to look at you in all night, (and that he won't be able to wait to take off of you!) pick out some nice music, maybe some pleasant smelling candles, or incense (surveys show that men LOVE the smell of vanilla or sandalwood, both make them feel romantic and aroused) maybe have a little wine or spirits? -PROVIDING YOU ARE OF AGE, IF YOU ARE NOT, SKIP THE ALCOHOL! You need to experiment with the lighting also, make it as such that you're at your most alluring! Finally put on a perfume that he just loves. You'll look beautiful and sexy therefor, it will be easy for you to act and feel that way too! Then as you two are relaxing and talking, listening to the romantic music you've picked out, you're looking gorgeous, he can't keep his eyes off of you, move in for the kill! You've been playing cutesy and flirting with him all night, it's time for the fun, he'll be ready to throw you down and ravage you!! I'm sure that this will be great fun for both of you! He'll appreciate the effort and you'll appreciate the results! Have Fun! Todd the Gem Guy
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hi! i need some help. I did very unhealthy dieting and about 2 months ago i started eating normally again. i gained some weight because i was taking birth control pills and now that i've got off of them i've lost some weight on my own... but i need a little help to get back at a comfortable weight for me.... but the thing is that it's just hard mentally. even though it's not so bad, i find it really hard to do it. especially, after all i've been through. it's not like i'm eating crap either. i mean, i eat pretty healthy. i just need to go on a structured meal plan. i have done it before, and i know i can do it again... but i need help to be mentally ready to do it. any advice? (link)
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There has been a lot of talk about something called "thinking yourself thin" it's where you imagine yourself as a thin person each time you look in the mirror (at your goal weight etc), doing what you need to get there, eating the right foods etc... I guess the trick is that your body comes around and starts to support your brain's thinking on this. (the subconscious) starts taking over and doing things to help achieve your goals and then you yourself are able to start doing it. It's kind of a way to "conditioning" yourself into being able to do it! I believe it also has stress relieving techniques also. (which cortisol - stress hormone is NOTORIOUS for making people fat around the belly) you might want to find out more? I hope this helps with the mental aspects of your dieting, good luck! Todd the Gem Guy
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Ill keep this real short, i havent had a propper GF in 7 years. at least not one that stayed with me for over a month. Iv allways been a bit of loner just because i like the solitude. but a few months ago i went out with this one girl... she was amazing, everything i looked for. but she moved away. we went out for a month and a bit i guess.
its been about 4 months since iv seen her let alone talked to her and now im finnaly forgetting my feelings for her (its for the best she found some one new anyway) iv finnaly found some one else too. but its the same problem
im so shy its un real... i can talk to her for a bit then an awkward silence. or i say somthing silly and feeling really stupid about it for a while or a few days.
I dont wanna feel awkward i just dont have thee confidence. luckily she seem's patient and avid to see me so its nice cause i wanna see her too. were going in to town tommorow. im sure there will be a few wierd silences, how do i get around them? (link)
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Playing up your shy and sensitive side can work in your favor. This girl seems to like you already, just let her know that you really like her and you're sorry but you're a bit shy and you would like to get to know her better if given the chance. Who knows? It might take some pressure off of her too? Sometimes girls feel awkward and insecure too (especially on a first date). Maybe it will relax the whole deal? Just try to take it easy and know that girls love a shy, sweet and sensitive guy! Play it up! I bet she'll think it's cute! Much better than a man that's out of control! Things will relax and then you guys will be hitting it off in no time I bet. Hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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i love models hair when there not working- that greesy i just woke up look is so sexy for some reason. they balance greese and cleanliness so well, like its not oily enough to be considered dirty but its not clean eough to be considered clean.
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u get it by now-
how do i get this look?
i have natural really straight and amazing hair, i dont need any prodcut - it dries straight.
how do i get this looookkkkkkkkkkkk
thanks! (link)
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Abby is absolutely right again! Models will tell you they NEVER wash their hair the day before a shoot because shampoo strips the natural oils that make their hair shiny and manageable. Also if you have thin hair you'll want to watch using heavy conditioners because they will weigh your hair down and make it lifeless! Other products that can be used to get beautiful shine are pomades and serums (be careful pomades are heavy! use these very sparingly). Hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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Hi i am a 16 year old female babysitter. the family i am currently babysitting for have a 4 year old son and they are getting divorced. this is not only changing when and how long i babysit for them but it is also affecting me on a personal level. the father knows that i am also really good friends with the mom, so he is using me as the mddle man so to speak by telling me mean and negative things about the mom, fully knowing that i am going to turn around and tell the mom everything he has said. i don't know how much longer i can deal with him being so negative about her all the time. i am on the verge of dropping his end of the job.
What should i do?!?! (link)
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Wow, you are in quite the mess! Well, you need to remember something, this is their divorce not yours.
First and foremost, you need to tell him to drop it, that you do not want to hear any more about her and that it makes you uncomfortable getting this involved in their situation.
Play to him, tell him you have certain loyalties to both and you want to do a good job babysitting and being a good friend (you know where your loyalties really lie).
You need to take a deep breath and think for a second, you are still in control of your life. Their life is in chaos right now, but you need to back up a bit and just be a supportive friend and a be the baby sitter when needed. You are not a pawn or a middle man and you should not be used as such.
When you leave that house, it all stops at the door mat! It's time to get back into YOUR life and live happy and get back into what you like to do. Be happy this is not your mess, you can still keep it that way, try not to get any more involved than you already are. Hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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Hi!!! I have no butt. I want a beautiful butt but I need some help! What food goes straight to your butt when you eat them? Please help me get a rounder butt! (link)
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DearAbby92 is exactly correct, your fatty areas are indicated by your genes. The only way to gain fat in your bottom is to gain weight period (which will go where it goes) or there are many different exercises that you can do to get your bottom firmed and toned and maybe even get the muscles to grow a bit like abby said do lunges, squats and the sort. Biking, eliptical, donkey kicks are also good too. There are tons of other exercises you can look at on the internet. Hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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i have a dark scar around my chin areaa and i dont know how to hide it or get rid of itt could you help?! please and thanks to all:] (link)
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I being a man, have a HUMUNGOUS scar on my chin and I have to wear a goatee to hide it because it causes my chin to be asymmetrical.
In your case I might experiment with skin fade cream on your scar (try a test to see if any allergic reaction may occur).
Always put sunscreen on your scar to keep it from getting any darker. I would also try cocoa butter nightly on it and also in the morning to keep moisturized.
Maybe also try alpha hydroxy lotion (again use test area on skin and scar) this will aid in sloughing off dead skin and regenerate new skin giving the skin a fresh new glow getting rid of the older damaged skin. (The alpha hydroxy could be used all over the face and will make your face look fresh and pretty! Just make sure to exfoliate the dead skin). Hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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Lately I have been feeling like I'm dumber than a normal 15 year old should be. I have started watching Criminal Minds lately and I am fascinated with Spencer Reid and how genius he is. So, it got me thinking how cool would it be if all of my friends turned to me for help on their homework or helping them study for a test. However, before that happens I need to improve in school, myself. So, in conclusion, does anybody have studying techniques I could use? I tried reading a passage as studying but that does not help because I just forget the next day. Something along the lines of flashcards or something like that. One last thing. I feel like I could be better if I concentrated more. So can someone help me with listening in class, like what should I do, put every single distracting item away because that seems almost to easy. So, study techniques that help me remember the important items for a test? Ways to do my homework correctly and not get stressed? Lastly, ways to concentrate better in school? Thanks so much! (link)
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I know of a couple of things that could help, first of all, you do need to be in a room that is quiet, one without distractions (visual or audio) when you study.
Another thing you might try when you read your materials is to read aloud to yourself, this way you have to say the words and you get to listen to yourself say these words, thus adding more physical processes to your learning experience, this will help engage your brain more into what you're doing.
You might try also reading short articles about your favorite subjects that include pictures or illustrations, it's a scientific fact that some people (men more often than women) learn better from these visuals. I have ADD and I learn much better from "touching" and seeing than from just hearing.
I also love to write important factual notes, this gives you more visuals and even more thought engaging processes. I hope this helps! Todd the Gem Guy
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im wondering what's the best way~ besides brushing your teeth, to whiten them. what would be the best and safest way to whiten my teeth. i know there are some really great teeth whitening tooth pastes but i'm not sure of the names, and also i've heard the crest premium white strips work good, any ideas? (link)
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I can answer this question plain and simple: Baking Soda and Peroxide, You can use any basic toothpaste, after you apply it onto your toothbrush, dip your toothbrush into some baking soda and brush away! You'll actually feel the gentle grit of the soda doing it's work! Plus it helps remove plaque!
Here comes step #2 try gargling with peroxide, I know it will feel gross at first and it will be foamy, but after one treatment of this, you'll be able to see a difference! Just be SURE not to swallow it, be sure to rinse your mouth with water after you spit. I've been doing this treatment for year's and have never even had to see the dentist except once (wisdom teeth) since I was 11 years old! I get lots of compliments on my teeth, people ask if I get my teeth bleached. (Technically peroxide does bleach your teeth!) Happy to help! Todd the Gem Guy
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So like everytime I be making out with this girl or we be flirting dirty and what not I have to stop and hold back becuase I get a stiffy and it happens in public sometimes. Anyone got an idea on how I can still be making out and not chub up? (link)
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This is a completely natural reaction to what you're doing, if you're worried about it happening in public you might just cut down on the "PDA" when out and save the making out for more private times. I would be more worried if you didn't have this response. Otherwise, nature will take it's course, and you'll be "excited" when you're in this pretty young girls company. Like I said, I would just try to save the affection for when you two can be in a "less public" setting, that way you will not feel so embarrassed, and you'll have a little more control over the situation. Good luck! Todd the Gem Guy
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