I've lived and loved and I hope you can benefit from my experience. I'm happy to help if I can. I may not always tell you what you want to hear, but I'll always tell you the truth.
Member Since: September 27, 2009
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Last Update: October 2, 2009
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My mom has been smoking for SO many years and I really hate it because it's getting harder for her to breathe and I see that. She even has that smoker's cough now and it's disgusting. I talked to her about it last week and she said she is ready to stop smoking and start taking better care of herself. She is afraid of the withdrawals though and is nervous that she won't be able to stop. How can I help her to stop smoking? What is the best way to stop smoking. I told her there were lots of stop-smoking methods but she wants the full "plan" before she makes a decision on what she is going to prepare to do. I'm really proud of her for making this decision and I'm glad I brought up my concerns to her about smoking. Please help me help her! (link)
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Try turning her on to the new e-cigarettes. They give the nicotine fix but without tar or any of the harmful stuff in regular cigarettes. E-cigarettes contain a vapor that looks and feels just like smoke, but is pure water vapor, and it tastes just like a smoke. Just type e-cigarette in any search engine for more information.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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16/f.
So my love life just never seems to work out. I never meet anyone and have it work out between us, y'know. I always seem to get involved with complete pricks, like they seem great at first but they ALWAYS turn out to be manwhores or players, and it's those guys I'm interested in and those guys that are interested in me - trouble is, they're never interested enough to stop being players, they never love me or anything, just fancy me. It's like I have some manwhore-magnet on me or something, that's just the kind of guy I attract. Y'know how when there's more than one girl, a manwhore will pick just one out (because that's their technique it seems), it's like they look at me and decide I'm that one, and I don't know why. And because those guys seem to be my type, I always end up getting messed around, and it happens so much I just feel like giving up now. I never feel quite right when I'm with them either, I feel like I'm somebody else, but not in a good way.
I said how they only fancy me, but that's not the case with everyone. A lot of my close guy mates have fallen in love with me (and I mean love, not just lust or fancying) but I've never felt the same way towards any of them. Which is a shame really, because they're decent guys - not players.
And recently I've met someone who's lovely. I really like him and he actually seems like a nice guy. I guess I havn't known him long enough yet to figure out if he's a player yet, but he doesn't seem like your typical manwhore. All the other guys I got involved with were kind of rebellious and wild, whereas he just seems really kind and friendly. When I'm with him I just feel like he's a really good friend, I literally never stop laughing, and I thought I might have found someone worthwhile. But the thing is, I can tell he just doesn't think of me that way. I'm just a friend to him.
So basically what I'm trying to say is:
I always attract, am attracted to & get involved with manwhores who mess me around. And manwhores always fancy me, but never love me.
The only guys that do fall in love with me are close guy mates who are not my type at all & who I have no feelings for whatsoever.
And when I do meet guys who I actually like and seem genuinely nice and aren't players, they just see me as a friend.
Do you have any idea why? And what can I do? (link)
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Keep telling yourself over and over again that you deserve better. Eventually you'll start to believe it, and you'll attract better guys. Bad Boys are sexy and exciting, but the very last thing on their minds is settling down to one girl, no matter how great she is.
Something else you might want to consider. You're only 16 and you should figure you have at the very least 5 more years of discovering exactly what kind of guy you are looking for. The best way to do that is to be a player on the same field as them!
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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I am 17 year old female, my girlfriend just broke up with me...and now she is in the hospital because she od on pills, because she felt bad for hurting me. i haven't been able to see her because she is in PCU and only family can visit. When igot home last night from the hospital i cut myself a few times. I didit because i felt numb and empty, and because i was so freaked out about her and worried. I dont know what to do. I know that i need help. But i don't know how i can tell my mom. Can someone please help me? (link)
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You must call a suicide hotline immediately and tell them your story, just like you told us. You will have many relationships in your life and while some may be incredibly painful, none- and I do mean none, are worth losing your life over.
Please call a suicide hotline right away. You will need a counselor to help you through this.
http://suicidehotlines.com/
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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My brother just had a heart attack and my mother was diagnosed with Parkinson's disease. It has been SO stressful. So, between flying home and sending money back to my family to help them out in this time, I was diagnosed with HIV! (And that starts fears of dying from AIDS, you know?) My car just got repossessed to top everything off. I know that I've made bad decisions with my car and, obviously, getting HIV by being careless but this feels so extreme. It's so much pressure and stress and I don't know what I should do or who I can turn to right now for help. Where do I start? What do I do? I know I have to do something...I can't just sit here and cry about how bad my life is going all of a sudden...right? (link)
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I'm so sorry for everything you are going through. I wish I could just spill out an easy fix but it looks like you're going to have to take life one day at a time. What I suggest is that you go to a bookstore or library and get the book 'You Can Heal Your Life' by Louise Hay. Read it cover to cover, and when you finish, read it again. Also find some time to go to www.hayhouseradio.com and listen to some of their radio programs. You may find a lot of them helpful. Another set of good books to read are anything written by Naomi Judd (of The Judds). With the help of Hayhouse Radio she managed to beat hepatitis and emerge stronger. She's written a few books about her struggle and ultimate victory.
You have a long way to go before life will feel good again. May God bless you from this moment on and show you the way. Please post again and let us know how you're doing.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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My son just turned 12 months and is still not walking. I was hoping he would be for his party, but that has come and gone now. His doctor says this can be normal, but if he isn't walking by 15 months then it is time to worry. He cruises (not a pro at it, but still manages to get around.) and can stand holding on to someone or something, but he just doesn't want to take any steps and absolutely cannot stand alone without holding on. Any ideas on how to get him walking? I'm very concerened, anyone with any advice would be a great help! (link)
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If your doctor isn't worried yet, then I wouldn't worry either. If his development is normal in all other areas, he's probably just a late bloomer. You might want to try this: Have someone hold his favorite toy at his level, just a few feet away. Then you stand him up and help him walk over to the person holding the toy. He'll start walking on his own once he realizes it the better way to get where he wants to go.
Please keep us posted. We are all rooting for him.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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Everyone in my school doesnt like me...I'm thinking its because of the vicious rumors that have been started by an old ex boyfriend of mine who doesnt know how to mind his own business. I try to be friendly to everyone but it just doesnt help. I feel like im the only person at this school who doesnt have friends. No one cares about me, and honestly, i dont care about me anymore either. i hate this school. help me. dont tell me to go to counseling either :/ (link)
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I remember those days, when I was convinced that I didn't have a friend in the world. Turns out I did, they were just busy doing other things at the time.
I hope you'll believe me when I tell you that this too, shall pass. It's hard to look ahead when it seems like your whole sense of who you are revolves around the itty bitty world known as school.
Forget those dufuses who choose to believe someone else's lies. People like that are nobody's friends, so who needs them?
If I were you, I would take advantage of some of this 'alone time' you're experiencing and spend it on yourself. Read some books you've been wanting to read. Learn a new hobby. Maybe you'd like to sew something pretty or work with yarn and plastic canvas? Visit some craft websites on the web. You might just find something that interests you. There is also volunteer work. Also, you can't beat the oh-so-comforting feeling of an at-home spa day. I still do that for myself every once in a while and it's great.
Bottom line, you may feel like an outcast now, but I guarantee you it won't last. Take care of yourself, honey. You do deserve it.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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For weeks I have been iffy about even writing this.
I am young 18 and just got married in August. I am pregnant that is not why we got married but I think we rushed into it. We were planning the wedding already had my wedding dress before i found out I was Pregnant.
Sometimes I find myself regretting getting marred My reasons. I wanted to work days and go to school nights. It would be tough but id be able to better myself for me and my family he through a fit and didnt support me at all. told me either work or go to school but advises me to work because we need the money. Being pregnant I have my mood swings like most if we have an argument its all my fault he will yell at me and blame me then make me feel guilty by saying oh its always all my fault i forgot your so perfect. sometimes he makes im crap. If i feel nauses or sick at night or anything and he wants sex he pouts and acts like he is mad by not saying a workd until he gets it then goes to sleep. he goes hunting, fishing, baseball teams and tournaments etc. anything he wants and i dont argue about it i just let him.
I have asked a million times to look harder for a job. he works 2 days aweek at a sale barn doing something he likes i work full time on my swallon feet 40+ hours a week and come home exhausted and tired. its like he dont care he doesnt want to even try to look he put an app. in at burgerking one app.. in 5 weeks? we live at my dads. which i dont feel is save but dont have a choice. hes lazy
and to top it off he always wants to spend money. i used to get food stamps which just stopped but hed want a gallon of tea every 2 days. go out and buy food he wants all the time because hes to lazy to cook one thing or wait for it to get done. as soon as he gets paid he goes and spends most of the money on garbage food and gets mad when i tell him i dont want it id rather eat food i cook at home.
I love my husband to death trust me and want to work things out but i dont know what to do i talk to him about it and itslike it is in one ear and out the other. (link)
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I'm a mother too, and I think you've married a selfish, spoiled jerk who doesn't contribute anything to your marriage except pouting and gluttony. I agree with the other poster that children do better with both parents, but this guy is in no way ready to be a parent yet. So far you have one adult child and one more on the way. You shouldn't exist for any man's convenience, workwise, sexual or otherwise.
My first husband didn't care if I was nauseus either. If he wanted sex, we had sex and that was it. I left him 3 months into my pregnancy because I could clearly see 20 years down the road and there was no way I was going to be treated like owned property. Never looked back and didn't spend two minutes regretting my decision.
You can continue to try to save your marriage if you want to, but I think you're going to find he's a lost cause. Send him back to his mommy, who turned him into what he is today.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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15/f
okay so i like this boy named colin. i liked him for 2 years. in the beginning of last year we were really close. we would sit with eachother in lunch at school and have one on one conversations. he would always walk with me to class and stuff like that. i first met him in the beginning of last year, but the year before that we would always talk to eachother on facebook and myspace and we had conversations that would go on and on and on. so i knew he liked me, it was really obvious. he would hold me and i once fell asleep on his arms and i almost kissed him but i got too scared, i just freaked, our faces were so close and our eye to eye for the longest time but i just looked down and layed my head in his chest. he also had tons of other friends at this one table at lunch but he would sit with me. i felt bad cuz i sat at this table that had really annoying kids, but he never left me and he never asked me to move to his friends table. he was nice. but i really love him a lot. i was getting doubts that he didnt like me, so this boy named dan asked me to be his girlfriend and i said yes. so BOOM!..that was the crash of our close friendship. colin moved to his friends table while i was holding hands with a person i didnt love and deep down inside i was dieing. i cried every night. i am NOT lying. i did cry every night because he didnt walk me to class anymore. he would just wave to me in the hallway and thats it. after two weeks i left dan and i sat at the table with colins friends and i made friends with all of them. but colin wouldn't talk to me like he used to. just small conversations and no one on one time :(...so it's been a year like that, and i still cant stop thinking about him. so i sent him a message exactly like this "hey colin, um, i have feelings for you, so much so more than a friend. you dont need to respond to this."...he didnt have to respond but i thought he would. so it turned out he didnt respond. its only been a day since i sent him the message and i knew he got it because it said that he opened it. i dont know what to do. everytime i see him i want to cry and i shake when i am next to him. we dont even have classes together like last year. so when i see him in the hallway he justs gives me a wave and i just look down :( i hate this. please help me. (link)
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It sounds like Colin is suffering some hurt from a bruised ego. I'm guessing he thought you two were boyfriend and girlfriend, and then you up and leave him for another guy. Whether you liked this other guy or not isn't the issue. You've had a change of heart, and apparently so has Colin.
So you've moved to his table and he's still ignoring you? He may be trying to punish you for hurting him. I think all you can do at this point is apologize if you've hurt him. Apparently you did this in your text message. It is now his turn to respond. If he doesn't I think you have your answer.
Best case scenario, he has a chance to heal his ego and he may decide to pick up where he left off with you. Worst case, you both will have to move on. Good luck to you.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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I just had my son a little over a year ago. Before his birth, I was average weight for my height. It seems like ever since though, I have been doing nothing but GAINING weight! I am so jealous of my friends b/c they all lost their baby weight in no time, I, on the other hand, have not been so lucky. I feel like my husband is not attracted to me any longer. I am unhappy with my apperance and I really would like to LOSE this stupid weight! Going to a doctor is not an option, b/c like half the world now, I am unisured. Joining a fitness club is also not an option, b/c I need to save my money for my son. I am just so miserable and it doesn't help that fact that every time my husband and I have one little argument he calls me a FAT a**! (He, btw is BELOW average on the weight scales and never gains a single pound.) I use to have very high self esteem, but now I can't even look at myself in the mirror. help..! (link)
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Congratulations on the birth of your son. I have three myself and it's no easy task. The two best exercises are also free and the best part is, they don't have to take you away from your son. They are walking, and jumping rope. Even if you can only do either one for five minutes at a time, they will help. You might try putting your son in his stroller and push him while walking briskly for a few minutes. You can jump rope while he is napping. Or even do it in front of him. He'll get a kick out of watching Mommie. If you're not good at dieting, try eating more fruits and vegetables instead of reaching for sugary or salty foods, and limit your soda to one a day.
Now you may think this is none of Aunt Kerry's business but if my husband EVER called me a name like yours did, I'd have kicked him to the curb shortly thereafter. I'm not saying you should do that, but you absolutely do not have to tolerate being put down by someone who is supposed to love you. His insults have your self-esteem so low you can't even look in the mirror and that is just wrong.
One of the first things you should do is look in the mirror and say "I love you, just the way you are" and keep saying it. You won't believe it at first but eventually you will, and you'll start treating yourself better. You have the right to expect respect from your husband. You take care of him and his son. The next time he calls you a fat a** you turn on him and tell him you aren't going to tolerate treatment like that. Tell him firmly that you are willing to discuss whatever he is angry about but you are not going to tolerate his insults.
You have to teach people how to treat you, and you deserve courtesy and respect. Good luck to you, honey.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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Does anybody know any good websites for stay at home moms that can do jobs online? (link)
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A great place to start is www.ratracerebellion.com. They usually have the most up to date listings of available jobs. Also, you should register at the forum www.workplacelikehome.com/forum. Anytime anyone hears about a work at home listing, it is usually posted there. The golden rule of work at home jobs is, never pay a fee for information. Some of them have you pay $30 - $45 for a background check but that is the only thing I would ever pay. Good luck to you.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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Well my boyfriend and I have been dating for a month. The thing is we hardly ever talk and we don't hang out a lot either. When we do hang out we just sit there or drive around, we never hold hands, cuddle etc. He's 19 and I'm 17. Anyways, I kinda wanna break up because its a pointless relationship. What's your opinion? Thanks! (link)
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Sounds to me like you both have moved on. You each seem to be waiting for the other to declare it. It's never a great idea to hang on to something you no longer need. You should tell him thanks, it was great, but you need to move on. Doesn't sound like he'll object too much.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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okay, im a freshman at highschool, and ive been talking to a senior since july. ill be 15 in november, and he's 18. my mom knows about it but she won't let us hang out! its annoying because we really like eachother, and its not like im asking to fuck him, we just want to hang out. how can i change her mind?! (link)
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You probably won't be able to change her mind for at least a couple of more years. There is a legal factor involved. He is 18, which in most states is considered legal adult age. It's actually illegal for him to be alone with you without your parent's consent. If you guys push this too far, your parents could file charges against him. Maybe your mom would feel better if he hung out at your house, where she can see what's going on. But I wouldn't sneak around. If you get caught, he gets arrested and you get grounded. Not the happy ending you want is it?
Best of luck to you.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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i wanna know how to get a boyfriend because i am sicj=k of not having one and all my freinds have at least one i was going to have one but this boy was to chickened to ask me but he did go out with one of my bestfriends now i have moved schools i am in middle school and i wanna know how to capture a boyfriend plz help and show me the rules/ guidelines to get one and boys it would be helpful to tell me what you look for in girls and what are turn offs thanx and peace out (link)
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So it seems like all your friends have boyfriends? And you're feeling left out? I had the same problem in middle school. They can be lonely times that's for sure. Looking back on it, all the boys I thought I liked were pretty lame. I thought I was ready for a boyfriend, but the ones I liked weren't ready for me. The best thing you can do is not rush it. Throwing yourself at a guy just makes him run away faster, and your self-esteem doesn't need that.
The best way to get a boyfriend is to be yourself, act confident even if you don't feel it, and don't settle for less than what you deserve. Any guy who doesn't treat you nice is NOT worth having. Good luck!
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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hi! 14female
ok, well my just recent bf broke up with me, because people were making fun of him for dating me? Ugh, so stupid,i can't believe he's that shallow. Well, this other boy that i dated last summer he was real sweet, caring and i had a great time dating him, than we broke up because he didn't think he was ready to date me yet. Well, when i was still dating my ex, he told me that he still loves me and that i was the best thing that ever happened to him, and not to forget how much he loves me. you see, I think he's the right guy. He is but, he will be moving far away and i won't be able to see him. My friend told me long distance relationships can work, you have to make them work, but i don't know how i will because i haven't been in one before. Can someone tell me if i should choose him, and if i do how can i stay with him? thanks (link)
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Long distance relationships can work, but the tradeoff is loneliness, worry about what the other person is doing,and worry that they are going to forget about you. You might also get a little jealous of your friends who get to go on dates and go to dances, which you can't do while you're being faithful to someone else.
Very few people meet the love of their life at 14 and you really shouldn't limit yourself. No reason not to keep this guy as the dear friend that he seems to be. But I think you should keep your options open.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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Sorry for the extreme length, haha :(
I have these really cool parents...they don't really yell a lot and I can joke around with them all the time and they give me lots of space
But lately a lot of bad things have been happening. The dryer doesn't work, our dog got hit for the second time and is now paralyzed from the hips down, our shower is not draining properly, and we don't have any money to top it all off. And also, on my part, over the weekend I had a 103 fever and I'm still sick, a lot of my friends have been mad at me for no reason, and the guy I've liked for a really long time just got a girlfriend.
I know all of this is really stressful, and especially to my parents. But lately they've been taking all they're frustration out on me and it's really beginning to get to me. I've just been acting like my normal self around them, but they take every little mistake I make as a HUGE problem, and they scream at me for it. Like if I tell my little sister to please clean something up while I'm out somewhere, and she says she'll do it, but when I get back she's sitting there watching TV and she never did anything, and I yell at her (but I don't scream or anything, nothing like that). So my mom will FLIP OUT at me and start saying the way I treat her is disgusting and threatens to call off all the plans I have and everything. And that's only one example. Like if I don't put my dish in the dishwasher, screaming. If I don't do my homework, screaming. If I'm on the computer too long, screaming. Etc etc etc.
And the other night was my very first homecoming dance (I'm a freshman) and I had my two best friends over getting ready with me. My mom asked what time the dance was, and I said "It's at 7" and my mom gives me this glare and says "You SAID it was at 8" and I said "Well I made a mistake...it's really at 7" and she said "so I assume it ends at 9:30?" and I said "No, 10:30". And then she just went off at me about how was I supposed to know that? and all that. And as she walked off she was just like "You're welcome" to me.
And if that wasn't bad enough, awhile later my little sister came upstairs and said it was dinner time, and I said I wasn't hungry. So she left, and then ten minutes later she came back upstairs in tears and said "Mom is really upset! She made everything look all nice for you and now she's disappointed" and I said "Why should I make her feel better? She's been screaming at me all week!"
So THEN, my dad screamed from downstairs for me to come down, so I came down (My poor friends were sitting in my room just staring at me) and he brought me into the dining room and just SCREAMED at me. He was like "You had BETTER knock off your FUCKING attitude (my parents never swear at me) or there's going to be a lot of trouble! Mom prepared a whole dinner and made it all nice because she wanted it to be a SPECIAL NIGHT for YOU! She was going to go pick you up at 10:30 and everything and she just wants to make you happy but you're a little brat and you just need things your way!" And I ran back upstairs in tears and locked myself in the bathroom. My parents made me CRY homecoming night in front of my best friends. I was so devastated. And the worst part, my friends got really mad at me that night and they didn't want me to help them get ready. I still feel guilty about that whole stupid dinner thing, too.
I'm just so upset and almost depressed about everything because this is basically one of the worst weeks of my life, everything is going wrong. I just don't want to be around anyone, ESPECIALLY my family (but if I try to get away from them for too long, I get yelled at). I just go in my room and lock my door because I don't want to be talked to or yelled at. It's the worst thing ever.
So I don't know what to do about my parents. Making peace with them would lift a huge weight off my shoulders. But I'm afraid to talk things out with them because I know I'll be yelled at and I'll end up crying. I'm pretty sensitive and I cry easily. I really miss my old parents. I feel like I don't even know them. And I'm really the only one being yelled at. My two little sisters aren't being yelled at at all.
So any advice? Should I just sit it out or talk to them about it? I really don't know
Any help will be appreciated, especially because of the length. Sorry again, and thanks (link)
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Aren't parents just tons of fun sometimes? Just kidding. I'm sorry you're having it so rough. So you described your parents's problems with the plumbing and the dryer and the dog (sorry to hear about that. Hope he gets to feeling better soon.) It sounds like they may be taking some things out on you. It's not at all fair, but sometimes that is the only way they know how to cope. Here are a few things you can try, and see if it helps bring some peace to the house again.
1. Do a couple of chores for your mom to help her out. Sounds like her stress is going through the roof.
2. Show up for dinner, and try to smile, even if you don't feel like it. It may not work the first few times, but eventually they'll look forward to it.
3. Get off the computer a half hour before you normally would. Should cut down on the screaming.
4. Homework is a necessary evil. Not doing it causes bad grades, extra homework, frustrated teachers and PO'd parents. Just do your homework.
If you can do these things it will show your parents that you are willing to meet them halfway. If it doesn't work, you can always count the days to graduation....
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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female/high school student
basicallly, theres this girl that i just cant stop thinkin about... she goes out with my 'friend', who actually started talkin to her AFTER i told that 'friend' that i liked her. lets call the girl i like 'A'.
A is just the best. shes so cute, sexy, funny, adorable...you get it. i cant help myself but to flirt with her. she was supposed to come over my house friday to hang out but her rides car broke down.
she wanted me FIRST before my 'friend' went after her. see, im not the person who will jump on top of you if i like you, i just like to get to know people. wellll i guess i waited too long. but the fact that she wanted me first and that i wanted her keeps us flirtin... its kind of bad but i reaallly cant/dont wanna stop.
she flirts with me a lot tho. always calls me bae/baby and we usually talk all the time. ive tried not to talk to her so ican get over her , but it just makes me wanna talk to her more. when i see her at school i get butterflies, she turns me on, we get along really well.
ughhhh , i dont know what to do with myself ! someone help me. (link)
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I feel for ya, honey. And when life is making you feel bad, you need to find ways to feel good. I can't give you advice on how to get this girl back because no one has the right to try and change another person. She feels what she feels, and if she prefers this other person for now, I think you need to find a way to give her that space.
What I would like to see you do is to take care of yourself, get a hobby, or do some volunteer work, anything you can do to take the focus off of your own pain. In time, I hope you realize that you have a lot to offer someone, and that somewhere out there is just the one who deserves it.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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this guy im friends with has been wanting to fool around with me for a while and i have secretly wanted to too. i dont c him too often and i know none of my friends would approve because they all thing he's an ass hole. i havn't had much experience but part of me is REALLY tempted to do it. i don't know what to do, HELP?!?! (link)
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You need to ask yourself what you want from this relationship. Do you love him? Does he love you? Are you hoping that a sexual relationship will lead to marriage down the road? *Hint: It very very rarely does.
Before you risk contracting a permanent venerial disease like herpes or aids, and before you get pregnant out of wedlock, you need to think about this some more.
It's natural for you to want to have sex, as that is human nature. But wanting it, or even being in love with the guy doesn't make it the right thing for you at this time. Also, if the majority of your friends dislike him, you might want to consider that as well. I'm not suggesting you let your friends pick your boyfriend. Are they trying to look out for you? Is it possible they see things in him that you don't see?
Give yourself some more time and take those blinders off before you do something you might really regret later.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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I was babysitting my niece and my nephew for my mom and my 6 year old nephew tried to choke my 8 niece his sister and I told my mom about it and she has tried everything to get him to stop but nothing works. we've tried taking things away, putting him in time out, and spanking him but nothing works and we are worried that one day he's going to end up hurting his sister what should we do? (link)
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It sounds like your nephew might have some anger issues, or some other emotional or medical problem. What did his parent's say or have you discussed this with them? Your nephew may need some medication and/or therapy to get his aggressiveness under control. Make sure his parents do something about it before a teacher or other authority figure gets involved.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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Hookay...so I met somebody online several months ago, and I've developed very strong feelings for him (I know, I know, I've never met him in person, and it may sound strange) but anyways...on the site we hang out on, there's this girl who keeps flirting with him, and I'm feeling extremely jealous (not in a spiteful way) and the thing is, this girl already has a boyfriend (which the guy I like most likely knows, since her relationship status says so), so that part is really pissing me off...and I think he may actually be responding to the flirting by the comments he gives her...so yeah, am I just being paranoid? Is this normal? Kinda' caught in a whirlwind of confusion and jealousy... (link)
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I've been where you are, gf. The way I see it you have a couple of choices. One, you can wait around and see how this plays out, in case he decides to dump this other girl, or she decides to dump him. But in case he doesn't, what happens to you? You end up getting hurt.
My question to you is, why are you allowing yourself to be treated this way? Do you think you can't do any better than this? In what universe is it okay for you to sit on a back burner and play second fiddle to this online flirter?
A second option available to you is to pull back from this for a few days and use the time to make you feel good about you again. Because you have the right to do that. At the very least it will give you some perspective on whether or not you want to wait for him to decide if you're the one for him, or if you deserve better. (And I think you do)
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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ok there are alot of jerks at my school and im not completely dry when it comes to insults but i want some good ones that will make them speechless so i can be left alone and stick up for the people getting bullied and harrassed. im ready to put a stop to it.i think some people need to be put in there place and knocked down a notch. (link)
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You have to be careful in situations like these. You can have an arsenal of the best comebacks, but could also get yourself jumped or beaten up when you're caught off guard.
A better (and safer) approach might be to pause for a few seconds before responding to an insult and ask yourself, "Will this matter in a year?" The answer is, probably not. In actuality, it may not matter in a week, so pick your battles carefully.
From a logical standpoint, what do you care if someone calls you a b*%$h or a w&*$e? Even if it's true, the world will not be much affected by your sex life or your attitude. It won't stop world hunger or overthrow governments, so who cares if some girl wants to comment on it?
As for defending your friends, it's best for you to just be their friend. When a friend is being insulted, it will be a boost to their self-esteem to know they can count on YOUR friendship.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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