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Baby Weight Problem
I just had my son a little over a year ago. Before his birth, I was average weight for my height. It seems like ever since though, I have been doing nothing but GAINING weight! I am so jealous of my friends b/c they all lost their baby weight in no time, I, on the other hand, have not been so lucky. I feel like my husband is not attracted to me any longer. I am unhappy with my apperance and I really would like to LOSE this stupid weight! Going to a doctor is not an option, b/c like half the world now, I am unisured. Joining a fitness club is also not an option, b/c I need to save my money for my son. I am just so miserable and it doesn't help that fact that every time my husband and I have one little argument he calls me a FAT a**! (He, btw is BELOW average on the weight scales and never gains a single pound.) I use to have very high self esteem, but now I can't even look at myself in the mirror. help..!
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Kim Kadashian has a series of exersises she does every day on a dinner chair Works for her and she has a very big bottom... so there you go.
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Congratulations on the birth of your son. I have three myself and it's no easy task. The two best exercises are also free and the best part is, they don't have to take you away from your son. They are walking, and jumping rope. Even if you can only do either one for five minutes at a time, they will help. You might try putting your son in his stroller and push him while walking briskly for a few minutes. You can jump rope while he is napping. Or even do it in front of him. He'll get a kick out of watching Mommie. If you're not good at dieting, try eating more fruits and vegetables instead of reaching for sugary or salty foods, and limit your soda to one a day.
Now you may think this is none of Aunt Kerry's business but if my husband EVER called me a name like yours did, I'd have kicked him to the curb shortly thereafter. I'm not saying you should do that, but you absolutely do not have to tolerate being put down by someone who is supposed to love you. His insults have your self-esteem so low you can't even look in the mirror and that is just wrong.
One of the first things you should do is look in the mirror and say "I love you, just the way you are" and keep saying it. You won't believe it at first but eventually you will, and you'll start treating yourself better. You have the right to expect respect from your husband. You take care of him and his son. The next time he calls you a fat a** you turn on him and tell him you aren't going to tolerate treatment like that. Tell him firmly that you are willing to discuss whatever he is angry about but you are not going to tolerate his insults.
You have to teach people how to treat you, and you deserve courtesy and respect. Good luck to you, honey.
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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