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love life never works out.
16/f.
So my love life just never seems to work out. I never meet anyone and have it work out between us, y'know. I always seem to get involved with complete pricks, like they seem great at first but they ALWAYS turn out to be manwhores or players, and it's those guys I'm interested in and those guys that are interested in me - trouble is, they're never interested enough to stop being players, they never love me or anything, just fancy me. It's like I have some manwhore-magnet on me or something, that's just the kind of guy I attract. Y'know how when there's more than one girl, a manwhore will pick just one out (because that's their technique it seems), it's like they look at me and decide I'm that one, and I don't know why. And because those guys seem to be my type, I always end up getting messed around, and it happens so much I just feel like giving up now. I never feel quite right when I'm with them either, I feel like I'm somebody else, but not in a good way.
I said how they only fancy me, but that's not the case with everyone. A lot of my close guy mates have fallen in love with me (and I mean love, not just lust or fancying) but I've never felt the same way towards any of them. Which is a shame really, because they're decent guys - not players.
And recently I've met someone who's lovely. I really like him and he actually seems like a nice guy. I guess I havn't known him long enough yet to figure out if he's a player yet, but he doesn't seem like your typical manwhore. All the other guys I got involved with were kind of rebellious and wild, whereas he just seems really kind and friendly. When I'm with him I just feel like he's a really good friend, I literally never stop laughing, and I thought I might have found someone worthwhile. But the thing is, I can tell he just doesn't think of me that way. I'm just a friend to him.
So basically what I'm trying to say is:
I always attract, am attracted to & get involved with manwhores who mess me around. And manwhores always fancy me, but never love me.
The only guys that do fall in love with me are close guy mates who are not my type at all & who I have no feelings for whatsoever.
And when I do meet guys who I actually like and seem genuinely nice and aren't players, they just see me as a friend.
Do you have any idea why? And what can I do?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Ask yourself what kind of boyfriend do I NEED? not want NEED to make me happy.
A)- The shallow Hal kind of guy hot bod no brains no prospects no trust. Maybe have a baby or 2 to him who will treat you like crap & cheat and generally cause misery for the next 2 yrs or so.
OR
Someone with substance who can support confide respect provide protect monogomy help & be a great dad & hubby for the rest of your life?
To hell with it I know who I would pick. You have to give these great mates a chance at least go out have fun a great relationship starts with trust & friendship. Never with confusion & concerns. I know you'll make a good choice You'll know all you need to know to warn your own daughter one day about this very issue. Good luck
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Keep telling yourself over and over again that you deserve better. Eventually you'll start to believe it, and you'll attract better guys. Bad Boys are sexy and exciting, but the very last thing on their minds is settling down to one girl, no matter how great she is.
Something else you might want to consider. You're only 16 and you should figure you have at the very least 5 more years of discovering exactly what kind of guy you are looking for. The best way to do that is to be a player on the same field as them!
All my love,
Aunt Kerry
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