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i like a guy and i am ignoring him..he is not responding...REALLY IMPORTANT
okay..so i like this guy in my school, he is 16 and i am 15. you may think this is nuts but around 2 years ago back when i was 13. i seen the same boy walking in the hallyway and i just immediately got attracted to him..i didnt even know his name but i knew he was friend with this boy that i am kinda friends with, so school is almost ending and i wasnt ever able to go up to him and actually start a conversation. so with the friendly myspace i went on my friends myspace friends list and found him. i added him as my friend and we started talking a little bit....but later i would message him and we would have non-stop conversations about the wierdest things, that made me like him more because i felt like we completely bonded. i want a boyfriend like he is my best friend..like hermione and ron in harry potter..so finally the new school year starts and luckily we have the same lunch together..so he knew a group of people at this one table, but he always sat with me at this other table, just me and him would talk and he would always walk me to class. i really liked him and i could have been more patient but i was growing restless. so this other boy asked me to be his girlfriend so i said yes..so my boyfriend (he is my ex now)is in my lunch too(we will call him sam). so once i started dating sam. the kid that i really liked moved to the table with his group of friends and we never really talked like we used to and he never walked me to class anymore either..since then we were never really as close as we used to be..even when i broke up with sam and went and sat at his table with his friends, he never gave me the attetion like he used to..so summer vacation comes and i message him about me having to go see my grandma since she is sick (i havent seen her for 3 years)...so i tell him that i dont want to see her because i am afraid, and i ask him if he thinks i am a bad person for not wanting to see her..i noticed that he has read the message but has not ever written back. so i decided that i wont talk to him to see if maybe he will actually notice. it has been about two weeks and he hasn't even come up to me and say hi or gave me a hug. im sorry i know this is long...so my friends tell me to just give up on him, that there are better guys but they just dont understand how i feel around him..i feel like i cant stop being happy, and when we look at eachothers eyes i would always feel like it was just us in the room even though it was filled with tons of people..several months ago i sent him a message asking him if he ever liked me..he said umm no not really but i do love you as a friend...its hard to believe cuz it felt like he liked me because before i dated sam, the kid i like would put his arms around me and i remember my head laying on his chest and i looked up and he was looking down at me and our faces so close, we had eye contact for the longest time i could have just kissed him but i panicked so i just looked down and layed my head on his chest and i fell asleep but the bell for the next class woke me up and when i woke up his arms were still around me. and theres this girl that is always with him and sometimes she comes to the cafeteria to talk with him and she always takes my seat and sits next to him..and she would talk to him the whole time so i wouldnt be able to talk to him, so i just looked sad and i would notice him giving me a look like "whats wrong"..and he would interupt her to just ask me a random question like "is this your pencil?" (he was playing with a pencil he found on the table)...so theres most of the story but if i wrote anymore my hands will fall off..i dont know what i should do..everytime i see him i just want to run up to him and give him a big hug..but im just so confused on what i should do, i am tired of always giving the guy the attention and being the first to say hi..i want him to come up to me..but i think he is the type that doesnt like confrontation, so i think when he see's me ignoring him, he just takes is as like "okay i understand, i wont bother you"..but how am i ignoring him if he hasn't even talked to me so i can actually ignore him and not talk to him?...i always think i am actually in love with him..but how can i?..i am only 15 years old...i know, i think too much about things,ever one tells me but i just need to solve this
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Hey there,
I couldnt help but go "aww" reading this it seems to me like you two have a real genuine connection.
but put yourself in his shoes i think it was very obvious he liked you but imagine how he felt when he saw you get with this other guy? (im not trying to make you feel guilty im just trying to shed some understanding) it must have hurt and sucked a whole lot to see it thats why I think he stopped talking to you as a way of distancing himself he didnt wanna be around that if he had feelings for you,he probably felt exactly how you feel about seeing this girl talk to him and stuff.
you two have a really strong friendship if not more so don't let the oppurtunity of anything happening pass you by and definately dont throw away what seems to be a great friendship.
honestly I would advice you to just get back talking to him again how you used to, tell him you miss him and how things were and if hed like to start hanging out more hopefully he will agree and you can get back to that place,as things progress then talk to him about your feelings and see how he feels too,dont worry about over thinking things Im a major culprit for that too so your not alone!
anyway I really hope things work out and that i helped
much <3
Jess 16/f
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all i can say is talk to him
he obviously likes you if the reason he stopped talking to you was because you were dating someone else
and he lied to save embarrasment
if you were so close before then it wont hurt to just talk to him
good luck:)
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