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Ferns General Advice Do or do not, there is no try. If you have to try, then it just isn't you.
If you aren't sure if you should have sex with him, then you are not ready to have sex with him.
"But I still love him!" Well he does not love you. If he loved you, he would not hurt you.
Let's get one thing straight. STUPIDITY IS NOT COOL. So hey, why not aim for more?

There's your answer fishbulb.



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The moment you step into the world of the world WAD intraweeb, you throw all of your privacy rights right out the door! Or even the window! Or perhaps a balcony!




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I can see that its you storage! YOUR IP DOES NOT LIE.

I'm the real shiz, biatch.




hi. im 15 and my bro is 17 and he has alot of hot friends that are always at my house... and they are OBSESSED w/ me... there always like touching me and telling me how hott i am and like hey sexy and uh more feeling.. lol. im not going to lie.. i like it.. what girl wouldnt like attention from hotties.. but its gets annoying.. and sometimes its uncomfortable.
should i do anything (Indeed)

Ever considered telling your brother? He'll at least threaten your friends with bodily harm if they touch you. If you feel uncomfortable, tell them to stop. Subtle hints and 17 year old boys does not go well together.




My cousin is pregnant (she's married and she's 25 so you don't think she's like young and a whore). Everyone in our family is having a hard time to figure out names for the baby. I'm pretty sure it's going to be a boy, but to be on the safe side, can you give me really cute baby names? Besides Michael, Emily, Lisa, Jaquelene, Joy, Jonathan, Julie, and Jason? Because Joy and Lisa are her sisters, Jason is her brother, Jonathan, Julie, Michael, and Emily are her cousins (Emily is me) and Jaquelene is her daughters name so we don't want to have any kids with the same name in our family. She's not that great at naming. She was gonna name her daughter Fern. I'm sorry if you're name is Fern but honestly, a fern is a plant. A flower is MUCH prettier than Fern. Sorry if that was offencive to anyone on here named Fern!! Thanks so much if you can help me! (Indeed)

Hah, damnit! :P
There are so many lovely names! How about Erin! Poetic name for Ireland. It even has 3 letters in common with Fern.

Aaron can work for both genders too, so its a win win situation.

Anyways, theres a great site you can check out here:
http://www.babycenter.com/babyname/

Good luck!




Ir's weird. I always came to these websites to help people and give them advice but now I'm the one that needs it! lol. ;)
There's this guy named Michael that I've been friends with since our last year of elementary school. We were so tight back then but over the years, we both changed. Now, in high school he's the big popular jock and hardly ever talks to me but when he does, we both make eah other laugh and smile.
He's so cute and could probably get any girl he wanted and he knows that so when he sees a girl that he thinks is hot, he tells them and asks them out. I really like him and want him to ask me out. What can I do to grab his attention? I know I should be myself but is there anything else I could do to get him to like me? (Indeed)

Consider becoming close friends with him again. Even if he isn't interested in a relationship, then at least you guys can have a good time together as friends - as you said, you make each other laugh.

Ask him to hang out with you, become friends again. He should realize a good thing once he sees it, and he won't see it unless you guys talk on a normal basis.




I'm searching for a good birth control method to use. I have taken Ortho Tri-Cyclen, and Depro Vera before, and would not be incredubly unwilling to try them again. The problem is that I have a very hard time remembering the pill each day, and I have heard bad things about the shot. Such as: weight gain, increase in discharge... and I find it hard to believe that it is healthy to go through your life without having your period.

I know that this should be a question for my gynocologist, but I could not get an appointment for another month or so. I was wondering if anyone could give me some pointers on a good method of birth control. Perhaps some good and bad experiences you have had?
Of course, older columnists prefered. (Indeed)

If you have trouble remembering, then the patch (ORTHO EVRA) might be your way to go. You put it somewhere that people can't see it (ie. your very lower back, upper shoulder) and it lasts for a week. So you only need to put it on 3 times a month.

Certain things work better for certain people however, and your doctor will know the best solution. And you never know - it could even be the shot.

Anyways, here are some sites that have to do specifically with Ortho Evra, the patch that might interest you.
http://www.orthoevra.com/faqs/faqs.html
http://abcnews.go.com/sections/Primetime/Living/ortho_evra_040923-1.html
http://www.fwhc.org/birth-control/patch.htm





I have a friend...let's call her "Megan". Megan and I are pretty cool. We hang out at school, between classes and after school on occasions. I have no problem going places with her, spending the night at her place...stuff like that. We're pretty good friends. She just has this really annoying habit of always trying to ruin someone else's good time.

Like, in an argument, when she's wrong and you're right, she'll scramble for any possible reason to say you're still wrong. Or if something good happens to you, she'll always say something to make you feel terrible about it. I hope that makes sense. It bothers me a lot and I've tried telling her it's annoying, but she still does it.

I don't want to stop being friends with her. She's cool most of the time. This is just starting to get to me. Why can't she let anyone else have a little sunshine sometimes? :( (Indeed)

Don't allow her to make you feel terrible about something good. Make her see that you don't even care if she tries hard to make you feel bad about something good. Just feel good about it and display that to her openly. Sort of like 'Haha, you tried to make me feel bad about a good thing, but you didn't because I am a better person than you.' But dont actually say that, just show it.
Eventually, shes going to realise that what shes saying barely has any effect at all on you and that her opinion on the matter doesnt change anything for you. Maybe she'll catch the hint or give up on doing it.




Everytime i leave my 1 year old puppy alone, like when i take my brother to work in the mornings, and there is nobody up to watch him, he always gets into things. Like this morning, he chewed my clock, and my medicine *was way out of reach* was in the floor chewed on. Thankfully he didnt get any of it though. My question is, 1. how can i stop him from chewing on things that he is not suppost to, and 2. is there other way other than locking him up in his carrier? (Indeed)

The reality is that puppies chew everything. They are stupid and don't know any better. You have to teach them that it is bad to chew things up. Most people will say that firmly saying NO to the dog and showing him what he did in the attempt to make him realise the connection between NO and the chewed up object.

It would be better to teach him rather than locking him up, I think. But you can always leave him in a place where you dont keep things that you dont want chewed to pieces. Until he learns.

My dog had a thing for ripping pillows to shreds. But we taught him that that was bad and he stopped or maybe he just grew up and lost interest.




I use to iron my hairs with a normal clohtes iron. Is this a safe practise or will damage my hairs (Indeed)

A home iron, and even a salon straightner will damage your hair. It pulls, cooks and fries your hair.

Also, using a home iron on your hair is dangerous, I'd say 9/10 of people that use them end up with a really bad burn which becomes a really bad scar.

If you want to straighten your hair, I'd invest in a good ceramic straightener. Its still not good for your hair, but it is a better idea. Also, you can pick up shampoos and conditioners (including some leave in conditioners) that will reverse or at least improve damaged hair.

Try not to straighten it every day, or more than 3 times a week, your hair will be fried and frizzy in no time at all.




how much you weigh?what size clothes you wear? (Indeed)

I don't weigh myself. And I wear whatever fits when I try it on. Clothes range from the maker, and really I don't know all of the sizes because they are all over the place.

Most of my pants are from the same place (they make jeans for people with freaky long legs), and are from Brazil and they are either a size 38 or 40.

Pants that arent from Brazil, are usually a 26 waist and at least 36 length.

Umm shirts and stuff? I try stuff on first and see if it fits me, its usually small or extra small because I'm not very broad nor do I have a whole lot of chest.

My socks are the biggest you can get! Big feet represent.

Hmm what else. I dont wear skirts and crap because they never fit me properly and I hate them anyways.




how do u change the color, size, boldness (?), of ur font on ur advice column? (Indeed)

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Hey I wanna be a barbie or a posessed barbie for Halloween; can anyone give me tips on what clothes 2 where; make-up; hair; im 5 feet, brunette w/ blonde highlights, skinny, hazel eyes.
thanx:) (Indeed)

find yourself a Ken.


Be doctor Barbie, or Systems Analyst Barbie. Don't be plain old ditzy big boobed loser Barbie.




hey.. is that ipcturre really you?? did you really make that baloon? thats wiked cool
canida is cool too.....blame canada (Indeed)

Yes thats me, I didnt make the balloon, I just filled it with air. Yea Canada is cool - we didn't do it though, dont blame us, you can't prove anything!




ok well its only the third week of school ive missed 7 days so far and we can only miss 9 in a semester or quarter something like that but im sick so i cant help it. anyways i have FS in ALL my classes! jus because im missin 2 things its crazy. im in highschool and its really hard for me. english class is the hardest becuz i can never think of anything to write on essays or anything. and math is hard because i dont understand divison everything else it ok. my mom said if i keep my grades up i get a cell ( im in 10th ). she knows how much i want a cell so she uses that to make me get good grades. lately ive been really stressed because my ex boyfriend is always emailing me saying i have no life and im a bitch. then my bestfriend keeps sayin that im going to fail because ive missed so many days and ect. and all she does it put her problems on me and make them my problems. everyones just making it worst for me and making me worry. what do i do? how do i keep my grades up? thanks. (Indeed)

You need to find some ways to relax and the first step to that would be giving yourself some time to do whatever it is you love most to do. Take a hot bath, go for a walk, do something to clear your head. As for missing the maximum number of days of school, they can make exceptions. You have a serious issue with stress, and it needs to be taken care of. Talk to a guidance counsellor as well as your mom. If no one knows - no one can help you.
Your guidance counsellor can work on getting you help for just about everything - he/she can speak to your teachers about getting you extra help, for writing essays and possibly a volunteer tutor for math. He/she can speak to your schools administration about your attendance and make sure that you wont fail anything if something happens or you are sick again and miss more days.
Tell your friends that if they are going to talk to you about school, they had better make sure that they are trying to help you and not trying to stress you out more. Make sure they know that you aren't missing days just for the hell of it, they will work on trying to make you feel better if they know that your situation is serious.

As for your exboyfriend, block his email address from your email account. Send him an email back telling him that if he emails you again and harasses you, you will be taking legal action and will inform his internet service provider that he is harassing you.
(You can be bluffing, but most likely it will scare him away from sending you asshole emails).
And lastly, drink some green tea, have some vitamins, work on getting healthy. You cant concentrate on anything if you aren't healthy. If you don't feel better soon, tell your mom and get yourself to the doctors.




After I take a shower my hair is alwyas knotty. After I comb all the knots out it gets knotty again. Then my hair get really frizzy when it dries. Do you have any ideas on how to get the knots out and how to get my hair frizz-less. (Indeed)

Do you use Conditioner? Because conditioning your hair will help with frizz as well as knots. If you do use conditioner and still have frizz and knots, I'd give Infusium 23 Leave-In Conditioning a try. My hair knots constantly and I condition, so I have to use Infusium before I can get a comb through my hair.

If your hair is very damaged (which causes frizz), you may want to consider a hot oil treatment.




does anyone know how to do the perfect messy bun??? when i try, i always screw it up. thanks!! (Indeed)

The trick to a great messy bun is slightly dirty hair. And I'm serious. Clean hair just doesn't do a great messy bun.

Pull all your hair up as if to put it in a ponytail, take an elastic and wrap it around your hair (same as a ponytail). Before wrapping the elastic around for the LAST time, grab the rest of your hair also and wrap it in... well - messy.

Really though, the trick is slightly dirty hair.




my cuticles keep breaking. they always look dry and are cracking..i try lotion but they still crack. can u tell me what to do? thanks i rate ya =) (Indeed)

Well if you bite your nails like I do, you'll end up with dry skin around your finger nails.

Lotion *should* be a temporary solution, I prefer Glysomed, I find it works really well for me. They also have cuticle treatments at say, a local drugstore. They usually come with a cream specifically for cuticles and a little tool for scraping off dead cuticle.




(I asked this question to everyone before, but I have certain favorite columnists so I'll just ask them now)
Okay, well, there's a guy I know from MSN who I've been talking to for about a year now, friend of a friend, never met him in person. Last year we mentioned that it might be interesting to actually meet, though he did think that it might be a little awkward, but twice our plans got screwed up one way or another so we just dropped the subject. I didn't speak to him all summer because his computer broke down, and when he came back on I thought maybe I'd mention our idea again. He said he thought it might still be weird, but I said we should give it a try anyway because there was nothing to lose. He agreed and even suggested a place we could meet. A few weeks later, on a Friday, I said how about Sunday and he said yes, but we didn't decide on a time or anything, and come Sunday I didn't see him online until the late afternoon and he didn't even bring up our half-made plans. Anyway, the point of all this is that I really don't know what to do, whether I should keep trying or not. I really want to meet him because I like his personality but for all I know he finds me annoying. I don't know whether to let it go for another while so as not to seem desperate, or if I should just confront him and ask him to just tell me whether he wants to meet me or not so I can go from there. I really don't want to sound pushy. Sorry this was so long, but any advice would help. Thanks.
P.S.:Before I got answers about being careful because i don't know him. This is true, but I'm just telling you now that there's no need to worry about him being some old perv, I know 2 of his friends and random people who went to school with him, he ain't armed or dangerous, folks. :) (Indeed)

Honestly, I think you should be upfront and ask him why he is avoiding meeting you. Really, it seems a bit rash but when you think about it - wouldn't you rather know why he is avoiding it. His reason that it would be weird is flakey at best. Ask him to be honest with you.

Tell him you don't want to stalk him or anything :P You just think it would be cool if you could meet, but his avoidance and refusal is making it impossible and you are losing hope.

If you want to make sure you dont come off as desperate, just make sure you have been talking to him normally for a while and everything seems normal. The least the guy could do is be honest with you.




Well im 15 and i have a WONDERFUL boyfriend. we've been together for 3 years!! and u have to admit thats pretty long..anyways, he gets horny a lot, and he tries to get me to have sex with him sometimes, and im just NOT ready!!! He understands tho of course since hes a real understanding person, but last night, he tried to have sex again!! and of course, (as always) i stopped him. And this morning he came over, and gave me a letter, and then left..here's whut it said..

Dear Nicole,
This no - sex thing just isnt working for me. Im sorry, its just that i get sooo HORNY whenever i see you..i jack off, and i just cum and stuff. I dont have a very strong will, so i think u should rethink about the no-sex thing. you know that i love you either way tho..and i cude never break up with you..but ur a fantastic person, and i neeeeeeeed you..
Love,
Chris

should i just have sex with him and get it over with? or should i stick with my first answer? PLEZE HELLLLLLLPP ME!!!!!!!! (Indeed)

Guys are total assholes. Well, some of them. Ok, most of them.
You don't ever just give in to something like this. I truly think you should end your relationship with this guy. He's getting into your head and making you second guess things. Is that something you want? Do you want to be pressured into everything you do for the rest of your life?

HES AN ASSHOLE. Please for the love of all that is holy, get out of that relationship.

He doesn't respect you and he most likely never will.




Why is it that all teenage boys only want sex, sex and sex? Are there any teenage boys, anywhere, that want a serious relationship? It's so hard to even find a half decent guy anymore. Don't guys just ever want to take things slow and want a girl for more than just sex? (Indeed)

Men are scum!

These kind of guys MAY exist, but when you meet them and they tell you that they want to take it slow and want you for so much more than sex - we will of course assume they are lieing.

JUST LIKE ALL THE OTHER SCUM BAG MEN!




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