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She's such a bubble buster!
I have a friend...let's call her "Megan". Megan and I are pretty cool. We hang out at school, between classes and after school on occasions. I have no problem going places with her, spending the night at her place...stuff like that. We're pretty good friends. She just has this really annoying habit of always trying to ruin someone else's good time.
Like, in an argument, when she's wrong and you're right, she'll scramble for any possible reason to say you're still wrong. Or if something good happens to you, she'll always say something to make you feel terrible about it. I hope that makes sense. It bothers me a lot and I've tried telling her it's annoying, but she still does it.
I don't want to stop being friends with her. She's cool most of the time. This is just starting to get to me. Why can't she let anyone else have a little sunshine sometimes? :(
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If you already talked to her and she still hasn't done anything to change. Then you should do it back to her! Give her a taste of her own medicine. Once she realizes how it feels, hopefully she'll stop.
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soundz like sumthing is bothering her & shes takin it out on you... tell her that shes been acting weird lately... & is sumthing bothering her... let her know that you'll be there for her to help her if sumthing is up
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I have a friend just like that. Only, she's gotten alot worse since it started. She does anything to make you believe she's right, and she comes up with insane things to argue {or debate} about. It really gets on my nerves, and like you-- I tell my friend she gets annoying, and she gets really mad.
There's not much you can do but tell her that it's annoying, if she's still doing it, ask her what her problem is and WHY she does it.
She's probably jealous of things you have going on, and maybe she needs a little sunshine in her own life. Who knows?
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megan sounds cool. hang out with her more. be nice. don't ruin HER time.
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Don't allow her to make you feel terrible about something good. Make her see that you don't even care if she tries hard to make you feel bad about something good. Just feel good about it and display that to her openly. Sort of like 'Haha, you tried to make me feel bad about a good thing, but you didn't because I am a better person than you.' But dont actually say that, just show it.
Eventually, shes going to realise that what shes saying barely has any effect at all on you and that her opinion on the matter doesnt change anything for you. Maybe she'll catch the hint or give up on doing it.
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i think u should take sum time of of her and have a talk again. a really big talk! or sorta threaten her that u wont be her friend. thatll get 2 her. hope i helped. rate me!
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Seeing how she refuses to admit her defeat in arguments, she is obviously feeling insecure about herself and lacking in self-esteem.
I know this must be frustrating for you, because she most probably is the person who always has to have the Best of Best and never a single defeat. She is feeling imperfect and left out.
She is simply in that stage where she wants to feel like she belongs, like she is special and people have a reason to care for her.
This will be really hard, but in a state like this it will only make her worse if you should leave her.
It'll be weird, but try to compliment her on small things.. and let her know we are all gifted in some way. Show her how you are imperfect in certain area whereas in another you are perfect. Show her how SHE is imperfect in some areas and perfect in some.
Megan is weak.
It is your job to be there for her...
I truly hope your relationship works out well.:)
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it sounds like she is trying to make herself feel better, because maybe she's not so secure inside. if she wont listen to you when you confront her, you have other options. if this behavior is really bugging you, try to avoid getting in these situations where she acts like that. when its happening, walk away and ignore her. this will give the hint that you are fed up with what she's been doing. if you know of any problems she's been having that could cause stress, let your friend know you are there for her.
*laura*
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She is a control freak and some one who isn't very responsive to people having fun. This may be because of a number of things...she may not have the fun you have, she may have something bothering her inside, among many other things. The best solution I can think of is to sit down with her and have a chat. Tell her that you think she is a really cool person but is there something bothering her? Just tell her how you feel and be honest with her. The truth may hurt but it definitely helps in alot of my cases. Explain to her that you still want to be friends but that she is causing you to be depressed or not let you have any sunshine. Everyone deserves a little sunshine now or then right? Right. If all else fails then, really there is nothing you can do to change someone like that. Trust me, there are some people in the world that are just made the way they are without any remorse and not willing to change. I hope that I was just of a little help. :)
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