Hello, my name is Jane Moon.
I have been through some things: rape; sexual harassment; sexual relationships; relationships with both older guys and younger; drinking; recently-gotten-over anorexia; and of course, love and crushes. I also grew up with a lot of guyfriends so I understand why they act the way they do.
I had hard times going through problems, and I wouldnt be able to forgive myself if I let another person go suffer like I did. I want to help you, because you probably dont deserve all these pains happening to you. There is no way to stop them--they are part of life--but I CAN help you go through it without much pain.
I can help eating disorder problems well especially, because i have been there myself, and my friend helped me get over my disorder, so i know how i can help.
You are NOT alone.
Remember,I'm always here to help if you need me.
Feel free to AIM me.
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E-mail: jane-moon@hanmail.net
Gender: Female
Location: South Korea
Occupation: Student, Artist, and Photographer
Age: 15
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Member Since: September 29, 2004
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hey anyone know of any good sites that let you up load pictures i need good advice thanks i'll rate high. (link)
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I suggest www.yoxio.com
I've used photobucket before, but the URL of the image is too long. Yoxio, on the other hand, has short image URL, which can be submitted on even MySpace name's etc.
I hope my advice helped :)
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uhhh what the helll...was this you?
hello. I am so depressed these days..i have no idea why..maybe its cos...my milkshake brings all the boys to the yard...and they're like, its better than yours..damn right its better than yours..and i can teach you..but i have to charge... yeah..sigh lala lalala...warm it up HAHA SUCKER XP
........your soooo wierd!! lolz (link)
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that wasnt me you dope :P
go find someone else to bother
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hi....i'm so confused.I have three guys that like me....one of then is my friends ex, one of them is obsessed with me and one of them started liking me this summer............I don't know what to do.....I'm going to homecoming adn I don't know who to go with....one of the guys goes to capo, one of them is gonna be gone during homecoming and the other i don't like....My friends have a problem with my friends ex b cuz he broke her heart and now comes to me so i can go out with him......I'm thinking about doing something stupid.....I've also been through sexual harassment and rape and so i know...but i'm sooo confused...plz help!!! (link)
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what exactly is the situation? Are any of them kind of pressuring you to go to the homecoming with you? If they are, you have to really tell them face to face that it is YOUR choice who you are going with. This is your life, and come on, who are they to tell you what to do? From the way you said it, I'm guessing the guys are one of your valuable friends. I know how you feel: if you reject any of them, you'd be losing good friend at the same time..If you are feeling like this,my advice would be not to have a date at all. Try group dating,which is just friends hanging out together. This way you wouldnt exactly have date, but just people to hang with. If they seem like they want to ask you out and you feel pressured to CHOOSE a boy, i'd advice..just follow your heart. Cheating, in this case, will definitely not work, so dont try to go out with them all. If you dont feel like you dont like any of them more than a friend, just act like you dont notice their interest.If they ask you out, pretend you didnt hear/understand and feign confusion.This works.
I am truly sorry if my advice sounded too assuming, its just that i cant really figure out whats happening with vague details.
i hope my advice helped :) Good Luck
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Yo janeyyyyyy waneeeyyyyyyyyy!!!
why do you give advice that like...you sumtimes dunt follow?? jwjw coz yaaaaaa noeeeeeeee..... yaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! i mean shouldnt you mean wat you say not say wat you dunt mean?
member::: beautiful words are hardly troo just as troo words are hardly beautiful!! (link)
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Yo Louieeeee...uhh deleonieeee..?..uhmm YEAH :D
i do give advice i follow...its just that sometimes i dont stop to think before i act ya knoe... cos yaaaaaa noeeeee...im a human too...and yaaaaaaa! i mean you knoe me im that person who like EXPLODES yaaaa...anger management, no? Also, the ENTIRE point of my advice column is to prevent other people to not have a hard time like I did. I am simply providing solutions that worked for me so others wouldnt have to suffer as much..
Member::If you keep posting weird question that you can email me, that SOMEBODY'S OWN ADVICE COLUHMN WILL GET FLOODED WITH FLAMES!! :)
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i've been having my period for 2 years already. it has always been normal, and i would get it every 4 weeks. but lately it hasnt been like that!...like i had my period 4 a lil over a week...and then i was off for a week...i would be on it like every other day for that week. and then its been 3 weeks since, and i havnt gotten it!...im scared!..PLEASE HELP!! (link)
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I remember the time when I had period for almost two weeks instead of one, and I had no idea why.
At first I thought something must be wrong with my body, like you think now, and I panicked.
But I found out it just means I was tired and my body rhyme just went out of balance.
That's all.
All you need is good amount of sleep and nutrient.
Don't worry theres nothing wrong with your body :)
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Ok this is going to be pretty long but it's worth reading!! Ok... me and this guy kyle were friends since like december. in febuary, i went over to his house and he was telling me all about how him and his girlfriend were broke-up and he was very upset about it. so later in the month i went over to his house and we kinda messed around (we didnt' have sex though). so kyle moved to california in March. (i live in arizona)i didn't talk to him again until like july. i truly love him. he feels the same way. although the other day he texted me and told me that his girlfriend (from before we started talking again) called and wants him back. now he's not sure wat to do (i don't really blame him). But i still love him and he said he loves me and always will but he isnt' sure wat to do about his gf who just came back!!! Please HELP Me!! I'm 15 and he's 18.
Thx,
Jessica (link)
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I know he told you he loves you and I believe it. But you know what they say: You never fall all the way out of love. Perhaps he loves you, but maybe he still has feelings for his ex. After all, they went out and share a lot of memories with each other. If he were completely over her, he wouldnt be lost like this right now. Or perhaps his relationship with his ex were more of a friend-lover kind. Meaning she were his friend at the same time as she was his girlfriend. So it might be possible that Kyle just doesnt want to hurt his ex's feelings by rejecting her.
Make sure you dont pressure him to make the decision, because he seems to be in stressful and tough situation. Just let him know you'll always be there waiting for him because you love him so. Let him know you respect his decision because you know for truth he loves you.
I sincerely hope your relationship works out well.
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well i have this friend lets call him fred well fred and i have known eachother for hmm 6 years or so and hes 2 years older than me so hes 15 and a sophmore and im 13 in 8th grade anyways fred used to hate me but now he wants to get with me there are two problems..
1) he has told me himself he cant keep a girl for longer than 3 days, but those 3 days cud be the best 3 days of my life since i've liked him for 6 years
2) he told me he does weed now im not sure if he still does but he told me he quit and im not sure if i shud believe him
3) i smoke and he's okay with that but i dont want to get him addicted by bein w. me
4) we live 30 mins away from eachother but im movin to his town this summer so when im a freshman he'll be a junior...
can anyone help me? i rate high tnxs (link)
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First of all, I personally agree with the idea that those three days may be the best days of your life. And seriously, who knows? Perhaps he couldnt keep a girl longer than 3 days because he hasnt met any girl who he truly loved yet. It occurs to be that if he went out with you and found out that he really like you, he might decide, "This is the girl I was looking for,"" and go out with you longer. Futhermore, three days with him is better than three days without him. Yes, you should go out with him.
Secondly, the marijuana matter. So maybe he did pot before, but he told you he quit. If you love him, then trust him. If you find out later, THEN is the right time, not now. You have to trust him, because he is your boyfriend.
I hope my advice helped
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I have this friend who likes to know just everything about my life, and always talks about me behind my back to my really good guy friend. Shes acuused me of liking every guy she has, but its honestly the opposite way around. She really is a backstabber and my guy friend says that i should confront her of what shes doing because shes ruining my chances of going out with anyone because she starts to like them and then i feel bad and want her to have him. I really dont mind if she talks about me because shes only hurting herself, but now im starting to wonder if it will get worse and i should do somthing about it?? please help! (link)
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The reason why she struggles so hard to find out everything in your life is probably because she fears you are not telling her your secrets because she isn't cool and trustworthy to share secrets with you.
Her obvious tendency for liking every guy you like just shows how she wants to be superior than you are lovewise and social rankwise.
She is jealous.
She is angry because she somehow feels inferior in social rank, as if you took all the guys she likes. My guess is that you either went out with the guy she likes/liked or that guy likes/liked you from the fact she accuses you of liking every guy she has. So now she is trying to make herself feel equal to you by doing the same thing you unintentionally did:taking away the guys.
I know she must be really cold to you, because she is heartbroken.
And I think we all know how painful a heart broken is...
Though I know it'd be hard for you, I want to ask you to please try not to yell back at her. Her anger is simply clumsy attempt to cover her tears...
Do not try to cheer her up by attempting to hook her up with that guy she SAYS she likes. This will only anger her, mistakening your gesture for trying to part her away from the guy she really likes. If you feel you should help her, ask what happened. She wouldnt tell you so easily, not forgiving you for what you've done, but someday she will tell you. Just be there with her and tell her she will be alright. That's all she needs.
I sincerely hope my answer will help you. :)
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Ok..me and my ex b/f broke up over 4 months ago and I still have feelings for him and he called me out of nowhere the other night and I was talkin to him on the internet and I asked him why he called me and he said that he missed talkin to me and he wanted to be in another relationship with me and he wants it to last this time so he said I'am gonna start callin u more and seein u more than I did before because I know I treated u like shit and I'am sorry and I asked him if he really meant that and he said he wouldnt of said it if he didnt mean it!Ever since he said that,He is ALL I ever think about and he is SO sweet to me!Could this be love?or just some feelings for him because when he broke up with me I went through this really bad depression for awhile.We went out for 2 months.Thanx!I RATE! (link)
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...Love?
Unfortunately you'd never know till your heart is crushed..
Personally, if i were in your place, I wouldn't care about whether I am in love or not.
Because you'd never know. This just might be love. This just might not be love.
So take him.
If you miss your chance it'd be too late even when you realize later that it was love you felt.
Cherish this chance life gave you.
If you love him, you do.
Even if you dont, you still like him and care for him, dont you? That's what really matters.
Don't worry about whether he truly love you or not.
I'd think if he were sensitive enough to call and apologize like that, then he must care for you and your feelings in the least.
LOVE him when you can.
Dont lose your love and break your heart like I did...
I wish you with all my heart that your relationship works out well.
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I have a friend...let's call her "Megan". Megan and I are pretty cool. We hang out at school, between classes and after school on occasions. I have no problem going places with her, spending the night at her place...stuff like that. We're pretty good friends. She just has this really annoying habit of always trying to ruin someone else's good time.
Like, in an argument, when she's wrong and you're right, she'll scramble for any possible reason to say you're still wrong. Or if something good happens to you, she'll always say something to make you feel terrible about it. I hope that makes sense. It bothers me a lot and I've tried telling her it's annoying, but she still does it.
I don't want to stop being friends with her. She's cool most of the time. This is just starting to get to me. Why can't she let anyone else have a little sunshine sometimes? :( (link)
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Seeing how she refuses to admit her defeat in arguments, she is obviously feeling insecure about herself and lacking in self-esteem.
I know this must be frustrating for you, because she most probably is the person who always has to have the Best of Best and never a single defeat. She is feeling imperfect and left out.
She is simply in that stage where she wants to feel like she belongs, like she is special and people have a reason to care for her.
This will be really hard, but in a state like this it will only make her worse if you should leave her.
It'll be weird, but try to compliment her on small things.. and let her know we are all gifted in some way. Show her how you are imperfect in certain area whereas in another you are perfect. Show her how SHE is imperfect in some areas and perfect in some.
Megan is weak.
It is your job to be there for her...
I truly hope your relationship works out well.:)
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Okay here's the deal: (sorry if it's long but i really need advice w/ this)
three years ago i dated this guy Dave for three weeks. after those three weeks he dumped me cause i wouldn't sleep w/ him. loser. anyway; i moved on and started dating his friend. almost three years later we're stil together. they're not friends anymore tho.
so lately wherever we go and Dave's there, he'll totaly hit on me and he won't leave me alone. if we're at a party he'll follow me around all night asking me stupid questions and completely stalking me. this weekend we were at a party and my boyfriend and i were just in a corner talking and kissing and he comes up right between us and starts a convo w/ me. my boyfriend thinks it's funny cause Dave is being such a loser. my boyfriend wants me to tell him off but i just can't be mean to someone, i've never ben able to tell anyone off but i CAN'T stand Dave. usualy when he's talking to me i just walk away and totaly ignore him but he doesn't get the hint. what would you do? (link)
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I've had similar situation where the "stalker guy" used to be my best friend and plus my friend had a crush on him.
I couldnt bear to hurt his feelings, and my friend would get mad at me for doing so.
But it came to the state where he was actually scaring the heck out of me, and sometimes I would cry because he scared me so much.
And one day I realized, "What am I doing?"
I mean, here he was,literally ruining my life, and I was doing nothing about it.
He was being this big obstacle in my life and I was doing nothing about it.
So I decided, I will just tell him.
It was hard, and he got really angry at me, because obviously he thought his "stalkings" were nothing. He thought it was just expression of love and got mad at me for not appreciating them.
But I did, and now he barely talks to me anymore.
At first I felt bad, but I realized the guy who I used to be friend with wasnt the same guy who stalked me. He changed, and it wasnt my best friend I was telling off, just a really annoying stalker dude.
It's the same for you.
It's not someone you used to love you are telling off...It's someone who stalks you.
This is YOUR life, and if someone is interfering with it, YOU have a right to remove that person out of your life.
I sincerely hope my advice helps. :)
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OK I have this "friend". Really she used to be my best friend, then I went away for the summer and she really started irritating me by talking about all these hot guys she's saying and how they all hit on her and how when I come back I get the less hotter one because she saw them first. WTF is that?! Do any of your friends do this? And plus, I KNOW for a fact that all of them do not hit on her because 1) She's honestly not that attractive. I'm prettier than her, and I don't really think I'm all that pretty anyway. 2) Whenever we went out together, which was quite alot, nobody ever hit on her. She'd always approach the guys she knew first.
Well anyway, back to what I was originally saying...over the summer things got different. After I got back things were not the same between her, me, and our other mutual friend. The mutual friend and I would still get online and call each other and hang out and stuff. But the main girl barely wanted anything to do with us. The one thing that set me off was one day we were all supposed to go to Ryan's (a steakhouse) which is 30 minutes away but this "friend" called and bailed on me (telling me she had a headache and didn't want to drive) like she always ALWAYS used to but I always took it from her. So I was pissed and asked my other friend to go hang out so we went to Wal-Mart and guess who pulled up right as we were walking home?
Yup you guessed it. So the other friend asked for a ride and the "friend" looked kinda irritated then hesitated. Since then I haven't spoken to her till a few days ago. Today she was suposed to take me to pick up my check from Subway, but she didn't. I called twice, left a message on her phone and on AIM but nothing. I knew she wasn't going to come which is why I made plans for someone else to take me.
My problem is, she wants me to go to her birthday party on Friday and since she's been such a terrible friend to me and done nothing but made me feel ugly when we were out together (by saying the hot guys were looking at her not me), and never keeping promises or plans...should I go? I mean normally I'm such a loyal person but I think she's just gone overboard with this. I'm sick of it.
I'm so sorry this was long...I just thought you all should nkow the whole story. Thanks for answering and I will rate you a 5 if you even put one sentence just because you read all this! :D (link)
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haha..It's aiite that its lengthy..I've seen LONGER!
Anyway, I know exactly what you are talking about because I used to have a friend like that.
People who acts this way are not neccessarily bad ones at heart. Not that I am accusing you, but just to tell you your friend just might be acting the way she does to hide her jealousy and insecurity.
Maybe during the summer you have been asked out?
Or perhaps while you were gone, she was irritated by how she was never asked out/barely asked out.
It is very likely that she just wants to show herself that she is likeable girl too, simply out of jealousy and insecurity.
You might have to watch out for her, because I know that, out of desperation for true love, these kind of people often are willing to do anything, including drugs,sex and alcohol, just so they could be "loved".
Now, I'm not saying she will. But I've seen many of my friends get out of control like that, and I want you to know this before it happened if it does.
My advice of solution?
Go to her party.
I KNOW it WILL be irritating for you, but if you do not go, then she will feel like she was stabbed on the back.
"First she takes all the hot guys, and NOW THIS?!"
Also, if she feels as much insecure about her looks, take her to shopping.
Bring some one your fashion-know-it-all friends along so she could get all the hottest trends of clothes and make-up.
This "sharing of beauty" will lessen her jealousy.
I truly hope my advice helped you
I also thank you for reading my equally lengthy answer :)
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I love my boyfriend so so so much but he's kinda insensitive and he's always busy or wont give me a reason why he doesn't want to meet up or anything. He talks more to my friend (who's in all his classes) and his ex girlfriend (she doesn't live near but he texts her all the time.) I don't want to break up with him even though I know he doesn't love me but I can't keep on crying over him every night..what should I do? (link)
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Love is supposed to hurt.
He's not breaking up either because he doesnt want to hurt you[meaning he still cares for you at the least],or because he doesnt want to deal with all the emotional problem you will go through.
But how can you be sure he doesnt love you anymore?
I've had relationships with guys at which we both loved each other very much, but we just werent comfortable gettin together. I know this might just sound confusing, but think about this:when I was little I never liked to take a nap, but once I did, I didnt want to get up. It might sound funny but sometimes that's just the way love is. Maybe he just feels awkward.[perhaps your relationship was too sudden and too fast?] Or maybe he still have a hard time getting over his ex although he still loves you too. Or, like myself, he prefers a casual, distant love relationship?
All I can tell you is, you will never know what he truly feels about you unless you go up and ask him.
Yes, it might feel awkward and strange.
But ask him, not accusingly, but just ask why he acts the way he does.
And if he doesnt love you...I know it will be hard getting over him, but someday you will.
This is just all part of life...
I sincerely hope my advice helps.
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After I take a shower my hair is alwyas knotty. After I comb all the knots out it gets knotty again. Then my hair get really frizzy when it dries. Do you have any ideas on how to get the knots out and how to get my hair frizz-less. (link)
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If your hair is knotty and gets frizzy AFTER it dries, then it is likely that it is either severly damaged or thin. My hair used to be really damaged like that, and it got really frizzy after it dried. Try not to go out in the sun when your hair is still wet, because the sunrays can weaken your hair. I would use advice for a hair lotion, because it makes the hair frizz-less, smooth and shiny. Also, it sometimes heals damaged hair [but keep in mind this is the minor effect. If you really want your hair healthy, use the damaged-hair treatement lotion/shampoo/conditioner,etc]. Please DO NOT use frizz-less GEL i used that company and instead of making the hair shiny and soft, it looked greasy and sticky. Anyway, so if you get the knots out with the lotions in your comb, it will keep it from getting tangled up again.
I used to have a frizzy hair, too, so I KNOW how you feel.
I hope my advice helped. :)
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