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I have this friend who likes to know just everything about my life, and always talks about me behind my back to my really good guy friend. Shes acuused me of liking every guy she has, but its honestly the opposite way around. She really is a backstabber and my guy friend says that i should confront her of what shes doing because shes ruining my chances of going out with anyone because she starts to like them and then i feel bad and want her to have him. I really dont mind if she talks about me because shes only hurting herself, but now im starting to wonder if it will get worse and i should do somthing about it?? please help!
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You call that a friend? Sorry to say, but that's not a friend! A friend doesn't go talking behind your back, a friend doesn't try and take every guy you like...That's awful. You should confront her, give her a chance to change, if she doesn't. You don't need her!
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Listen to your guy friends and confront her about it!!! thats not kool! and just because shes your friend doesnt mean you should give up every guy u like... she probably only likes them because she knos you do... so find a guy and ask her out! live your own life.... you guys arent twins stuck together you kno.
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Of course it's going to get worse! Your friend is right. Confront her about it. Let her know you know what she's doing. Stop feeling bad for her. She brings things on herself. If she really is your friend, she'll stop talking shiznit about you behind your back, and she'll start being your real friend.
This may not be the best thing to do, but if she doesn't stop, do the same to her. Give her some of her own damned medicine. Hopefully everything works out, so you won't have to. ;)
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The reason why she struggles so hard to find out everything in your life is probably because she fears you are not telling her your secrets because she isn't cool and trustworthy to share secrets with you.
Her obvious tendency for liking every guy you like just shows how she wants to be superior than you are lovewise and social rankwise.
She is jealous.
She is angry because she somehow feels inferior in social rank, as if you took all the guys she likes. My guess is that you either went out with the guy she likes/liked or that guy likes/liked you from the fact she accuses you of liking every guy she has. So now she is trying to make herself feel equal to you by doing the same thing you unintentionally did:taking away the guys.
I know she must be really cold to you, because she is heartbroken.
And I think we all know how painful a heart broken is...
Though I know it'd be hard for you, I want to ask you to please try not to yell back at her. Her anger is simply clumsy attempt to cover her tears...
Do not try to cheer her up by attempting to hook her up with that guy she SAYS she likes. This will only anger her, mistakening your gesture for trying to part her away from the guy she really likes. If you feel you should help her, ask what happened. She wouldnt tell you so easily, not forgiving you for what you've done, but someday she will tell you. Just be there with her and tell her she will be alright. That's all she needs.
I sincerely hope my answer will help you. :)
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TO: (anonymous)
you should totallie talk to her about it...you shouldnt wait til it gets worse coz then mehbe you wont be able to reverse wats been done... its real cool you can be that forgivin about her talkin behind your back tho..i cant do that... tee hee...well as i sed just talk to her and who noes how things will go...ya noe?
GOOD LUCK!! -^v^-
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If she's talking bad about you, she isn't a real friend at all. Get rid of her.
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