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Name: Josh
Birthday: December 16th
Sign: Sagitarius
Grade: 12th (Senior)
Nationalty: Lebanese
Hair Color: Black
Eye Color: Varies (depending on what I wear)


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Favorite Color: Blue
Favorite Drink: Starbucks Hazenut Latte
Favorite Food: Lebanese Food!!! And mom's homecooked meals


I am junior in highschool at a small private school in NY. I am involved with many extra-ciricular activites at my school such as Mock Trial, Model UN, The Enviro-thon, Ecology Club, NCCJ, and I do alot of volunteering around my area. I have been told by friends many times before that I am a good listener / adivce giver and I have decided with the persuasion of a friend to try my talents out. Looking to answer your questions, and maybe to meet some new people.

Can't reach me here? Or do you have a private question? Feel free to IM me on AIM at AskTrevorWolf.


Gender: Male
Location: New York
Occupation: Entrepenuer
Age: 15
AIM: AskTrevorWolf
Member Since: October 4, 2004
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Last Update: April 17, 2007
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I fall asleep and i dream of the most hotties men, you could imagin of what i do with them :D
But i wake up and think of my best friend who is a women. Why?
i want to have sex with a man, i want them to hold me, i want to make out with men and i love it when men look at me.
But why do i worry about my friend June? I care about her, want to hold her, and when she leans on me i want to cuddle with her.
I know i became bi
but she is the only women that i only has eyes for.i dont look at other women in a sexual way, i compear myself with them.
i dont get it?
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ok. well it sounds like you are having a little difficulty determining what your sexuality is. My take on the situation is that, you're gay. No one is ever 100% gay or 100% straight, and even gay men have fantasies about women on rare occasions. So this may explain why you are having these "changes of heart" if you want to call them that. So i would not worry about anything, and just learn to accept it, which I am not sure if you have done already. It is confusing for everyone, but it will get easier as time goes along. Just choose what you want. I mean if it will help, tell June how you feel about her and about other people and you might be able to experiment and see what your true feelings actually are. Hope this was atleast somewhat helpful.

-Josh


Hey, Im looking into getting a new phone and I was thinking about getting a sidekick.
So, from personal experience, does anyone know whether their any good or not?
Also, what are some types of plans they offer.. and are they horribly expensive? Thanks. (link)
Sidekicks are wonderful things if you treat them right. Because of their swivel screen you have to because not to drop it often. The plans as I know because one of my good friends has one are good. Minutes are a resonable amount and there are free nights after 9 and free weekends. The sidekick also has an option package plan you can add on for an extra cost that includes texting, aim, and web browser. The price would depend on how many minutes you wanted, and what features you were looking to get. I would say, at least...with taxes for a basic plan, $45.00



my guidance councelors make a big deal out of at least 2 years of a foreign language in HS. i took spanish 1 and did well but last year i took spanish 2 for a little but i had to drop it because i absolutely couldnt do it, my teacher is an idiot ... my question is if you have not completed 2 or more years of foreign language does the college require you to take it ? i really dont wanna take it ... i think its such a waste of time & i dont wanna do it at all (link)
I know, from experience and college research myself that colleges usually require atleast 2-3 years of a language in school. I think it would be wise to pick it up again.


ok so i want to get a razr from this website lorealparisusa.com and its teal and so if i bought that could i pick the plan i wanted like if i wanted to get verizon for it do you think i could?? (link)
The phone has to be a Verizon phone or an UNLOCKED in order for the phone to be activated to Verizon. Is it a special deal by buying it through the website? If not, I would check out the verizon website itself because new colors in the razor just came out and with a plan...the phones are extremely cheap.


How can I get rid of the fat on my stomach and my lovehandles? I do crunches, but it only seems to work on my upper abs, and I still have the lower belly fat. Is there any way I can get rid of this and get flat abs and no lovehandles? (link)
Crunches to help to turn the fat into muscle in the abdomal part of your stomach, but in order to get rid of the fat, you need to get more physical activities. Do you exercise daily? (Ex. running, walking, biking?) If not, I think this could really help in bringing your weight down. What are you eating in your diet? If you eat junk food such as fast food, chips, and soda! When i wanted to lose a few pounds, I stopped drinking soda, I lost a total of close to 20 pounds. Hope this was helpful. Feel feel to message me with any other questions.


do u think its immature for girls 11-13 have sex? (link)
My personal opinion, it can be. Don't take that the wrong way though. Sex is very important thing, and you should wait to share it with someone who youn truely love. At this stage, 11 - 13 yrs old, in a girls life, they are just reaching puberty and going through it. It's not the greatest time to choose to have sex. So, in conclusion I don't think it is immature, but rather, it is chosen to be done too early. Hope I helped, if you need more ask me or IM me. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


heyy i really liek this kid but he goz 2 a different school and i really like him at should i do? (link)
My best advice is to see if you can get in touch with him, or see if any of your friends know him and/or hang out with him. The best way to get to know someone is to open up and talk to them. It's hard when someone is @ a different school and you don't talk much or have friends in common. You know? I understand how hard it is. It is kinda like forming a long distance bond or relationship. But try talking to him, and opening up to him. I am sure you can see him again, is he in your area? Hope I helped! Need more? Just ask me, or get my SN from my column. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


okay, i just met this guy about 4 days ago and i really like his personality, so im starting to like him.. and he was kool earlier today untill now when hes acting like a jackass but in a flirty way. well i get mad easily so i got mad at him and asked him why he was acting like that and that i thought he liked me and he said he does, but he has yet to call me back or txt me or anything.. what should i do? was i too fast for liking him? (link)
No, you are not to fast in liking him, but also you can't be to pushy. From personal experience, getting attached or being pushy about him calling, or texting you can lead to a major change in the relationship for the worst. My suggestion is just to take it easy and wait for things to happen. You have only know him for less than a week. Get to know him a little more, and really spend some time with him. Maybe he needs a little space to sort things out, and he is having trouble sorting out his feelings. Don't rush things and things are bound to fall in to place. Personal experience advice...trust me. =D Hope I helped! Need more? Just ask me, or get my SN from my column. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


i know this will sound really weird but how does having sex feel does it feel good painful or what? (link)
Speaking from a guys perspective, it is a pleasure. But for a girl, if it is your first time, it can be a little painful because you are breaking that barrier that has built up (aka. popping your cherry). But usually sex feels good. Its personal preference. But first times can be a little painful and uncomfortable. Hope I helped! Need more? Just ask me, or get my SN from my column. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


Wasnt really sure what to put this under but here it goes. I just got a new cell phone and the ring tones that came with it suck. I was wondering if anybody out there uses Jamster. How bad do they rip you, how much does it cost and how many downloads do you get? If you think Jamster sucks, where do you download your tones and how much does it cost? Thanks alot in advance :) (link)
I have just the thing for you. For like $9.99 you can get unlimited downloads from a site called www.3gupload.com. They have awesome ringtones. But in order to do this you must have wireless web, which i assume you have because you use Jamster. Jamster is not the best thing to use, as you obviously have noticed. Well tell me how you like it. They have some great stuff. They have MIDI's and acutal music files. Hope I helped! Need more? Just ask me, or get my SN from my column. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


How do i find a person's email adress without askinhg someone?

Like is there a website?

I will rate 5's to whoever helps me (link)
The best advice that I can give is to try to find out if that person has like a journal, or a myspace, or even a column on here. Something online that they would leave blogs or something on. Most of these sites give away an email address, or some way to get in contact with that person. But besides that, without asking someone, there is no way to retrieve email addresses. Hope I helped! Need more? Just ask me, or get my SN from my column. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


My boyfriend's birthday is coming soon and I have no clue what to get him. Any suggestions? (link)
My best advice is, getting something that he is interested in. It really doesn't matter the present as long as it is something special and picked out specially. Something he will be able to pick up a yr from now, and remember when, where, and who he got it from. That is the most important thing. Just try to go along with what he seems interested in. Music, sports, movies, and stuff like that is usually a safe bet. Also, for a simpler idea, gift cards are great. If you are realy unsure, then gift cards are the way to go. I always buy gift cards. =D Hope I helped! Need more...just ask me, or IM me. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


lately ive been getting horny more often than i used to. what does this mean? am i just going through a weird hormone stage or am i like addicted? (link)
Well, it could be both. I would just say that is a wierd hormone stage. I am assuming that you are a teenager and during this time, being horny is not unusual and as you get higher in years, it gets stronger. As long as your horniness is not getting in the way of friendship's or social scenes, you are not addicted. Need more help? Ask me or hit me up on AIM, my SN is in my column. Hope I helped! Rate!!

Sincerely,

-TW


ok i am i guess still dating this guy named david that lives in the uk but i live in the states way way far away and i kinda cheated on him with this girl that lives here should i dump him or not and if i dump him he haz wasted alot of time and EFFORT on me he even told hiz friends there that he was gay just sooo he could be with me i would appreciate it if u give me good answers and i also rate high for them soooo thank you lots P.S. and if u couldent tell i am a bi guy that lives in okla that (link)
These types of questions are always tough to answer no matter what the circumstances. This is a tough question to explain without talking to you yourself. IM me on AIM if you want @ AskTrevorWolf, so I can better explain it. But it all comes down to how you really feel. I won't say that you should dump him, but you need to talk this over with him, and see what he thinks because of the distance between you two. How old are you by the way, because that also plays a role in the way that things swing. I would say that talk out the terms of your relationship, and see what you come out with. What are the chances of him cheating again...what are the chances of you two meeting...what are the chances he is re-thinking the relationship because of the location? These are all things you need to think about. But to make a final decision and give you a final answer, i need some more info..like how old you two are...that is a big thing. Hope I helped somewhat...IM me on AIM for me explain. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


does anybody know how to play "precious things" by tori amos on the keyboard? If so, can you help me if any way possible whether giving me tips on here or showing me websites on how to learn that particular song?

Thanks (link)
The best thing to do in this situation, if you cannot find anyone who can teach you, then the best thing is, since you seem to know how to play the keyboard, is to go out and for about $2.50 buy the music score to the song. Most sites online don't have scores online because it is illegal...copyright laws. That is the best advice I can think of to give you. Music scores are great things, because most of them come with tutorials or even just diagrams to show things. Very explanitory. Hope I helped! Anymore questions, feel free to ask or IM me on AIM @ AskTrevorWold. Thanks. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


Anyone have any diet tips or special meals to follow. I'm about 15 pounds over weight. Any kind of exersicing that i should consider? I want to look better when i get back to school

thank you so much
-Aleks (link)
The best exercise they say is walking. I also suggest swimming, because swimming works all the muscles and parts of your body. Also, as far as dieting goes, the SOUTH BEACH DIET I think is the best for teens and young adults. It consists of eating lots of vegetables and meats, but cutting out fruits and breads for the first 2 week. With this you should lose about 8-13lbs (average). Look it up more online, or IM me on AIM @ AskTrevorWolf for more information. Hope I helped! RatE!

Sincerely,

-TW


ok i had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago.. my bf had a condom on and everything but all i keep thinkin bout is me gettin pregnant.. im not showin any signs like.. gettin sick or things like that.. i cant really remember when my last period was so i guess i cant really go by that.. but i keep like totally frkin out! when do the signs start to show.. and if u use a condom what r the risks of pregnancy!!! please help me (link)
Condoms are roughly in the low 90%'s effective. There is a small chance that you are pregnant, but I cannot diagnose anything since I am not an MD. The best thing for you to do is to go to your gyno or a local Planned Parenthood to get a pregnancy test. Their tests are more effective than store bought ones. Also, if you are pregnant there is no turning back now, because after 5 days EC (The morning after pill) is not effective. But that is what I would suggest on doing. Need more? Ask me. RatE! Hope I helped.

Sincerely,

-TW


ok me andmyb/f were in his pool and he stuck it in me for like 3 min but ti kept comin out(in those 3 min) and he said nothing came out of him ....we didnt use protection, wat is the chance of me gettin pregnamt??????? (link)
The chance of you being pregnant if he is telling the truth is low. But with no protection the risk of STD's is HIGH. If I were you, I would talk it over with your b/f and make sure he has nothing. Also, it would be safe to possibly get tested for anything. Planned Parenthood is great for things like this, having programs for teens and younger adults for free testing. ANything else? Ask. Hope I helped. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


im a girl and im 16. my ex boyfriend and i are pratically going out again, as my 2nd chance. but theres this other guy. ive known him longer, and ive hooked up with him a few times. even tho its summer, i wanna hang out and see him, but i dont want to make my bf mad. i almost feel like i like this other kid, as i love my boyfriend. i have feelings that make me want to go out with this other kid, but i have a boyfriend that i love. what should i do? (link)
Well, you have to follow what your heart tells you. Also, I wouldn't feel bad and think you will make your b/f mad if you hang out with this other kid over the summer. I mean it sounds like your belong to him, which you don't. If he does get mad over the situation with you hanging out with your other guy friend, then he isn't the one for you. A b/f should be supportive of his g/f's actions and always there for them, not getting mad @ them because they are hanging out with some friends. But, back to the liking both of them, thats a tough situation. You need to sort out the pro's and con's of both guys. Then you need to decide which one you think is the better guy based on personality, and kindness...and which one you like more, and can have fun with and be yourself. Not by looks...because then it will make it harder than ever. If you do this, it should be much easier for you to decide. Hope I helped! If you need anymore help, ask, or IM me @ AskTrevorWolf on AIM. Rate!

Sincerely,

-TW


How do I stop this girl who is meant to be my friend to stop annoying me? She knows I can take so is she trying to get some kind of reaction out of me? (link)
Most likely she is looking for attention. People tend to annoy other people and get attached to them when they don't get enough attention at home or by other friends, or when someone does not have a huge social group. I would not try to avoid her, because things will just get worse. I would explain to her what is going on in a nice way. Saying "your a cool person, but things for me have been hectic, and I just need some space." or something similar. Or another thing is trying to find her some people that are like her, or would like her to hang out with. Any more questions or wanna talk about it, IM me. My SN is in my column. Hope I helped! Rate!


Sincerely,

-TW




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