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I'm a 16 year old male who lives in Lackawanna, NY. I'm a Fillipino and I love to share my experiences and "Asian wisdom"! Feel free to e-mail me or im me on aim or msn messenger, I'll be happy to talk!

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My boyfriend is always putting his arm round my waist and touching me but I never know where to touch him. I don't want to be really outragous or anything, I just want to know how I should touch him.

I like it when girls keep their arm around my waist (or back pocket...). It just feels weird when I have my arm around a girl and they go for the shoulder instead. And if ur sitting down it's also nice to put ur head down on his shoulder to show him ur relaxed and not tense. Yeah that works about right, it's what I always like.

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You see, I really like this guy. I'm not so sure if he likes me or he's trying not to like me. We're pretty good friends. You see, I think he's still getting over his relationship with his ex girlfriend. She broke up with him, and he was devastated. I want him to move on, but I don't know what to do?

Talk to him about it, try to make him take his mind off of it. i've gotten plenty of people to move on from past relationships, and basically all you have to do is hang out with them, do things to take their minds off of them, go to movies, dances, malls, just chill with each other. and when you feel that he is ALMOST completey over it, ask him out, and if you've been gettin to know each other enough and trust each other than I belive it will work out for you two.
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at my school there a girl who everyone likes and a boy who everyone likes..how do i make myself like that girl so the guys like me?

If u are serious about that then wear what she does, act like she does, do ur hair like her, just make only "cool friends" if she does. I think that it is just plain stupid to change yourself to make someone like you. I really think that u should just be yourself and just talk to a lot of people and get involved. You'll become popular and if you talk to the guy he'll notice you.

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the other day i was beat by my dad so bad im 16 and a guy but i can't stand up to him. he punched me in the nose once an threatened to kill me so i took a shotgun an put it to his head an told him to back the f*** off. i thought i made the point clear to him but the next day he had iron knuckles with him an nailed me in the forehead. im lucky i barely felt it i guess over the years ive become almost immune to pain. but i dont know what to do to have him stop without cops or foster care getttin involved i luv him to much even tho he busted my lip and my forehead open. luckily im ok i dont feel dazed or nothin from the hit. im lucky i moved backwards with the punch so it didnt get me bad just a lil blood. but if i hadnt moved i could probly be dead rite now........... any advice would be helpful............ but toher than my dad i have a goood good life an grl im a QB for my highskool and i make straight A's.... i need sum help plz

o believe you should get the cops involved no matter what. eventually he might hurt you severly and it could damage you permanately and you might think you love him but you have to get out before something terrible happens. What he is doing is abuse no matter if you love him or not. call the cops and get out. You may have to deal with foster care or move in with a different family member but it is better than dealing with a beating, especially whnen your a great student and a great athelete. You dont have to put up with it. if you really dont want the cops involved move in with another family member or stay eith a friend's ffamily for a while so your dad can realize what he does is dangerous and tell him straight up. Get him to leave you alone and move somewhere else with or without telling him. I wouldn't tell him because he might beat you for saying youre leaving, just leave.

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ok im not really excited about christmas and i dont know why? i mean i feel like something is missing in my life or is it that im just getting older but i dont think that is true bc i like christmas and all but it just seems like it doesnt matta anymore.

I dont really get excited over Christmas either. I belive that I dont feel welcome in my home and at my mother's house we never really have Christmas. nothing is missing in your life unless you know for a FACT that it is just not there. It might be that your getting older because I started to not get excited when I was about 11 years old when I just didn't care and now I'm 15 and it is just worse, like it's not even there anmore. I loke Christmas and all too but i just dont have "Christams Spirit" if u wanna put it that way, maybe it's the same for you...

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Today I was sitting in class and I just picked up this needle thing and started running it up and down my arm. I don't know why but then I started scratching myself with it really badly so that I had marks all over my arm. After school, my boyfriend saw but he made a joke of it. I think I did it because I want attention because my parents don't really give me any. I was really upset that my boyfriend didn't care, does it show that he doesn't care about me? Everybody that saw what I had done just ignored me.

i used to do the same thing and basically for the same reason, because i thought nobody cared and nobody pays attention to me. Sometimes you may be right but no matter what u have to live through and see what life has to offer. I'm sure your boyfriend loves you and everything, but i think he didn't know how to deal with it so he did it through humor to make it known that he notices and he cares about you. Your parents do care or else they would not care about anything you do or have even bothered to raise you well. I stopped because people kept getting mad at me for it and and i just had to stop for myself. i know now hat suicide is a stupid option and too many people will miss you even though you may not think so.

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Ok i guess this isnt really a definite true answer to this question but rather ur opinion. What is True LOVE?

I belive that true love is when u will do anything for that one that u happen to love and the same goes the other way around. It is when u believe that u will do absolutely anything and will want to spend the rest of your life with this person and the same is for that person. You have to know that the two of you wish to stay together for the rest of your lives and go thruogh everything together, both the good times and the bad, and forgive one antoher for the mistakes you may have made, and truly care for one another.

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This school year, I've noticed that nearly all my friends are boys. I've never really got on with boys before but nowadays I'm always hanging out with them. Is there something wrong with that? I do have friends who are female but I find I relate to boys better.
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There's is nothing wrong with having more guy friends than girls. One of my friends (who is a girl) has only about 2 friends that are girls. She not loose or anything like that it's just she relates to guys better. I have more friends that are girls than guys(and I'm a guy) and there's nothing wrong with that. I think girls are just fun to chill with.

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to make a long story very short, a guy named mike has liked me since 7th grade...and i was never interested, persay, now, i like him, and i know he likes me, but hes so shy! everygirl hes dated or liked he never made a move on. tomoro well both be at this haloween party- the parents wont be home and i really want him to open up to me.. talk to me... and if i need to make a move, i will... how do i make a move ona guy? and how can i make him open up and talk to me?

I think that you should go for this guy. He may seem shy but underneath if you go for it i'm sure he'll go with. He may be the type of guy that likes it when girls make the first move, like myself, and is probably too uncomfortable to make the first move. To make him open up i feel that you should just go up and talk to him. introduce yourself and get the convo started yourself. You jkust have to be outgoing and gather your courage and just talk to the guy, I'm sure he'll be dying to tell you what's on his mind! Well good luck and have fun!

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im going out with this guy since yesterday who i've never talked to. we're in the same health class. tomorrow his friend told me to talk to him. im really nervous because i dont know what to say at all. any ideas? also, how should i make it look like im not as nervous as i really am? thanx!

I think that you should just be yourself and talk to him like you have known him forever. Or just act like he is one of your guy friends. Ask him what he wants to talk about and if he asks for your number or anything just let him know it. Ask about himself and how he's doin and everything should be fine!

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Ok..ive liked this guy for awhile now and he finally asked me out. But the thing is he goes to a different school and i barely see him. We dont really talk much either in person that is. So i turned him down. And plus ive been goin thru alot of stuff lately w/ my family. is that bad that i turned him down..my friends think it is..

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I don't think it's bad because if you're having problems at home with your family and you don't need someone else to worry about while you're having trouble. Besides if you guys go to different schools and barely see each other it would be the same thing it is now except for the occasional in person meeting. I've tried going out with people from different schools and it never worked. They can do what they want at their school and you wouldn't find out about it. You wouldmost likely be constantly worried.

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ok i like this guy named jamie who is kind of a dork but he used to like me and a lot of people still thing he likes me. i used to think that he was really weird and annoying but now i figured out that i like him...a lot! anyway he is moving to Hong Kong in January so i'm not sure if i should tell him how i feel or not. he's kind of like a geek in my grade so if we were going out i would be thought of as a loser for the rest of my school life. i was thinking that i could tell him on his last day of school but then if he liked me too then i would feel really bad that i didn't tell him sooner. i'm worried that if i tell him that i like him now he'll either a. not like me and tell all of his friends or b.tell me that he does like me but then he would still tell all of his friends and i would be thought of as a loser.please help soon because i really dont know what to do!

I think that you should let him know before he goes to Hong Kong because if you like him as much as you say you do you wouldn't really care what other people think. You wouldn't be thought of as a loser just because you like someone. I think that you should be different from everyone else and go for what you want and not care what everyone thinks about you! Belive me when I stopped caring what people thought about me my life got a lot less stressful because You can do what you want to do when you just don't care.

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errrrrr. ok my mom dont trust me i did something with a guy she found out end of story. we were going out at the time now we arent cuz i was grounded cuz of the other thing and cudnt see him much but we still good friends and he invited me over last weekend i asked mom said no i got wicked mad and now i he asked for this weekend if him n his dad could drive over pick me up i cud go to his house. i needa ask but im afraid cuz 1) she wont giv in wen she says no 2) i needa prove to him i can hang out so we can go out again 3) wen she says no i get so mad. like she doesnt undertsnad me. (no1 does. he does alot..he makes me happy too and i am not the happiest person) the anger builds up inside me till i wanan explode. i wanan show her she can trust me. she just wont lemme. she prob wont let me go and i need to ask soon and errrrr anyway please help if u can idk what to do or what to say thx lata

I think that you should not have gotten caught in the first place :) but that's beside the point. If you need toa ask soon than just sit her down and have a peaceful conversation with her stating the facts and tell her you've learned your lesson and you'll never do it again. Butter her up(not litterally; suck up) and give compliments and help out around the house before this conversation. Don't flip out on her and keep her calm, don't ask right away, just ask her when she's in a good mood or something. Hope that help! :)

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Ok on wed I went to chruch and we had a lesson about sex bracelets but I didn't no any thing about them and I want to know as much as I can so I can tell my church about it I really want to know and if you know any thing about them tell me please.

These sex bracelets come in different colors and you can buy them at claire's or any other place that sells lots of girl's stuff. Each bracelet represents another sex act that you are willing to perform. I don't know the specific colors for each act but if I find them I will post for you. :)

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alright well i dont wanna be like another girl saying oh my relationships arent workign out its only been a month blah blah .. yeah thats not a real relationship .. see for about 3 years now on and off i've been with my boyfriend .. this is the third time we've been together adn its been about 2 months but for some reason it just hasnt seem the same at all .. and he is completely obsessed and always says to me how im like his life and idk what to do because i know how badly i'd hurt him .. and im scared because what if me and him really do have a future with eachother but just not right now and if i ruin it with him now he might not want me later in life .. please i could use any advice

I think that you guys should stick together for as long as you can and try to work out all your problems. If it worls out you obviously have a good life ahead of you. If things don't work out for you than you can take a break from the relationship because you never know until you try! «3 :)

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okay well today i was flirting w. this guy and i knew it and my friend kept sayin you so like him but i dont really like him like him i used to though and hes incredibly hott and attractive anyways then i go well i dont deny stuff like that n like 5 mins later i start flirting again n then my friend says it again n the guy im flirting w. goes "yeah i no we are" lol then i just left

wuts he trying to say?

i've asked him out before but he said no

Guys like to flirt even when your just friends, i know this because i do it all the time with my friends. I think that you just have a good healthy friendship that is fun and interesting to keep boith of you happy. He could possibly have a girl in his life already or he just wants to be friends, or good friends by the sound of it! :)


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Okay, this guy asked me out and I really like him in all but he is shorter than me. Please don't leave well if you like him then it wouldn't bother you. I know that I need advice on how it won't affect me, if that makes any since?! PLease Help!!!

I'm pretty short myself but I've had plenty of girlfriends that are taller than me. If your afraid of what people may think, they dont care no one ever said anyhting about any of my relationships with taller girls, so just go with him if he is a nice guy, and u like him. YOu're gonna get used to it after a while so it won't bother you. Unless ur shallow of course but I doubt that if your on this site knowing u need help. :)

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Alright I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 17. A while back, we were hanging out; and I guess you could say things got a little out of hand. Well, I recently found out that I was pregnant. Today, my friend Amber (who is also pregnant, but not from my boyfriend) pushed me into telling my boyfriend. He didn't freak out, but he was upset. He told me that it'd be too much of a burden to have a baby now, and so he told me he wanted me to get an abortion. I'm very against abortion. I told him this, and he respected my opinion, but still tried to push me in that direction. He also suggested this "safe baby" thing. I don't really want to put my kid up for adoption either, because I can just imagine how much it hurts knowing your parents gave you up. My boyfriend doesn't want to tell his parents either, but he said he will, but you can tell how reluctant he is. He told me he loved me no matter what, but it was too much of a burden. I know he's not going to dump me, but he is afraid to keep it because he's going to college next year nad still trying to figure out his own life. Someone please tell me what I should do.

i think that you should talk to your parents and get some advice from them and make sure your boyfriend is there too so he can hear what the more experienced have to say. You should also talk to his parents about and get both views. I don't think abortion is the best answer. If your parents or his parents won't help and it comes to adoption if you can't afford it than I think you should put him up for adoption (only as a last option or last resort!!!)

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my sister has become like a secert kind of person lately. we used to tell everything to each other. when i looked at her mail by accident she wrote i love, she told me she is jk around. i saw I LOVE U to all the letters she wrote to him. my parents r also worried about her. what should i do?

I think that you, as a sister, should talk to her about her and how shes doin and just one day slip in the question about boyfriends and stuff one day she might want to tell you some exciting news and you could maybe meet this guy and see if not a jerkoff and is nice. Maybe your sister doesnt want you and your parents to know about her love interest just yet. Eventually she'll tell someone, but I still suggest you talk to her about it just in case It's not good.

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i like this boy at school- he's your average funny, sweet guy. i met him this year and i think he's so perfect no matter his flaws. he always can make me smile and i wouldnt want anything more in a guy.
my problem is he's a tad more popular than me and im not sure if he'd be interested. sometimes it seems he is, others it seems he doesnt even know who i am. i occationally talk to him in my science class where he sits next to me... [hurrah for assigned seating]... lol... but the only friend that is good friends with him is my friend kate. she used to be my best friend but over the years we went our separate ways. she wants me to tell her who i like because she will talk to whoever it is for me and help me with him. but im not sure if i should trust her- we arent the friends we used to be... but she is my only connection to finding out what he's thinking. im extremely shy around guys, and i dont know his screen name or email or anything... please help =[
-love is beaten me around

I think you should talk to him yourself, you know get his digits, aim, and e-mail so you can hang out after school and junk, and after a while you can have your friend give him little hints about you liking him and stuff if you decide to tell your friend (which I recommend, we like hearing from other girls about who likes us)! In the end I'm sure it'll work out great!

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