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I really need some advice...
Alright I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 17. A while back, we were hanging out; and I guess you could say things got a little out of hand. Well, I recently found out that I was pregnant. Today, my friend Amber (who is also pregnant, but not from my boyfriend) pushed me into telling my boyfriend. He didn't freak out, but he was upset. He told me that it'd be too much of a burden to have a baby now, and so he told me he wanted me to get an abortion. I'm very against abortion. I told him this, and he respected my opinion, but still tried to push me in that direction. He also suggested this "safe baby" thing. I don't really want to put my kid up for adoption either, because I can just imagine how much it hurts knowing your parents gave you up. My boyfriend doesn't want to tell his parents either, but he said he will, but you can tell how reluctant he is. He told me he loved me no matter what, but it was too much of a burden. I know he's not going to dump me, but he is afraid to keep it because he's going to college next year nad still trying to figure out his own life. Someone please tell me what I should do.
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This isnt too hard for me to answer because.. i have friends in the same situtation... since he thinks you should have an abortion... and yo dont like it sit and talk to him and maybe you could have it and .. give it to your parent or something
keep me at the bsis i want to hear more
*amber*
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tell ur parents! or talk to him about it more.. think if ur ready or not to be a mom and if not think of other ways theres abortion (which i think is kinda wrong) and adoption but seeing u said that u didnt wanna do that then u really have to decide if ur family would support u and if ur boyfriend would help support u b.c u cant do it on ur own.. hope i helped
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Hey sweety, I think that this descion is totally up to you. If you want to keep the baby then you should keep it and he should respect that, and your not the only one who had sex, he got himself into this too so he should have to be responsible for his actions too. If its really what you want then keep it, which i think is a good idea and a responsible thing to do. It will be a burrden opon him, but he will have to deal with this, its his responsibility, if he is willing to have sex then he should be willing to take care of a kid. Im sure he will respect you for your descion. Good luck and my prayers are with you.
if you need anything or ever want to talk when things get tough, let me know.
xoxo magz
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Look, your baby's life is important. And you're only fifteen, kiddo. If you're too scared to tell your parents, well, first off, that's bullshit, because you guys's parents won't stop loving you if you spring this news on them. But if they're not willing to help you care for a child, and that's exactly what you'll NEED them to do in order to assure that you'll get through high school and college, then your only option is to give your child up for adoption. I know it sucks, but trite as it may sound, you're giving them a chance for a life that you won't be able to provide, and it's better than the alternative. *pat pat* You might want to look into local organizations that specialize in helping single and teenage mothers, especially since there really is no way to guarantee that your guy will look out for you at all.
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Seems like at 15 you just don't have the time to take care of a baby. Neither does your boyfriend. First of all, don't get an abortion (I already see you're agaisnt it, my mom had an abortion and it ripped her apart) anyways I'd say have your baby and put it up for adoption. I know it's tough to think that you have to give your baby away but that's a consequence of messing around sry. yea it does hurt to have your parents give you up but trust me it's probably better for the baby. To give you a situation there is a woman in my church who just I think 2 years ago her biological son came to her (not her husbands son) when she was younger she made some mistakes and she put him up for adoption. Now he lives with his family they all get along and everything is great. it was a great reunion. I'd strongly suggest keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption. best wishes sry i know it's tough. Good luck!!!
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i think u should do whatever u feel is right..but first talk to your parents and maybi even to his parents too and talk to him but in the end listen to urself and do that.....sumtimes depending on the situation its better for the baby to be adoptedand wen its older usually they understand how hard it is for u to give them up and u were onli doing it for the best intrest of the baby...if ur against abortion then dont do that unless u want to i would never get an abotrion myself and i would keep the baby bcuz well im 16 and im a senior i have no idea what i want to do the rest of my life and it wouldnt ruin my life it would give more direction and i love kids but either way im sure u have an opinion or an idea of what u want to do alreadi so i think u should just listen to what other people have to say but together the advice and do what u feel is best for urself and the baby
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i think that you should talk to your parents and get some advice from them and make sure your boyfriend is there too so he can hear what the more experienced have to say. You should also talk to his parents about and get both views. I don't think abortion is the best answer. If your parents or his parents won't help and it comes to adoption if you can't afford it than I think you should put him up for adoption (only as a last option or last resort!!!)
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well u should tell ur parents and get the ok 2 keep it from them. u should keep in touch or go to court and get full responsibility for it meaning if you break up u can do that and if u win the case u keep the baby and he cant ever see the baby. u should also pray and stay out of stress. i hope i helped.
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Your best option is adoption (haha that rhymes), but really I'm trying to be serious here. Talk it over with your family and bf's family. Having a baby is going to have a huge impact on your life, ecspecially at such a young age. I have plenty of friends that were adopted because their mothers were very young. They are perfectly happy children. Some children will probably be upset about it but you need to make sure they are recieving responsible, kind parents. You should also tlak it over with your doctor and ask them what they think is the best decision. I hope you end up making the right decision, whatever that may be. Good Luck, and congradulations (on being a mother!!) I hope this helps.
xoxo happy.advice
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My dad was adopted, and he's fine, but yeah, it probably does scar you a bit. If you're pro-life, then no, don't abort it. You could talk to a gynocolagist(sp?) or counselor and ask them what's best. But I think you should have and keep the baby. Your family, him, and his family will probably help you. Hope everything works out.
~Laura~
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Keeping the baby really is not a good option. You are both young, and cannot support a family. I doubt either of your parents really want to take care of it for you either.
If you are hardcore pro-life, then you obviously shouldn't have an abortion. Adoption is your last and best option. I can understand where you're coming from about knowing you were adopted, but would you rather have your child go through that, or live a life of poverty? You and your boyfriend could more or less forget about school if you keep the child. You'd work while he took care of the child, and he'd work while you took care of the child. So, by keeping this baby, you would both be denied further education, as well as the simple pleasures of life. All your money would go towards food, rent, clothing, diapers, etc and NOTHING ELSE.
Besides, if you put the child up for adoption and is given to a good family, it's not like you will never see them again. Keep in contact with that family. Make sure the child knows who you guys are. Support them in any way possible. Maybe later when you are financially secure, and if the child has the will to do so, they could move in with you. Just a thought.
You can't keep the baby and you don't want to abort it. What other option do you have?
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