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hey im 16/f i've been dealing with a lot of internal turmoil lately over the past year i've become more n more attracted to BOTH sexes im really afraid to mention anything to my friends because we always joke around about being gay and i just think they will look at me weird it could just be a phase but i just wish i could talk to my friends about it what should i do what would you do if one of your freinds told you something unbelievable like that and on a lighter note--- relient k kicks booty!
haha, I love relient k! (if you couldn't already tell). I absoultely know what you mean, my friends and I always joke around about being gay n all. I understand how hard it would be to tell them for that reason. So the question is are these people really your friends? I can tell you this if one of my friends confronted me and said that she sorta liked both sexes or even if she was a lesbian, I wouldn't care. If she's my friend then I dont care what she feels towards people (as in love). So I would say maybe just talk to a guy friend. I've asked people before if they ever thought about being gay or lesbian and everyone has said yes. It's probably just a phase, I mean I think everyone in a way sorta has a curiosity towards the same sex? does that make sense? Like I know that I'm perfectly straight and that I dont feel anything for girls but I cant certainly look at Britney spears and think man she's hott she has a nice body. who cant? But like when I'm around girls I think hey nice friends, and when i'm with guys I get flirtatious and I really want them to notice me. So I dont know if that helps you in knowing how you feel. If you feel confident enough talk to your friends. Just dont come on too strong when talking to them, just say lately I've been sorta attracted to this one girl and I still am attracted to guys I was just wondering if maybe you guys for a second have ever thought of a girl in another way? If you dont want to talk to a girl talk to a guy or maybe a trusted adult. Good luck, if all else fails, I'll always be here if you want to talk about it!
hi i want to get into movies and theather but i am not sure where to start and i was wondering if You can help me out?
The best place to start out at is your school, if you go to school (sorry I dont know your age). Most school's have drama clubs that you can get involved in. This will give you expierence and the basics of theaters ie: how you should move, talk, etc... When you're in college you can take a theatre class there. My sister takes theatre at her college and I hear it's a great class. Also check for auditions in your city or near you. There are always auditions going on everywhere. Even the smallest more unimportant roles can get you into the movie buisness. One thing to remember is don't get scammed! there are many people who will make you pay money and dont plan on giving you anything in return. See if it's legitite first by checking out the place. Just remember, it takes a long time to get into movies. You have to really WORK and practice. the best places are going to acting schools. Take Orlando Bloom for example when he was young he went to a community theatre to learn acting. Then he studied in London and there he acted in the National Youth Theatre. He then attended British American Drama Academy. Lastly, he attended Guildhall School of drama and arts, this is where he discovered there were auditions for Lord of the Rings. He made his audition tape for Faramir and look where he ended up! But let's not forget it took him quite a few years to get there. So if you're entirely serious, start at your school then move on to acting schools near you. Hope I helped!
my moms best friends son is 14/m (hes going into 9th grade) and we went to dinner with them tonight and he was really quiet and while all the adults were talking and all the kids were running around he picked up his knife and started kinda sawing at the back of his hand and the second he saw that i saw what he was doing, he stopped. and later that night he asked if he could walk home to practice his guitar before they all got home (we are neighbors and we all live close to where we were having dinner but not close enough that most people would walk home right before a big thunderstorm) and when his dad said that they were all going home anyway he looked kind of mad. so i guess i have two questions, can you cut the back of your hand (like cutting suicide wise) and should i be worried about him like what should i do
please answer me really soon because if something happened we would all be heartbroken
and p.s. his mom said that he was never upfront snotty, but he never likes going places with his family and stuff and that he was doing well that night. does that mean anything?
sorry, this is a stupid question but i'm just worried about him!
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you have every right to be worried, and trust me this is one good question. First of all, you can cut anywhere. One common misconception is that cutters only cut their wrists. Most cutters cut in inconspicuous places such as their arms, wrists, thighs, stomach, etc... I think he obviously has a cutting problem. I'm not sure if you can commit suicide by cutting the back of your hand since their aren't MAJOR veins like the wrist. Look at the back of your hand, do you notice some fairly large veins? I do, and I think that entitles you to every right to be worried. This is a serious matter and I know that you don't what to over react to something possibly stupid or a misunderstanding, but this is life or death situation. You need to tell your parents what you saw, or his parents. An adult needs to know. You really cant do this for him but he really needs therapy, I dont know if you ever talk to him but if he has a cutting problem he can always wear a rubber band and snap it against his skin every time he has the urge. Anyways most likely if your worried it's something big. Tell your parents or maybe even his, I dont want you to regret not telling anyone if he was to do something worth. You'll be doing the right thing. And if he gets help what's the worse that can happen? He'll still be alive? Good luck sweetie, and don't be afraid to tell. I'm really glad you're concerned for him!
Hi, i have an very abnromal well vagina and it sticks out so when i wear any type of tight skirts or even just pants or jeans or anything my vagina looks like a penis rr something it just sticks out a lot. its bc i masturbate and have had that bone down there enalrged i think and bc guys have fingered me but i dont know what 2 do i regret it so much but how can i hide it? how can i find clotes that fit pls help
I'm really sorry, I honestly don't know what to say. I would say just dont wear tight tight clothes, but hey we're girls, that's what we wear! I'm acutally a very green person, so I've never really had any of these problems. The only thing I can really think of to say is find clothes that accentuate other features. Find tight skirts that dont hug the vagina area, you the know ones that flare a bit. You could just be very self-concious about it when it's really not noticable. Ask you're friends if it's really noticeable and if it is then maybe they'll have some suggestions. I dont think guys should technically be looking there, and if all else fails, in public places try wearing long shirts. I'm really sorry I'm not much of a help! good luck, I hope you find an answer.
My friend and i have been friends fro a while and i like her. She and i want to hang out but i dont know where to suggest. We are not boyfriend/girlfriend it is basicly a hang out and i dont know what to do. If you could give me some suggestions that would be awsome!
It all really depends on what you and her enjoy doing. When you say hang out do you mean just you and her or a group thing? As far as just you and her, you could always go bowling or cosmic bowling. If she doesn't like bowling you could always go to a movie. As far as movies sometimes it's thought of more as a date so it's easier to go with 2 or more other friends and just sit by her and talk. I've also gone iceskating with some of my guy friends and that was fun. Shopping is also a good thing to do although that might be a little weird since guys don't shop much. lol or do you guys? anyways check around what's in your area there is always something good to do. That's really all I can think of now, sorry, if you need anymore just ask and I'm sure I'll find more. good luck ;)
Hi guys,
Me and my husband have just moved into a new house...well, I say new, but it's actually ANCIENT. So ancient that we have no heating whatsoever!! The place was so expensive though that we can't afford to install heating for at least another year. The windows and doorways are all draughty too. So, my question is, as it is so cold at the moment, any tips of keeping warm other than the obvious 'put on another jumper'?
hey, i know what you mean, our furnace broke so we didnt have heat for a while either. What we did was we bought some really inexpensive down blankets. I know it sounds obvious, but down blankets are really warm. They are sorta cold at first, but they warm up to you and they become Extremely warm. Everything else has basically been said. good luck, and stay warm!! oh yea and if you have nothing to do, you can always run!
Ok well..to start off I was raped 3 years ago..and Ive been over that nightmare for a while. But Ive had two bfs since then and never had the same problem I do now. With my current bf I had the dream about my raper and his boys raping me again..noe my bf wasnt in the dream..but it didnt start having the dream until i dated him..and I love him..trully. But everytime I hug him I picture that in my head...and I do trust him..bte Im 15 years old
First of all I'm soo sorry you were raped! It can be really hard, and it's so emotionally distressing. I've had a few friends raped, and it's perfectly normal to dream about it and have a fear of it. It's hard to get close to a guy because in the back of your mind you can only think about being raped. If you really trust your boyfriend talk to him, tell him what happend to you. Also tell him how you feel and you and him should be able to get through it together. Also try getting counciling if you don't alreay, that always helps. A counciler can understand you and help you get over your fear. good luck, and remember communication is important in a relationship! best of wishes, misunderstood64
ok on aol I am trying to get a funny but cute screen name or just funny I am a girl and I am really tired of the one I have cookiemonster thx
I'm sorry I'm not all that great at the Screen names either but this is what I thought of:
RubbaDubElmo733
i am just gonna come out and say that i've been playing with anorexia but i have a question regarding the actual cycle. I'll do really well starving for awhile then ill end up binging and it just throws all my hard work out the window. what are some ways i can curb my appetite-are there any tips to prevent yourself from eating id rather just not put it in my mouth to begin with because if i eat too much ill throw it up anyways. also everyone always says to drink a lot of water to curb ur appetite but i do then i gain even more water weight-i know its just water weight but it makes it that much harder to step on the scale. help please!
Are you concious of your weight? is that why you're going anorexic? I know sometimes it's a controlling issue, and sometimes it just because you think you're fat. Really you need to eat, it's the most important thing to our bodies. When you don't eat the body thinks that the last thing you ate was the last bit of food it will ever get. The body slowly starts to shut down so it doesn't have to use that much energy. This includes the metabolism. You know that if you go anorexic you're going to be found out and some way or another you're going to recover from anoreixia or die, that's just a fact of life. When you recover from anorexia because the body started to shut down your metabolism is much slower, causing you to gain more weight faster. So in reality anoreixia can only make you fatter
:( Try eating healthy in very small portions to start out with. Maybe a bit of salad here and some crackers there. When you've finally started to eat normal, eat healthy salads, no junk food, drinking lots of water. Then you can exercise, it's extremely hard to exercise when you're anorexic, you just don't have the energy. If you have the energy you can run, and then you'll lose weight. It's actually said that if you eat small portions of good food throughout the day, ie: 6 meals a day, but small portions. Breakfast: a banana or apple, anything healthy, then maybe some more fruit or a small salad. For lunch half of a sandwhich, a snack the other half later. Always drink lots of water before dinner so you dont over eat, and don't eat after 6, you want to burn off the food before you sleep and turn it into fat. Try using these techniques. I promise you anorexia is an unhealthy way, I suffered from it for a while then i learned how it would only make everything worse. You probably are really skinny and pretty, there's no reason to treat your body in these ways. Eat healthy, you'll still lose weight, you'll be happier, you'll have energy, and most importantly you'll be well nutritioned so you can think! good luck, I really hoped this helped and I really hope you consider everything i said.
I have really hairy arms and its embaressing i dont know what to do about it. I cant shave because it will grow back darker and my stomach pluss back is hairy too . does anybody know what i can do?
Well you can easily wax your stomach or back, but really does anyone see your stomach or back? I guess sometimes they do. About the arms i would actually suggest shaving them. They don't make it grow back faster, I shave my arms and the hair grows back normal and the same color. If you want you can always "test" it on your hands, just shave your hands and see if it looks weird. good luck, I hope you find something that works for you!
i really need help!!! i cant seem to stay organized at school and i have possiable tried every method out there. So does anyone have a suguestion that might work ???
wow ok I am the EXACT same. I couldn't every find everything, everyone called my backpack one big folder because that's where all my papers went. To start out I went through all my papers assorted them by subject, got a folder to put those in then got a homeworke folder. Then I got a day planner. Whenever a teacher told me what was due and when it was due I wrote it down in the dayplanner. Lastly, I would look at everything i written down I then planned out my day for when I came home. I planned what i had to do to get my assignments done by the proper due date. It really helped and talk to your parents to help you. I know it seems stupid to but it really does help. Good luck, I absolutely feel for you here ;)
hi im kayla im 13 and im hoping you can help with this question and the future ones hopefully!! ok
i was wondering is 115 to much to weigh 4 a 13 yr old! im not fat but i have luv handles the things that stick out on the side of my hips and that makes me look fat! when i look i the mirror i see a gurl that looks overweight! i hate bein in thi body!! i want to be skinny!!! when i where tight shirts i always wear a jacket or hoody and zip it up till it comes to my chest! even if i do lose weight like to 100 my stomach still looks the same! o and thers No way im pregnant!i ask my friends if im fat and they say no! i somtimes think their just tryin to make me feel better! is there any advise you can give me?? + i am deppressed ALOT like everyday i cry!! and stuff is that it you think?i want to look skinny can you helpand i learned that starving myself doesnt work!! hope you can help!!! thanks kayla IM me if you want lildreamhunny14 bye!!!
I know exactly how you feel. I always struggled with that fact and I felt the same way you do. I'm not fat I just have lovehandles. 115 is a perfect weight for a 13 year old...matter of fact you're supposed to be around 120. It all has to do with yourself esteem. One thing I always told myself is that when I'm wearing something that I feel fat in, I just say wear it like you own it. If you act confident then you'll look good and feel good. You have to start changing your thoughts, your depression does have something to do with it. Life isn't that bad, and anything that is bad something good will come out of it, i promise you. There will never be anything in life that you can't handle. There are times when everything is horrible but you have to look on the brightside. I promise you, you aren't fat by your weight, you just think you. Make sure you buy clothes flattering to your stomach even if it's not skin tight like most shirts. Look at yourself, what do you like about yourself? Are you really that fat? Look in a mirror and turn to the side, are you really that fat? Look at people who truly are fat that struggle with weights around 160, they have problems, but you, you're perfect in every way. Guys like girls with some meat on their bones, girls that grosly boney and skinny aren't attractive. I've talked to my guy friends and they like the fact I have curves and a body, if I was skinner I'd be sickly looking. Lastly, talk to someone, it always helps to vent your feelings. You can always IM me anytime you need anything. Write down your feelings in a journal or listen to music, anything to help you vent. Lastly, don't be afraid to cry, crying is always good. Good luck, you're beautiful and skinny! IM me or leave one in my inbox for anything else
Hey, I'm a 17 Male from TN and I need a little help on how to deal with my brother. We are ferturnal Twins and a pretty close. He is a heavy drug user, smokes pot usually about twice a day and takes other drugs with it like Adderal (which he is not perscribed to). He's been doing it for around a year and a half now. He drives while hes intoxicated about everyday. He's been to Juvy, had his car taken away at least 3 times, and been on probation, but he wont quit!.
I want to tell my Mom about all hes doing, but it would ruin my relationship with him and would probably make his friends and my friends hate me (because we are twins we have a lot of the same freinds). Also, hes been in trouble so many times and hasn't changed that if i tell on him he might not change because of all the other times hes been caught. His life is in danger though and I might be doing the wrong thing by not telling him, but a lot of people need to choose by themselves or they won't quit. So I don't know what to do.
I know how it is to have a strong relationship with a brother or sister. You don't wanna spill their issues because you feel like you've betrayed them, but when it comes to life or death all that needs to be thrown out the window. If you tell your mom she can put your brother in rehab, rehab should help him get away from drugs unlike simple things like probation. I know you don't want to lose friends or your brothers trust but would you rather lost your brother's life? It's your decision, if you were wise you would save his life, he won't be mad at you forever, and eventually he'll thank you for it.
I give up. I dont deserve gods love. I am not worthy enough for it. He gives me a gift and i dont use it. I fail one class, i am a porn addict. I give up i dont deserve god anymore. I dont even deserve to live, i, i really dont care. i am not good enough. I am not as loyal to him as i should be. i dont deserve him at all. im done. Please give advice or a way to end it all
You need to change your thinking. If you always think, "I don't deserve him, I'm useless, why would he love me?" then you're never going to feel good or want his love. You can change. Get rid of any or all porn that you have, talk to someone to keep you acountable so you won't look at it. Get a tutor. Everyone has times when they are down in life but NEVER can you not be good enough for God's love. You're right you don't deserve God's love, none of us do, but because of God's grace he sent us a gift and through that he wants us. He doesn't care about what you've done he just wants you to come back to him. Pray to him and ask him to change your thoughts, to help you stay away from pornography and to do better in school. This is a long gradual process but nothing in life is a reason to end anything. Don't do anything stupid like that, God wants you here. At least you realize you're doing something wrong. A few verses to remember:
Psalm 51:
-Have mercy on me, O God, according to your unfailing love; according to your great compassion blot out my transgressions. Wasy away all of my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me. Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight, so that you are proved right when you speak and justified when you judge. Surley I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother concived me....Cleanse me with hyssop and I will be clean; what me, and I will be whiter than snow. Let me hear joy and gladness; let the bones you have crushed rejoice. Hide your face from my sins and blot out all my iniquity. Create in me a pure heart, o God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Do not cast me from your presence or take your Holy Spirit away from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.
( This was written by David when he committed adultery with Bathsheba, much worse than your problems)
-psalm 55 verse 22
Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.
- psalm 103 random verses
Who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's. The Lord works righteousness and justice for all the oppressed. The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger for forever; he does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him, as far ast he east is from the west, that's how far he has removed our trangressions from us. But from everlasting to everlasting the Lord's love is with those who fear him.
Ask God for forgiveness he will understand. I hope I helped, sorry it's so long.
On the flap outside of my vagina, i have this bump, and its been there for about a month, im still a virgin and ive NEVER done anything like fingering or blowjob or that stuff. I do shave, do you think its just a razor burn? Or what do you think it is, and what are ways to get rid of this? Thankyou
It probably is just razor burn, but it really depends on what size the bump is. Is it a big bump or a small bump? If it's small then it's most likely razor burn but if it was razor burn there would be more than one bump. Remember that is just get dirty down there so it could easily be a pimple. Somtimes stuff does get into your pores down there. Try squeezing it and see if anything comes out like popping a pimple if not, you might want to see your doctor. hope I helped!
ok well my mom just went away. she goes away every january andlast year she almost drowned twice!!! so i had this dream a month ago and i woke up crying because i thought she was dead, and it took me a while, and i really mean a while, to figure out it was a dream cause i thought it really happened. and i keep having these day dreams of her dying. idk whats wrong. please help me cause i don't want to be like going up to my mom saying "can i see a psychiotrist,i keep having day dreams of u dieing." so psychiotrist is out of the question. please help!!
sry bout the length!
it's already been answered why you have these dreams, you're worried about your mom and not being able to see her again. Or maybe you're scared since she almost died twice. I can't say your dreams are going to go away because they might not, you need help to cope with your worries. You said you can't talk to your mom or see a phychiotrist, what about your school counciler? they are there for you every second of the day. Try asking them, they can help, your mom doesnt need to know and best part it's free! good luck, I hope you stop worrying!
I am 14/f and don't tell me i`ve made the biggest mistake of my life...i know i've made a mistake and i`m gonna follow my responsibilities. My boyfriend, who I have been with for 11 months, has been in jail for 6... he just got out and we really like each other you know? Well, while he was in jail-i had a little side thing...with a 16 year old black male...lets call him mike..me and mike really liked each other and did it a lot..but when we did it on the first day of my period-something happened. Last night, my stomach was hurting sooo bad while talking to my boyfriend. So bad that my mom took me to the emergency room. She decided to give me a pregnancy test..and it`s positive. I`m nervous and all and 6 weeks pregnate in the 9th grade... I have the money and skills to support it..but MIKE doesn`t want anything to do with it. My dad wants it aborted but I want it...my mom does too. What would you do in my situation? And how do i explain to my boyfriend who is trying to get his life back on track?
First things first NO ONE here is entitled to call you a slut or whore, you're not. If you were to make the biggest mistake of your life it would be to abort the baby. Do you really want to kill your baby. Just think of the joy of having the baby in your arms. I can understand *mike* for not wanting to have anything to do with it, it is his mistake too, he should step up for his fault but you can't do anything about that. You probably will have to raise the baby on your own. I know it's tough, but it's much worse killing the baby. A woman I knew had an abortion and i just killed her when she was married and had kids to think she herself killed one because of her mistake. She wrote a letter to her baby asking the baby for forgiveness. She said that when had her baby a couple years after the abortion she cried because she could only think of the baby she could have have. She asked the baby to forgive her that she wasnt a cruel person and she loved the baby. over 1,000,000 babies are killed each year through abortion. You can always put the baby up for adoption if you can't afford. Good luck, I hope all is well for you and you have a healthy baby!
hey i know you all know the feeling.. im bored out of my brains! im at work at the moment im filling in for someone as a receptionist on my school holidays.. im on the computer all day and i get REAL BORED does anyone know any entertaining sites that dont involve sound or sex..?
homestarrunner.com is awesome, addictinggames.com, funkyjunk.com, anything like that if I think of more I'll let you know!
Hi, as many of you may of seen me post frequently,I am Mark. I have dissociative idenity disorder or multiple personalities. At first I didn't believe it but It became much worse. I just read an article about it and I have 90% of the symptoms. Should I get help? I'm an average 15 year old kid, just like some of you guys are or have been or will be. You remember what it was like to be different from everyone...What should I do, I'm for once stuck in life with not knowing on what to do..please help me.
-Mark
Have you been diagnosed as this or are you just assuming since you have 90% of the symptoms. If you are assuming you need to be prefessionally diagnosed. Talk to your parents about it and if you dont want to do that talk to your school counciler. If you do have it you should get help, who knows if you start getting help early when your older it may not even be apparent that you have this disorder. I'm just about your age, only 3 more months, I know how tough life can be, especially having a disorder. If you need to talk you can always IM, e-mail me, or leave one in my inbox. good luck, and talk to someone!
Im 14/f and lately ive been have a high amount of white discharge stuff. Ive had my period and stuff..but i don't know if this is normal..is it?? Plz Help!
yup! perfectly normal, througout you'll life you'll always have a lot of white discharge, gross huh?