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my moms BFFs son (i dont know what catagory to put thsi unde
my moms best friends son is 14/m (hes going into 9th grade) and we went to dinner with them tonight and he was really quiet and while all the adults were talking and all the kids were running around he picked up his knife and started kinda sawing at the back of his hand and the second he saw that i saw what he was doing, he stopped. and later that night he asked if he could walk home to practice his guitar before they all got home (we are neighbors and we all live close to where we were having dinner but not close enough that most people would walk home right before a big thunderstorm) and when his dad said that they were all going home anyway he looked kind of mad. so i guess i have two questions, can you cut the back of your hand (like cutting suicide wise) and should i be worried about him like what should i do
please answer me really soon because if something happened we would all be heartbroken
and p.s. his mom said that he was never upfront snotty, but he never likes going places with his family and stuff and that he was doing well that night. does that mean anything?
sorry, this is a stupid question but i'm just worried about him!
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Yes you can cut the back of your hand but it wont do much damage to you only because there is no vain or like major arteries and everything and yes you should be a little worried only because if he cuts his the back of his hands then he might cut some thing else beside that...
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umm... i am a cutter.. or was i guess... but this kid is mad if he is cutting in public!!! are you sure he is not doing it for attention? no i guess not i am soo sorry i even typed that... but i never like doing anything with my family.. or i didn't but i was clincally depressed and i did all the same things.. but i dunno.. i would talk to someone.. but first talk to him, then offer hima hand.. be like his counciler i guess.. but if he refuses yo open up tell someone what you saw
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You should be worried. Cutting your self is a serious thing. Many people do it so try to get rid of pain. I would recomend talking to him about it. tell him that he needs to see some one about this.
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First of all ! do NOt think that he cant kill him self from cutting. like what other advice said.
it had been proven that person CAN actually kill them self from cutting.
if he cuts too deep he can even end up in Emergency room
and if he accidently cuts his blood stream close to his wrist he can die.
and second of all you shouldn't tell his parents. try to work it out for your self
because he CAN kill him self he he find out his parents knew
because he might not want to deal with all the stuff his parents are doing
that why perhapes he didnt tell them in the first place
and third no of course your question is not stupid. i have friend like that who Enjoys cutting him self and burning him self and making weird signs with needle i think he told me he sewed him self or some sort and i was so scared and he do drugs like weed and smokes and get stoned and drink...and he has bad rep around school and even though he has friends... at first i thought he was major weirdo and problem kid because we live in same neighborhood and his mail was delivered to my house saying that he needed to go to qourt for something...and i told my self that i wasnt gonig to be like him. then i found my self cutting ... well i didnt cut deep or anything but cut to bleed a little and leave scabs or stuff...then i got my friend crying and stuff i didnt mean to make her sad and stuff but i read it on magazine this girl was doing it because it made her feel good and i guess i believed that and trust me... no good feeling came out of it...
sorry gettin carried away with my story...
well you can try to get to know him. like i did. well it didnt happen like gradually well kinda..
first you can go over to his house "saying your mom wanted to give certain things to his mom"
(it would be better if she wasnt home so you can talk to him easier)
and well you can bring some sort of stuff that he can be interested in.
if you have guitar it would be soo much affective.
here is my story again but it provides some info about how i got to know him.
i took guitar lesson and i brung guitar to school and he kinda noticed it.
and i made a necklace out of guitar pick. like punch a hole through the guitar pick and
hang it on your necklace like a charm. and i wore this doggy collar thing (i actually didnt buy at the pet store i bought it at clair's)
and wore it and he thought it was cool and i asked him if he wanted to wear it and he said ok
and he let me wear his skull necklace for class. and i am pretty sure kids who cuts them selves likes
those stuff... like stuff from Spencer's gift shop. and well that was my story providing info on how u can get his attention
and you can ask him to take you to the place where he takes his guitar lessons.
and you guys get to walk or whatever. and have "intimate" conversation.
oh yea now i remember how i got to know him better.
i was going to office to make copies for my teacher then i went to guidance office because i didnt know where to get copies
and i was favorite students around the guidance counselor. (they were also selling tickets to the dance then.)
so when i was wating for the copies to get uh...copied. that boy came in and we only said hi.
and i got my copy and i started leaving and he was still waiting for his ticket but i walked slower on purpose
(now i think about it , i always wanted to help him but i couldnt because i didnt really know him)
well then he catched up to me (as i hoped to be) then we started talking ...dont ask me what we started talking
because i have no idea. i forget stuff easily. then the lady who sold him the ticket called out to him saying
he forgot his change, then i said "well bye" then he said "wait" and i was surprised because we werernt that close
so i was like ok then he came out and we talked till we had to split our way for the class (we had different class)
than we kept talking even though we almost had to yell to hear each other.
and here was another stuff you can do. you can get to know him on the way to the guitar lesson.
and "accidently" bumping in to him in neighborhood.
and if you get to know him better and stuff you should ask him why he do that.
and its most likely he will say something like "because it feels good "
or something like that and he might not want to talk about it and if you feel that
he dont than drop the topic.
and well i dont know how i made that boy say this but he said
almost everone hates me. or something like that
and i said well i dont. and he started talking to me more then.
so if you can make him say that
i think i asked him why do you cut your self or something like that
or straight out asked him do you think people dont like you.
so you should ask something like that
than you have excuse to write him a letter like i did.
saying that people who hates you and dislike you are all bunch of losers and
they dont know you so you shouldnt even care for those people
and what im saying is, make him feel good about himself
and show (well tell in this case) that you are there for him and
you wont force him to talk. so write something like i will always be
there for you if you need someone to talk to . and say like Keep In Touch
'You know where i live and if you have email , send me an email
and give him your email address.
he might never send email to you, or come to talk to you.
but its most likely that he will. becaue that boy emailed me
and we are now good friends.
even though i might never be able to stop him from that
he will know who to talk to when he needs help..
and oh yea,, when your mom's best friend's son admits
something like he do drugs and gets stoned, dont freak out
say oh ? how did you get the material. and sound like
you think thats bad. because he will open up more if
you dont criticize him that way. trust me. its all good if you just
dont sound freak out.
and also you can do this to talk to him (but this only works if you are friend with him)
you can SCARE him. and write him an email saying stuff that he do. cutting , and saying that your life is living hell and it sucks so bad and it aint going to get better and that you decided to kill your self.
and if he calls you, dont answer the phone. and dont reply anything. (such as emails and letters)
and make him think that you really killed your self.
then surprise him by going over to his house and ask him to come with you to some coffee cafe or where ever you want to talk to him.
and ask him if you scared him... its most likely that he will say yes
and if he say no ,than forget him because than his not a good friend
but if he says yes,,, than tell him i am sorry but i had to do that because
i wanted you to feel same thing i feel when ever you cut your self and
injure your self.
and talk about it.
well i hope that helped and if you have more question
you know where to email me. and i hope this helped
with my life time story =)
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Yes its normal to be worried. I would try to talk to him. (my friends the same way.)
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tell his parents
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I think you should tell his parents just in case because this kid could seriously be calling out for help. I know it could be the possibility of him wanting to freak you out, but don't put that over his life. He may need help and of course he's going to deny it. It may be that too, of what your mother said, but I truly think that you need to tell his parents about what you observed last night. It might just save him you know. Hope I was some sort of help and have a good day. GOODLUCK TOO: YOU'RE GOING TO NEED IT.
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You cant kill yourself by cutting the back of your hand. At least, he would have to cut really deep for that to happen.(like cut a major bone first). You should be worried but not panic.
he is ok. in a sense. and as of the doing well that night, he really wants to be your friend. do him a favor, and be his friend no matter what. cutters are ussually mentally unstable ( no, not crazy) If you become his friend, he will open up to you. If you show him how nice humans could be, you will see him improve. If you do not, it will only further his reason to hate his life 'cause no body cares. So you are kinda stuck.
For the sake of righteousness. Be his friend.
since he is insecure, He automatically made you his role model with litlle hesitation, because he feels you are similiar to him. (same age group you know?)
So be the good role model, his life depends on it.
ps. I know that it is tough, but you can do it!
Cj
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You should be worried, but if thats what he does, then its his business. Just talk to him about it if you guys are really good friends. Ask him why, and if he opens up to you...he trusts you. Its tragic when people do this...but sometimes its the only thing they can have control over. Talk to him about it...thats all you can do. Just DONT pressure him to stop doing it just yet...he'll get pissed. Just ask him if he has ever tryed stopping...or when he started, etc. etc. Just ease your way into a conversation about how to stop cutting. You can get advice on that here...if you want, you could ask me..I just dont want to flood you with information just yet. ;)
Oh and FYI people who dont know this... but cutters dont just cut their wrists. They can cut all over....get your facts straight.
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you have every right to be worried, and trust me this is one good question. First of all, you can cut anywhere. One common misconception is that cutters only cut their wrists. Most cutters cut in inconspicuous places such as their arms, wrists, thighs, stomach, etc... I think he obviously has a cutting problem. I'm not sure if you can commit suicide by cutting the back of your hand since their aren't MAJOR veins like the wrist. Look at the back of your hand, do you notice some fairly large veins? I do, and I think that entitles you to every right to be worried. This is a serious matter and I know that you don't what to over react to something possibly stupid or a misunderstanding, but this is life or death situation. You need to tell your parents what you saw, or his parents. An adult needs to know. You really cant do this for him but he really needs therapy, I dont know if you ever talk to him but if he has a cutting problem he can always wear a rubber band and snap it against his skin every time he has the urge. Anyways most likely if your worried it's something big. Tell your parents or maybe even his, I dont want you to regret not telling anyone if he was to do something worth. You'll be doing the right thing. And if he gets help what's the worse that can happen? He'll still be alive? Good luck sweetie, and don't be afraid to tell. I'm really glad you're concerned for him!
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I would be worried also, I am not an expert but I think self-mutilation is a sign of some disturbance . If he seemed like he wanted to get away and was upset that he wasn't going to get any alone time he might be suicidal. But he is 14 maybe he has just some hormonal things going on and the knife thing was some sort of nervous habit
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Yes, I suppose you could cut on the back of your hand. You might not have seen anything, but just in case, you should ask a councilor at your school or something. Ask them what you should do, just in case and if you feel comfortable telling your mom, do so. They need to make sure that nothing is going on. Even if it's nothing, it's better to know, than find out after something terrible has happened.
Good Luck with that.
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