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Brother addicted to Drugs
Hey, I'm a 17 Male from TN and I need a little help on how to deal with my brother. We are ferturnal Twins and a pretty close. He is a heavy drug user, smokes pot usually about twice a day and takes other drugs with it like Adderal (which he is not perscribed to). He's been doing it for around a year and a half now. He drives while hes intoxicated about everyday. He's been to Juvy, had his car taken away at least 3 times, and been on probation, but he wont quit!.
I want to tell my Mom about all hes doing, but it would ruin my relationship with him and would probably make his friends and my friends hate me (because we are twins we have a lot of the same freinds). Also, hes been in trouble so many times and hasn't changed that if i tell on him he might not change because of all the other times hes been caught. His life is in danger though and I might be doing the wrong thing by not telling him, but a lot of people need to choose by themselves or they won't quit. So I don't know what to do.
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I understand how you and your brother are very close but you should tell your mom about this for she can help him. ♥ Michelle
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you should tell a parent or someone that can help him. you should also talk to him about it, and look at him and the eye, and tell him seriously that this could kill him. after you talk to him, ask him if he could to to your mom or dad himself, and try to help himself on his own. but if you do tell your parents, make sure hes either ok with it, or he doenst care, because then you wont hurt his feelings. hope i helped
~*ana
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I know how it is to have a strong relationship with a brother or sister. You don't wanna spill their issues because you feel like you've betrayed them, but when it comes to life or death all that needs to be thrown out the window. If you tell your mom she can put your brother in rehab, rehab should help him get away from drugs unlike simple things like probation. I know you don't want to lose friends or your brothers trust but would you rather lost your brother's life? It's your decision, if you were wise you would save his life, he won't be mad at you forever, and eventually he'll thank you for it.
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You need to tell your mom about this!! he may be mad @ first, but he'll thank you later! trust me!
Hope this helps!
~Alyssa
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Tough choice. But you can't worry about what his friends think of you. Would it be ok if they liked you at his funeral after he overdoses on some other drug? Tell whoever you can but it doesn't look like it'll do any good. Trouble and punishment doesn't seem to do any good. Military school is the only thing you haven't mentioned here. Try that I guess. I'm sorry for your family and you.
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Well, I think you should tell your mom. Even though it might brake the relationship of alot of people with you it is for your brother's own good. He might die and you might be the one blaming it on you that u didn't get him help soon enough or that u didn't tell soemone. Tell your mom. Maybe even like get an old flim of when he was younger and how nice and sweet he was and how he was safe. Then flim a video of him now and how bad he is and there is a less chance of him surving each day and how there is soo much difference and you like his old self better... Hope that helped
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Ask yourself this, sweetheart. Do you want him alive and angry with you, or dead and not feeling a thing toward you one way or another? Is his life worth the alienation of some friends with bad influence? Trust me there will be some in his drug crowd who will support you, even in silence. You are right that most likely he won't change until he reaches the bottom and choses to help himself, but then again could you live with yourself if the bottom turns out to be death if you didn't at least TRY to do something? Big hug! I know you are going through a hard time. My uncle was very like your brother. MY mother used to let him drink at our house so she could keep an eye out for him. If he was there and drunk, he wasn't somewhere else and high on God knows what. This worked ok for a while, he was one of those sweet, happy drunks who tells stories. It wouldn't have worked as long as it did otherwise, but still he came down. Ended up in rehab and AA. He's clean, has a great job and an awesome, funny wife. It can work out. Good luck!
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Okay. I think that you and your brother should have a nice talk alone together. Tell him that you are really glad to be his brother and that your worried that hes going to kill himself. Tell him that he needs to stop using so many drugs and try to put his life together. Also, tell him that your his brother and that you don't want him to die because of those drugs hes taking. Try to help him out as much as possible.
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You have to tell your mom. I know he'll be mad, but later on, he's gonna realize that you only did it because you care about him. If you never told anyone, and he ended up in the hospital, you'd feel really bad. At least try to help. Tell him he can die from doing that. And I know how you feel, cuz my brother smokes, does drugs, and drinks, and he's only 18. But you gotta tell someone. Good luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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well i know how it feels kind of because both of are dads were kind of like that, but now they are better because they got help. So i think you should tell your mom because he could end up hurting himself and then you would feel like you didnt do anything to prevent it. So thats what i would do. i.m me with anything else jilliix3
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