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recently i had a cast on my leg because i broke a bone in my ankle. now i have a splint on my ankle and i look like a retard. I know people at school will make fun of me. What should i say back to them?

Ouch! I cant imagine that felt good. Anyway they wont pick on you. Wanna know why? 1. Because they probaly dont care. 2. Because they would understand that you broke your leg cuz you have a splint on it. If they dont then just tell them to back off and say that you broke you leg. Im sure they have more important stuff to worry about than your broken leg.

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Ok, heres my story, im always getting yelled at, my brother and sister are always being obnoxious and screaming, my friends and my boyfriend are makin me choose who to be friends with, my mom wont get off my damn case about everything, especially school work, and im really stressed. Idk what 2 do.. im really sick of life. Is there anything I can do to be happy and be more independant at my house?? I dread weekends cuz i hate bing home nad im only 13

Yeah. I've been there once. Try to find a way to become closer with your family show her that your doing your school work and that your doing good in school. Your siblings will stop the yelling eventually. One of them will probaly lose their voice. Now, if your boyfriend and your friends are bossing you around then screw them. They dont decide what you do or who your friends with.

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Hey guys =D here's my question.. there's this girl @ my school, we're pretty good friends. A couple of days ago, she told me she liked me in a more then friends type of way. Problem is i'm a girl & i don't swing that way. I want to tell her that i'm not attracted to her in that way, but i don't know how to do that without hurting her feelings... any ideas would be great! thanks!

Tell her that your sorry but your not lesbian and that you cannot change for her. Tell her that you'd love to still have a relationship as friends but that you cant be anything other than that.

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I'm holding a handful of pills. I want to die so fucking badly but I'm afraid of destroying my family. They know i've tried to kill myself before*but endd up making myself just really sick* n havent let me see a shrink, i have absolutly no reason to be feelng this way. i had a fine day n now im looking at these things wondering what do to. i've taken a few, slowly. counting. but i jsut wanna fucking go but i dont wanna hurt people. i need to get the fuck out. can i run away for a bit w/o being arrested?
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THATS NOT THE POINT!!!!!! Just dont kill yourself! Look, you may think that your life is horrible but it will get better. Please. Dont kill yourself. Think about your family. Do you think that they want you dead? What about your friends? Please, dont kill yourself. Im begging you.

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hey i am going to formal soon and i got a dress and its really long down to the floor and stuff but soo pretty. and so then i find out everyone is wearing like shorter drsses like to their shins but mien is past the floor so wat do i do? i dont wanna be over dressed but i love this dress... wat wud u do

Why are you so concerned about everyone else? If you like the dress then wear it. Plus since your dress is long you'll stand out.

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I am 13, and I am going back out with my X Boyfriend, I'll call him Alex. Now, In our past Alex and I have went out two times. The first time we went out, everything was perfect. I thought I ment my true love. And he was in love with me, and I was in love with him. Then one night Alex and I went out to a hockey game. Amazing nigh, i had the best time ever. I thought nothing else could go wrong. After we both went home, I got on the computer and he said something mean to my best friend, Leah. And I asked him why he said that, and he started flipping out on me, saying that everything he does is wrong, he never does anything write. And he started cursing at me. Calling me things, then he said why don't you find somebody else thats better than me. And I told him, there is NOBODY that is better than you, I love you Alex. Then he said that again, took me out of his profile and put an away message up. He came back about 10 minutes later, and said he was so sorry he didn't mean anything he said. I was so mad, I didn't know what to do. I wanted to say I was sorry too, but i couldn't, I told him I don't want to take his crap anymore. And his only excuse was, ''I only had one girlfriend before, give me a break.'' And then I was so mad that he broke up with me, I went out with my other X-boyfriend Josh. (that same day). And Josh and I went to a football game the day after everything happened. And I really didn't like Josh, I just wanted to go out with somebody to make me happy, and try to get over Alex. And when I was going out with Josh, I was still loving Alex the whole time. Then at the football game, I couldn't take it anymore, I needed Alex, after seeing him there and everything, I couldn't help it but to remember everything that we had. So at the football game i broke up with Josh and went back out with Alex. We lasted about 2 weeks (at the most) and he broke up with me, because he said that he couldn't stop thinking about me going out with Josh. And then about two months after that happened, he went out with somebody else named Ali. And when they were going out, i was so mad. I couldn't help thinking about what we used to have the first time we went out. And while they were going out Alex and I started talking again, being close friends again. And I started loving him more and more every day. And one day he was so mad, and he wouldn't tell me why. He said ''I only need one thing to make me smile in this world''. And i was thinking about it all night, he wouldn't tell me what that one thing he needed to smile was. And I thought that it was me, the way he said it. Because then he said, ''Why do you want to know, you wont be able to give it to me anyways'' And then I told him that i still love him, and I need him so bad. A couple days after that, he told me that that one thing he needs was me. He said he never stopped liking me. I couldn't beleave it. And now were going back out again. For the third time. I acutally think this time is going to work, and he tells me he loves me soo much, and everything else like that. And I beleave him. And that's what he told me the first time we went out. And I wanna beleave him, but I keep thinking about what he told me the first time. And im scared he's going to get me to love him again more and more, then break up with me again. What do you think I should do? Beleave him or not? XoXo **AmberO**

First of all. If it didn't work out the two times before, what makes you think its going to work now? He over-reacts way too much. I understand that he loves you and that you love him. If he gets all pissed off that you asked him why he insulted your friend then you obviously dont want to be around that type of person. I say tell him to back off. He blew it the first and second time. Why should you believe him now?

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Okay,I'm goin out with this guy.And im starting to get sick of him pickin on me insted of loving me.Like the other day at a game he was like hittin my leg,i know hes just kidding.But its getting on my nerves..

Ekuse me? Hitting you. No no. Don't let him take advantage of you. Be strong and tell him that your not playing his stupid games.

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Ok there is this New Guy that has been at my school for like 3 days. And he Sits at my table for lunch, and he also is in my Gym class and my S.S class. And i think he is cute but i don't know if i should tell him or not. Can you guys please tell me if i should your not.

Since he in so many of your classes your fully able to talk to him. Start conversations with him and try to become friends.

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Hey, I'm a 17 Male from TN and I need a little help on how to deal with my brother. We are ferturnal Twins and a pretty close. He is a heavy drug user, smokes pot usually about twice a day and takes other drugs with it like Adderal (which he is not perscribed to). He's been doing it for around a year and a half now. He drives while hes intoxicated about everyday. He's been to Juvy, had his car taken away at least 3 times, and been on probation, but he wont quit!.

I want to tell my Mom about all hes doing, but it would ruin my relationship with him and would probably make his friends and my friends hate me (because we are twins we have a lot of the same freinds). Also, hes been in trouble so many times and hasn't changed that if i tell on him he might not change because of all the other times hes been caught. His life is in danger though and I might be doing the wrong thing by not telling him, but a lot of people need to choose by themselves or they won't quit. So I don't know what to do.

Okay. I think that you and your brother should have a nice talk alone together. Tell him that you are really glad to be his brother and that your worried that hes going to kill himself. Tell him that he needs to stop using so many drugs and try to put his life together. Also, tell him that your his brother and that you don't want him to die because of those drugs hes taking. Try to help him out as much as possible.

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we've gotton together and dated...currently we are best friends...and hes been playing the field (like every typical teen boy)....we hang out and talk non-stop....he still puts his arms around me..hugs me..kisses me on the cheek sometimes..affection is definently there.

i wish we were together.
i love him to death...today he said he loved me..but it was just as friends when we were hanging out.

he doesn't want a relationship right now so i'm not going to tell him how i feel just because i know that is a bad idea.

what in the world do i do-hes incredible and i love him to death?

Hmmm...Lets See. You shouldn't push it. In otherwords, since he dosen't want to go out with you then you should wait until he changes his mind(if he ever does). If you truly love him the way you say you do, then you should be happy that at least you guys are really close friends.
I hope I helped you.

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everybody tells me that i am very pretty. guys notice, but they are so hung up on the popular snobby girls. i hate it. its like all they want is to be popular. they don't even care about personality. what should i do!?!?!?! please help!
guys are wierd! i've already asked some people for help!! please help me asap!

Typical Guy thing. Yes, the popular snotty girls get all the boys. Well, boys will be boys. You cant always expect to be the one asked. Maybe you should try asking them.

I hope i helped you

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im not really good at dancing. i have school dances and such but i dont know how to dance. can someone tlel me any sites that show how to dance in hip hop or any movies that have great dance moves

No, Sorry. I dont know of any sites but you could watch some music videos that have dancing in them. For example: 1,2 Step by Ciara.

I hope that helps,

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I used to cut myself. Don't worry I don't do it anymore but I was wondering if any one knew how to cover up or get rid or the scars. Because one day while I was in school this kid Joe saw them and started making fun of me. I can't help what I did and i'm tired of him saying things to me , and for me to always having to hide them from everyone in fear that people will thing im weird. Thank you in advance! xoxo - KrIsSy*

Well, cutting yourself is a bad habit. Its a good thing you stopped doing that. They're are special lotions for that problem.

Now, about that kid whos sayin crap about you. Well, just ignore him. Who gives a damn what he thinks about you?

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Im 14 and i broke up with my boyfriend two weeks ago. His best friend likes me alot and we went out before but broke up because i had to move but i moved back here again. An i like him extreamly alot also!! But my x boyfriend likes me sooo much and i dont like him and he knows that... So shuld i go out with his bestfriend even though my x likes me alot.. or shuld i just be single? Please help me =/

Okay, I'll try and make this as simple as possible. If you dont like you ex boyfriend anymore then don't date him again. Simple right? Now onto his best friend.

If you like your ex boyfriends best friend then go out with him. If you like him, and he likes you back then obviously you guys should go out again.

I hope I helped you out,

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