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what does it mean to get your cherry popped? do you bleed?

It means inside of you there is a very thin piece of skin-type material and when you have sex for the first time people call it popping the cherry b/c you do bleed if it's not already broken. However, everyday activities can also break your hymen, or "pop your cherry." It could break from bike riding or any really vigorous activity or i have heard it could break from using a tampon but, I am not entirely sure thats true. Hope I helped.

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Okay, so i used to think hooking up was sex...most people do. Well some people in my school were saying like "omg jen and bret hooked up this weekend!" (im in 8th grade btw) and i thought wait, its way to early for sex and i asked wait what did they do, they said they made out. So people-boys and girls, of all ages, what in your mind is hooking up?

here at my college, hooking up like at a party is making out. at least thats what my friends and I think.

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Hi i'm 17 years old and me and my boyfriend (he is also 17) have been dating for 2 and a half years. I am so in love with him and I know that he loves me, but I think that since we have been dating for so long that he feels like he doesn't have to be romantic or say things like "I love you so much blah blah...you know the stuff that makes you feel happy really in love. Well how do I tell him that I miss it when he use to say stuff like that to me and how he used to treat me special. Now I feel like we are some married old couple I mean don't get me wrong everything is good I just miss that first time feelings of when he said sweet things to me. I'm sorry if this is really confusing ,but Idon't know what else to do.

my boyfriend and i were like that. we had been going out for a year. what i would suggest is to find something that first drew you two together and do that again or something. Like going to a concert or something.

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So i am going to go on birth control for my irregular periods and i have a really small chest. like hardly an A and its so embarassing. i know the pill also makes your boobs grow and iwas wondering how long would it take to grow a whole cup size?

well, i have been on the pill for 7 months now, and I haven't grown a whole cup size, but they have grown a little. bit. I wouldn't count on the pill to make your boobs bigger.

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14/f
okay, so heres the deal. i always know when im about to get a sore throat, i feel my throat acting weird a few days before, and i get chapped lips. well i got that sign yesterday and its a little worse today, but im not totally sick yet. i have something important to do saturday, so i need something to stall my sore throat until late saturday or something. ive been drinking alot of orange and grapefruit juice for the vitamin C and ive been using chap stick for my lips and everything. i need something to stall/eliminate this cold or whatever it is, so please, if you know anything that will help let me know asap. home remedies are great also! early answers are appreciated

THANK YOU!

when i have a sore throat i tend to drink a lot of tea. i drink it hotter then I would normally, but let it go down slowly. It is best if you dont add any sugar to it. Just drink it straight.

(sorry if you don't like tea.)

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okay, so theres this guy, lets call him.. well, lets just call him boy. so last year, by friend really liked boy, and i thought he was adorable as well, cuz well, he`s the cutest thing ever, but i didnt know him. he was in high school, and me and my friend that liked him were in middle school. so my friend moved about half an hour away, so she goes to a different high school and doesnt talk to him. at the beginning of this year, we started talking and we hung out a bit. then he snuck me out, just the two of us, and he kissed me. but at this time, he liked another girl. like, really really liked this other girl, but that other girl went to a different school, so they didnt talk much besides online. the next day, after the kiss, i asked him what it was all about. he said it was just spur of the moment and stuff, but i really liked him. after that we kinda stopped talking. now hes trying to get over the other girl, and were talking again and stuff. today, when we were walking, he grabbed my hand and now im so confused and i dont know what to do.

I have been in this position. I liked this guy and he liked me he just didnt want to go out. So we would talk and hang out once and make out. But then he wouldnt talk to me for another couple of months. Then the same old again. One day I was just like forget it. So, my advice is to ask him exactly what he feels and then if you dont like the answer give up. Because any boy who plays with your feelings is not worth your heart. he will just abuse the unconditional love you would give him, and his love might be just to get some.

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15/f

Yup, you guessed it. I'm a girl who can be outgoing but who can also be quite shy. I'm confident but when a guy is shy I tend to act the same. This guy at school likes me and it is common knowledge. He has asked me to a movie a few times but I have always been busy, unfortunately. We see eachother sometimes in the halls at school but only say hi rather than full conversations. I was wondering if anyone had some good techniques to catch his attention during those brief moments or "excuses" to have a conversation.

Other info:
- I am thinking of inviting him to a party next weekend but before then I would like to talk to him more at school

Thanks! =)

Use the party to have an excuse to talk to him. Go up to him and be like hey whats going on? and then be like I am having a party on ________ and I would love it if you came. Then if he accepts then you can have a reason to tell him your address or number (if he doesnt already have it.)

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This is a long story, but I could use the help. First of all - when I like a guy, I like him a LOT, I never stop thinking about him.

In this case, I met this boy John from my friend Sean. A couple months ago at a football game I was talking to Sean and then John came up to talk to both of us, and I had never met him before. He was absolutely the best guy I've ever met - I swear! A simple 5 minute conversation and he was already one of my favorite people (we hardly even talked just between us though, we were all kind of joking around). I didn't like him yet though. I just thought he was really cool.
So since then it's just been every time we see each other in the halls at school we'd wave or say hi. He isn't in any of my classes and he is a year older than me. Soon after that football game though I realized that I had felt completely comfortable talking to him right away. I am usually pretty shy when it comes to new people. It was amazing how comfortable I was with him, like I'd known him forever, and the more I thought about it, the more I liked him. Now I think he's just the most adorable guy ever. I've talked to one of my good guy friends who knew him a few years ago and he can't say anything bad about John. Apparently he was one of the coolest guys he ever met also.
Recently I talked to another one of my guy friends, Brian, and he said he remembers one time around the week of that football game, he was at a swim meet with John. Brian texted his friend that he was mad at him because he almost made a move (on his girlfriend) but his friend ruined it. John read it and said "Who (my name)??", then Brian said no, and John said "She's pretty hot eh?" All according to what Brian told me. I flipped when I heard it lol.
Well, so far, it's been hi in the halls for the past 2 1/2 months or so. I don't want this to just fizzle out, but I don't want to directly tell him we need to hang out because I hardly know him and I never have the chance to talk to him since we only see each other in the halls.
Brian said he would try to talk to him soon and maybe that would help, but I just want to know if you have any suggestions as to how I could get John to notice me?

well what I would do would talk to him a little bit in the hallways. Between classes. Maybe snag his number and call him up sometime. or if not the number AIM or myspace even. But just start talking to him more often and be confident. But do not be overly talkative. Nothing is more sexy then some mystery.

EDIT MORE INFO: Well when you do get lucky and get a chance to talk to him for more then a HI, ask him how is day is going and listen to him. Ask him what kind of music or movies he likes. Just start with small simple topics. I get what you are saying about being a bad conversationalist, i am too, but i have been working on it. On myspace one day just message him and be like, "Hey what's going on? We haven't talked in awhile so I just wanted to see how everything was going." Chances are he will say something in the reply that you can keep talking about.

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my guy friend goes to a different school. he was supposed to go to the dance with this other girl but those plans fell through. i was thinking if he still wanted to go, i could get him a ticket. but maybe his plans fell through cause he didn't want to go??? i don't want to be turned down, but should i ask him anyways? i think it would be fun if he came. what should i say to him?

I would just ask him be like, do you want to go to my winter formal as friends with me? If he is your friend he shouldnt turn you down especailly if you make it clear you are going as friends.

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“You can change your environment, but if you do not change yourself, the environmental changes are not effective”

I have an idea.. but I'll like to hear about what others view it as.

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To me is says that If you change your surrondings but you are not open to the changes then you can not truely enjoy the change. Its like moving to a new city. If you move and dont try to make new friends, then you will be miserable. But if you attempt to make new friends then you will have adjusted and matured somewhat.

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i just don't know what to do! i went out with this guy and we broke up. but everytime i see him at a party or text him or whatever he pulls me back into him. like i start to like him even if i like some other guy. its crazy i guess he just has something about him that i really like. the thing is, he pulls me in, it doesn't work out and we don't talk until the next party. what should i do?

What I would do, is I would stop calling/texting or partying with him. If you don't want to get hurt, keep telling yourself why it never works out with you too and then tell yourself something that bothers you about him. You just have to keep telling yourself that you are more deserving of a boy who it will work out with. I used this technique to get over my ex, and it worked well. Good luck.

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okay. my boyfriend and i have been together for about ten months & tommorrow hes coming to my house while my parents are at work. now, we've done this many times. but all we've done is like, fingering. & im not scared to give him a handjob but i feel so .. unexperienced. like i'd mess up. but i dont want him to feel like hes the one giving all the pleasure.

help, please?

take your time. thats the best advice i can give you. ask him what he likes if you "mess up" ask him to show you what he likes. ask him to put his hand over yours to show you what he likes. If he finds you less sexy because you don't know what you are doing, then he isnt the one for you. if you have any other questions, feel free to ask.

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I heard a song on the radio today. The lyrics went something like this:

Hey... Gooooodbye. Wish you stayed here... I wish you were here."

I think someone in Staind has something to do with this song but I'm not positive. I've been looking these lyrics up on Google for hours and nothing. Any help with this will be greatly appreciated! Thank you.

Could it be Army of Anyone. The song is called Goodbye.

These are the lyrics: Yeah, I got this thinkin' in my head
Yeah, you wanna say the things not said

Whats the reason?

Don't really care if you leave
Just wanna see you beaten
Don't really care if you grieve
Don't really need a reason

Hey, goodbye
I wish you stayed here
I wish you were here

Yeah, I got this feelin' in my veins
Yeah, a helpless feeling mixed with pain

What's the meaning?

I just can't believe
that you're not really with me
I just can't believe
I wonder if you'll miss me

Hey, goodbye
I wish you stayed here
I wish you were here

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15/f. my best guy friend recently admitted to me that he has a major crush on me. however, i see him as a brother (and he has remarked that he still sees me as somebody that he can talk to). he and i have talked about how we're always going to stay friends, even if we have feelings for one another because we have a really good friendship. he also asked me if i'd like to go with him to a banquet next year as friends, and i said yes. my only concern is that now things are going to be awkward between us. how can i let him know that it's perfectly fine with me if he likes me, and how would you feel if you were in his position?

I was recently in the same position. I told my best guy friend that I liked him. But I didn't allow it to become awkward. I felt really weird after I told him (seeing that i have a boyfriend and i have liked him forever.) But we got over it. Now I am just friends with him. That's how i feel being in "his position."

But I would say that things wont get awkward, unless you let them. Keep talking to him the amount of time that you talked to him before he said he liked you. Don't hide things from him. Keep him up-to-date on your life, and keep him as a "brother."

To tell him that you are comfortable with him liking you, mention it casually and just say online or something like : "I know that you like me, and thats fine with me, I just don't want to lose this amazing FRIENDSHIP we have." Something along those lines. Beating around to tell someone somthing never works, be straight with him, like im sure you have been.

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what does it mean to give head ?

To give head means to suck on a guys dick until he comes. Depending on how comfortable you are with the guy, you can

A,let him come in you mouth and you can swallow it.
B,let him come in your mouth and you spit it out
C,let him come somewhere other then your mouth

It's really your choice, don't let him tell you what to do. Do with what you feel most comfortable with.

Hope this helps. If you have anyother questions feel free to ask.

Rachey

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Do girls masturbate, because it seems like1 out of every 15 do. So if I was wondering if girls get grossed out by guys and or girls masturbating. I feel like asking my gf if she ever has [out of curiosity] but idk how...or is that too personal?

Yes, many girls masturbate. I will admit that I do and so does one of my firends. My boyfriend is actually the one who got me into pleasuring myself. So I really don't think that she would mind. If she does mind then she should just say she would rather not discolse that information. But really she shouldn't be ashamed to admit if she does. It is a wonderful experience.

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I just turned 16.
I am probably one of the most inexperienced people you know...
THe farthest i have gone is holding hands... with a FRIEND
I recently got my first boyfriend and we were "together" for 3 days... haha
but i really want to meet someone for REAL...
I see my best guy friend and how happy his girlfriend is and i just wish that i could feel that for once...
Im not desperate or anything i just wish that I could feel love from someone...
Ive lived almost 16 years as a single girl and i just wish for once I could have a reason to go to school other than my friends.
I am like one of the only people in my group that is single... and it hurts...
it makes me feel like im not worth loving.
My question is... do you have any advice on what guys like in a girl or a reason to give up or go on? Thanks so much
*madd*

Hey, I was in the same position you are a little over a year ago. I had the closest group of friends ever. We all got along and it seemed that everyone was going out with someone. When me and this guy started talking he was seeing someone else, but that was going down the drain quite quickly. Well we talked all night on Halloween. We went out trick-or-treating. We couldn't stop talking. It was great.

I found that It is best to be able to talk to a guy without freezing up or not being able to think of anything to say. Trust me its awkward when there is an awkward silence. (They creep me out.)

If you have a special someone in mind start to talk to him with light topics. You don't want to delve in too deep at first. Try these to begin:school, music, movies. Next time you two talk try family and friends and sports. If he is a sporty person, go to one of his games or meets and then tell him next time good job and keep the conversation going after that.
Once you two have become close friends try topics such as love, relationships, and the future. When you leave him, if he drops you off at home or you are leaving school, give him a hug. Leave little hints when you talk to him about everyday things about how you want someone (don't sound desperate though, it scares/creeps them out.)

any other questions feel free to ask me.

Rachel

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me and my x bf have been on and off for 2 years and even if were off were still kinda together...like holding hands..etc...and one day he went to a party and got with a girl..and he called me that same nite and told me that all my friends are going to be lying to be the next day sayign that he got with someone but its not true...well i found out its true and he admitted it to me...and i just want to know if i have a right to be mad..because he doesnt think so...

you definatly have a right to be mad. First off, you two were "still together" when he hooked up with antoher girl. And Another thing, who has the nerve to call someone they are seeing and say that their friends are gonna be lying tomorrow. Wouldnt you want him to tell you that he did hook up with someone, rather then pinning your friends as liars.

Rachel

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well im 14/f (15 in 2 monthes) and there's this guy that i like and he's 17 but im not sure he'd really be into me since he's 2 1/2 years older. people i didn't know have thought i was 15 or 16, because i just look older i guess, but i was just wondering if some guys out there (that are around 17 or 18) could tell me if you wouldnt mind the age gap or if it would make you feel uncomfortable?

I am not a guy. But I am going out with someone who is 3 years older then me (im 16 and he's 19). It depends if he is comfortable with your age.

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My Boyfriend and me just had a little fight , well the head cheerleader heard about it and now she's al over my boyfriend and were not even broken up , well we made up and she still wants him , she like bends down in front of him with her cheerleader clothes on or she trys to sit with us and well she drives me crazy , but the thing is my boyfriend dosnt like her and he's the star Quarterback on the football team, and he tells her to back off , is he the good kind of boyfriend every gurl wants? plz help

OMG!!! yea that is the greatest b/f ever. even if you guys fought and then he gets hit on but yet tells her to back off. he is oh so loyal to you and you should be so greatful for that

hope i helped

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