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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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i got a detention today in school.. ive never gotten one before and i know if i tell my mom she will be pissed off and ill get the comeputer,cellphone and EVERYTHING taken away.. i dont know what to do!!.. pleaseee help ill rate high! (link)
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There's nothing you can do. Just take the detention and be done with it and then tell your mom the truth afterward, because I gaurantee if she finds out from the school instead of you, you will lose alot more. Be honest.
Best of luck and hope this helped.
-Ryan
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okay so i am in 6th grade and tomorrow me and my boyfriend are planning on hooking up. It will be my first time, but the only problem is that i don't know how! i know what it is and all, i just don't know how to do it so that it's feels nice for him also. If you could please give me some pointers on how to do it, that would be greatly appreciated! i rate 5's! Thanks! (link)
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You need more info.
Actually, you just need to define "hooking up" for us. Because the most familiar meaning of "hooking up" to me is when a guy and a girl get together and become boyfriend and girlfriend.
Please specify, and I will answer this question more thoroughly when you do.
Until then,
-Ryan
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Iam 16 years old and I was wondering how old do I have to be to move out without a parent's permission in the state of georgia so I can move in with my boy friend?
Thanks in advice. (link)
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You can't be declared independant until 18, almost anywhere in the United States.
Why would you want to move in with your boyfriend at 16 anyway? That seems pointless to me.
-Ryan
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In the movie Napolean Dynamite, he goes " do the chikens have large talons? " what are talons? (link)
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Use a dictionary and find out yourself.
Seriously, more effort was put into typing this question then effort that could have been used to open a book and search "TALON"
Or even going to a dictionary website and typing it in. Jeez.
*edit* Yes you are completley right, this is an advice website, however what you asked for, wasn't advice.
-Ryan
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I would like teenagers to answer this one,
My daughter is 13. But the clothes she wears are not...happy. She always is sarcastic. She listens to strange, loud music. Is this the fashion these days? Should I let her be? (link)
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Greetings.
If at all possible, could you describe your daughter a bit more? Because I can think of a few clothing fashions that are not happy. Are the colors all black, are they obscene shirts, etc? Also with strange, loud music. Could you describe that a bit more as well (more of less so you can get a better answer from columnits who may write to answer this). But from the info you have given, I will try and answer as best as I can.
Most teenagers and pre-teens are by nature, sarcastic, some more than others and some less. And being a teenagers I can relate to that, so in all honesty, sarcasm while being a teeanger, is nothing more than joking around and alot of parents jump to the conclusion it is a sort of disrespectful spite that we have. It's not, so that's normal.
However, the strange, loud music, can be alot of things. I myself listen to alot of different kinds of music that is loud and to some people, quite strange (such as more foreign bands and groups). Now the only reason I would tell you to be concerned about that music would be if the music involves alot of words referencing to killing yourself for love or because of no one understanding you, lots of swear words, or flat out obscenity.
Fashion in both of these things is very varied these days. I have seen alot of different styles of dress and music and some of it yes is bad, but some of it really doesn't have a negative affect. You have to let her find out herself what she likes to do, how she likes to dress, and what she likes to listen to. That is all part of growing up and some mistakes and lessons will have to be learned on the persons own. I really don't have enough detail to tell you if I think she should be doing it or not, but if you add more, I'll write back on it.
I'm sorry for the length of that but I felt a little extra reading about teens these days would help you form a conclusion for your question. And I am glad to see a parents use this website once, because alot of times all I see on here are teenagers who probably should be talking to their parents instead of asking us about certain things, so it is nice to see a parent asking a question for once.
I hope this helped though, and sorry I couldn't have helped more.
-Ryan
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About 3 weeks ago i had sex with this kid hes 16. Well While we had sex he didnt use a condum untill i asked him to. (i know i should have asked a head of time)(but its to late for that now)well im having the feeling im pregnant (scary thought) i was going to wait a couple more weeks and take a test. And Suggestions? and if the test is positive what should i do? please help im almost 15 and really scared at this moment (link)
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Well the best think you can do, is kick yourself for losing it.
Seriously, if you don't know the risks and everything about it, don't freakin do it. It's not hard, you can get information as easily as you wrote this question.
Since you did do it and you might be pregnant, you will have to live with the choices you made. I would absolutely suggest if you are, that you sit down with both your parents and tell them and bring the boy's parents over too so they can now and discuss you options from there. There won't be alot and there probably is going to be a lot of upheavel, but your going to have to do it and live with what you did.
I'm sorry your so scared but you really should've thought ahead. I just hope you can get everything straitened out now. Good luck.
-Ryan
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hey...did anyone notice...that the new "in" thing is acting ghetto? last year,it wasnemo rock whatever....now its ghetto...what the heck? why cant people be original and now follow the crowd? how can i not follow ANY crowd? everyone in my school follows the trends...and im just there,i want to stick out ina good way...any way i could do that? thanks...also...are you with me on this? (link)
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To answer your question bluntly.
Most people, but nature, want acceptance and will do anything to achieve it, which is sad because it robs us of individuality and creates more conformity, and not the good kind. People sometimes need something else to do the thinking for them, and sadly, this "ghetto" look is doing just that.
The best way to counter this is insanely simple. Be yourself and no other. Have your own sense of personality, dress, style, everything is your own and no one elses on this earth. Remember that and you will stick out for sure.
I hope I helped, and this trend ends soon, who the heck would want to look "ghetto"?
-Ryan
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you know the sweatpants at victorias secret ... that say pink or whatever ... around how much do they cost ? like a lot ? thx, i rate high (link)
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As said before me.
Google it or actually take the time to visit the website and look at the price, it isn't hard at all.
-Ryan
*edit* Because you want the pants, not me. You can take the time to look them up yourself instead of asking here, I just told you where to look them up.
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My girlfriend is almost a week past her period, and we're 16 and we're scared that she's pregnant. She doesnt have any signs of pregnancy, but she said she does have vaginal discharge and we're hoping that's not a sign... any help? (link)
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Hey um, hint.
If you don't even know how to tell you are pregnant, then there is absolutely no way on God's great earth you should even be having sex, none whatsoever.
So here's the hint. Before she tries it again, she needs to read on the risks and learn how to NOT get pregnant, then she wouldn't have to spend time worrying about something, she shouldn't be worrying about. It's so simple, so think ahead and you won't ever have to worry about any of this.
-Ryan
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I met this girl this year, and we quickly became best friends. We ate lunch together every day, saw eachother outside of school, and we had English together so we would always see eachother. Semester 2 began, and she started to eat lunch with the guy she liked and his friends, leaving me all alone. I found a new group of friends while she continued hanging out with her crush and his group of friends. I confronted her about it right after it started and we argued about it so much we didn't talk for 2 weeks. We made up, but things still aren't the same. She says its important that she gets the guy, but I always thought our friendship was more important. It's been a while now, and we still don't talk often (VERY rarely), never see eachother, and I don't know what's going on in her life anymore. I want our friendship back, but I don't want to fight about it again and have it be even worse. What can I do? (link)
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The situation you have just described, is part of growing up (as many before me have said).
Sadly, this is unavoidable and almost unconrtollable. When teens (not all however) get a special "other" or strive to get one, the friends become a second priority, which is absolutely sad and annoying. Your going to lose friends over other people they like and absolutely MUST spend time with, when the significant other should be a second to friends. Your friends are gonna be there for a much longer time than a boyfriend or girlfriend because alot of times, highschool relationships do NOT last. So your freinds will be there, the other most likely will not.
Move on, that is about all you can do. This person has obviously demonstrated her prioritys, and you have yours. So there is nothing left to do.
I'm sorry for your loss, but I hope the words I wrote helped.
-Ryan
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Okay, a week ago, this guy who I barely even know (I don't even know his last name) sent me an e-mail declaring that he loves me and wants to be with me. I sent him a very polite decline, because I just do not feel that way about him at all, and now he keeps on e-mailing me with guilt trips about how he thinks he's going to be alone for the rest of his life, and he keeps telling me that he loves me. I suspect that he thinks that if he keeps doing this that I'll change my mind...I don't quite know how to deal with this. So far, I've treated him like I would want to be treated were I in his position, but he's starting to make me feel really uncomforatble. What can I do??
Thanks! (link)
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This sounds like a very, very light case of erotimania, which is the obssessive obssession with someone. They will believe they and the other person are in love, and are very uncontrollable when it comes to rejection.
The best thing to do, is simply tell him to stop. While you have already tried this, tell him to stop COMPLETELY because it is making you very uncomfortable. And tell him if he doesn't he will never talk to you again, and be dead serious about it. If he still persists, follow up and cut contact with him. Because if he has hung on that long, then he has no business being talked to you by you at all. Be very stern and tell him how it is and if he doesn't stop, you will take action.
Most cases of this will go away when you don't have any contact at all with the person. There are a few rare cases where the person will take it to the extreme (ex: Stalking, murder, death threats, extreme hate) but I doubt this will happen here. So tell him how it is, and go with it.
I hope this helped and everything gets settled. Good luck!
-Ryan
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how do you "talk dirty" if your a girl (link)
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Define why you would want to.
Because I bet 10 to 1 if your asking about it, you probably shouldn't be doing it. Because if you knew about it, you wouldn't be asking.
Honest truth, rate me as you wish, but I feel you (and anyone else) should realize this. If you have to seriously ask about something trivial like that, you shouldn't be doing it.
-Ryan
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Well... im deathly afraid of spiders! Does anybody no a way I can stop fearing spiders so much? (link)
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I have arachnaphobia, so I can relate.
There really isn't anything you can do except just stay away from them. You could try some kind of therapy, I am sure you can find a specialist who deals with overcoming phobia's and fears. That would be your best bet or you could just try and will yourself to not being fearful of them.
There really isn't much to say, and not alot of options. I just live with it and kill a spider with some kind of long reaching object, because there is no way I am going near a spider with a paper towel and my hand to kill it, no way at all.
I hope this helped and you find a way to overcome your fear of spiders.
-Ryan
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I need a bit of help with this homework.
I need to know if the following are acids or bases. ( or neutral)
coffee
coke
water
gatorade
Kool- Aid
Tea
alcohol (like beer or rum)
I tried using the litmus paper but I can't see any change of colour because I suffer from a form of colourblindness and nobody around my house wants to help me.
Thank you guys so much. (link)
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There is a chart you can use, that will just even show you the levels of acid in a compund. Just type in something along the lines of "acid and base chart" into google and see what you come out with. And it should show you the levels easily, without color because they are arranged in order from the amount of acid in them.
I hope this helps and you get it done.
-Ryan
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Hey all. Well, next year is my freshman year, and I signed up for Drama 1. The problem is, that I don't know what it's all about. I mean, can anybody inform me about if it's fun or not, what you do in that class, generally what the people and their personalities are like, etc. I'm real excited...I just need to be informed. Thanks! (link)
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My friend took a dramatics class (which I will assume is more of less the same as your Drama 1 class). And he said it was the best class he has ever had. He said alot of days were just free time and the ones they practiced their drama, they worked with facial and vocal expressions, and then costuming, set setup and the smaller things like stage entrances and they even spent a few days going over the art of swordfighting and how to make a good death on stage. They might be different in order, but you can expect a bit of everything in what I said in your Drama 1 class most likely.
I hope I helped and you have alot of fun with that drama class!
-Ryan
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Im 13, and my boyfriend is 12 (I was born very early in the year he was born later on) will he is very sweet, and very nice to me. We've been friends (but not like best friends) longer then we've been dating (hasent been that long at all) I think i have a big commitment issue, i mean once i finally get the guy i want.. I feel different. Like im happy, but im also constantly thinking about him. and almost sometimes i dont feel like talking to him, for like ALL night, so i tell him that i need to get of the phone/computer. Is this awkard? i mean is bad to have second thoughts, but you know that you really do want to be with him. & if your going to tell me about my age, and how many more guys i'll date, Dont respond. I RATE HiGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS. (link)
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Your not going to GET different answers on this, because everyone will probably say the same thing.
It us puppylove and I don't care if you say your mature at 13 and he is mature at 12, that is not enough time to even begin to understand any concept of love other than puppylove. In fact alot of girls and guys won't get past puppylove until late in highschool, or even later. Some do before, but not often. And everything until the is going to be somewhat awkward until you get past puppylove.
You don't have a commitement issue because being 13 and him 12, you can't possibly already know anything of true commitement, therefore it is impossible for you to question it. It's puppylove, just like your question title says.
-Ryan
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I saw your picture and I had to say this. I have the same wood-like walls as you. And a lamp that looks similar. Weird, I know, but I had to say it. You don't have to respond to this. (link)
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Just as a fyi, personal messages aren't to be asked on advicenators via the inbox system. If it isn't a question about something, then it shouldn't be asked. You can get into some trouble by sending personal messages that way, but hopefully you won't if you only did it this once.
-Ryan
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how does someone get raped/kidnapped over myspacve? i dont reallt get it? is it even true? (link)
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It's quite simple really.
People (teenagers being the minority) tend to be overly naive or too quick to trust, even if it doesn't seem like it.
Alot of the time this is started with the giving out of too much info. This leads to the 2 people (one being the kidnapper, the other being the victom) meeting online, gaining "trust" and eventually setting up a meeting, in which then the victim is untimely kidnapped/raped/killed/ etc all for this other persons amusement,pleasure, and or fantasy.
The only plus side to this whole thing is it can be traced quite easily back to the culprit. More often than note he/she lives nearby, is older, and is more conspicious to notice. This leading the police to him faster, but by then the damage is done.
The sad thing is this problem can be SO easily avoided in almost every case. Things like not giving out to much info, street address, full name, location, phone number, etc can help you minimize the risks of actually having an internet stalker.
It's quite sad. But I hope this helped you understand it a bit better.
-Ryan
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Hey I need advice asap! 18 female. I am currently about 2-4 days late on my period. Also i usually start my period before my best friend and she is already started. So here is the deal. My boyfriend and i fooled around, with him inside me...but he didn't cum inside me and he was inside me for about 2 mins at themost. What are my chances of being pregnant . i am so worried and paranoid.
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Maybe next time you and your boyfriend fool around, you should consider your chances before instead of after. There is ALWAYS a chance you can get pregnant if he is inside of you even just for a few seconds (provided of course your not using protection). Next time, know your risks beforehand and you won't have to worry about getting pregnant. It's that simple.
-Ryan
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i have one line in a musical "lets meet him in the hallway so we can invite him to dinner." i was really dissapointed that i didnt get a part but i just decided to do this one line as best and enthusiadtically as i can so maybe the teachers will see that when i auditioned i was just nervous since it was my first audition. i just wanted to know some tips to make my line sound really good and proffesional! i'll do anything! (link)
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You shouldn't overdramatize a part or line, because then the character and line just get really stale, really quick, even for just one line.
Doing a line more enthusiatically doesn't really help you. Do the line like you character would say it, and don't do it just to get the attention of the teachers. You audition is done and your part has been cast, and all you can do is act the part and try better next time.
Also, stage makeup is handled already for the performance, I doubt the directors would make you put your own on. And I speak from a few years working the drama performances at my school (s).
I hope I helped.
-Ryan
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