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This guy won't leave me alone...what do I do??
Okay, a week ago, this guy who I barely even know (I don't even know his last name) sent me an e-mail declaring that he loves me and wants to be with me. I sent him a very polite decline, because I just do not feel that way about him at all, and now he keeps on e-mailing me with guilt trips about how he thinks he's going to be alone for the rest of his life, and he keeps telling me that he loves me. I suspect that he thinks that if he keeps doing this that I'll change my mind...I don't quite know how to deal with this. So far, I've treated him like I would want to be treated were I in his position, but he's starting to make me feel really uncomforatble. What can I do??
Thanks!
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Don't respond to any more e-mails. Keep them saved just incase you may need them later(hopefully you won't!). I know you don't want to be rude, but if you feel harassed, then there's no reason why you shouldn't be a bit firmer with him. Blocking him would be ideal, provided that's the only contact he can have with you. Being passive with these types of people just doesn't work. You need to lay it on the line for him and get rid of him.
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ok. you can block him. or. you can re-email him. tell him if he doesnt stop (remember say this as politley as possible) you will go to people of high authority and you have proof (the emails) tell him it makes you uncomfortable and that if he actually thinks that him trying to make you guilty thats not going to make you change your mind.. it will probably make it worse because its getting annoying which is bad. hope ihelped do write back mwaaaaa
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Ok there are two things you could do one you can change your e-mail or two you can e-mail him but once again in a polite way and tell him you dont like the way he is talking and it makes you feel uncomfortable. Please stop e-mailing me i dont know you and i dont want to goout with you i am very sorry! but remember just be nice about it
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You should block his email address, or just send him an email telling him that you don`t like the way he writes to you & he makes you feel uncomfortable & if he doesn`t stop, then your going to take serious drastic action...or measure..which one sounds more cooler. :] ♥
If i were you i would just ignore him.
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Ignore all future email from him.
DO NOT answer his email because so long as you are responding he is going to keep on writing.
Block his address.
If he starts bothering elsewhere, call the cops.
Immediately. If hes written anything scary, call them now. :)
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This sounds like a very, very light case of erotimania, which is the obssessive obssession with someone. They will believe they and the other person are in love, and are very uncontrollable when it comes to rejection.
The best thing to do, is simply tell him to stop. While you have already tried this, tell him to stop COMPLETELY because it is making you very uncomfortable. And tell him if he doesn't he will never talk to you again, and be dead serious about it. If he still persists, follow up and cut contact with him. Because if he has hung on that long, then he has no business being talked to you by you at all. Be very stern and tell him how it is and if he doesn't stop, you will take action.
Most cases of this will go away when you don't have any contact at all with the person. There are a few rare cases where the person will take it to the extreme (ex: Stalking, murder, death threats, extreme hate) but I doubt this will happen here. So tell him how it is, and go with it.
I hope this helped and everything gets settled. Good luck!
-Ryan
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The only way you can get this guy to quit is to tell him the truth.
Tell him that you aren't interested and that you want the e-mails to stop. If he still continues to e-mail, block him or ignore it. Whatever you do, don't respond to them and he'll eventually understand that you aren't dealing with his whining anymore. If you both hardly knew each other, then he can't possibly like you that much so it isn't as bad as you think.
Let him know that you aren't comfortable with his e-mails!
-TheTeenGirl
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E-mail him & tell him that he's making you feel uncomfortable with these messages, and what he's saying, and tell him to stop. It's simple.
&TiNA;
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