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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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Yea, weird I know.
Anyway, it's kind of strange. I'm in 10th grade, he's in 8th, and whenever I see him he'll always try to push me over and sit on me and a couple times he tried to keep me against the wall for some reason. So it seems like just plain bullying, right?
But then he'll pull out a chair for me or get my phone number or stare at me when we sit close. If he ever actually hurts me he will apologize so I have to wonder if he wants to be friends or something. It doesn't really annoy me and I don't think he's a bad kid, so should I just tell him to shove off 'cause it's bullying or let things go on as usual because he means no harm?
Pushing you over and sitting on you? Hm, Sounds like bullying to me.
After all, Your boyfriend is in 8th grade which would make him about 14-15 years old. It could very well be that he doesn't know how to act or is clearly not mature enough to be in a relationship.
If you do not like what your boyfriend is doing, You need to tell him. Communication is the key to working things out in relationships.
"a couple times he tried to keep me against the wall for some reason" The first thing that pops into my mind is your boyfriend likes control and power over you, I don't know the situation or the relationship between the two of you as you didn't label details but keep in mind that this COULD be the first sign of a controlling boyfriend.
Maybe he doesn't mean any harm, Maybe this is his odd way of showing affection but at the same time this is an awfully weird way of doing so. I would imagine nobody would want to be pushed up against a wall...The only way to find out his motives again is to talk to him. Let him know that you do not like being pushed against a wall or sat on. If he can't accept it then hell with him he needs to learn to show some respect.
1. generally, are tattoos painful? on a scale of 1-10 how bad?
2. which one of the spots i named would be the LEAST painful?
3. if you have any tattoos please share your personal experience..
4. which one of the spots i named would be the MOST painful?
Im thinking of getting a tattoo on my hand, will it hurt really bad?
I can't tell you how much it will hurt because everyone has a different pain tolerance.
I can tell you from experience, Tattoo's do hurt a little bit and if I got to give you an example..Well, Picture yourself having a lot of shots in your arm?
They say the least painful tattoo's are on the shoulder, upper arm and lower leg area.
Good luck
So I gave my bf a bj and right in tge middle of it he asked if i was a virgin... I told him yes ( because I am ) and he told me that h could tell I was, first of all WHAT!!!!!! how can you tell if a girl is a virgin by just them giving you a bj???? At the end he told me tht it felt really good ( but he sounded sarcastic ) so, could he tell I was a virgin because it was my first time doing a bj and im bad at it?? p.s. I think I did good because I didn't let my teeth touch it but then again, I don't think i wad that good because he didnt cu* or moan, all he did was hold onto my head and every now and then push it down further, so does anyone have advice?
If your boyfriend is shallow enough to hold the fact that you are a virgin against you, Then I would rethink it over to whether you really want to be with him. Who cares if you are a virgin, Sure the younger generation now a days is all about who gets some first and who doesn't but I got to tell you it really shouldn't matter because reality is, It's not a game or a race.
For starters, Your boyfriend is an ass. You give him what he wants and he has the balls to criticize you in the process? You deserve better
Now for the question: There IS no way he can tell if you are a virgin or not, Likewise he assumed so because of the way you were doing business or maybe because you acted nervous but I got news for you acting nervous for your first time is PERFECTLY NORMAL. So lets nail a few questions...
1, Do you trust your boyfriend? Really think about that one for a minute...
2, Someone who loves someone does not put them down and make them feel insecure. Your boyfriend did both.
Hold off for awhile, Talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel and if he continues to do put you down then it's time to kick him to the curb because there are men out there who won't make you feel like a worthless piece of crap.
i'm taking a train back to college on saturday and i was wondering if the sniffer dogs at the train station can detect alcohol if it is in a closed bottle?
I have never ran into a "sniffer dog" problem at a train station and I have traveled by train out of state for over 5 years.
I do however know there is limited luggage allowed per person, You may want to call the train station and ask how much luggage they allow if you plan on carrying a lot.
They only check your bags if you are suspicious, They do not check bags/luggage just for the hell of it nor did they ever at the train stations I were at. Carrying a closed bottle of alcohol should not be a problem as long as you keep it in the bag and not out in the open.
I have a very good friend who lives at home with his mother, his 18 year old sister,and his 35 year old sister and her daughter. This woman (the 35 year old) is crazy. Among other problems she causes for this family, she has 15+ cats and two very aggressive dogs living in their garage.
Personally, I've only been in their garage once- they don't like me in there. The conditions are horrible. It's filthy, there's garbage everywhere, and the litterboxes go uncleaned. The woman puts out a few dishes of food, but it's hardly enough for all the cats, and that's assuming that the given food is divided equally between all of them. (obviously not happening.)
Only a few of the male cats are neutered, and none of the females are spayed. I am sure that none of them are up to date on their vaccines. My friend had told me that many of the cats have eye infections that have been going untreated for a while now.
My problem is, what can I do? I know I am capable of helping. I have a lot of experience with animals, particularly cats, and I am a student of vet medicine. But I can't get involved personally, because the woman would not allow me. She truly believes she's taking care of the cats properly, and gets very violent if you try to tell her otherwise. My friend knows that there are problems, and has tried to talk to her himself, but to no avail.
I am thinking about calling someone to go look at the situation, like a local shelter or animal control. My problem with this is that I am very close with everyone else in the house, and I feel that an experience like that could really distress them. One of my concerns, is that the family also has 4 house cats (properly taken care of) that they love dearly. Would animal control take them away too?
The whole situation bothers me deeply. I feel I really need to protect the cats being neglected, but I can't bear to cause disturbance in my friend's home.. Besides that, his sister will hold a personal grudge against me. I know it's the right thing to do, but it's a tricky situation. Can anyone help?
Whether you are good friends with the family or not this is a clear case of animal abuse. There are 15+ cats living in a filthy environment and there is no way she can properly care for them and give each and every one of the cats proper attention.
You NEED to call animal control, You know about the abuse you need to report it. It is wrong
Please call your local animal control and tell them about the abuse, It's not fair to the animals to have to live in an unhealthy environment. If you are uncomfortable leaving your name, You can always report it anonymously
I love the wired mannequins like this:
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I want one of those but I would like it to be my body type/size so that I can actually put my clothes on it.
Are there any websites/stores out there that have that? (I tried googling but had no luck.)
Thank you!
T.J. Maxx has them for about $50.00
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I just got a new puppy. He's 1 month and a half and a yorkie. I don't know what to do, he's horrible. I tried to walk him. And he won't walk he's too small plus its too cold outside. I bought him puppy pads so he can pee and do his "business" on but he doesn't. He does it everywhere around the house. My mom hates it. Its starting to smell horrible. (The house) and she wants me to give him away. I don't want too cause I love him plus I paid so much money for him. And if she knew she would make me return him. As far as she knows I got it for "free". But anyway, how do I train him? What do I do? I already bought him the spray that smells like pee so I can spray it on the pad and he can know where to pee on. But he doesn't do it there. He does it everywhere and that's a problem. What do I do? Please help. I don't want my mom to take me away from max :( thankyou!
Puppies take time and patience
1, Pee-Pads are good training in the winter but don't get your puppy used too going to the bathroom indoors or when you do outside training he won't go to the bathroom.
2, A bit gross, If your puppy poops take a napkin pick it up and put it on the pee-pee pad. Here you leave a scent and puppies sometimes have a tendency to go to the bathroom where the scent is.
Monitor your puppy, If he attempts to drink water or eat keep an eye on him it won't be long before he has to go to the bathroom. When he does pick him up and put him on the pee pad. IF, You decide to bring your puppy outdoors you can always swing by a pet store and buy him a jacket to keep him warm.
Like Witty said below, Puppy training will take a few months you have to be patient. Overtime he will get the hang of it.
Ive had millions of gfs. More than most and know more about girls than just about everyone. I have millions of friends come to me about of advice on how to get a girl and my advice always works, but im with this one girl and i cant seem to figure her out. Shes so quite. i mean like ive had plenty of shy gfs before and ive been a talker and im funny so its always been easy to open them up and get them talking but this girl is impossible. We kiss and make-out but Even i (btw im an actor so i have to know how to talk well and come up with stuff on the spot) am having trouble on finding things to talk about. She only shakes her head and shrugs. I think shes afraid she might say something stupid or immature cause im older and shes not used to dating older guys. I'm not used to dating younger girls although shes not that much younger. Im 15 and shes 13. She sure don't look 13 though. She beautiful beyond words. Ive dated chicks that were scared cause they don't think there good enough for me cause they know ive dated around a lot and think my previous gfs are better than them but this is beyond that. She has no interests and is very shy even though shes says shes not. ive never asked for advice on this kind of matter before and in a way feel embarrassed of asking for it now cause ive always given this kind of advice, never received. If anyone has any ideas please share or email me. My adress is
actor.ajthedford@gmail.com. Thank's
You're girlfriend is 13 years old
Likewise, She is new to dating. It could very well be a number of other things. Maybe your girlfriend is introverted, Maybe you both don't have anything in common? You didn't go into details but these are possibilities.
Try talking to her, Find ways you could help her become more comfortable in the relationship. However, If you are not happy with your girlfriend then you need to tell her that and be honest with her.
So for those of who are familiar with the term gray rape, I want to explain a situation to you and you can tell me whether or not this is gray rape. I'm 19 and I have a new boyfriend, and he's really great :), but back in October before I met him, I decided to hang out with my ex boyfriend, who at the time had no idea what he wanted.
I had previously text him sexy pictures of myself the day before that he decided that he wanted to hang out with me. He told me that yesterday made him realize what he wanted. I told him that he wasn't getting laid becuase I did not believe in having sex with someone who wasn't my boyfriend, I'm not really for the idea of casual sex. Well, I got my dad to give him a ride to his house, and we went upstairs in his room.
While were upstairs in his room, we were watching the first episode of this anime series on netflix, and I started kissing him. Eventually he decided to take our makeout session onto his bed and we ended up having oral sex or foreplay, which is about as far as I like to go when I'm hooking up with someone. Well, I watched him take things one step forward, and he put on a condom. He had casual sex with me, and I didn't say no, thinking about that makes me feel really violated.
I still feel really violated from that time, because I felt like he went against my moral standards. I plan on talking to my current boyfriend about this. In your opinion is this "gray rape?"
I agree with Razhie on this one
There is no such thing as "Gray Rape", You agreed to casual sex, He didn't force you to it. From what you wrote above sounds like regret and shame. There is no form of foul play from what you've written above.
I am 23 years old and Me and my boyfriend were together about a month when i found out i was pregnant(with my first)I am now 12 weeeks along and things are not looking good. We have been arguing and i catch him in little lies about stupid things. Which makes me wonder if he lies about other bigger things. I dont think i am in love with him but i am afraid to break up cause i don't want my kid to not have a father.. I only say this because he has a daughter already that he never goes and sees of make an effort to be a good father. Is staying with someone for a baby a bad thing or am i stressing about nothing??
I agree with Solid
If this guy isn't a father to the child he already has, It probably won't be any different with yours. You have to think about the child, If you two argue and you can't see it going anywhere then end it. If you two stay together for the sake of being together and not out of love...It will only hurt in the long run.
Lets remember a few things...
It IS possible to raise a child alone, There are many single parents who have successfully raised a child. Sure, It won't be no walk in the park but always remember anything is possible as long as you put your mind too it.
Yes, There is help out there. You can get that from the state. There are also support groups for new Mom's.
Option 3: Adoption however this is a personal choice you would have to make on your own.
IF, Your boyfriend does not put the effort into paying child support this is where you take him to court.
You shouldn't have to sacrifice your happiness to be in a relationship that is not going to go anywhere. Remember, There are many other guys out there for you. If he can't grow up and be a man then DUMP HIM.
je t'aime soeur = i love you sister
is this right? im getting it tattooed with my best friend :)
That is correct
Ok so after the weekend I went back to school and my friend wanted to see my cell phone..so I gave it too her ( not thinking because She is my bestie, what could she possibly do) so she texted someone apparently saying that I would give them a 'BJ' but I about killed her when I read it because she included my full name. .... I couldn't do anything about ut because he was already reading it (as I could see) then he showed the ppl around him and they told their friends and so on, now my whole grade knows nd they keep asking me questions like "why did u say that" all I tell them is "it wasent me" but they just respond with "it was a cruel joke" now my self confidence is down the toilet and everyone us making fun of me, EVEN MY OTHER BEST FRIENDS!!!!! What should I do to make everyone leave me alone p.s. one day it was soo bad I litterally cried in the middle of class.... what should I do
As hard as it is ignore it and try not to let it bother you, Rumors spread like wild fire but over time it becomes old news and then they all move onto the next person. If this continues to be an ongoing problem..You confront a guidance counselor and let them know that is what they are there for.
1. Your friend is not friend, She back stabbed you and humiliated you in front of classmates. From now on, I suggest not letting anyone use your phone.
2. Try to avoid them as much as possible in the meantime, If they see you in the hallways IGNORE THEM. They will eventually get the picture and get bored of the situation.
IF, Your classmates continue to bully you let someone know. Don't continue to ignore it because if they don't stop then this is where it becomes a case of harassment/bullying and that is not okay.
There are plenty of people out there that will be a real friend to you, You just have to find them. Friends don't back stab friends nor humiliate them in front of classmates.
So, I had this band teacher in jr high. Everyone thought something was going on between us but I was 13, 14, 15 when I had him and he was 22, 23, 24 so it was an unlikely thought. People thought this because he would bail me out of classes that I didn't want to go to. He would also bail me out of the class before the class I had a test in so he would help me study in his office, he would always call me my first and last name, never just my first. He would also let me call him by his first name but when someone else did, he told them it wasn't okay. One time I had gotten a musical part down that I have been practicing a while and in lessons, it was me, the teacher and my friend, my teacher and I sat next to eachother while my friend sat 3 seats away, so when I got this part down I had accidentally smacked his thigh and he didn't make my move my hand. Now, I am 16, a junior in high school and I visited this teacher today who is now 25. He was by far my favorite teacher, I always felt so close to him and I relate to him so well. My friend walked into his office and said she had a late christmas present for him and a few minutes later she asked how he liked his present and he said "I love my fantastic present." When we talked, we looked into eachother's eyes, he took my phone out of my hand and when our hands touched, he lingered there for a minute. He also didn't pay much attention to my friend who was in there with me. We hugged when I left, he asked how I got to see him and when I told him I walked he said he felt very honored that I walked through the cold for him. He said he missed me a lot and he said his door is always open, I can visit whenever I want. I told him I will come back and my friend said his face brightened up so much. I wouldn't mind being with him.. I mean, he's cute haha but I won't pursue it. I just wrote this to see if we're attracted to eachother and to see if we are maybe over the student teacher boundary. Please don't answer and tell me I'm wrong or a bad person, just tell me what you think of the boundries. Thanks.
I agree with both columnist below
Let it go, The teacher is acting very inappropriately. You are 16 years old, You are a minor. Keep your distance, Don't go and visit him again. Your ex teacher is putting his career at risk by harassing his former/students.
Here are the facts...
It is wrong, 100% wrong and you should know that. Your teacher is creepy, If he tries to pull something again report him.
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Okay so long story short, me and this guy from work were seeing each other for about 3 months, a month ago i found out he was seeing another girl along with me from his school, well she gave him an ultimatium to get with other people or go out with her and he took the ultimatium he told me he still liked me but she was convenient since i lived too far away i commute to school.(I live 20 minutes away from his college)
Well at work he still flirts with me, he ignites the flirting everytime i try not to go along with it but i cant help it. He will make excuses to talk to me,push stuff into me,etc i still really like him. And clearly he still likes me and he knows i still like him (i kinda hinted to him i still did). So is he waiting for college to end so he can be with me? Why would he still flirt with me if he has a girlfriend when he picked her? Im so confused. thanks.
The guy can't make up his mind on what he wants, For starters he chose to be with someone else rather than you and not too add he was cheating on you.
1.) The guy obviously can't commit himself to ONE person.
Sure you like him, but lets face it he isn't faithful. Not only did he cheat on you but he basically kicked you to the curb to be with someone who is slightly closer in distance. You are young, There will be many more men out there for you. In the meantime try to keep your distance from him and don't give off the wrong vibe by feeding into his behavior. Show him you won't be the girl on the side lines. Save yourself the stress
No, There is nothing wrong with you. Your ex is an ass and why did he choose her? Well, I can probably nail the fact she is probably easy to get.
My ex boyfriend text me today, apologizing for everything that he did to me and he told me that he's glad that I found someone new and that he misses me. Basically we dated for five months and he broke up with me in August through an instant message conversation, he was my first real boyfriend and my first sexual partner. Before we dated I had known him for almost half my life, and I guess that I was his first “love” although it's complicated because he did a lot of things towards the end to dick me around.
I decided that I miss our friendship but I don't know if I can have in my life after the way that he treated me, so I asked for closure. Closure to let go of someone who was a big part of my life.
Well since we've broken up I've met someone new, and in my eyes he easily towers over my ex boyfriend. I've been dating this guy for about a month and I think that we have a real future together. I just feel this comfort around him, like I can totally be myself, he doesn't insult me and I felt like my ex started to. I can open up to him and when I feel insecure about something, I know that I can tell him.
I made plans to hang out with my ex for closure but now I feel like it's a stupid idea. I'm really afraid of messing up what my boyfriend and I have together. He's going to be there when I get my closure, but I just feel like seeing my ex again will be a bad idea.
Maybe it's because when I saw my ex, he used me for casual sex. I'm a little bit worried about feelings reigniting somehow, I don't know. Like I realize that my ex and I were never meant to be, and my current boyfriend is really great for me. It's weird, are these feelings normal and is it really a bad idea to get closure from the guy that I previously dated for five months, have known for years, and whose friendship I miss? Or am I right to want closure and just worrying over nothing?
Sometimes the best way to seek closure is to simply cut all contact whatsoever with the person. Your ex is your ex for a reason. Seeing him again will cause you more pain and make it a hell of a lot harder for you to move on. Do you really want to backtrack and hurt yourself again? If you see your ex that is exactly where you are heading. Keep what you have now, Focus on your current relationship. Do not do anything to put that in jeopardy. Guess what, Your ex likely envy's the fact that you moved on with your life and him feeling happy for you is his way of gaining sympathy. I'm not saying this IS the case but more than likely he is trying to get you to feel guilty . My advice? Ignore him. Do not give him what he wants, It's likely his kind words to you were his bait way of luring you back to him. It's the new year lets keep the past the past. Like one of the columnist said below...You don't owe him anything.
I just bought my first car, but I've never even done anything with a car before. I got my license and that's about it for my whole experience with vehicles. Anyway, I know my dad has his truck warm up before he goes anywhere in the winter. I don't know if he does this so the interior is warmer for him to sit in or if it has to do with the car needing to be warmed up so it doesn't break. So, do I need to make time to warm my car up in the morning before driving to school or can I just hop in and go? It's a 1999 model so it's kind of old and used too so I really don't want to mess it up right away. K Thanks
I agree with the last person, However a few things to keep in mind while having a car during the winter...
1. Try to keep the gas over half a tank, If you don't you have a good chance of your car freezing and the engine won't start..and man I'd rather fork up gas money then to have to pay to fix that.
2. If it snows, Keep the windshield wipers up, If you don't they will freeze and will be a bitch to clean the windows when it snows again. ;)
3. It's never a bad idea to let your car heat up before driving it will defrost the windows and warm up the engine
Good luck
My teacher is 27 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing thats important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me alot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Please answer, thankyouuu!
No, You are not over reacting at all.
Your teacher is acting very inappropriate Also, Putting his arms around you is also wrong. Your teacher has crossed the line, The best thing for you to do is to report him to a counselor. Guess what, He keeps it up he is going to find his ass fired really soon.
hi, im fourteen and i need to go to illinios to see the girl of my dreams and i need to no the easiest way to do it....i take all suggestions and i have tried to get family to take me but they wont so help me plz
Running away is not going to solve your problems, It is not going to make your wishes to be with this girl come true.
You are a minor, If you runaway you will be in a load of trouble. Likewise, Your parents will file a missing person report and the police will be out searching for you. If found you could possibly put in Juvenile Detention Facility. Running away is not a smart way to go. If you want to talk to this girl, I suggest using another alternative.
im suppost to start my period on the twenty sixth, i hVENT STARTED IT AND ITS JANUARY 7TH! DOES THAT MEAN IM PREGNANT??
A delayed period can mean a variety of things, I recommend taking a pregnancy test. For a more accurate answer take 2.
Delayed periods causes: Illness, Weight Gain, Weight Loss, Stress, Depression and there are too many others to list!
If your pregnancy test come out negative call your Gynecologist and set up an appointment.
k, this kid nd i arent dating but kinda like eachother, he invited me over,drank A LITTLE!! just me nd him, we layed down , were watching a scary movie, he grabbed my butt, turned mee over nd made out, he felt me up with one hand, un button my pants nd fingerd me with the other, he told me to give a hand job, i did, being tipsy, pushed my head down, told me he loved me nd to suck him, nd he wldnt tell , i did. i dnt remember alot im 14, did he use me? am i a slut? help!
Sounds like he took advantage of you, He told you what you wanted to hear and you fell into it. At age 14, Boys are thinking inside their pants they are not using their head. This is an age where they are all about who gets some and who doesn't.
Here you hopefully learned a valued lesson, Stay away from alcohol, You are too young to be drinking.
Now for are you a slut? No, You made extremely poor judgement. Even if you two were dating, This would still not be okay. This boy demanded you to perform sexual actions upon him while you were under the influence of alcohol. What happened? You were not responsible, He took advantage of you now you are feeling guilty and regretful.
For the future, When you have a crush on a guy the way you can tell if he is into you...He will respect you and NOT take advantage of you.
Lesson Number 1: Trust, Respect and Honesty play a huge role in relationships. Without it, Kiss the relationship Goodbye.
Don't ever let a guy pressure you, It is not right and no it is not normal either.