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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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Ok so.. my boobs have gotten smaller. It sucks. I've always been thin. I'm about 5'6 105 lbs., or something around there. I don't think i really lost any weight though, and nothing else seems to have gotten smaller. I also don't get my periods regularly. I got the first one about 3 1/2 years ago, so they should be regular by now. They skip months and always come at different times of the month. I just finished a period, but it had been the first one in a few months. I'm thinking maybe this has something to with my boobs shrinking? Help! Anyone know what's going on. I want my boobs back.

It could be hormonal. I would suggest going in for a pap/pelvic exam and a physical. Your doctor will be able to tell you what's going on with your body. They shouldn't just shrink like that, as far as I am aware.

I'm moving soon, and want to have an office in the house. I'm a student, so I thought it would be a great thing for my school work and other things I have to work on. Can anyone recommend or suggest somethings that I really need to have in an office? Also, I have to sell this idea to my parents, I'm in high school.

The main items you may need are:

Desk and chair
Filing cabinet
Bookshelves
Computer

Hi, I've had my MSN hotmail account hacked into. Does anyone know the address to which I should write t alert MSN of this.
Thanks in advance!

http://support.microsoft.com/default.aspx?scid=gp;en-us;cu_chat&ssl=1

That is MSN Customer Service Chat- available 24/7

https://support.microsoft.com/common/survey.aspx?scid=sw;en;1214&showpage=1&ws=securityathome

That is to MSN Customer Service email.

I would talk to some one on the chat, then you know they understand you, and vise versa.

My guy friend of six years is getting married in the fall. My boyfriend is going to be standing up in his wedding. I was invited, of course, but I am worried about going because I won't have anyone to sit with at dinner. Since my boyfriend is standing up, he has to eat with the other members of the wedding party. Would it be rude of me to ask the groom if I can bring a friend so I'm not sitting around by myself the whole time? Or should I just stick it out?

Of course, I would ask. It wouldn't be rude. He is your friend, and I'm sure he wouldn't want you to have to sit alone.

Planning a wedding is quite a chore, and they may not have considered all the little details, such as you will be sitting alone due to your boyfriend being in the wedding party. They have been VERY busy trying to set this up.

My big toe is broken. Plain and simple, it is definitely broken, please trust me. I haven't told my parents about this, because I am afraid to go to the doctor. It's been broken for about two weeks now. It feels like it hurts more and more everyday. Which might make sense, because since no one knows it's broken.. I am always the one having to go up and down the stairs for everyone and driving everyone everywhere. I never get to rest it. And it's disgustingly swollen. I just hide it like nothing is wrong, and no one would ever know. I just can't do it anymore. It hurts. So my question is, can anyone tell me what might happen if I go to the doctors? X-Ray? Height/weight? Think I might get a cast? Crutches? I am seriously very frightened. For the past two weeks I've felt like I'd rather live with this pain rather than face the music at the doctors. And another thing, is there any possibility the doctors might tell me it's best to leave it alone and stay off of it as much as possible? Could it "heal" on it's own? If I keep my mouth shut about it, will the pain eventually fade on it's own? What would be my consequences by not taking care of it in a proper medical fashion? Finally, I am over 18 years, and we don't have any sort of health insurance. How much would it presumably cost to take care of? Anything you can give me is more than I already have, so thank you so very much!!

Normally, I would tell you to go to the doctor, because in all actuality, you should. However, I know all about not having health insurance and how much it costs out of pocket.

Last I knew, there isn't much of anything they can do about a broken toe. They might be able to brace it, but other than that... But I could be wrong.

When you go to the doctor, always expect to have your temperature, blood pressure, height, and weight done. X-ray? Possibly. Cast? Don't think they CAN cast a toe. Crutches? Possibly.

But I don't know for certain. I could be completely wrong.

Your best bet for advice from here is listen to the nurses we have. I know for certain of two. If you don't hear from Sabine or Nallie, ask one of them in their inboxes.

yesterday i broke up with my boyfriend for my exboyfriend. me and him went out last year and have a lot of history. ive loved him for about a year non-stop and i would spontaniously cry because i missed him sooo much and wanted to be with him so bad but he had a new girlfriend for 5 months.
i recently was asked out by my boyfriend i just broke up with. finally everything was looking good and i was slowly getting over the first guy.

my ex boyfriend (first guy) tells me that he still loves me and always has and he doesnt want to hurt me and he wants to be with me and he broke up with his girlfriend..for me.

now i know im going to regret being with him becuase hes probably going to hurt me and were going to fight all the time like last year when we went out.
but i love him. and ive waited forever for this.

i wish i could forget about how i feel and just go with what i deserve but i cant. please help me. did i make the right decision?
should i wait and see how things go?

You have a lot of history, but it appears to be a lot of history involving you crying over a year's period of time because of him. He fought with you and hurt you. Sounds like he doesn't deserve your love.

Let me ask you this: How do you REALLY know for sure that he broke up with this other girl for you? He could be just saying that to wedge back into your life. Maybe she thought he was a jerk and broke up with him? Never know.

If I were in your shoes, I'd move on with my life. Get back together with #2 if you can, and forget this other guy. He isn't worth the heartache.

You've already worked for a year to get him into your past, and to go back out with him will just wipe away all that work. You will start right back at the beginning, and eventually end right back up where you are now.

Sometimes the choices we make in life cause a vicious cycle. In order to stop that, we have to learn from our past experiences and do our best not to repeat the mistakes.

I recently got my belly button repierced, and it was pierced with a standard implant grade surgical stainless steel barbell. I was wondering if there was a differece between a belly button ring you would buy somewhere, and the particular barbells you get pierced with. I tried to take the top ball off the change only the ball, but couldnt get it off..I wasnt sure if there was something different about the starter barbell..thank you!

When they put the barbell in, they have on rubber gloves for safety/sterile purposes. Here is the kicker- rubber gloves give a better grip on the steel.

It may be that they screwed it on tighter than you would normally be able to get it bare handed. Try to get a pair of rubber gloves and wear them to remove it. It may just solve your problem.

Or you can go in to where you had it done, have them remove the bead and allow you to tighten with your bare hands to make it easier for you to remove.

P.S. You can go into any place of business where they use them for their work and ask for a pair of gloves. Doctor's office, Dentist office, health department, and so on.

OKay there's this boy and he's so sweet, but the problem is that he's shorter than me.. and I'm not that tall either... he also is kind of shy..

I'm pretty sure he likes me, like 87% sure, but he's shy-ish when it comes to girls so I don't know if he'll say no just to get out of an akward situation

He's really funny and I have never liked a boy so much, I just don't know wheather or not to ask him out.

As for his height, well, I tell my short nephew that little people do big things. :D

If you are that sure he likes you and he is shy, then I say go for the gusto and ask him out. If he likes you he will be relieved you took the big step and asked. I highly doubt he would say no because it is an awkward situation.

hello.. i need some really good advice right now.. ive been going out with my guy for 7 months now, hes said the whole i love u thing, and i dont no if this question im asking should be made a big deal of or not. on new years i asked him to stop smoking, because i just hate it, drives me mad, he said yes i will. then i went round to his house yesterday and he had one in his mouth. he totally disregared my feelings. anyways everytime i try to tell him wats going on in my head, he always goes all weird and shit and pretends like there was nothing wrong to begin with, even though there was.
so wat should i do, how should i tell him how i feel?

He has to want to quit smoking for himself. You can tell him you want him to quit, but smoking is not something you can just stop doing overnight because some one asks you to. It is a hard habit to break. Trust me, I'm a smoker. :(

Honestly, he didn't TOTALLY disregard your feelings, considering that he hasn't really smoked around you since you told him how you felt about it.

You have to understand that you have to respect his feelings as well. What if he doesn't want to quit right now? Yah, he should quit. It's a terrible habit, I agree. But it is a fault of his, and to cut him down about it probably makes him feel as though he isn't good enough because of his faults. We all have faults.

The best thing I can tell you to do is ask him to not smoke around you until he makes the choice to quit for himself. If that isn't something you can live with, then move on to some one else. It isn't fair for us to feel some one needs to change who they are for our own personal benefit.

Well, as soon as I get home from my game, dad jumps on me because I changed the password to my computer so my sister wouldn't be able to get on because she was online for four hours at the library and she doesn't need to be on for more than an hour. Well, some background information, my sister ids depressed, and she cuts, and she's been like this for like three years and her medical expenses is what drove my family in the poor house basically. Any hoo, I get home and I hear it from my dad. and I tell my mom that I already got bitched out from my dad and I don't wanna hear it from me. Then I don't even know what happened....we started going at it because of my sister. Yada yada. And this fight went on for like over an hour. I said some horrible things. So after a while, I went to talk to my mom for an hour because for some reason I made her cry, and that puts a big cloud of guilt over me. So I went and talked to her and even though she said she's sorry, and I said I was sorry, and she told me that she loves me and yeah, she still seems very upset at me. Or it just might be the guilt talking. But how can I make things right with my mom again? And also, how can I control what I say cussing wise to my mom and dad?

To start, let your parents parent your sister. Though you changed the password out of concern for her, it isn't really your place to do so.

As for how to stop talking to your parents how you do, you have to stop and think before you engage your mouth. Before you speak, ask yourself if what you are about to say is respectful. If it isn't, don't say it. Try to count to 10 before you say something.

If you said horrible things to your mother, by all rights, you should feel guilty. If you didn't, it would mean you didn't care. You just need to apologize to her and let it pass. Try your hardest to not let it happen again.

i have a lot of hiar on my arms
i want to make it less noticable
is it bad to wax,shave, nair it?
should i just bleach it or forget about it?
any suggestions or comments,
thanks

If it bothers you, I would suggest bleaching. Shaving and such will make it more noticeable in the long run.

Will this affect her health if a 12 year old drinks Slimfast? Thanks.

Slimfast is formulated for adults to use as a diet supplement.

A 12 year old should go on a diet consisting of healthy eating and exercising habits.

I would shoot myself in the foot before giving Slimfast to a 12 year old child.

My parents keep bringing up my
ex boyfriend. I broke up with him because
he told me he liked another girl too.

Well, my parents keep asking about him.
I've told them numerous times NOT to bring
him up, and not to ask my about them.
I've told them what happened and everything
but my mom tells me I'm just being sensitive.

How do I get them to stop?
They won't listen to me!

Remind them of the fact that he liked another girl during the time you were dating.

Remind them about how a relationship should be based on trust and honesty, and if he wants to run with another while he has a girlfriend, then he isn't very trustworthy.

Remind them that you aren't being sensitive, you are protecting yourself from being used as a floor mat by a man.

Remind them that you deserve better than that.

ok so me and my friend started drinking this summer and even though its fun... it leaves me with a kinda big problem. soo.. our former best friend found out the we drink and has decided that she won't be friends with us anymore just because we do.. i don't really get this because its not like we're forcing her to drink or anything.. its just something we do for fun. we also never get dangerous with it.. then most i've has is 12 shots (and i'm 5' 4" , 95 lbs) soo any advice on how to get her to like us again.. besides quitting drinking? thanks =/

Hmmm... 12 shots? At your size? VERY DANGEROUS! Ever hear of alcohol poisoning? It can cause DEATH. At your size, drinking 12 shots in, say, 3-4 hours time, is putting yourself at a high risk of needing to seek medical attention.

It is really too bad you call her your former best friend. Sounds to me like she is the truest friend one can find. She is only looking out for your best interests, your health, and your life.

She gave you a choice to be her friend or drink. You chose the drink? Not wise. Nope, not wise AT ALL.

My advice? You won't like it, and I don't care if it pisses you off. QUIT DRINKING. Period.

A pat on the back from afar to your former friend for caring enough about you to end your friendship in order to try to convince you to do the right thing.

I have a deep fear of germs and getting sick. Even the thought of catching a regular cold drives me crazy. I was my hands for 10 minutes, and at school, I wear a bandanna that covers my nose and mouth to help keep the germs away. I mean, hey it's not my fault that kids at my school go swimming in 10 degree weather over the weekend, and then catch a cold. Basically Everyone is sick at my school ALL the time.

Some of my teachers get mad at me when I wear my bandanna, but if they make me sit next to, talk to, and help out sick people, why shouldn't I be able to wear it? I'm not going to get sick because of one stupid person. Last week, I skipped alot of my classes just because I sat next to sick people in them and I don't want to get sick. Mainly because I just started working out, and if I'm sick, I won't be able to work out. (yes, working out is REALLY important to me.)

Now my question, I guess my question is, is there anything else I can do from getting sick? Any healthy tips that you can inform me on? (Besides obvious stuff like washing your hands.) Do you think the bandanna is a good idea? I've actually considered wearing a surgical mask but then people would think I'm even weirder.

Also, how possible is it that I'm going to get sick if I sit next to someone sick, for about 45 minutes every day? (Keep in mind that I'm wearing my bandanna over my nose and mouth.) ANY advice you have would be helpful because I'm flipping out right now.

I wish I could give you a good answer to these questions, but I don't know the facts you seek. I don't want to tell you the wrong thing.

I know of two nurses on the site. I think they both give very good advice, and I feel confident one of them could answer your questions.

Just go to one of their links, copy and paste your question in their inbox.

Sabine:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Sabine

Nallie:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Nallie

Sorry I couldn't be of more help to you.
No need to rate me. Give the credit to the person who answers your questions. :D

okay, so, the thing is..theres this guy and he likes me alot..and he has for a while now right, and last year i went out with this other guy and he was really hurt. but now were just as good friends as ever and i know he still likes me. and the truth is, i LIKE him..ive liked him since i met him. and i dont know why i hurt him so much? like i went out with the other guy and that killed him...and the thing is even though i like him, i still dont want to go out with him. im scared but i dont know of what. and all the other relationships ive been in were ones that i knew werent going to last when i started. also, i met him because he is best friends with my first ex boyfriend. i dont know whats wrong with me, but i know im going to lose him soon. also, theres so much going on with me at home (constant fights...my dads LOSING it) i cant deal with anything. my best friend, who i told everything to more than any one in the whole world moved to the other side of the country. i feel abandoned by everyone, and the thing is, the one guy thats actually there for me, im pushing him away. i think i really need a therapist....thanks in advance ..

Hmm... You say that you knew your past relationships weren't going to last from the get-go. Are you maybe afraid that this one WILL last?

Maybe you can talk to him about your problems at home and such. That will help you bring him closer instead of pushing him away.

If he is a really good guy, you don't want to lose him. You will only cause yourself regrets in the future.

ugh, guys. i have 2 guy friends (that are each other's best friends), and one of them likes me. i definitely don't like him, but he won't give up! it's really annoying and stressful. i'm considering breaking off our friendship. but i really don't know if i should.

Also, his best friend is... really amazing. I think i might like him. i'm trying not to, but we get along so well, and its sorta hard not to. I just don't know what to do. i doubt he'd ever like me...so i should just give up, right? that seems best for everyone (theres a ton of girls liking both guys, by the way) but should i take my own feelings into consideration?

ah i'm confused.

Guy #1- If you don't like him, make it as clear as day to him that you aren't interested, and if he keeps pursuing the matter, your friendship will have to come to an end. Assure him this isn't what you want to happen. If he chooses to continue, he isn't a very respecting friend for you anyhow.

Guy #2- If you decide to pursue him, do it full knowing and understanding that if he is a real friend, he will say no. If he says yes, then he isn't very respecting to his best friend. I doubt their friendship would be the same if he said yes.

Guy #1 has a choice to make, and so do you. Choose wisely.

ok heres the story this guy who i barely know says hi to me every day and he sent someone who he thought was me a myspace that said wave like 32 times and he told me this so i was just wondering if anyone could tell me if this means he likes me or if he is just some stalker messing with my head and could someone please tell me what to do.

stalker
- someone who prowls or sneaks about; usually with unlawful intentions

- someone who intrudes on the privacy or property of another without permission

Unless the above definition fits him, I would say he just likes you and maybe isn't going about showing it in the right way.

Ask him what his deal is.

can you buy whitening trays at like walmart? not with the gel and stuff but just the trays themselves?

I have never seen them outside of being a part of a kit, but I could be wrong.

i'm playing softball in the spring and i want to make the team, i'm already a good athlete, like i'm fast and coordinated usually, but i'm out of shape at the moment so i was wondering if anyone had good exercises and drills i can do to help me get back in shape, but also that are good for softball training?

ANSWER EDIT: In response to your feedback, for your information, I was in softball. I am not answering for the sake of doing it, because I'm not a moron. You said you are fast and coordinated. You didn't say you run. One of the best ways to get into shape for sports is RUNNING. Period.

Run your tail off.

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