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two guys so hard
yesterday i broke up with my boyfriend for my exboyfriend. me and him went out last year and have a lot of history. ive loved him for about a year non-stop and i would spontaniously cry because i missed him sooo much and wanted to be with him so bad but he had a new girlfriend for 5 months.
i recently was asked out by my boyfriend i just broke up with. finally everything was looking good and i was slowly getting over the first guy.
my ex boyfriend (first guy) tells me that he still loves me and always has and he doesnt want to hurt me and he wants to be with me and he broke up with his girlfriend..for me.
now i know im going to regret being with him becuase hes probably going to hurt me and were going to fight all the time like last year when we went out.
but i love him. and ive waited forever for this.
i wish i could forget about how i feel and just go with what i deserve but i cant. please help me. did i make the right decision?
should i wait and see how things go?
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It's best to move on. If you KNOW he's going to hurt you and fight all the time.. then it's not worth it.
Yes, in the beginning of that relationship.. it could be have all happy and great. This happened to me.. I was stuck in the past. I liked him in the beginning of our relationship. He was so sweet and nice then but later, he changed.. and I was hoping he would go back to the old self. But it was like little fights everyday.
You don't want that. You don't want to hope for change that's not going to happen.
Maybe he didn't break up with his girlfriend. It could be a lie just to see if you would go crawling back to him.
Try to forget about your exboyfriend.
So the new guy.. does he treat you a lot better? Does he make you happy? Push all those thoughts out about your exboyfriend. That could be causing any sadness because you miss him and that relationship. It could be making you think your new relationships are not that great... even when they are.
Get back with your boyfriend. [You didn't say anything bad about him] So I assume he's really sweet and cares about you.
You shouldn't be so hung over someone who's probably going to hurt you. You should try talking to the second guy or just wait on how things go.
But if the first guy and you broke up.. maybe it was for a reason. Since you said he had a girlfriend.. he could always break up with you and go for another girl.
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You have a lot of history, but it appears to be a lot of history involving you crying over a year's period of time because of him. He fought with you and hurt you. Sounds like he doesn't deserve your love.
Let me ask you this: How do you REALLY know for sure that he broke up with this other girl for you? He could be just saying that to wedge back into your life. Maybe she thought he was a jerk and broke up with him? Never know.
If I were in your shoes, I'd move on with my life. Get back together with #2 if you can, and forget this other guy. He isn't worth the heartache.
You've already worked for a year to get him into your past, and to go back out with him will just wipe away all that work. You will start right back at the beginning, and eventually end right back up where you are now.
Sometimes the choices we make in life cause a vicious cycle. In order to stop that, we have to learn from our past experiences and do our best not to repeat the mistakes.
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I think you should stay with the 2nd guy. He likes you too right and probably won't hurt you. Your ex (the first guy right) hurt you and you think he might hurt you again so I think the 2nd is best. You deserve better and I hope everything goes well for you!
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I think you should have stayed with your recent ex (the second guy?).
I say that because you didn't mention that he treated you bad in anyway. I understand though if you don't have feelings for him anymore, but you didn't say that either, so I am assuming.
So now, I think you should not go and jump into a relationship (with the first guy), only because you said yourself that, "hes probably going to hurt me and were going to fight all the time like last year".
I would say to just go out (like dates) a couple times and see if he has changed, and if he hasn't, then stay single, or maybe try to go back to the second guy, but not as a rebound, only if you still have feelings for each other.
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