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mom fight
Well, as soon as I get home from my game, dad jumps on me because I changed the password to my computer so my sister wouldn't be able to get on because she was online for four hours at the library and she doesn't need to be on for more than an hour. Well, some background information, my sister ids depressed, and she cuts, and she's been like this for like three years and her medical expenses is what drove my family in the poor house basically. Any hoo, I get home and I hear it from my dad. and I tell my mom that I already got bitched out from my dad and I don't wanna hear it from me. Then I don't even know what happened....we started going at it because of my sister. Yada yada. And this fight went on for like over an hour. I said some horrible things. So after a while, I went to talk to my mom for an hour because for some reason I made her cry, and that puts a big cloud of guilt over me. So I went and talked to her and even though she said she's sorry, and I said I was sorry, and she told me that she loves me and yeah, she still seems very upset at me. Or it just might be the guilt talking. But how can I make things right with my mom again? And also, how can I control what I say cussing wise to my mom and dad?
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It's like that saying"be carEful,think before you speak".I could understand that you would get really upset with your sister about her causing the huge economic problem,your mom shouldn't defend her,not spoil her because it's most likely she'll be back with her old ways.Sometimes not saying anything helps when you usually know that your going to say something very unpleasant.As far as your mom maybe buy her some flowers,a card saying your sorry once again,she'll thank you,as soon as you know it things will go back to normal so don't worry about it.It's wise to remind them of their mistakes of what they did in their childhood if you know they are being unfair to you that's when you use this method.
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To start, let your parents parent your sister. Though you changed the password out of concern for her, it isn't really your place to do so.
As for how to stop talking to your parents how you do, you have to stop and think before you engage your mouth. Before you speak, ask yourself if what you are about to say is respectful. If it isn't, don't say it. Try to count to 10 before you say something.
If you said horrible things to your mother, by all rights, you should feel guilty. If you didn't, it would mean you didn't care. You just need to apologize to her and let it pass. Try your hardest to not let it happen again.
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Yes unfortunatley one of the side effects of being human is that we have these feelings like guilt and such. We all sometimes say things we regret, and the only way to deal with that it to say your sorry and be sincere and let time work it out.
Maybe you need to talk to your mom again, and tell her why you did what you did, and that you regret it?
Otherwise, let time work things out, and Im sure youre mom is or will be ok. Besides, she is your mom and should understand, or at least forgive, because we all make mistakes.
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Hmm this is a hard one. I would say think before you talk. I sometimes go off on my parents and regret it after. With your mom just act kindly and offer to do things for her. Show her you care for her and really like her for a mom.
Sorry if this advice isn't the best, this is a hard question!
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