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my parents have been really fucked up lately. i noe i shouldnt say that but it is true. i am 14 and they already telling me i CANT date or marry a black or mexican guy. just because they dont like them. i have called them raciest about it because they shouldnt be saying shit like that. this all started because my friend who is half black and half mexican was calling me and they found out about it. the shit my parents tell is bullshit. they wont let me talk to my friend because of his color. he isnt a bad guy. he was going to come to my house so i can give him something that he asked me for so i went outside to wait for him and my dad deicded that he had to come fallow me because he wasnt going to leave a teenager outside at 7:30 pm by her self. happly my friend didnt come but my parents need to stop wit this shit. I cant stand them but i dont know what to do can someone plz help me???

they are racsist. just dont fight them...in a few years they cant keep you from him anyway. there is nothing wrong with mexicans or blacks. some are known for being abusive or just bad (which is bull) but just let them get to know them...theyll come around. if they dont, as i said, youll be old enough to not give a damn what they say. just dont ever do that...learn from your parents mistakes. the world doesnt have room for any more rascism. take care,

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I want to wear this cute t-shirt to my next informal casual school dance, but do you think it would be weird to wear a "Geeks Are Hot" t-shirt to a dance? By the way, it's a highschool dance and it's for freshmen and softmores only. Oh, and the shirt is pink and it is from wet seal.

thats awesome! i would totally wear that to a dance. wear it with jeans or a really cute skirt.

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Do you guys think it's okay to think that no matter what you do to me, if you apologize and are sincere about it, I will forgive you. That's how I've always been. I just feel that it take courage to apologize to someone after you've hurt them and if you do do it then you are truly sorry. I know sometimes people just throw around the "I'm sorry's" but most don't. Everyone makes mistakes (I know I do) and they need to be forgiven. What do you guys think of that?

i think that some things are forgivable and some are not. if its like somthing that kinda hurt your feelings, by all means forgive them. if someone cheats on you or hurts you physically, dont. hope this answers your question!

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I really want to move and so my parents are thinking about moving to Arizona - Im kind of bummed about going THERE, does anyone live there or been there? Is it like totally DESERT? do people have southern accents or what? Tell me EVERYTHING PLEASE PLEASE PLEASe!! ill rate u a 5 && feedback, anything lol! I need to knoww any/everything. Im going there sophmore year maybe sooo ..?? help! ANy other good suggestions of places to move to??

well i live up north and i go there on vacation alot and no they dont have southern or any other accents that i can see. anyway, there are a lot of hispanics so you will here a ton of spanish. from what ive seen it is pretty dessert-y but there are lots of things to do there. the weather is harsh, but not humid, you can get a kickass tan, and it rarely rains. good luck with everything!

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does having sex in a pool lessen your chances or getting pregnant?

someone asked about sex in a hot tude a while back... thats not safe for the girl anyway b/c the chlorine gets into areas it shouldnt be in and eventually make you sick...or sterile. i really hope this isnt too late. please be safe!

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im caught between two guys-- my bf and this guy i like-- my bfhasnt talked to me in like 4 days even though weve sen each other-- hes usually pretty shy! but i mean 4 days he hasnt talked to me!! im still debatin whether or not to break up with him but the thing is idk how much i like that other guy!! should i break up w/him?? and if i do... how?? i rate high!! thanks

i had the exact same situation like a week ago. stay with the shy guy! everyone told me to go with the other guy but i follwed my intuition and it worked out. dont break up with him, he'll come around!

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okay...theres this boy that i wanna ask to our end of school dance, but i already asked him whose hes goin with and he said no one and i didnt ask him to the dance. i have no idea how to do it. any suggestions? or any ways to get him to ask me?

just go up to him and ask him. if thats too much for you, write him a note "will you go to the dance with me?". there was this really neat idea one time and it was make him a plate asking him to go and bake him cookies...when he eats them hell see the message. the way to a guys heart is through his stomach! hope it all works out for you.

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i have got a drama script to lern for this thursday and i have tried everything to lern it,i think i know ity but i go on stage and i forget it. and i dont know what to do. we haev been staying afta school till 8-9 clock in the evenning,now the drama techer is having a massive go at me, i ended up crying cos i was so frustraiting. anyone got a special way to lern it, i ll neeed your advice soon plse guys xx

write them on your hands/arms for a whole day. by writting them, you are putting them into you head and by having them litterally on you, you can review them. hope this works for you! (i have the same problem lol)

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a girl at my school has been going through a very tough time lately. her dad left 3 weeks ago and she just found out that she might be pragnant. this would be much easier if she WASN'T 13!!! but she is and we are best friends. im the only one that knows about the pregnant thing. what do i tell her i rate high for a real answer
thanx

just let her know she can turn to you and confide in you if she needs to talk. try to understand her and make sure you dont tell anyone about the pregnate thing...its non of anyone else' business. you dont really need to tell her anything, just be there.

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I was with my girlfriend for 2 years when she got pregnant. It wasn't a planned pregnancy but we decided that we would deal with it. The first week that she brought that baby home things were good. We got a little apartment and I was working full time during the day and she would work a couple hours at night just until I could support us with only my job. Well one day I got home from work and she was gone. She left a note saying that she wasn't ready for a child and that she's leaving our daughter with me. It's been a week since then. I've been doing the best I can but I don't know the first thing about being a parent and I have no one to ask about it. I grew up in foster homes my whole life. I love my little girl to death but I just don't know what to do anymore. She doesn't stop crying. I've tried feeding her, changing her, rocking her, everything that I can think and she keeps crying. I brought her to the doctor and he said that there is nothing physically wrong wtih her. I don't know what to do. If anyone has idea of what could be causing this please let me know. I would also appreciate it if any one knows anything about taking care of a 3 week old baby. Please help me.

Jack

AWW! well im glad you are being responsible and keeping the baby...that shows that you are an adequit father. hold her a lot, play water sounds to calm her, and sing to her. if your gf was breast-feeding, she might be cranky because of that. get her pacifier to keep her quiet or give her a soothing bath. (that would get anyone to shut up). lemme know if you need any more help.

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i really want a graphic that says Lisa in glow letter they are like bubble shaped..im know it sounds wierd but if anyone knows what i'm talking about could you please find me one.It can be any color just make sure it says Lisa.I'm searching hometown.aol.com but there are so many pages!!!Someone please if you find one send me a link to the page! xO!

you could try nuthinbutnet.com (i think they have a place where u can make them) or starlight.com...they have a bunch of names there.

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I'd like to start a tradition with the theater that I'm in. Any good suggestions and ideas?

i think something cool and simple would be a really crazy pre-show dance/warmup. that will be remembered!

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15/f
I've been told i have possible moderate to severe depression. I'm not allowed to see a counsler or go on meds. My family does not believe in it. lately. i've been feeling horrible. like i wish i had the gun, wish i didnt have to wake up. i've talked to the school counsler a little. my friend took my down there. but i have trouble talking about this to an adult a lot. i never really believed i could have actual depression. just always thought i was a pansy. how can i stop getting so upset? Also, i havent been able to sleep a lot and the exhaustion is adding to my sorrow. i dont know what to do. now its affecting those i love most. even my bf is starting to notice things i wish he wouldnt. how can i talk to my parents about this? or the school counsler?
ps. i use to cut and attempt sucide but i got over that. but now im finding i want to start agian. n its hard not to fall back into the same old hole that it took me so long to get out of.

well i will tell you, i was in your position last year and people will never believe you. later on theyll realize what was going on. look for an adult that you really trust...counselors arent very personal if you know what i mean. try a friends parent that you know really well. just talkin to someone that cares helps a lot! dont fall back into that hole, find something that you love and live for that and give it your all. i run and it helps me get myself together. let me know f you need anymore help with this...im on here all the time and i have experience.

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Hey does anyone know where to find black jeans that are flared? Like stores that hold them. I hate straight-legged pants.. and whenever I try to find black jeans the store helpers dont seem to GET that I want BLACK jeans.. not a different material of pants..

Either that or they point out some dark clue jeans and I don't understand how they think it's BLACK. I don't want gothic pants or anything, I just mean simple black flared jeans or some cute black jeans that AREN'T straight-legged, because I honestly need some new clothes and have wanted them for the longest time.

So anyone know what good stores to look in for this type of stuff?

Thanks

deb has tons of them, try khols...they should be on sale from winter. theyre by glow jeans and theyre flare. i think gap may have some.

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... i love my boyfriend and never want to leave him .... its just sometimes ... i dont and i want to kill myself because he never seems happy with me ... he get irritated and even slaps me sometimes. But i dont want to break up! Please help ... I dont know what else to do

~ Hurtin' on the outside

please get out of that relationship! that is not love if he hits you. you are just gonna end up hurt and wating to kill yourself even more cuz this guy is never gonna let you feel like your good enough. find someone that treats you right.

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Yes..... I would definitly love the article!! I'll def rate you if you help me out. thanks so much!!!

ok here it is: there are 2 sides to it....a girl who is a lesbian and a girl that thought she could be.
" in middle school, sam, 16. began to accept that she liked girls... when i was growing up, i knew i was different from other girls. for starters, i liked "boy" things, like sports. what really set me apart was that even though i kissed a few boys in middle school, i was always more attracted to the girls i knew. i wanted to kiss and hold hands with them. but i never talked about those feelings b/c i thought i was supposed to like guys. when i was 13 i noticed that my friend amy* was more affectionate than my other friends-shed tickle me and sit on my lap at lunch. it excited me but it was also confusing: did she like girls too? since i wasnt sure, i kept acting the same as i was with all my friends. then one day she kissed me on the lips between classes. maybe there is someone else out there like me, i thought. so the next day at lunch i pulled amy aside from our friends: "do you like girls?" i asked."yeah" she replied. i was psyched- i wasnt the only girl who liked other girls! just hearing her say that changed everything- for the first time, my feelings for girls seemed ok. i told my mom right away that i liked girls. mom had a lot of gay friends so i knew shed be cool about it. she said she supported me and understood. its been 3 years since i came out, and i now have a lot of other friends who are gay that i met at the gay and lesbian center near my house. there are times when its hard, like when people say anti-gay stuff, but having family and friends who are there for me always helps me get through it."
how to know if your gay: 1. do you ever wonder if youll start liking guys-the way you think youre "supposed to"? 2. when your friends talk about boys, do you feel bored-or like you cant relate to their interest of the guys? 3. do you find yourself daydreaming or fantasizing about dating the girls you know instead of the guys? 4. do you ever think about what it would feel like to kiss or make out with another girl? if you answered yes to any of these questions, you probably are attracted to other girls to some degree. that pretty common- and it doesnt necessarily mean your bi or gay.

theres more but i cant fit it all...im soo srry but your going to have to ask again so i can put it all in.

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I don't know if I am straight or bisexual (i'm a 15/f) ... is there any sites I can go to that might help me or like a quiz I can take online or something. Please help thanks in advance.

http://teenadvice.about.com has some quizzes like that about random stuff. its something you should determine without it but if you really need it, there it is. also, the april issue of seventeen has a section about this with some "ways to tell" drop it in my inbox if you want the article.

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OMG i bidded on this cute polo on ebay awhile ago and now my mom is like really mad! I really don't want it anymore and I need someone to outbid me...pleasee!! It's a Blue Abercrombie and Fitch, Medium size polo: http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&category=3064&item=6764544900&rd=1

well if you do end up wining it, you can always sell it to someone on ebay or a friend or sell it to plato's closet. i would outbid you but i too am not allowed to bid.

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Is it normal to think your boyfriend is going to break up with you? I don't like being online because most of my relationships ended that way and I'm afraid of getting notes... My other two relationships were pretty bad and I dunno...Am I too paranoid?

yeah its normal to be paranoid about those things. just relish every moment and dont look too far into the future...youll be happier.

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What things make your face break out or makes you get pimples?

well i dont think anyone mentioned it but washing your face toomuch/too often can also lead to breakouts.

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