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What's wrong with me?
15/f
I've been told i have possible moderate to severe depression. I'm not allowed to see a counsler or go on meds. My family does not believe in it. lately. i've been feeling horrible. like i wish i had the gun, wish i didnt have to wake up. i've talked to the school counsler a little. my friend took my down there. but i have trouble talking about this to an adult a lot. i never really believed i could have actual depression. just always thought i was a pansy. how can i stop getting so upset? Also, i havent been able to sleep a lot and the exhaustion is adding to my sorrow. i dont know what to do. now its affecting those i love most. even my bf is starting to notice things i wish he wouldnt. how can i talk to my parents about this? or the school counsler?
ps. i use to cut and attempt sucide but i got over that. but now im finding i want to start agian. n its hard not to fall back into the same old hole that it took me so long to get out of.
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cutting, I'm still trying to deal with, but the parent thing, how can your parents not believe in treatment? Depression is a very real disease, and they need to underatnd that it's just like a broken leg, only you're emotionally broken instead of physically. They may be having issues coping with your disease, mabye you guys should browse [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) together, it has some good information on understanding and treating depression.
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I understand what you mean completely.
.. I go to therapy, but I know you're parents don't believe in it.. which is why you should definitely see if you could set up dates with the school counseler to just take a period to sit down and talk about this. Maybe your parents don't have to know at first.. I mean it's better then not getting anywhere with what you're feeling ya know?
good luck
`jessie
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i can understand where you are coming from....i sort of self-diagnosed myself with depression. i told a few people about it, like close friends, school counsellors, and i found that they didnt really help. i started talking to a friend i knew froma few years ago just recently and i told him about my problems and issues i ahve with myself and telling someone that didnt really know me kinda helped. now we are good friends. im sort of over the depression. i still get sad alot and have "episodes" where i get all upset and have repetitive thoughts about suicide. i find that writing my problems down on paper help as well. or going to a quiet place, going for a walk, engaging in activity that makes you concentrate on things other than how screwed up you think your life is. i wouldnt suggest going to you parents unless you really feel like they will understand. i am roughly the same age as you and our generation is dealing with issues quite different to what our parents had to or have to now. you are not a pansy,or weak or whatever, just because you ahve depression. you need to know that you arent the only one with it....and it is really a disease. there is always someone out there willing to listen to you and whatever you have to say. XOXOX
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Who told you first of all? A doctor? I feel you may be right, but just think that just because one person says so it might not necessarily be the truth.
Who knows about this? The school counseller seems a good idea- it's good of your friend to go with you. It will take a while to trust them but maybe by talking it will help you- at least to some extent. They also will be able to tell you what is available for you. If you want they may be able to speak to your parents to try to help. It could benifit you as a third party can often convey things in a straightforward way which may help your parents to understand.
If the counseller doesn't/ you don't want them to talk to your parents, maybe a teacher or you could write a letter really explaning?
Do your parents know about your suicide attempt or cutting? I'm guessing not, and therefore telling them would be hard. You don't have to. You don't have to disclose anything you don't wish to.
See a doctor before speaking to your parents- can you? I'm not sure what if possible if you live in the US but I know you can in the UK. The doctor will keep your confidentiality and give you more solid advice and options.
Someone suggested Stn John's wart- I've tried this. It may be worth a try and will help you to get through this. It's available without perscription which is also good since you can simply buy it from a chemist or shop. Would you be willing to do this?
It's brilliant that you want to start again- I wish you the best of luck. Please don't think that if you do go backwards that it is failure and impossible to g forwards- sometimes going backwards is part of the healing process, however strange that seems.
Welldone too; you've been really brave so far and come through. You can do it. Maybe keeping a journal will help, writing, drama or any club you want- find some outlets. Really try.
Each day that you do wake up is an achievement- you should be really proud of yourself.
Do you know some helplines for if things get really bad? Ring them- you can find them on the internet depending on where you live.
There's also www.youth2youth.co.uk which offers an internet chat room for advice if you need it. You can also go on avariety of message boards such as www.healthboards.com and look for depression. or www.studentcenter.org which is a place for stories, poems, message boards, advice, games and many more.
Don't spend too long on the computer where possible though as you may only dwell on it. I wish you all the best and hope this helped. Let me know if there's anything else I can do. xxx
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You are suffering from classic signs of chemical imbalance depression. I have it. It would be best if you could get your school coucilor to set up a meeting with your parents to discuss the problem. Barring that, a regular medical doctor can prescribe medicine that will help you. A gynocologist can be your best friend in this area. If you can't get the medical help you need, here are some things you can do to help yourself. Don't drink diet drinks: nuetrasweet blocks the nuero-transmitters in your brain that help regulate your mood. Eat lots of turkey, and pasta. These foods provide the neuitrients you need to help you control your moods. Get some sunshine. Exercise. You may want to try an herbal suppliment called St. John's Wort. I hope this information helps you. Big hug and much support!
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Well, I would be hesitant to put you on medication also, if I were your parent. Drugs would be a last resort, but I would be trying other things. a more natural approach. Vitamins and herbs have done wonders with depression. And they are widely prescribed in Europe. Ask you parents if you can take some natural supplements. See if they will take you to a nutritionist. No harm there. The herbal supplements that have been successful in treating mild to moderate depression are
St John's Wort
5HTP
Noni Juice
and I believe there are others. Why not suggest his. Hey, type in your search window.....NATURAL CURES FOR DEPRESSION or NATURAL APPROACH TO DEPRESSION or TREATING DEPRESSION NATRUALLY, or just look up St. John's Wort. (wort means plant)
and see what comes up. If you find something interesting, print it out and give it to your parents to read
I hope this helps.
Michele
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well i will tell you, i was in your position last year and people will never believe you. later on theyll realize what was going on. look for an adult that you really trust...counselors arent very personal if you know what i mean. try a friends parent that you know really well. just talkin to someone that cares helps a lot! dont fall back into that hole, find something that you love and live for that and give it your all. i run and it helps me get myself together. let me know f you need anymore help with this...im on here all the time and i have experience. <3
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Sadly I know how you feel I've been in all those situations and it flat out sucks theres no other way to say it.I understand how hard it is to fall in to a bad habbit and how easy it is to start a new bad habbit.In this case I would say to talk about this with someone you trust such as a friend or adult.It's hard especially to talk to adults because most think they know how it is to be a kid but times have changed and they have no clue.The more people who know about this and the more people will be supportive and give you that extra support you need when you feel you've reached a low point in your life.When your feeling low on yourself think of all the people who care about you and that they would do anything to see you happy and you'll know how upset those people would be to see anything bad to happen to you.
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