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Helo,my name is Christine a.k.a Tina.I am 14 and in the 8th grade at Abington j.r high school.I have blond hair,blue eyes,and am 4 foot 11 inches.I like to dance,play softball,ice skate,listen to music,go to the mall,and chill with my friends.

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Ok so i am 7th grade 13 and I like an 8th grader. We aren't going out; yet. I really like him, my friend asked him he said he liked me too. Tomorrow we don't have school and it's supposed to be like 88°. Well he lives really close to me. He was like, what are you doing tomorrow, and I was like i'll be so bored. He says well, maybe if you can, you can come over and chill with me and austin (his friend). Then he said I have a pool and it's supposed to be hot so maybe we can all go swimmin'! I was like sounds awesome. Well I really want to go but i'm afraid what my mom will say if i ask her. She isn't home tomorrow she's at work and i WILL NOT sneak out. But i'm afraid she'll be like, i'm not letting you go over to a boys house you're to younge. WHAT DO I DO OR SAY OR DO about my mom.... i REALLY WANT TO GO!

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Warm up to her ya know help her do the dishes or make your bed.Then just lay it all down on the table say"Mom i want to go over my friends house and go swimming."If she asks who tell her one of your guy friends.I mean theirs no law that says you can't have friends that are guys.If she say no be like well when you were my age didn't you want to do stuff like this.Try to get her to relate to you put her in your position and maybe she'll see it your way.Hope I helped!!!!
~Tina~

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I like my friend's brother and now that she knows, every little thing he does she always looks at me. It's weird. I want to get to know him better, but just because I talk to him I don't want her staring at me. Plus, how can I get to talk to him when he is in another conversation. I don't want him to think I'm rude and that I just join in on other people's conversations. It's really hard for me to get the chance to talk to him because the only time I really see him is on the bus, so thats my only opportunity to get to know him. So, how do I get to know him without sounding rude or nosy?

Well when u go to ur friends house and your going to do something invite him with you.For example say your gonna walk to CVS ask him if he wants to come show him that you want to make an extra effoet to spend time with him without being rude about it.He'll notice (trust me) and he'll get the picture that you like him and then hopefully he'll like you back and the rest is magic!LoL!!Hope I helped!!
~TiNa~

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I think that this guy that rides my bus is attracted to me and he is really sweet. I've never had a boyfriend before so I don't know what to expect. Plus, he happens to be my friends brother aswell. He always stare at me and turns away when i look, and when he thinks I'm not looking he stares again. Anyways recently i have admitted that I really do like him. I told my friend that I liked her brother. How do i get to know him better as a friend first without sounding like an idiot? And once I am friends with him how can I get him to take that step forward with me? I'm just trying to figure out what I need to do to see if he's into me or not? Please help.

Well i think you should try to find some way to spend more time with him.Invite him and some other people over so you can chill with him and not make it seem like you just wanna put moves on him or you don't even wanna get to know him you just want to go out with him.After this say hi in the hallways and slowly spend more time with him untill you develope a friendship.After this if you still feel the same way about him let him know!Hopefully he'll feel the same way but if not theres plenty more fish in the sea and your a real catch and don't let anyone tell you any differentlly!!!Hope i helped!!!
~TiNa~

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well in technology my friend and i were talking about our 'love life' and i was like"what if roger asked you out what would you say?" and shes like i would say heck yes. we dont know who he likes but i think its her and she thinks it me but i was like who would ever want to go out with me and shes like a lot of people would want to go out with you. and then i started laughing because i thought it was funny because i think some one was actually saying a compliment to me, and saying that some one would go out with me. which i dont think its true because people always talk about how pretty my older sister is and i dont think they refer to me. and in a way im kind of getting said. because i see how other girls my age and see how pretty they are and then look at me. i have no clue what to do? i know you might not know what im talking about, like what i should do. like i just dont know why guys wont go out with me,and yes i know your pretty in your own way but is it really true?

No matter what anyone says your bueatifull!For example I'm the fattest out of all my friends yet the guys pay just as much attention to me as they do the really really pretty ones.It all depends on your personality and your reaction to what people say.A lot of my friends who are the life of all partys aren't 1/2 as hott as some of the other ones there but people just get this positive vibe when there around them and thats why people like them.Honestly i mean if you went out with a hottie but he had no personality i bet you'd trade him in for a not so hott guy with a awsome personality.Make people want to be around you show them how much fun you are and they'll have no option but to except you and join in on the fun.And just because you don't have a b/f rite now dosen't mean anything!!I mean who knows maybe that o so special someone will tell you they have a crush on you some time soon, u nvr know!!So keep your head up and always walk around with a smile on your face and let people know your here and your someone worth getting to know!!
~TiNa~

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i feel like everyone around me has a boyfriend. i feel so alone and i really want to have the feeling of a boyfriend again. i feel as if everyone around me is moving so fast...one of my friends just did third base wih a guy. i am 14 and still haven't gotten my first kiss. i wish i could just find a guy.. what is taking sooo long!

A relationship is very important and can't be developed over night.And something as special as a first kiss may take even longer.Things happen as they should and thats the way it's meant to be.When you should have a boyfriend and get your first kiss is when it will happen and no sooner.But in the mean time live life to the fullest as if your gonna die tomorrow.Dance on tables,flirt with guys,and above all have FUN!!Hope I helped!!
~TiNa~

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we'll call her leslie...we used to be best friends, until this year, i made a ton of new friends(being involved in a lot of stuff helps) and well she doesnt get involved in anything, and she complains about people all the time and talks trash about people, and is obsessed with really retarded things, like TPing is like her favorite thing and she keeps asking me to go TPing or spray painting with her, and well shes kinda childish...we're both 16 but im the only one who has the liscense and if we hang out i always have to drive and gas is really expensive, and overall shes just really annoying. how should i let her know that we're not really best friends anymore?

Telling anyone that anything they don't want to be over is, is always very difficult.I'm guessing that you want to let her off gently I would do it slowly.When she calls to hang out tell her your busy (even if you aren't) but not all the time, let it happen slowly show her that your growing apart.Show her your friends but not best friends any more.
~TiNa~

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every time i like some one and then they start to like me i dont' like them anymore... i dont know why but i think im afraid to fall in love because i went out with some one before and then he broke up with me and broke my heart and then thats when it all started.. i dont knwo if it's a case of really bad hard to get.. or i am scared.... i need help! :-(

I've delt with the same situation and it's very confusing.One minute this guy is the man of your dreams and the next he might as well be a frog!You have to realize that even though your heart was broken before dosen't mean it will happen again i mean before you find Mr.Right you will fall in and out of love 100's of times as well as have your heart broken and break a few hearts yourself.So don't be afraid to fall in love and give it another chance!Good Luck!!!
~Tina~

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i've liked this kid from a different town for like half a year but i didnt realize it until recently. he started acting really flirty and i started to like him more. and then i told him about a week ago. i havent really talked to him much since, he hasnt really been online. one of my friends says maybe his computer crashed or something, because he was really nice and wouldnt just avoid me but i dont know. any help?

He seems like a good guy!Listen if your thinking about starting a realtionship you have to be honest and let him know exactlly how you feel.I mean he's no mindreader no guy is or ever will be.Make an extra effort to be around him and he'll notice that and at least get the clue about how much u like him and he'll think WOW if this girl cares about me this much she must be worth at least talking too.

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15/f
I've been told i have possible moderate to severe depression. I'm not allowed to see a counsler or go on meds. My family does not believe in it. lately. i've been feeling horrible. like i wish i had the gun, wish i didnt have to wake up. i've talked to the school counsler a little. my friend took my down there. but i have trouble talking about this to an adult a lot. i never really believed i could have actual depression. just always thought i was a pansy. how can i stop getting so upset? Also, i havent been able to sleep a lot and the exhaustion is adding to my sorrow. i dont know what to do. now its affecting those i love most. even my bf is starting to notice things i wish he wouldnt. how can i talk to my parents about this? or the school counsler?
ps. i use to cut and attempt sucide but i got over that. but now im finding i want to start agian. n its hard not to fall back into the same old hole that it took me so long to get out of.

Sadly I know how you feel I've been in all those situations and it flat out sucks theres no other way to say it.I understand how hard it is to fall in to a bad habbit and how easy it is to start a new bad habbit.In this case I would say to talk about this with someone you trust such as a friend or adult.It's hard especially to talk to adults because most think they know how it is to be a kid but times have changed and they have no clue.The more people who know about this and the more people will be supportive and give you that extra support you need when you feel you've reached a low point in your life.When your feeling low on yourself think of all the people who care about you and that they would do anything to see you happy and you'll know how upset those people would be to see anything bad to happen to you.

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yo, i know that ive been acting really nice to you and stuff and this is really unexpected but im mad at you. this is maria by the way. im not the kinda gal that would be mean to the person im mad at so..... im mad because you had a party and invited me but you invited not even half the people to sleep over.and you just come over my house any damn time you want!then you got mad and said "i cant believe you dont have a ride my moms gonna be so pissed" when my mom was more pissed then yours will ever be! plus stephanie was supposed to give me a ride home and she slept over your house.well... i think this should explain a lot.
-maria

I'm sorry I didn't invite you to sleepover!It's just if I invited you and Julia I would have to invite Grace and then there would be 2 many people and I had already told the people who were sleeping over that they could and I couldn't just randomly be like "You can't sleepover!".You know what I mean?But if I could go back in time and invite you I would.I wasn't thinking and I'm so so so sorry!And about the whole ride thing my mom was in her pj's and about 2 go 2 bed and the only reason she was still up was because she wanted 2 make sure every1 got home safe and she didn't want 2 change and take you home at 10:30 p.m!I know you thought you were getting a ride with Steph but that got all screwed up!So....!I already have Julia mad at me and Kirstin and Donna ignoring me all the time and I don't wanna loose you 2!!!Your a good person and an even better friend and i don't wanna ruin that over something stupid!

P*S-I'm glad you told me cuz i thought something was up when you weren't talking 2 me!Andd tell Julia i'm so so so sorry 2!!!!

~Love your hoping 2 be still friend, Christine~

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does anyone know of a good gel or something to use on hair when straightening it? i have used so many stuff in my hair but my hair is still getting all dried and burnt from the heat. PLEASE HELP!

I doubt u've heard of it but it's calledCHI stands for Catonic Hydration Interlink.It's grat and it leaves ur hair really soft and smooth!
~Hope I helped~

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me and my bf have this thing where like i dont talk to guys and he doesnt talk to girls. well he never looks at other girls and on tv if something comes on he just turns it off.he has rented a game and it had cartoon chicks on it wearing really skankie outfits he didnt play it he just took it back.. am i too controling? or does my opion just mean that much to him?

Well he's a guy and all guys need to look at girls i mean they like have to.You know?If he really is ur b/f then if he looks at girls it won't matter cuz he still cares about you!Let him know it's ok if he looks at girls but you don't want that to be all he tlks about!
~Hope I helped~

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Does He Like Me?
Posted Wednesday November 03 2004, 4:52 pm
Hi I am 13 years old and i am female... Here is my problem..So, for a while now, I've had my eye on this guy... He's more like my best friend... I've really really liked him since the middle of last year, I tried to move on but I couldn't, as much as I wanted to move on, I couldn't... I just liked him even more... A couple of weeks ago I told im how I felt about him, it was a bit dramatic, since I gave him this letter which was about 2 and a half pages long, mentioning everything i feel about him... He read it and he didnt mention the letter since I pretty much asked him not to mention it. You'd expect things to get peculiar between us, since we're best friends and i love him way more then that... But things have kind of gotten better... He's been "closer" to me, as in, he hugs me every minutes, puts his arm around me, follows me, tickles me, flirts with me, sits next to me, looks into my eyes, and everything... he even invites me to hang out with him and stuff....it seems like he likes me, but I dont know for sure how he really feels, I mean.. I dont have enoguh guts to walk up to him and be like "do u like me" it might put us in a peculiar stage. So, what are some signs that shows if he really feels the same way about me as I do about him??
-- PoeticxTragedy

i think hes given u major signs!Go 4 it ask him out!Hope i Helped!!!!!

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i just got a filling and i had the novacain thing. and now its all numb. i was woundering how long does it take to make it back to normal. cause im drinking soda now and i cant taste it on the side of my mouth. so aproximately how long would it take ? thanks.

My moms a dentist and she says about 2 hour and not 2 ply wit it !Hope I Helped!

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Ok. So I'm a junior and I like this guy whos a senior. I have a sister whos a senior and she told this guy that I wanted him. The guy told my sister that I was fine as h*ll and asked why i never talk to him or ask him for his number. well that was 2 weeks ago nand then my sister told me this weekend that he said: why dosent your sister ever come and talk to me? well... i see him all the time and he never talks to me either.... so what sould i do? should i wait for him to talk 2 me? should i talk 2 him (i'm kinda shy around guys i like) or wHat? haha thanx!

Guys r stupid if u send them major messages that u want them they act all kool and wait 4 u 2 make a move!So be darin and tlk 2 him! HOPE I HELPED!!!

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Okay, I don't know if your any good at this but I've known this guy Mick since I was 5 pretty much (I'm 18 now), we have a good friendship and everything then his bro. comes and asks me if I would possibly go out with Mick, I told him yeah, so about a week later Mick and I were hanging out in my truck listening to music, and he asked me out and verything started going good till we went to a competition for band and he met this other chick from Dyer County named A.C. and she wouldn't leave us alone and about 3-4 days later we broke up but we're still friends and hangout out and everything, but the thing that bothers me is that one minute he'll act like he still likes me more than a friend (He still does, he told me himself) then he'll act like he hates me when his bro. Justin will stick us on the same shift to work for the ballgames, Justin's meaning to stick us together like that because he doesn't like the Dyer County chick either and she lives 2 hour away, he doesn't have a car or liscense and can only talk on the phone for about 15 min. at a time and I know so much about him and I'm one of the people that can get him to talk when he gets pissed. she's all into pot and she doesn't care how she looks and she's not good for him. Should I try and get back with him by looking all cute and irresistable around him because it drove him mad one night when I was joking around with some guys that are just friends that I would never do anything with. or what? please help me.
oh, I'm 18 and a white girl, and Mick's a 18 guy.
ash

Let me start off by sayin who gets guys!Now 2 ur question.I would tell how i felt and if that didn't work i'd just flirt wit him!HOPE I HELPED!!

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my boyfriend is awesome on the phone and stuff but then in person hes like distand he doesnt hold my hand, put his arm around me or anything like that...he hugs me when he says good bye and soemtimes kisses me ..i know hes not prude or anything like that because ive seen him with his ex girlfriends and i know hes not a virgin but i hate it like i hangout with my friends that are dating and theyre all over eachother and im lonely which is pretty sad when i have a bf what should i do

Tell him u need more attention.You no he luvs u but u need reminders every so ofen!(Every grl dose
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I feel torn between two groups of friends. One group (Group 1) doesnt like the my friends in the other group (Group 2). They are always fighting and I fel that if I stand up for my friends in Group 1 then my friends in Group 2 will hate me. Group 2 friends are always teasing and saying really rude things to Group 1 friends. I DO stand up for my friends....I just feel that I am hurting my other friends by standing up for them and telling them to back off and to stop saying those things. Group 2 doesnt ever seem to minds it when I tell them to back off but then they never talk to me unless Group 1 isnt around. How can I not feel so torn between my friends? I love them all and dont want to lose any of them!

Well if i wuz u i would tell both groups of friends that even tho i like them i like the other group 2 and not 2 tlk shit bout them while i'm there cuz i stick up 4 my friends!HOPE I HELPED!!!!

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I am always always depressed. I find myself constantly upset and moody. I have very little self confidence and right now I am in a rocky patch with my friends so I feel even worse. My boyfriend and everyone around me tells me that I am pretty and people like me but I don't feel that way.

Honestly i've been there!In times like these u must look 2 ur family and people who luv ya 4 comfort!Friends come and go but if they really care 4 u then ur friendship will stand through anything!Try 2 do the stuff u love 2 keep ur sririts up and if u feel like breakin down then think of ur bf and ur family!HOPE I HELPED!!!!!!!!!!!

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i am in love with a girl, she used to like me but she for some reason "stopped"...i found out recently that she snuck out with her friend and two guys and went somewhere and was making out with this guy for like 2 hours and i thought me and her had something, she said he was really nice and they just clicked and hes a sophomore at my school, although me and her "clicked" supposedly and i was nicer to her than any guy could ever imagine being to her...she told me not to be mad at her, hate her, or stop talking to her because that would be fucked up...please dont tell me to get over it and everything...ive tried and theres more to it but im sure youll get bored reading this long page...ill rate a 5 if you give me a helpful answer...WHAT DO I DO!?!?!?!

Gettin ovr a crush is nvr easy!You must realize that people change.I'm sure u've changed as compared 2 last year to.As the grl goes i think you should tell her how u feel and if that doesn't work then i'm sure u can find an even better grl 2 have a crush on!!!!!!!HOPE I HELPED!!

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