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should i ditch her?
we'll call her leslie...we used to be best friends, until this year, i made a ton of new friends(being involved in a lot of stuff helps) and well she doesnt get involved in anything, and she complains about people all the time and talks trash about people, and is obsessed with really retarded things, like TPing is like her favorite thing and she keeps asking me to go TPing or spray painting with her, and well shes kinda childish...we're both 16 but im the only one who has the liscense and if we hang out i always have to drive and gas is really expensive, and overall shes just really annoying. how should i let her know that we're not really best friends anymore?
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No don't tell her,but tell her when she gets annoying and tell her how much gas costs.you could just drift away from her.Just talk to her on the phone and stop meetig her in person.Then stop talking to her on the phone and only send her emails.then stop sending her emails
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i think she probably knows. just from personal experience, most people are able to pick up on when friendships go sour. i would try introducing her to people she'd like, and see how it goes
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Tell her that you've changed alot over the years , and well you dont want to break it down bad but just be like "Leslie, i'm sorry to say but i've changed , and obviously you havent and well i have met more new exciting friends to hang out with , sorry !"..And if she's talking trash about people,its going to give you also a bad reputation like for instance they might say "Why are you her friend,she talks alot of shit about alot of people "you know what i mean ? and well yeah TPing is fun , but if she wants to do it all the time , then yeah its childish ! But yes , gasoline nowadays IS very expensive !!! Hope i helped ,Vic♥ If you have any questons just feel free to ask !
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Maybe you should'nt completely "DITCH" her but It seems to me you dont really want to be her BEST friend anymore but then you dont want to compleatly diz her.Try talking to her tell her she is 16 and to start acting like it. But if that doesnt help still keep contact with her maybe just dont be as COOL* with her as you were.It wouldnt work out anyway because you are maturing. One day she'll get to your level just wait.Still keep contact....Hope I helped :)
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well if you ignore her and avoid her calls and make excuses for not going and doing anything with her than she should get it.
If she deosnt get it then just come straight out and tell her what you just told us. Who knows... it could help her get it together and go do something with her life....if shes got any smarts at all.
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avoid her. make excuses and tell her that you have something else to do like homework or that someone else asked you to hang out with them so you cant hang out with her if she comes up to you.
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Slowly drift away. It won't be easy..but it will be worthwhile in the end. Hang out with your friends who aren't annoying. She'll get the message when she realizes you don't want to talk to her anymore..yeah, it may be harsh..but there's no gentle way to put this...and yeah TPing is kind of childish..maybe she'll learn to grow up when she isn't depending on someone else anymore..and yeah gas is really expensive..you don't have to waste your money for someone you don't really want to hang out with..hope i helped..<3
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Try telling her this. Don't be mean though. Just tell her that you think that stuff is kind off childish and you get offended when she trash talks people. You could also try just drifting from her. Don't make an effort to be nice to her. Let her see that it's over with out just breaking it to her. Good luck!
x's and o's
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just tell her how you feel and maybe she'll get that those things arent just fun anymore and introduce her to your new friends
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WOW!
Just giver her time to grow out of that "childish" state. Just let her do her own thing then one day she will realize how much of a good friend you really are!! The same thing is beginning to happen to me and my Best Friend so I know where your coming from. I hope I helped!
~Linda
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Wow. Um let me see. You can be like "we were once real cool. But now were growing apart. I'm growing up but you still seem to be a child. I don't want to seem cruel but I don't want to be friends with you anymore". It's short, simple anad too the point. I hoped I helped.
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WOW.. i know exactly how u feel. I am going threw the same thing with my friend Katie. But my she knows. We aren't really buddy-buddy, but we still talk alot. I've talked to her about it and i told her that i still wanted to be her friend. I broke it to her nicely that she is annoying, and shes been trying really hard not to be. If "lesilie" wants to be your friend, then she try alot harder, but if not., she'll probably leave you alone. Just break it to her nicely, but stress that u want to friends still. Tell her to stop taking advantage of you. Tell her that shes annoying. And tell her you still want to be friends.Xo ms.cleo 0X
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Telling anyone that anything they don't want to be over is, is always very difficult.I'm guessing that you want to let her off gently I would do it slowly.When she calls to hang out tell her your busy (even if you aren't) but not all the time, let it happen slowly show her that your growing apart.Show her your friends but not best friends any more.
~TiNa~
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Dost thou not knowest who she is? Annoyance is only thou greatest work of hatred to thou fairest friend of all time. To be a child, not wrong - great, but yet still to be a good thing dost thou know - is an expression of her inward desires to please thou friendship. Not forever, maybe years; but forever wilt she not be a child.
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It is not unusuall for friends to grow apart. Especially at your age, kids mature at different rates. If you feel bad, then why not go slowly. Be busy the next time she wants to do something, but not the next. Then be busy the next two times she wants to do something, then not the third, then be busy....well you get it. Eventually she will find some new friends. Probably someone younger than her, that still likes to go TPing. Isn't that something you do around Halloween?
Michele
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well you could either tell her strait out that you guys arent as close as you were. or you could just push her away, like if she calls u and wants to hang out just tell her you have other plans, she should eventually get the hint.
hope i could help
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