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HE WONT LEAVE ME ALONE! We aren't even going out!
This boy admitted to liking me a while ago and I have recently told him I think we should just be friends. He wanted to go out with me during the summer. He doesn't listen and I think I need to run it by him again in different words...will this do?...."I need to talk to you, about this summer, I have to be honest, I don't think we should go out because I like you but not in that way and I don't think it will work out. You deserve someone who can return your affections for them. I just want to be fair with you. I'm sorry, but I want to be upfront." What do you think? and also, if u have anymore advice feel free to share the love.
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ya got it ! you gotta be honest
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I think that will work. After you say "I don't think we should go out because I like you" then you could say "and your a really nice boy but I don't like you in that way and I don't think it will work out ect.
Karazi Kenzee
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It sounds good! Just try not to walk away after you tell him!
cody
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Yeah..i like that "break up"..even though its not a break up lol. you get my drift. If he doesn't leave you alone even after that, than you probably will HAVE to be kind of mean about it because he obviously didn't get the point before. Just be like "I don't like you! im sorry! but you are really getting on my nerves! i have told you A MILLION TIMES that i don't and you just don't get it! I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings but it had to be said!" or something like that. Harsh? yes..but what are you going to do?
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I give your speech two thumbs up :D Just remember, no matter how he reacts, continue to be calm, honest, and as gentle as possible. Good luck ;)
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Sounds perfect. :)
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I think your explanation will work just fine. Sounds great to me! Sad to hear your ending a relationship though!
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That sounds like a great thing to say, it seems honest and doesn't sound mean. Good luck. :)
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you don't need to lead him on anymore, that's for sure. maybe you should tell him gently if he's a sensitive person. if he a pimp, honey, he ain't gon miss you. but this type of thing ain't all that complicated. it's just the right words you need to find. however you say them, just make sure it doesn't make you feel bad or break his heart. good luck and god bless
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Very nice way of saying it! Some other girls would just get mad and tell him off, but the way you're going to say it is a nice choice of words. I believe telling the truth is the best way of dealing with this, and if he still keeps asking you out, ignore him. If he can't respect your opinions, then he must not be a good friend at all. If he accepts your feelings and acts JUST like a friend, then you've done good.
Good luck!
~Alexa~
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I know the feeling...Recently, a guy at my school wouldn't leave me alone. I told a teacher and he stopped. I think you should tell him what you wrote. (above) If he keeps contining go to a trusted adult.
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Hmm... very good. You could also try something like,
"I think we need to discuss something again. You know how you said you liked me? Well, I think that's really sweet, but... I only like you as a friend. I don't want to be unfair with you, and that's why I have to tell you that I don't think we should go out this summer. There are girls that would return your love and you could be happy with. It's not fair for you if I fraud my way through. I'm really sorry, but I have to be honest with you."
It's basically the same thing, in a few different words. That's an excellent idea, good way of putting it. It's awesome that you don't want to lead him on, just letting it run it's course. That would hurt him worse, you know? Remember to be kind, polite and understanding when you tell him this... it's going to be a huge reality check. Believe me... I know what you're feeling. It's not easy, because you don't want to hurt him, but you don't want to be unfair to him. Be fair. He's a man, he'll get over it. He'll thank you for being so honest with him.
Godspeed and good journey!
-FunnyCide
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That's an excellent way to nicely tell him that you really do not want to go out with him this summer. I think the part that he will appreciate is when you tell him that he deserves someone who can return their affections to him. That shows him that you care about him, but in a friendly sort of way, not in a "going out" sort of way. What I think that you really need to tell him is that you've already said no, and you doubt the answer will change easily. He is being extremely pushy, and he needs to back off. Once you say no, he should realize it's not going to work if he tries asking you out again in a week, or a month. Be friendly, but make sure that he completely understands that no means no.
Good luck:-)
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