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i am 13 female and i think that i am lesbian. i dont want to be lesbian and i want to stop. how do i stop being lesbian? i havent make out with a girl yet but here are the things i like: 1)girls kissing. 2) "perfect" breast. 3) cute faces. and 4) hearing girls moan during sexual things. i think that the cute face and perfect breast thing is just me being insecure about myself but what about the other things? anyway how did i become lesbian in the first place? is it in my genes or something? i need help!!!!!
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girl dont worry about it there are a lot of people who arent sure about their sexuality so dont feel bad there could be a lot of things going on and your emotions are mixed up just try to see if you can talk to somebody like a councilor
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Okay, my b/f and I have been going out for almost 4 months now. Before we went out we were really good friends. I like him a lot and I know that he likes me a lot too. But I feel like I'm always looking and flirting with other guys. I'm kind of getting bored with our relationship I guess. What I'm asking is if I should stay in the relationship .. and if anyone has any suggestions for what I should do ? I don't want to hurt him or our friendship.
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its normal to get bored in a relationship and feeling like you need to date other people and it wouldnt hurt to date other people just make sure your b/f knows that and try to see if there is any real reason that you shouldnt date him anymore and talk to him that always helps
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Theres this guy that i thought i liked. I liked him to. Well Today we had an arguement.Becuase i had told one of his friends that i didnt want to talk to him anymore. Well my friend told him, so then he knew. Ok. so today he calls me and ask why i dont want to talk to him anymore? i actually thought like, wow he cares enough to call me and ask. that must mean something right? i dont know, but anyways so i tell him why because he doesnt call me or take the time to IM me or anything. so he tells me why, and the reasons kind of personal, but trust me it was a good reason. so of course i let it go. so then he tells me. well i love you, and stupid me i said it back. ok so it seems like everythings good and all right? but wrong. later today we decided to hang out with my friends shawn and derek, well shawn and derek have been my friends since ever. their some of my really really good friends.so when im around them, i dont know its just crazy . so we were hanging out at my house and stuff. me shawn derek and the guy im in love with {kyle}. so kyle i guess isnt very good at trying to fit in the conversations i guess. i mean you really cant especially since me shawn and derek like nonstop crazineess. but anyways so we were hanging out, and to kyle i guess he saw it as me flirting with them bc we were laughing over stupid things and talking about some peverted stuff. i thought it was funny, well kyle i guess didnt like it so much. cause he didnt talk the entire time. neither did he laugh. so what am i suppose to do? im not going to be like beggin him to join in the conversation. so w/e. so kyle decided to go upstairs and hang with my brothers. well since me and shawn and derek are practically drunk, we werent drinking though we were just laughing at the stupidest things, bc we havent gotten together this whole entire break yet so there was alot to talk abot. but w/e. so were laughin like really retarded. and kyle tells my brother that i have the most annoying laugh, and the gayest laugh ever. and hearing this i was like wtcrap?? like i mean its something completely stupid. but since i care so much about him, it reallyhurts even though its something totally dumb. im just really hurt, bc at first he said that he loved me then he was just talking behind my back? i dont know but im really depressed right now. i know its kinda my fault bc i wasnt giving him attention and stuff, but thier my friends im not going to just dump them.but it really hurts to hear something like this from him. what should i do? (link)
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guys will say anything to get attention from you... hes feeling left out so hes trying to gain attention back from your guy friends because he feels a little jealous and boys arent as mature or emotional as girls so they dont understand that their words can hurt they just say the first thing that will pop up into their mind without thinking if it will jeopardize their relationship or hurt their girlfriend's feelings.... he probably didnt mean it but you should really talk to him and see if there's a way he can get to know your friends so that he wont feel so left out
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ok so theres this guy his name is blake. he loves me, i love him.. and i seriously mean love. and we've gone out before, but i broke it off because i didnt want a b/f at the time. but i know he still loves me, and i think he knows i still love him. but the thing is he doesnt understand that i dont want a b/f right now. and im scared to lose him because hes the one for me and im the one for him, but im scared if i dont go out w/him soon then it will all be over and he will end up not wanting to wait for me....so wat should i do??? and i dont want to lose him.
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being 13 youre probably feeling a lot of pressure so you should kind of cool it off because youre only 13 and being in love is not easy and im not saying it wont last but just dating one person and not checking other people is not wrong and if you two really love each other then you would take that chance to see who is else there is in the world. and if he really loves you then he wont have no problem respecting your decision about taking some time out. if he doesnt wanna wait for you its his lost and i know you dont wanna lose him and its going to hurt but that happens and you would have to move on and try finding someone new and im not trying to be hard or nothing but i hope this helps a little
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ok there is this guy that i like but he is like 2 years younger than me cause im 15 and he is 13 and i dont know if i should go out with him cause it would be kinda weird cause we go to separt schools and the age difference so should i give him a change anyway ?? (link)
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everybody deserves a chance and if you think he is the type you would want to date and he feels the same way then go for it and dont let nobody tell you any differently because its between you and him its none of their business
besides age aint nothin but a number
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There is a guy named John I recently met who has really taken a liking to me. We've gone on a couple of dates, we get along well and I know that he'd probably be very good for me, but of course, I'm still hung up on my ex, Tom. What's more, Tom and I are still kind of seeing each other, too. We've decided to just go with the flow and seeing what happens, rather than just jump back into something or decide against it.
I made this clear to John on our first date so that I would not be maliciously leading him on. This didn't change John's stance at all and he still seems to want to pursue me. Even though I've told John everything, am I still leading him on by talking to him on the phone and texting him a lot? John and I haven't even so much as kissed but I still want to be careful about this. (link)
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if youre still feeling your ex think of the reason why you two broke up and see if theres a way you can solve the situation and if you cant then just be friends with tom its probably for th best
as far as john if youre not trying to lead him on make it real clear to him that youre just looking for a friend right now so he wont be urging to kiss you or do something that might make you feel uncomfortable just tell him that things are very complicated and you have to settle it and starting another relationship will only make it more complicated but tell him that you still enjoy hanging out with him if you still do
follow your heart is all i really say about it and i hope everything works out for you
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well were do I start me and my x had broken up because I'm not allowed to go out with guys and my mom found out so I broke up with him.well I found out that he was messing around with some other girls,but I didn't get mad cause we weren't together and cause I broke up with him when he still wanted to be together.well when I text message him he still tells me he loves me and still calls me babe and stuff like that.well now every time I text him he never has time for me.he's either to busy or he's eating or doing something and I feel like he doesn't care he wants to get back together,but when he tells me I love you I'm hearing it but I'm not seeing it,and it hurts.I feel like crying cause he's just dissing me,and it makes me feel like sh*t.so what I desided is not to call him or text him and just pretend I don't know him.but why his he doing this?I will rate a 5 just please give me good advice and it will be nice to get advice from a guy who does it.I just want to know why do you do it? (link)
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girl dont worry boys are jerks and they cant be anything but it... he keeps telling you he loves you because he wants you to stay by him and put you on hold but nobody can be put on hold you dont have to ignore him but you shouldnt waste your time on somebody who is only trying to hurt you and make you feel this way you should find somebody else who makes you feel good and you're comfortable around. yea i know guys are gonna make you cry make you mad make you feel like the world is coming to the end but its a guy thing i guess i cant really speak for them about why they are jerks but they are and the best way to handle it is moving on and trying to find somebody who will treat you right...
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I have alot of stuff on my mind lately. A little over a month ago, me and this guy (we'll call him Ed) broke up. We were together for 5 months. They were best 5 months of my life, but at the same time the worst. I've tried for a whole month to get over him and move on. I was "talking" to this other guy (we'll call him Bob). Four days ago, I had sex with him. Now it turns out, at the same he was "talking" to me, he was "talking" to two other girls. Now, this other guy (we'll call him George) wants to go out with me and I think I may have led him on. Not purposely. See, i thought I was finally ready for "commitment"..an actual boyfriend. But I'm not. I just want to have fun. I'm almost positive I'm in love with Ed, and I'm never going to forget Bob. I need to stop hanging out with Bob because he's been lying to me. But I can't, it's like I'm addicted to him. I have feelings for him but in a different way. It's like I just want us to be "friends with benefits". Tonight, George is supposed to come over but I'd rather sit at home alone and think about everything. So I have to tell him I don't want a boyfriend. I need advice (obviously). What should I do about Ed? Should I stop hanging out with Bob or just talk to him about it? How do I tell George I don't want to be with him, or anyone..for a long time? If someone could give me their AIM screen name, that'd be appreciated. I need someone, other than my friends, to talk to. (link)
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ok girl you shouldnt have to choose you can deal with a boyfriend youre on time and nobody should rush you
if you still have feelings for ed then talk to him because he might feel the same way too but if you dont want to embarrass yourself if he doesnt feel the same way then just try to be good friends with him before you let him know
dont keep letting bob use you like that dont let him sleep with you and then talk to other girls making love should be sweet and special not something that he does to get over somebody (not trying to be really mean) but you gotta let him be your friend because you dont wanna get hurt
trying talking to george and see where he is in the picture and in your heart
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Most people think I am slow and I dont know much less, understand why. How do you know if their telling the truth or big fat liars (just to make you feel bad)? (link)
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some times i tell my cousin or friends that but i just be kiddin' around if you think they not playin' and they tellin the truth then you dont have to worry if you dont catch things on so quickly because not everybody does if theyre making you feel bad then tell them if they are your friends if theyre people you dont know then fuck them you dont need any negative people trying to lower your self esteem hope i helped a little
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so i like this guy from camp and he lives like 2 hrs away from me. like i want to call him and everything but im really shy and i wouldnt know what to say. can you help me think of topic to talk about or some way i can get over my shyness?
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you can talk about anything that you have done at camp and whatever happened there and then get into the subject about family and friends and you can find out a little bit more about him and see what he's doing/done for the holidays and then go from there im sure it'll be easier after that i hope i helped...
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Hey I was just wondering well, you see...my boyfriend && i have been going out for 1 month or so and we are not as close as we could be. I'm crazy about him and as far as i know he's crazy about me. But I wanted to know if there was little random things maybe i could do to show him i love him, you know? Another problem is, he hasnt even kissed me yet but he always bothers my best friend and her boyfriend because they kiss everyday. I would sort of like to take a step forward because i like him alot but i dont want to be the first to kiss him. If you guys have any ways i could sort of hint at him that'd be soo great. Thanks in advance
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boys will always be a step behind on relationships no matter how many chicks they've been with.... all you have to do is get a little closer to him or lay on his shoulder hinting him to put his arm around you and then look into his eyes and you go for it and im sure he will kiss you back..... hope i helped
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I have bit of problem but then again since I'm asking a question I guess thats obvious.
15/F. (16 in a couple months)
There is this guy Marcus, who likes me and I guess I like him. Lately my feelings for him have diminished but anyways he has a girlfriend now but he still says he loves me and all that. (I don't understand guys who say they love you when they don't even know what it means)
At the beginning of December I had a dream that sort of disturbed me and didn't make sense but its become constant now. I have it almost every night.
basically I'm taking a walk and I run into Marcus making out with a girl and I'm shocked, hurt and angry at the same time but when I turn around someone is right there and puts their arms around me and reasures me everything is alright. I know this person is a guy because of his cologne. he's in this brown/tan trenchcoat and I finish crying he goes out and beats up Marcus. (its a dream. I have to have my revenge) Then comes back and puts his arms around me a takes out to the car so no one can ask questions. When were out there we've been talking for sometime, I think and then this person says he loves me and I realize I love him too. We kiss and I wake up. The most desturbing part of the dream is that its my best friends' little brother. He's two years younger then me, 13. I mean this kid is very nice, and matture for his age but its no reason for me to be dreaming about him in such ways. I keep telling myself I don't like him. That its not right to like him but for some reason I constantly think about him. I'm really disgusted with myself. I don't even care that he's my best friends' little brother so much as the age. I feel stupid.
I've told my friend about my dream and she sees no problem with it. I can't get her to understand that there is something wrong with me.
Now my real question is, How the hell do I get myself to quit dreaming about him? I try listening to music before I go to bed, and think about anything but him yet it still doesn't work.
Any suggestions would be great.
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there is nothing wrong with you a lot of people always have a crush on their best friend's siblings.... its normal so dont worry
sometimes if you experience your dream then it will go away ive done it before and it kind of works you dont have to ask him out on a date that would be weird just try to talk to him a little without him thinking you like him if you dont and see what he's like for boyfriend material if you like what you see try to convince him to go on a real date and maybe it would turn out right
the other guy i know exactly what you mean about them telling you they love you saying you're beautiful or sexy and just trying to trap you into their silly compliments when they know they got a girl on the side but its normal for fellas they wanna be pimps but they cant be a pimp without a second lady/chick/hoe (not callin' you one) so dont be the second chick
well i hope im helping and i hope everything turns out all right
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Its going to be long but i`ll rate.
It seems as if everythings good in most of my friends lives. I mean I have 3 best friends and two of them have had boyfriends for over 8 months. They are Kelly 13& Chrissi 15 And I'm kinda jealous. I dont want to be single. I absolutly hate it. My other friend Nichole doesn't have a boyfriend.[well she got dumped.] and when she did have a boyfriend she rubbed it in my face. And kept telling me she that she was going out with Kelly. [She doesn't really talk to Chrissi] Well she got on my nerves about that so I laughed when she was crying about being dumped. (I'll admit I'm not the bestest friend. But she did rub it in my face) Well okay lets get to the point I'm kind of jealous of Kelly and Chrissi. But I wouldn't EVER ruin their relationships.
I just don't understand why guys don't like me I mean I think I'm pretty... [urm... sometimes]. I'm okay looking I guess. But it seems that guys think I'm invisable. Kellys mom said I'm pretty to Nichole[when she was in a relationship] and I had to try harder. But I really don't feel like looking because I always get in trouble. [with girls]I'm just confused. I used to have a good self-esteem but it seems to be going away because of this. I just really hate being single. And I don't want to be single. I wish I had a boyfriend. I mean this is literally tearing me apart. I'm depressed and stuff all over this.
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its ok you're not the only one dont be upset because you havent gotten that far yet lots of girls dont until much later so you're not alone, if you're feeling jealous its ok because everybody gets a little jealous of other people's relationships i know i have and finding a boyfriend is difficult but soon they will come to you and you will be happy just dont change for no boy because they will think they have complete control over you and thats not right if you want to try to catch a boy's eye all you have to do is be feminine and aggressive at the same time like wear something hott ((NOT sexy)) and ask a boy out and if he says no its his lost at least you know you triend and you wont regret it dont be afraid to take risks because you never know what the results will be
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i dont know whats wrong with me. lately i have been thinking of killing myself. i dont know why. i have a bf and a wonderful family and friends but it doest seem worth it. i just keep thinking why not? i cant help it. i also draw the pictures of death. im a very good artist so the pictures are really good. i will sit with a pen in my hand and its like they just jump on the papper one mminute i will bethinking of what to draw and then im done and looking at this picture of death.i just think somethings wrong with me. i just want to die you know nothing can help i try leaving my house adn going fro a wlak. i just quit using and am trying to quit cuting but i only have one good friend i can depend on. do you think i have a serious problem? shoudl i tell me mom? shouold i try to get help? do u have any ideas that could help me? im just afraid that one day i m,ight end up trying to kill my self. please help i will rate really high. love the invisable girl xoxo (link)
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its okay everybody feels this way sometimes i do the same thing i will just cry and nothing is really wrong except for im unhappy... its just emotions but cutting is serious and counciling isnt a bad option... maybe you're just feeling like nothing in the world is worth living for and there's no reason for you to be on earth because i've felt the same way before the best way to handle it is counciling and maybe talking to somebody like a close friend and if you're mom is understanding then talk to her about it she will try to help you out and im sure your friends and boyfriend and family will support you and try to figure out why you're so upset with yourself but you have to talk to somebody hope i helped
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Heyy. I have tons of friends at school, I know practically everyone, and that is a ton of kids, 4 grades. (Highschool) In school people always talk to me, ask me to hangout and such, etc. But then we get to Winter Break, and I am bored out of my mind. All Thanksgiving break I called ppl to hang out, and my mom would have to drive because I had invited them. (Only a Sophmore) Anyway, I'm tired of inviting people. I want to be pursued, hah. If so many ppl ask me to hangout in school, why don't they take the time to call me? Why do I have to call everyone first? It annoys me so much, I just gaaah can't stand it. Maybe help me figure out a way to make this stop happening to me. Thanks. (link)
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well maybe they dont have time to call you but its good that everybody wants to hang out with you so you know that you're not alone you can always call somebody when you have a fight with your parents or siblings or something... maybe they dont do it on purpose the way to make it stop like if you dont feel like hanging out just tell them you dont always have to call them if they wanna hangout with you they need to tell you or call you hope i helped a little
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Is it wrong to cry if your dog died and you've known her since you were a toddler? My friends would think it's silly, and when you think about it, it kind of is. Does anybody else think it's silly? (link)
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It's not silly you love that dog so much and by showing you care is probably by crying and lettin it out but u will eventually get over it but it's not stupid or silly to cry over someone or something you care about
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My friend Cindy, is kinda always the center of attention. well she don't get that much attention but... Ok! She sometimes asks me to come somewher with her and so i ask my mom and she said yes, so i go with her, she said we were going to her uncle's house who is a famous foot ball player. We were ther right so, an insy bit of her family is there, and some other people were there, so this 1 time music was playing and everyone wanted her to dance, and she all shy and said she din't want to. then all of a sudden she goes up ther and sart doing the chicken head dance.But my piont is, I don't want to go anywhere with her if she just going to end up every body pays attention here. Cindy also acts the same, thinking she the center of attention. But if she tells or writes me a note asking me if i want to go any where else with her,and some of her family, and her family's friends are there then what should I say? Right now I am almost close to not being her friend because I hate the way she act, Cause she also think she pretty and act like she....OOOOOOOOhhhhhh!!!! Ok I'm just saying she's REALLY starting to PISS me off right now. (link)
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it sounds to me like you're a little jealous of your friend. but that's normal, everybody is jealous of somebody else. but anyway, you should probably get her to hang out with your family and dance with her. she shouldn't be the only one having fun, you should have fun too. that way you both are happy. if you're not a party person, then maybe you should find out what cindy likes to do that you like to do. then maybe you two can stay friends and you won't be annoyed with her.
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This lad at my school has been spreading rumours that my dad beats me we used to be best friend but i never told him that the only thing is that he did see my dad hit me once and its because i was being rude to him. but now everyone looks at me like im some freak ive talked to him and he just says im speaking the truth what should i do? (link)
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if you wanna get even, spread something about him that's a lie. if you wanna make it right, then tell him and other people to mind their own business and set the story straight. but if you really dont care what other people say, then just ignore them.
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I'm going to the beach in a week and I understand that when you shave your legs, it stings really bad once you get in the ocean. Does Nair sting? If so, are there any other alternatives? (link)
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nair does sting sometimes. you should use that new razor that they have. i forgot what it's called, but it doesn't have a blade and it doesn't hurt.
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So this Saturday is prom and I am going with the guy I like. What is some small ways I could let him know that I like him like what can I do? Thanks! (link)
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well he seems to like you already if he's going with you to the prom. act like you're already going together. don't scare him but try to be nonchalant and sweet, around him. have a good time and don't spend all your attention upon him, just get him to really take notice. a few drinks, slow dances, laughs, like you're friends, just be more flirty.
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