Question Posted Saturday December 31 2005, 6:12 pm
I have bit of problem but then again since I'm asking a question I guess thats obvious.
15/F. (16 in a couple months)
There is this guy Marcus, who likes me and I guess I like him. Lately my feelings for him have diminished but anyways he has a girlfriend now but he still says he loves me and all that. (I don't understand guys who say they love you when they don't even know what it means)
At the beginning of December I had a dream that sort of disturbed me and didn't make sense but its become constant now. I have it almost every night.
basically I'm taking a walk and I run into Marcus making out with a girl and I'm shocked, hurt and angry at the same time but when I turn around someone is right there and puts their arms around me and reasures me everything is alright. I know this person is a guy because of his cologne. he's in this brown/tan trenchcoat and I finish crying he goes out and beats up Marcus. (its a dream. I have to have my revenge) Then comes back and puts his arms around me a takes out to the car so no one can ask questions. When were out there we've been talking for sometime, I think and then this person says he loves me and I realize I love him too. We kiss and I wake up. The most desturbing part of the dream is that its my best friends' little brother. He's two years younger then me, 13. I mean this kid is very nice, and matture for his age but its no reason for me to be dreaming about him in such ways. I keep telling myself I don't like him. That its not right to like him but for some reason I constantly think about him. I'm really disgusted with myself. I don't even care that he's my best friends' little brother so much as the age. I feel stupid.
I've told my friend about my dream and she sees no problem with it. I can't get her to understand that there is something wrong with me.
Now my real question is, How the hell do I get myself to quit dreaming about him? I try listening to music before I go to bed, and think about anything but him yet it still doesn't work.
lizzbethhh answered Saturday December 31 2005, 10:45 pm: There must be something you like about him or you wouldn't be dreaming about him like this. You probly like him maybe a little or something about him and just don't know it...plz rate me!! [ lizzbethhh's advice column | Ask lizzbethhh A Question ]
iris answered Saturday December 31 2005, 9:48 pm: i can't help you with the dream because its not me and because people do not have the same dreams over and over now if you did then you would have to be really obsessed with that person but is da person real? as in like real i mean as a true person that u love. well i hoped that i helped you out the right way if i didnt then try to ask around or get some mental therapy. [ iris's advice column | Ask iris A Question ]
babygrl101 answered Saturday December 31 2005, 7:53 pm: there is nothing wrong with you a lot of people always have a crush on their best friend's siblings.... its normal so dont worry
sometimes if you experience your dream then it will go away ive done it before and it kind of works you dont have to ask him out on a date that would be weird just try to talk to him a little without him thinking you like him if you dont and see what he's like for boyfriend material if you like what you see try to convince him to go on a real date and maybe it would turn out right
the other guy i know exactly what you mean about them telling you they love you saying you're beautiful or sexy and just trying to trap you into their silly compliments when they know they got a girl on the side but its normal for fellas they wanna be pimps but they cant be a pimp without a second lady/chick/hoe (not callin' you one) so dont be the second chick
broooke answered Saturday December 31 2005, 6:21 pm: Yeah, you know what's weird, is that everyone says to think of whatever you want to dream about before you go to bed. I've found it to be the opposite. For instance, before I go to bed I'll think and think and think about cats, or something like that ahha, and then I'll have either no dreams, or a dream that has nothing to do with them! Then later on in the week when I want to dream about something else, I'll dream about cats. Idk if that's only for me, but maybe try actually thinking about him. Haha, I know you don't want to, but maybe it'll keep you from having the dream. I hope it helps you, Happy New Year!
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