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A predicament.
There is a guy named John I recently met who has really taken a liking to me. We've gone on a couple of dates, we get along well and I know that he'd probably be very good for me, but of course, I'm still hung up on my ex, Tom. What's more, Tom and I are still kind of seeing each other, too. We've decided to just go with the flow and seeing what happens, rather than just jump back into something or decide against it.
I made this clear to John on our first date so that I would not be maliciously leading him on. This didn't change John's stance at all and he still seems to want to pursue me. Even though I've told John everything, am I still leading him on by talking to him on the phone and texting him a lot? John and I haven't even so much as kissed but I still want to be careful about this.
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you seem like a good person by telling john about the situation, dont feel guilty if he still is persueing you then let him, he knows he dosnt have you for good so he knows what hes getting into. id suggest go with the flow take it one day at a time and discover who means more to you then make the final descion dont be in rush though!
hope this helped!
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is it by any chance John Wilber? lol
♥ ASHLEY
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Pick one guy and go for it. If you can't, flip a coin.
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if youre still feeling your ex think of the reason why you two broke up and see if theres a way you can solve the situation and if you cant then just be friends with tom its probably for th best
as far as john if youre not trying to lead him on make it real clear to him that youre just looking for a friend right now so he wont be urging to kiss you or do something that might make you feel uncomfortable just tell him that things are very complicated and you have to settle it and starting another relationship will only make it more complicated but tell him that you still enjoy hanging out with him if you still do
follow your heart is all i really say about it and i hope everything works out for you
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if you have been completely honest than you aren't leading him on. it seems to me that he really likes you or isn't looking for a completely committed relationship. so as long as he is fine, become good friends and see where goes from there, and maybe he will be able to help you get past your ex.
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No, you're not leading him on. The problem here is not if you are leading him on, but if he is leading himself on. Sometimes people mistake our actions, such as your hanging out with him, as being a sign that you may be interested in him too. He may have "high hopes" because he could rationalize that "behavior" speaks louder than words, which means, your dating him expresses an interest. And, I must admit that this is how I view people. I tell people all the time that I base a person's character on what they do not what they say they do. I translate this to other various aspects of viewing people, such as, hanging out and dating someone appears as an attraction with possibilities. The important thing here is you relax and enjoy yourself. How others interpret a situation is on them. Each person is responsible for his or her own perceptions and you can't even try to worry about that or you will drive yourself mad. The only person you are totally responsible for is yourself. It will not be your fault if he should choose an alternate scenario. Just be prepared for a perception with an end result different from what you have in mind. Be patient and kind to him if he just isn't getting it verbally. He may not want to. I wish you the best of luck.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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You're not leading him on. He knows what your situation with your ex is and he probably knows that you could decide to start seeing your ex again at any time. If you enjoy spending time with John then you should continue to do so. There's nothing wrong with texting him or calling him as long as you don't say anything to him that would make him think that the status had changed between the two of you.
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No, you arent leading him on at all you told him about you and your ex and he still wants to go out with you so he's perfectly aware what your doing and he seams to really want you bad if he still is trying to pursuade you. If I were you i would think long and hard and do the pro's and con's of my ex and John. hope that helped Happy New Year, Good Luck
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I don't think you're leading him on at all. He knows the story.
I do think you should give him half a chance though. If Tom was that caring towards you...he'd still be with you. So really, give John a chance. :)
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Well you can't stay with both of them, so figure out which one you like more. Think about the future. Do you think you will have a better future with Tom or with John? Think about your past with Tom. If you are really uncertain about this, I would stay away from both of them and don't lead any of them on until you know what you want. I don't know if you are leading John on by your text message and phone calls. What do you say on these text messages?
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I think your just still stuck on Tom. hes your ex and you should eventually get over him. try going out with John to take your mind off of Tom. if the relationship ended badly between you two, i wouldn't even consider going back out with him. just give it time and youll figure out who you really want to be with.
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