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Winter Break
Heyy. I have tons of friends at school, I know practically everyone, and that is a ton of kids, 4 grades. (Highschool) In school people always talk to me, ask me to hangout and such, etc. But then we get to Winter Break, and I am bored out of my mind. All Thanksgiving break I called ppl to hang out, and my mom would have to drive because I had invited them. (Only a Sophmore) Anyway, I'm tired of inviting people. I want to be pursued, hah. If so many ppl ask me to hangout in school, why don't they take the time to call me? Why do I have to call everyone first? It annoys me so much, I just gaaah can't stand it. Maybe help me figure out a way to make this stop happening to me. Thanks.
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Maybe when you are in school when ppl ask you to hang out (if that they like you a lot) then you say maybe. Then tell them to call you at your house after school. If they call then they will probably call more. If they don't call at all then you might want to ask them why they didn't call you and just stick to invitations at school. Please rate me and email me if you like or dislike my advice. I can't get better unless i know what i am doing wrong!!!!!!!!!!!
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Oh man- I felt that way all the time in highschool!! (Mostly sophomore and senior year.) I couldn't understand how I had such great friends and how we had such a blast together in class, at play practice, etc. but why when breaks came I never heard from them unless I did the inviting.
I finally talked with my best friend about it and her honest to goodness response was: "You feel like no one ever calls YOU? I feel like no one ever calls ME!"
I talked to a few of the other girls about it and basically it all came down to this: We each felt like everyone else was out doing so much more than we were, so if we were ever bored or home alone we just *assumed* we were the only ones ever in that situation. Also, we each spent time feeling like we were the ones doing all the calling and inviting but not getting that favor returned when really: it was a lot more even than we thought.
It might be like that for you too. Have you talked to any of your friends about this? It's possible they are so happy for your company that they don't realize you want to be sought out the same way you seek them out. They might not see you as someone that could feel bored, left out, lonely, etc. because they see you as someone everybody likes so how could you possibly be stuck with nothing to do?!
I think the best option for you is to talk to one or two of your closest friends about the way you feel. See what their perspectives are since they know you, your school, your other friends, etc. better than anybody at Advicenators ever could.
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Maybe you should find some friends, real friends, not the people who want to be around you to make themselves popular. Those people are the ones who you have the most fun with anyway.
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well maybe they dont have time to call you but its good that everybody wants to hang out with you so you know that you're not alone you can always call somebody when you have a fight with your parents or siblings or something... maybe they dont do it on purpose the way to make it stop like if you dont feel like hanging out just tell them you dont always have to call them if they wanna hangout with you they need to tell you or call you hope i helped a little
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