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my parents
my parents have been really fucked up lately. i noe i shouldnt say that but it is true. i am 14 and they already telling me i CANT date or marry a black or mexican guy. just because they dont like them. i have called them raciest about it because they shouldnt be saying shit like that. this all started because my friend who is half black and half mexican was calling me and they found out about it. the shit my parents tell is bullshit. they wont let me talk to my friend because of his color. he isnt a bad guy. he was going to come to my house so i can give him something that he asked me for so i went outside to wait for him and my dad deicded that he had to come fallow me because he wasnt going to leave a teenager outside at 7:30 pm by her self. happly my friend didnt come but my parents need to stop wit this shit. I cant stand them but i dont know what to do can someone plz help me???
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they are racsist. just dont fight them...in a few years they cant keep you from him anyway. there is nothing wrong with mexicans or blacks. some are known for being abusive or just bad (which is bull) but just let them get to know them...theyll come around. if they dont, as i said, youll be old enough to not give a damn what they say. just dont ever do that...learn from your parents mistakes. the world doesnt have room for any more rascism. take care, <3
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Wait 4 more years. There's nothing you can really do at this point. I'm going to give you advice I would normally not give any person. My advice is to lie to your parents. While true that your parents are an influence into how you think and feel, they don't control it directly; you still have a choice. Since you're more enlightened than your parents, give them what they want. Tell them what they want to hear and always have a friend (in this case, white) give you a rock solid alibi so they'll let you out of your cage. To tell you the truth though, I think your parents are more concerned about their 14 yr old daughter hanging out w/ a boy of similar age. Simply put, you're a teenager raging with hormones. They don't want you to be pregnant which is a logical reaction. However, their reasoning for that reaction is stupid. A white boy could just as easily impregnate you as a non white boy.
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Don't be angry about it. You have a right to be, but don't be.
Some parents are very old fashioned and closed minded. Most likely, it is not their fault though. Parents somewhat make who you are. It is not the child's fault that their parents taught them what was right and wrong. When you're a child you don't know what's right and wrong. You learn it from the people around you. All of us, and I mean all of us, have learned our rights and wrongs through other people. If other people did not influence us, none of us would have any opinions and we'd all be neutral on everything. So that means, your grandparents or other influencing people may have taught your parents to be closed minded. That's how I see it.
You should calmly explain your views to your parents. Tell them you're not trying to change their views, but you need for them understand that there are other perspectives and you think race should not matter. Just take it slow and calm. Doing it any other way will just end up in frustration and vain. Try to be reasonable with your parents. I can understand why your dad wouldn't want you outside past 7 with a guy. So just be reasonable. Maybe invite the guy over to dinner, go out with him at more reasonable times. Make deals with your parents (like you'll do well in school and get A's, or you'll be come early if they let you see your friends, no matter what race) Maybe your parents will eventually get used to it.
So what I'm saying is, yes, you need to respect your parents, no matter how closed minded they can be. That doesn't mean you can't take action and work it out calmly with them. If your parents don't budge, look at it this way, you will be free once you are an adult. Hope it works out over time.
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I think that for someone of your age, you really should try to respect your parent's values and decisions. I am not saying they are right, I am just saying that you are young and should respect your parents. You sound like you don't! As you get older, you will start to experience more freedom and it will be your decision on almost anything that you do in life. Just rememebr that things happen for a reason and if God wants you and this guy together, then it will happen! But, until then, please respect your parents hun. It will pay off later, trust me! A good relationship with your parents is the way to go. Hope this helps!
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