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Hi my name is Jen - I am 33 and married; a graphic desinger, a big sister, movie lover, horse rider, and board game nerd.

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ok say you go get tested and they say you have herpes, how will they know if the herpes was from giving someone head or if it was from air borne herpes(which is when u can get it just by breathing in the air) or if it was from switching saliva. like by sharing drinks.. whats the difference.. and if u go get tested and you have herpes how can they tell which one you have..????

There is no "air born" form of herpes. It's an STD. It is contracted by an exchange of bodily fuids. If you are showing symptoms by your genitals, then the doctor will know you had some form of sexual contact. They will most likely ask you anyways. It's always best to be completely honest with your doctor so they can properly treat you.

is it bad to lay out after you go to the tanning bed?

Tanning is bad for your skin period. And why pay for the tanning bed if you are going to go lay out anyway?

does anyone know a good breed of dog that is low maintenence and cheap

For a cheap dog, go to the Humane Society and rescue a dog. Not only is it cheap, but it feels good too! You can take many dogs out and get to know them to figure out thier temperment. Others suggested Terriers, but the tend to bark a lot. Honeslty, every dog is different, no matter their breed. You'll know it when you find the right one.

hey. im in desperate need of you to tell me everything you know about the low carb diet. I need to loose weight really fast. what foods can i eat and what foods cant i eat? how many pounds will i loose in the first week? summer is almost here and i htink i look horrible in a bathinsuit and i need to change that! please help!!

I know very little about low carb diets except to not eat foods with carbs like bread, pasta, sugar and rice. I think it a bad idea to cut something completly out of your diet. I have had success with a low calorie diet. I try and stay around 1400 a day to loose, and 2000 a day to stay where I am.

ok well i liked this boy for a really long time, and my friend told him i wanted to talk to him. Turns out he has a girlfriend but what got me was what he said. "I have a girlfriend now, but maybe when we break up." ok who says that? am i overreacting or something cause now i dont even wanna talk to him. Who thinks about when theyre gonna break up with the person they're with? does he think hes a pimp or something? ugh.. i jus wanna see someone elses view. thannks!

It's obvious he is not in or looking for a serious relationship. Don't expect much from him. You may want to ask yourself again, exactly why you like him?

I was thinking it would be cute to have a yearbook each year that has pictures and memories of my friends and i. We have so many pictures, and I'd like to keep them all together in a cute book. My question is, where can I publish a yearbook thats not designed for school, and that I can order in a small amount (like, 7 yearbooks)

To get an actual book published would be quite expensive. Go to Kinkos or any print shop and make color copies, and then get them spiral-bound.

can a doctor or whatever tell if u have already had sex? i mean how can they tell? cuz your hymen can be broken lots of ways other then sex.... and if they can tell otherwise.. then how can they tell?????????????

Well if you are going to a gynocologist, they are going to ask you straight out if you have had sex anyways. So what is the diffenence? Your right, your hymen can be broken many ways, so they probably can't tell just by looking.

Hi my girlfriend recently told me she was pregnant and that the baby was concieved before we met i love this girl and was looking for any advice on not being the biological father and also looking after a small child any input from people who have experienced this and been through it would be very helpful thankyou in advance.

How can you love her? You have only known her for a few months. Are you prepared to marry this woman and be the father of her child? If not, step aside. Her life will soon be dedicated to her child. She will no longer be availble to date. She needs a patner, not a boyfriend. Don't try to be a hero by assuming responsibility. You'll end up resenting her for it.

Heyas.

Three days ago I got bad congestion. Today, this morning, I wake up and can barely manage a whisper. Theres no pain in my chest, when I breath or swallow or anything, just the usual discomforts of inflamed skin. However, it is progressively getting worse. I ahve to communicate with pen and paper now! Is it possible I have tonsilitis? What should I do to help it?

15/m

It could many things, like Strep for instance (which you need antibiotics for.) Whatever it is, you should deffinetly see your doctor if you are getting worse. Warm tea or cider should help sooth it in the mean time. Cold liquids will actually inflame your throat more.

at my school we need to wear uniforms, with mine i waer the sweatery thing, and latly its been getting really warm out, well i dont like to take my sweater off cause im kinda fat and i look really bad in the uniform. but the problem is since its been hot iv been sweating {even though i wear dedorant} and its smelling bad. im afriad i smell bad!! all my friends say i dont but still, my mom refuses to wash 2x a week. what should i do?

Aren't you capable of doing the laundry yourself?
And do you really only have one shirt? That seems wrong. Ask your mother if she would like to wear the same shirt all week without washing it. You really should have multiple sets of your uniform.

I have a major problem with giving speeches in front of the class. This week I am the only one left to do my speech, but I don't thick I can. I start to shake, and I can't talk right. I've tried looking over people's heads but it doesnt work. What can I do to get rid of this fear?

I use to have this problem, and still do to some extent. I found the more speeches I gave the better my nerves became. But you have to start somewhere.

To best prepare yourself, get well aquainted with your speech. Practice saying it out loud dozens of times. I always got paricually nervous when I got lost in what I was saying, and stumbled over words. But if you know your speech well and are prepared, you should overcome this.
And instead of looking over peoples heads, look them in the eyes. It actually helps.

And next time sign up to give your speech first, then you don't have your nevers building up waiting to give yours.

Okay my period has been going on for 1 month and i don't know what to do. It this normal or is something wrong? i don't feel comterbal to talk to my mom about this only advice colums and my friend. i need help FAST!!!!! Because me my friend won a trip to hawaii and we leave in 1 week. F/13 p.s. if it helps this is my second period.

No, that is not normal. It is common to have sparatic periods when you first start. But if you have been bleeding contiually for a month straight, I would definitely tell your mother. You should go see your doctor.

13/f
I used to wish my bf would take our relationship more seriously. I wished he weren't so prude. Well, I finally worked up the courage to kiss him one day. But now he's so different. After we kissed he said it wasn't as awkward and now all he wants to do is talk romantic, hold me, kiss me, etc. I miss the times when we were more like friends. I feel like we're going too fast (since we're only 13). I don't know what to do and if I talk to him, he might get mad or something. Got any advice for me please?
MH

The problem is that you two are only 13. You can't have a serious relationship. If you feel like your going too fast, tell him. Say that you are not ready for a romantic relationship and you would prefer to stay just friends. And if he gets mad, well too bad for him!

my prom date asked me what the color of my dress was. i am curious as to why he would asked does anyone have a clue?

That's quite common. He may want to coordinate and get a tux that compliments your dress, and doesn't clash. It will also help him pick out a corsage.

I have a concern that eats at me. I cannot just put this to the side and not say anything any longer. The problem lies with my mother-in-law. I do care about her deeply and am very hurt by what has been going on.

Here's the background of myself, I have been married for 5 years now, we have a 4 year old and just had a new baby in Februrary. My husband is the oldest of 3 sons from his family. The middle brother just got married in February- this brother picked our due date to get married (which is another story). As the parents of the bride and groom, my in-laws were expected to pay for the rehearsal dinner...which they did...this was in excess of $700.00. Plus she bought a new dress for the wedding and bought the new bride and groom a wedding gift - this is all understandable. What is not understandable is my husband and I had a baby shower at the beginning of February, 3 weeks before due date/wedding. The mother-in-law did buy the cake (which was very sweet) for the shower however, never bought the baby a gift. She keeps saying she will buy something but doesn't. My birthday was also in February, she never bought me a gift, not even a card. We have the baby and she still has yet to buy the baby anything. My husband's birthday (her own son) was in March - no present - no card - nothing for him either. Now her younger son had his 21st birthday in April and she bought him a really nice gift. In the 5 years that my husband and I have been married, we have been over maybe 2 times a year (other than Thanksgiving & Christmas) to eat. Now the son that just got married in February and his new wife are over there for dinner at least 2 times a week. She did have us over approximately 3 weeks ago for dinner but she stressed to us that she may not be able to have us over because she may not have the money. Again this week she mentioned she would like to have us over "if she has the money" (we have offered to even buy the groceries - she has declined). We do not eat more than the average person.

I am extremely hurt that 1. she can afford a 700 rehearsal dinner and a gift for the bride and groom but can't afford even a $10.00 outfit for her new grandbaby 2. She can afford to buy her youngest son a birthday present but can't afford to buy her oldest son a birthday present (my husband) 3. Can afford to have the new bride and groom over for dinner a couple times a week but has a financial problem when it comes to inviting us over for dinner.

We have no weird time schedules; we are not picky - I will even help clean up after dinner (unlike the new wife). My daughter is well behaved.

On her behalf they are not financially set*(which makes this more frustrating that they can stretch their money for others but not for us). Another thing I can think of is that they are not much of cooks so she may be helping them out in this aspect. But if this is the case, it's not fair because my husband and I could have used help in the beginning of our marriage as well. The new bride and groom do not go to school but my husband and I were in our senior years in college when we got married and Lord knows we struggled, especially financially - we could have used some help too.

I do know she loves me, especially her own son. I do know she does not like the new wife very much. I just don't understand and am extremely hurt, I can't stress how hurt I am from this because I do care about her so much. Please advise what to do. Should I say something to her or any other suggestions. It's just not fair

Gifts are given, and should not be expected. If you say something to her, you will just come off as being selfish. And do you really want a gift that she was guilted into giving you. What she gives to others has nothing to do with you, so stop comparing yourself with others. Life is too short to stress over a few gifts you never recived. If you want to spend time with her, stop waiting for invites for dinner and invite her to your home instead. Stop comparing and expecting, it will never come out even.

My boyfriend's a rather sexual person, and I'm..getting there, haha. I've given him an orgasm and we've been trying to give me one. I'm kind of reluctant cos it hurts! Should it hurt? We are not having sex, fingering, but no intercourse. When he touches my clitoris it seems like pain, but also kind of good, but like tickling in which you try to move away. It hurts when he presses too hard of course, but then doesn't give that weird kick when it's not hard. The other day he was touching my clit and my leg started spazzing, but the clit hurt, but it felt like we should keep going, yet we stopped cos it hurt me kind of. We don't think I came. Wondering, what aren't we doing? And what does an orgasm feel like for a girl (or anyone)?

I usually never answer these type of questions but I couldn't help myself.

Haven't you ever expeiremented yourself? You really should. How can you tell your boyfriend what feels good if you don't know yourself. I am totally serious. Masturbation is a great tool for discovering your sexuality. You'll learn what an orgasm is.

My Child is turning four years of age and I am afraid that she may be depressed but I am not sure what the sinse are can you give me some advise please

If you are worried about depression in a 4 year old, then you deffinetly should take her to a doctor. I find it hard to believe that a child so young could be depressed unless they lived in an terrible enviorment. There must be some other health issue here. Please, see a doctor.

hey everyone, it kinda seems like everytime i look at this stuff on the internet, the next day, something bad happens. If god knows that we are gonna look at that stuff, why doesnt he try to stop us, or why did he even create that stuff???

God gave us free will. We can do what we want. We are responsible for our own actions. We create "that stuff", and we choose to look or not.

So take responsibility for your own actions, don't look to God to stop you.

Well my boyfriend of six months just broke up with me and we both are totally in love with each other and always have been but this isn't the first time we've broken up. Though the reason we have broken up is because we have both been really hurt in the past and are really scraed to let any one get close to use even though we are really already close to each other. I know I want to go back out with him but how do I tell him that I want to go back out with him but can't break up again because of him being scared to let me get close. I mean this time it really tore me up I haven't got any sleep and been crying all week. Plus the thing is we are already both superclose to each other. I rate high please help!!

I hate to break it to you, but I don't think you two are "totally in love." The fact that you two keep breaking up tells me that you really don't know what love is. I think you are in love with the idea of being in love.

It's time to move on, you desever better. Love is not something that turns hot and cold. If you two were truely in love, you would face your problems together, not break up every time there's trouble.

I am 27 years old 3 kids and maried for almost 10 years.Ok this is the situation my ex from bak middle school is good frien with my sister and myself.WE started talking or a little bit like friens thats all.Even though i think he still cares for me more than just a friend.Now this the problem my huban found out that h calls me and we talked,and he thinks tht i hav somenthing going on with him.I try to explain him that nothing like that that we are just friends an he not understanding.He even thinking divorce because he thinks that i have somenthing mor than
just friend.I need help.Ihave tryed to explained him that it i nothing like that,that i will never o suh thing.He does not believe me.What could i do to making understand that love him an that he means the world to me.PLEASE HELP!

Your husband distrusts you becuase you kept the relationship a secret. If you want to stay married, admit to your husband that YOU were wrong. Promise to break off contact with your ex, and DO it. He is no longer part of your life, nor should be. Your duty is to your husband and children.

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