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Don't know what to say help!!
Well my boyfriend of six months just broke up with me and we both are totally in love with each other and always have been but this isn't the first time we've broken up. Though the reason we have broken up is because we have both been really hurt in the past and are really scraed to let any one get close to use even though we are really already close to each other. I know I want to go back out with him but how do I tell him that I want to go back out with him but can't break up again because of him being scared to let me get close. I mean this time it really tore me up I haven't got any sleep and been crying all week. Plus the thing is we are already both superclose to each other. I rate high please help!!
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you should definitely talk to him. if he feels the same as you, then you should ask him back out. if he doesnt then you should move on and find someone else.
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you 2 gotta communicate. but mayb you should consider why you 2 broke up in the past before. see what he has to say about it, mayb you 2 would be better off moving on? :(
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honey this is what you should do, just calmly talk to him about it. let him know you are still in love with him! you two shouldn't let the past get to you, it's done, it's overwith, get over it right? I went through the same thing you did at one point in time, all you need to do, is have patients and be understanding to one another you both realize you've been hurt....a lot... why not try anew?? that's ALL reason to do that! just ask if you can start over, or if he prefers, pick up where you left off. let the other person know you are completely faithful to them. that's what I did. Good Luck!!
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I hate to break it to you, but I don't think you two are "totally in love." The fact that you two keep breaking up tells me that you really don't know what love is. I think you are in love with the idea of being in love.
It's time to move on, you desever better. Love is not something that turns hot and cold. If you two were truely in love, you would face your problems together, not break up every time there's trouble.
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Breaking up. Get back together. Rinse, repeat. Sounds like a broken record. I will commend you for being analytical enough to recognize that you are both afraid of getting close and that's the crux of your problem. Since you recognize it, now the only thing left to do is find a solution. Here is mine:
Stay away from each other for a month.
Absolutely no contact whatsoever. This is to test the resolve and stability of your relationship. If, after the month, you still have deep feelings for each other, then I'd say you had a pretty good chance at a long term relationship. Caution: only 2 things certain in life - death & taxes - so there's no guarantee that a particular relationship will last. Relationships are like old swords - if not taken care of and maintained, it will become rusty and dull. If a relationship is tempered by time/hardship/pain/love and is capable of still working, then, like a sword again, it will shine anew and last a thousand generations.
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