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I think I'm in love with my best guy friend. And that's cool and all, but he has a girlfriend, who I've met a few times and she's simply awesome. He says he's been in love with her for a few years, and she goes to a different school. They started dating over the summer, and I thought I would be okay with it all. You see, I've liked him since my sophomore year, and we're seniors now. And I really was okay with it all for a while, but then he started getting really flirty, and it's confusing me too much. What should I do? (Indeed)
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If he starts flirting with you, just completely throw him off and say 'why are you flirting with me?' And then if he says that he isn't, assure him that he is, then proceed to ask him if he does this with other girls. (Being totally straightforward is always the best medicine)
There are some possible outcomes:
1) He will realize he has feelings for you.
2) He will realize he might hurt his girlfriend (there are 2 sub-outcomes)
a) and stop flirting because he doesnt want to hurt her
b) and break up with her because he realizes his feelings for her must not be strong if he is overly flirty.
3) Get pissed off momentarily (dont let him walk away from the situation)
4) Ask you if you care about him (in which case, you want to continue to be honest, because if you say no, he will stay with his girlfriend even if he has feelings for you.)
So, yea, be honest and blunt and just figure out what is going on inside the guys head.
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A couple of weeks ago I met a guy at my best friends party. Lets call hym "a" Hes so hot and so nice but he kept checking me out. Since we were in a limo everyone was giving lap dances to regeaton music. I gave one to a guy and then "a" wanted one from me. But then I found out he has a girlfriend AND I know who she is. So I didn't give him one because it didn't seem like the right thing to do and I would have felt guilty...so he was like darn. But now I find myself liking him. He has broken upp with his gf and i know I have the opportunity but he just seems like a real player to me and I don't want a guy like that. After all he wanted a lap dance from a girl when he has a gf! And he was like well she doesn't have to know...wouldn't you be hurt if you were his gf? And please don't give me advice "well thats the way guys are" or "alot of guys will do that" because that is sooo not true. I just don't know what to do...He doesn't know I like him and I'm not sure if I want him to because...idk..I just can't resist...I want to like him..I just don't wanna get hurt..but I wanna be happy too..
xo0x confused x0ox (Indeed)
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If he treats his girlfriend like this, then chances are he will do the same to you behind your back if you were to date him. Would that make you happy? You said you wanted to be happy. Truth is, some guys are amazingly nice and getting lap dances from other girls when they have a girlfriend doesn't even cross their mind. Other guys, who are worthless wastes of precious oxygen, would consider getting lap dances from other girls.
Do you really think that hes trustworthy if he has done this to his last girlfriend? Because I sure don't. You will probably get hurt, and you will probably end up unhappy. Try to find someone who is more worth your time, ya know, like a nice guy. A guy who only wants lap dances from one person, as opposed to 10 different girls at once. Not a man-whore. That kind of guy.
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okay well.. im straight edge... and i didnt want to have sex. and hes older. and i told him it was ok,. weve been together 7 months. i guess i thought i wouldnt mind? or maybe i thought he wouldnt do it. but he did. and now i just dont know if i can trust him. or if i should try and get revenge. and it sucks cause the girl was/is? my friend and i told him how much i hated when the would flirt. so i just dont know what to do? should i dump him? should i ignore it? pretend not to care? get revenge? any advice at all would be great.
--thanks (Indeed)
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Tell him he can have the skank. You don't need revenge - your lack of STD's and them dieing is revenge enough. Get rid of him and make sure this 'friend' of yours knows that she should have never done anything with this guy. She really is not a good friend whatsoever.
Dump him he is a loser.
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hey im sorry but this is guna sound SO GROSS but just hear me out and if u can help, plz do hehe:
okay its thursday and Ive been dieting since last sunday..i eat 3 healthy meals a day..breakfast around 7 in the morning, lunch around 12 30 n the afternoon, and an early dinner around 5:00..so its a good diet..but the thing is, in the past 4 days, Ive only gone to the bathroom [number 2] like twice and ive been kinda constipated...is there a problem? sorry i know this is nasty.. (Indeed)
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Consume some whole wheat bread and drink lots of water. If it continues then maybe you should consider asking your parents.
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i was informed by email that i had a new question in my inbox, so i logged on and the inbox link was bolded and had (1) next to it. when i clicked it, it said i had no unanswered questions. my email tells me it was sent at 3:00 pm this afternoon, and i havent answered any questions asked from today. how can i get my question back? :(? -ask_anything (Indeed)
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Perhaps they changed their mind and deleted it? I think that people can do that now.
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-does he like me or does he like herr???
---is it me or is it her...or am i really her?
(sry i know this is long n confusing)
ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...and he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..and i said "no" then he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl" and i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..and i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he wont listen to that...and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...and he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...-thx
P.S. also...i asked him the other night on-line what this girls name is and he said "marissa" and i asked him way be4 that.."what would you say if i said i liked you" and he said "i dunno" and said well what would your 1st response be if i said i did and he said "u do?" and i said oooo..then he said something or w/e and i said you scare me sometimes and he didnt say anything for 2 mins and i said..."do you care that you do sometimes" and he said "yea"..and i said "how much?" and he said "______________________________________________________________________________"
and i said "ooohh"..and when we got into an little argument over what is harder being a girl or being a guy...and he said we have it easier..and when i said "no we dont bc we have to turn down guys who ask us out, i had to do it 5 times" and he said "w/ whoooo?"..like if he was affaird i was taken or something..ahh it drives me insane..-thx again (Indeed)
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I'm not sure if I totally understood this the way you meant it to be understood - but I'm going to TRY.
It seems like he might like you, but its entirely possible that he doesn't, because at your age guys are idiots and change their minds constantly and like everyone. Maybe if he asks you about how you know if a girl would turn you down, you should say (that is, if you like him) "I wouldn't turn you down if someone like you asked me, it all depends on the situation."
That way, if he doesn't like you it seems like you are helping him and if he does like you then he might realize that you would say yes if he were to ask you.
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i just got braces, soo how do u make out with my bf who also has braces? (Indeed)
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Don't try and bite each others teeth and you should be just fine.
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hey everyone. im manda and im 14 years old. i need to start babysitting in order to get some money. well i just moved into my new house in a new town. i want to make babysitting flyers to take and give to some of my neibors. i just need to know what to put on it. um.. i get pretty decent grades, im responsible, i love kids, i dont mind changing dipers. i am trained in CPR and First Aid and have the cards to prove it. so what should i put on the flyer to make it look appealing to parents n stuff? thanks for ur guys' help!
much love
xoxo
manda (Indeed)
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I wouldn't recommend putting your phone number and personal information on a flyer really. People are freaks. It might be an okay idea if you made up the flyers and had your parents bring them with them to work, and they could post it at work perhaps.
I just wouldn't recommend posting the flyers out in random places in the city.
As for whats on it:
You've told us some great things in your question. Definitely the CPR/First Aid training.
You might want to put something to the effect of, kind and responsible student, great with children. First Aid and CPR certified Training.
(you can always add the diapers thing at the end like, I even do diapers!)
You should also include your age, so that the parents know you are of the legal age (which here is 13) to babysit.
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hey everyone i neeed to no something i am selling candy and papamurpheys pizza cards to rais money to go to Paris in march and i need to no wut to say to the ppls when i go dooor to door cause i am getting a lot of no's!
- my name is kayla and ya can u help (Indeed)
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Well, bring a parent because a lot of people will be interested in specific details and maybe your parent(s) can help to inform the people you are selling these things to. People won't buy things unless they know a lot about it. [Not to mention how unsafe it is to go door to door alone]
Make sure you are very polite. And don't pressure people or bother them if they are busy. Let them know that the proceeds go to help you go on a trip to Paris and make sure you add that they candy is very good.
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So, I have a question. I'm a 24 year old woman and I've been dating a really great guy for almost two years now. The thing is, I get really jealous when he goes out and drinks with his friends. My last two ex's both cheated on me when they were drunk and I'm a little insecure about him drinking when I'm not around. I've tried talking to him about it, and he says he'd never cheat, but I still get jealous. I don't want to be some psycho who tells him what to do and who to hang out with. So how do I get over this? (Indeed)
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Maybe I'm the wrong person to answer this, because I am a really jealous and untrusting person. I am going to do my best here though.
It makes perfect sense for you to feel that way, especially after having been cheated on twice in the same situation, but really - read your second sentence again. He is a really great guy and you've been together for 2 years, and I will just assume he hasn't cheated on you. So you need to ask yourself - is he similar to the two guys who cheated on you? Are there any signs that differentiate this guy from the others in your mind (other then the obvious things like appearance)? Why is this guy special enough for you to be risking getting hurt a third time? Because really, there must be something right.
So think about these things. Remind yourself that he is not them and even though its difficult - put some faith in something that by all odds, you neednt put faith in.
I would also consider talking to him about it again, and even remind him that if he ever really hurts you, you'll do something really horrible to him. Like, say, castrate him publicly! In closing (and I'm going to try and bring together the mishmash of confusing millions of things I've said here) I think that you have seen something extra special in this guy, because if there wasn't something special, you wouldn't be risking getting hurt again. So, because he is something special, you need to have faith (and yea, its so easy for me to say that because I'm not you, and I've been in a similar situation before, it isn't easy). Its true that if you try and control what he does - the relationship will cease to work properly, trying to control him will cause you to both hold secret grudges against each other and your freedoms will be limited by each other.
So - have some faith in him, as difficult as that may be. He's special right? And remember, any guy that hurts you deserves to be publicly castrated. (mwahahaha)
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I feel ashamed for even bringing him up in spacefem, because now it seems to me like I did it because I want their and your sympathy, even though I'm barely affected. Now I feel like even typing this is a means to feed my own selfishness.
I've done this before, but in a different situation. A couple of years ago, I got attention from my best friend by making my life seem worse than what it was. I didn't lie, but I talked to her about things that didn't bother me anymore (abuse, depression, etc). Am I doing it again? I'm I really so selfish that I will use such a tragic event like my step brother's death/paralysis for attention? If so, what type of a person does that make me?
I blame some of this on solitude. I used to never see my mother or most of my friends several years ago (I'd call everyone so often that I ruined a friendship out of lonliness and depression). I'd wake up, go to school, come home where I would just watch TV, sleep, and not see anyone until my mother came home from work around midnight, sometimes even as late a 2 in the morning. So, because of this, I don't think I know how to interact with other people anymore. I blame some of it on this, but it still doesn't justify it.
So what do you think? (Indeed)
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Its not about sympathy - its about support. You obviously felt the need to outlet, or to have something, some kind of support. There isn't a single thing wrong with that. Even though you seem to think this is about attention - I don't believe that.
Sometimes, everyone needs a little attention, and just because that attention to you came when you needed it most (even though you don't feel that way) doesn't make it bad attention. I dont know if I'm making any sense here, but in my head it all works out.
I'll try to clarify this as best as I can - we all need attention, thats just human beings. I dont see this as you somehow using a tragedy to get it - I see it as you getting attention thats well overdue. If that makes sense at all.
If it matters - there isn't anything wrong with any of this, and I was very surprised when I read this, because its almost crazy to feel so guilty when you have done absolutely nothing wrong.
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Hopefully I dont sound like a lesbian(haha) but your really pretty! It looks lke you dont wear makeup but you have natural beauty..haha so yah just thought I'd tell you :D! (Indeed)
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Yea, I hate makeup. I hate how heavy things like concealer and coverup make my face feel, mascara hurts my eyelashes later and makes them fall out, and eyeshadow always comes off me anyways for some reason. On top of this - I'm really lazy. I can't imagine taking an extra 15-20 minutes of my precious sleep and giving it up for the vanity of make up. I just cant be bothered and I just don't care enough :)
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FERN OMFG WILL U HAV T3H HOT SECKSKSKSKSK WIT ME?? LOLZ :P ;) :D (Indeed)
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Yes. Yes I will.
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Ok my situation might be retarded but see me and my bf have been going out for 11 months and he wants to "do the dirty" but he doesnt want to use a condom he says it takes the fun out of it for him but i dont want to get pregnet would birth control pills be just as good protection as a condom? (Indeed)
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Birth control is not enough.
Just a condom is not enough.
Both is ok, but abstinence is pretty much the only sure fire protection.
Screw him (bad choice of words) and his pleasure, make him wear a condom or tell him that there will be no sex at all.
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ok well I just found out that I was pregnant yesterday. I told my bf and all and he was really really really upset and he kept telling me that he wasnt ready for a baby right now. I am 15 and he is 16 and neither one of us are ready. He told me that his dad would make him drop out of school and get a full time job and all and i dont want that to happen. He was already in trouble with his parents because of his grades and all and went to see him yesterday but we just met in town when he got off of work and he wasnt suppose to. I wouldnt let him leave and when i finally did he was in a hurry and he it his cousins car cause she parked right behind him and didnt know she was there. now his dad took his truck from him and he is in trouble and he has to pay for her car by himself. I dont know what is goin to happen. I dont know what i should do. Should I break up with him so he wont have so much to worry about or what???? Someone plz help (Indeed)
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Maybe you should have some concern for yourself too, aside from your boyfriend. Its his situation too, and you don't need to just 'cut him out of it' to save him the trouble. Just because he isn't ready means nothing - are you ready? Probably not. You are in this together, because you created the life together.
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I've noticed on some profiles, people have words that move across the page. Someone told me to type marquee with around it, type what I wanted to say, and then type marquee with around it again, and I did that, but then when I looked at my page..EVERYTHING on my page was moving...How do I get only the things I want to move to move? HELP!
Thanks!
-Nik! (Indeed)
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Did you just type the same thing after as you did at the beginning? Because you have to put a slash in it.
I'll elaborate:
< marquee >
to end it:
< / marquee >
(obviously without the spaces.)
If you dont put the slash, the entire page will go crazy.
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My msn wont let me sign on. I've tried re-connecting to the interent and restarting the computer. Is anyone else having this problem? Earlier it wouldn't let me talk to people either. I would say something and then no one would recieve the message even though I was online and it wouldn't let people send me messages. (Indeed)
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MSN Messenger is completely messed up right now.
Me, you and just about everyone else who uses MSN Messenger has had problems with it since last night.
As far as I know, the MSN people are updating their servers and a lot of stuff has gone haywire as a result. I was going to give you the website that lets you know the server status, and its a message directly from the people who run MSN Messenger - but that status page is down also.
Just give it some time, and check back later, I'm sure everything will be back to normal very soon.
If the server status page EVER comes back online, this is where you can find it:
http://messenger.msn.ca/Status.aspx
(that will tell you if its a problem with YOUR computer, or with THEM.)
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how long does it take to get your braces off? thanx (Indeed)
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It takes very little time to get the actual braces off, something like 15 minutes it seemed like. But after they get them off, they have to clean your teeth, and then glue on a retainer (if you are getting permanent retainers). So it could take around 45 minutes, maybe an hour for some people.
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Where did the statement, "I hate rabbits!" come from to shoo away the smoke from a camp fire??? (Indeed)
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Weird, my cousin Paige always says that. Her mom said she just started saying it, but if you are asking that means more people must know it too I guess. Maybe Paige isn't crazy!
And well, I've looked the internet up and down for something on the Rabbits. Turns out a lot of people know about it. What they don't know is where it came from - no one does. All they know is that rabbits (especially white rabbits) are supposed to be good luck and by saying 'I love white rabbits' three times at the beginning of a month is supposed to bring you good luck. Maybe saying you hate them is supposed to take you out of the smokes favour?
The reality is I dont know, and no one else does either. When smoke gets in your eyes its because the wind is behind it and you are in the winds path. Either pull some rabbits out of your hat or pick up and move your chair.
:P
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oK: sO i'M 16 fEmAle... aNd i know its super bad.. but i have been smoking for about 3 weeks now. like once/twice a day and i was just wondering about 4 months ago i had a sports physical.. and for one of the questions they asked me if i smoked.. and i said no because at the time i didnt... but if i were 2 get another physical/doctors appt. again.... and they asked me if i smoked would they be able to tell if i did? and if i answered yes... would my parents find out? and please dont give answers like: u shouldnt smoke! because thats not my question!sOrrY sO lOnG! LoL! pLeaSe dOn'T dElEtE tHis! i RaTe eVeRy1! (wELL!) tHaNx iN adVanCe (Indeed)
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Its better to be honest about those questions, whether or not they can tell. Its important that you tell the doctor the truth, for your own safety. They can't share anything with your parents without your consent.
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