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ok well I just found out that I was pregnant yesterday. I told my bf and all and he was really really really upset and he kept telling me that he wasnt ready for a baby right now. I am 15 and he is 16 and neither one of us are ready. He told me that his dad would make him drop out of school and get a full time job and all and i dont want that to happen. He was already in trouble with his parents because of his grades and all and went to see him yesterday but we just met in town when he got off of work and he wasnt suppose to. I wouldnt let him leave and when i finally did he was in a hurry and he it his cousins car cause she parked right behind him and didnt know she was there. now his dad took his truck from him and he is in trouble and he has to pay for her car by himself. I dont know what is goin to happen. I dont know what i should do. Should I break up with him so he wont have so much to worry about or what???? Someone plz help
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Looks like you guys need to sit down and have a loooong talk not only with each other but also with his or your paretns, you need all the support you can get right now, this will be a very emotional next nine months, and if him and you both feel its right that break up for his benifit then do so, honestly do you feel like yiour guy's relationship will lead into the furture? Cause if you do, the do your best to work thigns out, but if you have the support from friends and family, and you feel emotionally strong enough to handle this without him then maybe it si time to let him go, and it doesnt mean he wont be there for you, and it doesnt mean he wont help you out {cause im assuming he has to do something} it just means he doesnt have to worry about even more things, it sounds like he is stressed as it isd, but really you guys need to talk befreo making any rational desicions, maybe he will want to help you, casue it is half his fault, and i dont know you guys or not, but he may love you, ya never know! I really hope I helped and good luck and God Bless you!
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well what i would do is just ask him if he would ever be ready for a baby and talk with him and his father telling him the truth and asking him what would he think is best for his son. if he says that finishing school is best then maybe break up with him. i dont think abortion is a very smart idea and i dont think killing your baby is very smart either. maybe asking your parents if they will support you and asking if they will just partially take care of your baby when it is born so you can still go to school. hope i helped and good luck!!
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He needs to stop complaining. Did he ever think about how you feel about it? The baby needs a father talk to him.
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okay, well, whoa, 15 is a young age. but i don't think you should dump him cause he helped you get pregnant. and i think you were probably too young to have sex anyways. and did you use a condom? or were you on birth control? those two things may have helped to prevent it a little bit. i think what his parents are doing to him is right, he should be punished for getting you pregnant. and i hope that you and your boyfriend can work this out and good look through your pregnancy.
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well, first of all, i think you made the wrong decision =/ but, did you have sex with ur bf? or someone else..because that makes the whole thing much different. like i said, you made the wrong choice. but i think you should maybe until the time is right, tell him that for his sake, you guys should break up for now, and then work things out with the baby and then maybe be able to get back together.
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ok every child need a parent if it is still early u should talk it over with his and ur familiy and decide on what you should do lyk abourtion and adoption and n e thing else u mayfind ur answer dont break up wiht him cause if u do that wont help he is hafe of the reason so if u need n e thing eles just ask
i iono if that helped ne but i hope it did!
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What about you & ur baby... i dont think u should break up with him cuz u dont want him to worry... if things dont work out between u and him... thats another story... you guys should try to work things out... it is going to be really hard but its NOT impossible... a baby should never be badd news... you both are responsible for this baby... so dont think u should just break up wit him so he doesnt have to worry about it... i hope things work out for you...
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you shouldnt take all of the responsiblities he hepled make the baby. its his fault that he didnt use protection.
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Maybe you should have some concern for yourself too, aside from your boyfriend. Its his situation too, and you don't need to just 'cut him out of it' to save him the trouble. Just because he isn't ready means nothing - are you ready? Probably not. You are in this together, because you created the life together.
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Every child needs a mom and a dad, but mostly caring parents of that mom and dad really make a difference. Whats best to do is not break up with him, but once u have the baby u might want to think about either keeping it, but babies have some many needs, or you can put it up for adoption. I know u think that after all that pain why would I want to give it up, but there'ssome couples that aren't alowed to have children or have a genitial problem. Do whatever you feel is best and remember, next time... use protection.
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