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Location: Dallas ,Texas
Age: 13
Member Since: October 12, 2004
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Okie, here's a little background...my guy and I have been dating for almost 11 months, and we're really serious.
Recentlyish, my mom's been focusing on EVERY little "mistake" my guy makes. For instance, today he was late picking me up for school and she kept saying "I hope he's really coming, because you missed the bus and I'm not driving you." and stuff like that., and I wanted to smack her...Lol. I HATE that she keeps doing this. She takes the tiniest things, like lateness, or the way he's so tight with money and turns them into huge flaws.
I pointed out to her that she makes me think she doesn't like him, and she tells me she's just "looking out for me" and "making sure I see things/the whole picture". Honestly, the only thing I see wrong with him is that he snores on his back...
My guy also thinks my mom has issues with him, and I suggested maybe HE should talk to her about the impression she's giving off, but I doubt he'd do it unless I bothered him about it enough.
The thing is, I've been really careful with this relationship and am able to take myself out of the picture and see what's going on because I want it to work more than anything.
The confusing thing is, mom says she actually likes him. I don't understand her. How do I get my mom to shut up? (link)
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i think your mom is worried she can tell that things are getting serious unlike other relationships in the past. she probaly dosent want to loose her little girl.
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I have a boyfriend, whom I have been dating for two years and 2 months. I started college this year. The college is just a couple of hours away from home. We seen each other two days before I left for college, but have only talked four times since then. I have tried to get together with him on weekends that I'm home, especially this past weekend because it was homecoming weekend and also his birthday was this past Monday. He doesn't seem interested in talking with me. I haven't received one letter or phone call from him since we have been down there, yet all the other girls in the dorm that have a boyfriend have either gotten a million letters from their significant other or got a phone call from him, or both. That would be my roommate. I don't know if I should ditch him or give him a little more time because he may be too caught up in school work. I'm too afraid to talk to him about it because I'm afraid of how he might react. Can anyone help me and guide me in the direction I need to go? (link)
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ask him why he hasnt even called you once. does he still care about you is ther someone else?
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my brother smokes pot and well he is 21 and he has done drugs since about 5th grade and i know he does it but he wont just come out and say it his friend is so stupid he got high of a air can while me and my little sister were ther in the room right next to them and my brother made up that he might have just had a cesure should i tell him that i know he does drugs and i think it is stupid or just keep quiet and not get involved please help i am worried about him
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tell him how you feel. maybe he wil relize whut hes doing is stupid. maybe he will get someone that will help him stop.
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For as long as I can remember, my currently 19 year-old sister, isn't having the best life right now. I'll refer to her as Lexi In 2003 Lexi dropped out of her senior year in high school about 4 months before graduation. She claims it was because she hated that school, and hated everyone in it. I mean, she's not really the preppy, Barbie Girl type. She did get her G.E.D. after dropping out of high school, though. She went to the 2nd semester of college. Our whole family was overjoyed and really thought that Lexi could make something of herself, finally. I mean, she is really, really smart and an extremely good drawer.
But then she ended up skipping her classes to sleep in, and the night before college finals in spring, she drunk so much alcohol that she passed out and was under severe conditions and had to be hospitalized. She didn't even call our parents, because she knew that she'd be in trouble for underage drinking at that tim (age 18) and she had missed finals. She went to court and pleaded guilty, and was fined. But our family left that in the past and forgave her.
Lexi's back home now, and I pray every night that she goes back to college, or at least gets a job. She always promises our mom to get a job and never does, claiming that "nothing motivates her to do anything." Usually she appears in a pretty good mood, but once every month my parents and her will have a nasty fight. I'm not saying physically. These fights involve swearing, screaming, yelling, shouting, and insulting. Then the next day it's almost as if nothing happened, but my parents and Lexi won't talk to each other. My mother cries her eyes out, and I can't blame her, because she went through several hours of pain and labor to bring Lexi into the world, wanting , and my sister does nothing but smoke and swear at her. She and my parents eventually make up, and then it will be another fight.
Lexi is in financial trouble too (I'm not saying what), and won't return tax collectors' calls. She is too lazy to get a job, all she does is eat, sleep, and smoke, and go out with friends. I really want Lexi to get a job and stop smoking. I really want her to have a better life and go back to college. I really want my parents and her to not fight. I can't control any of this, because she is 6 years older than me (I'm 13) and I can't tell her what to think. Lexi refuses to go to a counselor, and no one can change her mind. Sometimes I even cry myself to sleep because I'm only 13 and I'm already going through emotional pain. I really need help, and I would appreciate anyone's sincere input on this. (link)
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i have an olde sister too. try to get out of the house till the time you can. distract yourself with after school activites. i cant say itll take the problems but just try them to see if it works.
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i have a self esteem issue like i dont think im all that pretty even though all my friends say im really pretty n skinny but i just dont see it all that much so im not stuck up at all i dont think but i have this feeling that people think im stuck up cuz im always putting lipgloss on and fixing my hair and im kinda shy around people i dont know. what should i do to solve this? t/y a lot.
~*Melissa*~ (link)
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just because you want your hair to look nice and like putting on lipgloss it doesnt mean that youre stuck up . i do the same thing im actually like you . exept the part about self esteem issue.
just dont care what other think if its bad the just hating.
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well i like this guy (lets say hes name is steven) well steven is in one of my classes. and we sit across the room from each other, like everyh time he looks over at me i look back and stevens friend told me that i need to go ask him out. but at my school all the guys are like lying all the time even to thier gf's but steven is really sweet.also my friend told me that she ask steven and he said that he likes me.and i was really glad.so my ? in what should i do should i go up to him and say like hi and get into a conversatrion with him or should i leave him alone and wiat till he asks me out.
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make sure he likes you back. let him ask you out because thats kinda low but if you like alot ask him out.
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hey!
this question isn't for me it's my friend, i need to know what to tell him.
ok..
my friend and his girlfriend were going out...all is happy. Well, then one of his ex-girlfriends gave him a note that said she wanted to go back out with him. well he hadn't talked to her in a while, and he started to talk to her again. so she assumed that meant they were going back out. well he's all caught up in it and he's not a cheater...he's really not.he hates when people do that. but now since he's gotten all caught up in it he doesn't know what to do. he really likes his original girlfriend, but this other girl thinks that they're going out and doesn't know about the other girl.
so what should i tell him?
sry it's kind of long and confusing... (link)
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he should straighten things out. tell her he already got a girl and shelike him back
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My boyfriend is very experienced sexually. He's 16 and I'm 15. We've been going out for a while now but have broken up a couple times before. The most important thing is though, is that we love eachother to death. He wants to go farther than what I'm comfortable with right now. I've always been a good girl and haven't done anything really 'sexual' with a guy. He wants to finger me, which I know deep down I am not ready for. How do I tell him this without sounding like a scared little girl or sounding dumb? All my friends have done these things with guys, but I do not want to give into pressure like that. (link)
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if he likes you hell wait till youre ready to move on. if he gets mad dump him hes not worth it .
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(m/14)Ok, I'm going out with this girl, we've been going out for a little over a month now.. shes awesome, I like her a lot.. but unfortunately my parents don't. They really don't want me to have a girlfriend at all, especailly one like her they say. I mean she is a little wild sometimes, but I like that about her, but my parents don't. They want me to break up with her soon, and they're pressuring me to do it everyday. I want more of a long relationship with the girl.. but I don't want love. In my opinion, nothing good can come from love at this time in life. So do I stand up to my parents and tell them I won't break up with her?.. or take their advice and break up with her before this relationship turns into love? thanks (link)
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its you not your parents that are going out with her . make your own decision go out with her if youre sure that you like her alot
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Hi,
I'm a 26 years female married from 3 years and a have a lovely happy family one baby boy.
I met a new colleague at work he sexually likes me and tried so many times to have some sexual relation with me,
After i refused so many times,i'm feeling that i'm getting along with him and i'm falling in love with him i can't stop thinking of him I want to be with him all the day.
I need your advice. what shall I do
Thank you
Bouba (link)
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would you like your husband to cheat on you? think about how he would feel it would ruin your marriage and family.
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ok well I just found out that I was pregnant yesterday. I told my bf and all and he was really really really upset and he kept telling me that he wasnt ready for a baby right now. I am 15 and he is 16 and neither one of us are ready. He told me that his dad would make him drop out of school and get a full time job and all and i dont want that to happen. He was already in trouble with his parents because of his grades and all and went to see him yesterday but we just met in town when he got off of work and he wasnt suppose to. I wouldnt let him leave and when i finally did he was in a hurry and he it his cousins car cause she parked right behind him and didnt know she was there. now his dad took his truck from him and he is in trouble and he has to pay for her car by himself. I dont know what is goin to happen. I dont know what i should do. Should I break up with him so he wont have so much to worry about or what???? Someone plz help (link)
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you shouldnt take all of the responsiblities he hepled make the baby. its his fault that he didnt use protection.
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