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Mom Versus Boyfriend? 16/f
Okie, here's a little background...my guy and I have been dating for almost 11 months, and we're really serious.
Recentlyish, my mom's been focusing on EVERY little "mistake" my guy makes. For instance, today he was late picking me up for school and she kept saying "I hope he's really coming, because you missed the bus and I'm not driving you." and stuff like that., and I wanted to smack her...Lol. I HATE that she keeps doing this. She takes the tiniest things, like lateness, or the way he's so tight with money and turns them into huge flaws.
I pointed out to her that she makes me think she doesn't like him, and she tells me she's just "looking out for me" and "making sure I see things/the whole picture". Honestly, the only thing I see wrong with him is that he snores on his back...
My guy also thinks my mom has issues with him, and I suggested maybe HE should talk to her about the impression she's giving off, but I doubt he'd do it unless I bothered him about it enough.
The thing is, I've been really careful with this relationship and am able to take myself out of the picture and see what's going on because I want it to work more than anything.
The confusing thing is, mom says she actually likes him. I don't understand her. How do I get my mom to shut up?
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i think your mom is worried she can tell that things are getting serious unlike other relationships in the past. she probaly dosent want to loose her little girl.
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Your mom can see that your relationship is getting serious unlike your others in the past. I think deep down inside, your mom is getting a little worried that your getting so grown up and responisble. I'm sure she like your boyfriend, but is getting jealous. Try talking to your mom yourself. Try doing things with her because right now she thinks that she's losing her babygirl!
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your mom seems like the "father figure" in a way because she dosent want you to grow up and get rly serious (or so it seems) juss tell her you growin up and she needs to stop with the comments
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just b str8 ^ with ur mom tell hwe to stop it is makin you mad and u really like him and if she dont like it then fine but u dont care what she thinks...i really hope i helped lol...
-Jessie-
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i dont know if what i say will help, but im 18 years old and my mom still says dumb stuff about my guy as well. im EIGHTEEN! moms are always going to be protective, no matter what. and its true, they are looking out for you. i know this, but the shit she says still urks the shit out of me. but what else can i do? ive talked to her about it, yet, she continues to say dumb things. i guess you just have to let it be. she'll have to get over it at her own pace.
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my mom is the exact same way, she wants to know EVERY DETAIL OF MY LIFE. it can get so annoying! just tell her to back off a little. i said that to my mom and she was kind of mad at me for a while but she got over it. i think you should just be like 'stop putting my boyfriend down because he feels bad about it and so do i. you can have your opinions but just settle down a little because he is really important to me'. i know it sounds cheesy..lol...but just say something sort of like that..i think it would work..hpe i helped and let me know how it goes!
~Jen
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